1 00:00:02,000 --> 00:00:07,000 Downloaded from YTS.MX 2 00:00:08,000 --> 00:00:13,000 Official YIFY movies site: YTS.MX 3 00:00:12,621 --> 00:00:15,885 [indistinct chatter] 4 00:00:15,928 --> 00:00:18,888 [soft music] 5 00:00:18,931 --> 00:00:25,808 ♪ 6 00:00:29,725 --> 00:00:31,031 - Hi, Dad. 7 00:00:33,163 --> 00:00:35,339 - Aww, I love you, too, Daddy. 8 00:00:35,383 --> 00:00:37,167 - Sorry, who am I speaking with? 9 00:00:37,211 --> 00:00:39,474 - You're speaking with Eli's daughter Ondi. 10 00:00:39,517 --> 00:00:42,520 - Ondi, yes, hi. What is his baseline? 11 00:00:42,564 --> 00:00:44,000 - Well, he was brought to the hospital 12 00:00:44,044 --> 00:00:45,523 because he was having a hard time breathing, 13 00:00:45,567 --> 00:00:48,744 but he's been struggling for a long time. 14 00:00:48,787 --> 00:00:51,312 You know, he's been paralyzed for 40 years 15 00:00:51,355 --> 00:00:53,227 from an accidental stroke. 16 00:00:53,270 --> 00:00:54,880 - I know. I read that, such a shame. 17 00:00:54,924 --> 00:00:56,273 - Yet, he never complains. 18 00:00:56,317 --> 00:00:57,796 And he thinks about everybody else. 19 00:00:57,840 --> 00:00:59,581 He even struggles to walk by himself 20 00:00:59,624 --> 00:01:00,973 because he doesn't wanna be a burden, 21 00:01:01,017 --> 00:01:02,018 but he keeps falling. 22 00:01:02,062 --> 00:01:03,585 - Mm-hmm. 23 00:01:03,628 --> 00:01:05,195 - It's a miracle he hasn't broken anything yet. 24 00:01:05,239 --> 00:01:06,631 We feel like it's just not safe 25 00:01:06,675 --> 00:01:08,720 for him to be home anymore. 26 00:01:08,764 --> 00:01:11,158 - Definitely, yes. 27 00:01:11,201 --> 00:01:14,117 - It breaks my heart because he really wants to come home. 28 00:01:14,161 --> 00:01:16,206 - He really does. 29 00:01:22,169 --> 00:01:23,605 - No. 30 00:01:27,130 --> 00:01:29,785 - Because you've been in bed for five days or something, 31 00:01:29,828 --> 00:01:31,178 you need care. 32 00:01:31,221 --> 00:01:32,962 You need people to help you move 33 00:01:33,005 --> 00:01:34,920 and all that kind of stuff. 34 00:01:48,195 --> 00:01:50,197 - You know, I have a plan. You want to hear my plan? 35 00:01:51,850 --> 00:01:54,157 - I'm gonna ask the doctor when they're releasing you, 36 00:01:54,201 --> 00:01:56,159 and then I'm gonna run to the hospital 37 00:01:56,203 --> 00:01:59,293 and grab you for a kiss and a hug 38 00:01:59,336 --> 00:02:01,556 and find out exactly where you're going, 39 00:02:01,599 --> 00:02:03,645 and then I'm gonna work on-- hopefully, 40 00:02:03,688 --> 00:02:06,778 there'll be a different COVID protocol where you're going, 41 00:02:06,822 --> 00:02:09,216 and then we'll be able to visit. 42 00:02:09,259 --> 00:02:11,392 That's my plan. 43 00:02:15,004 --> 00:02:17,267 - Okay, good. 44 00:02:17,311 --> 00:02:21,184 ♪ 45 00:02:24,448 --> 00:02:26,015 - Did you try to call me, Daddy? 46 00:02:26,058 --> 00:02:27,190 Are you okay? 47 00:02:29,018 --> 00:02:30,933 - You're waiting to die? 48 00:02:32,239 --> 00:02:35,198 - I thought you were waiting to see me today. 49 00:02:43,119 --> 00:02:44,816 - I didn't know you wanted to die. 50 00:02:44,860 --> 00:02:46,253 That's-- 51 00:02:51,954 --> 00:02:54,696 - Being inside your body is what's torturing you now. 52 00:02:56,872 --> 00:02:58,613 - It's gotta get recycled. 53 00:03:03,705 --> 00:03:05,620 - But your mind will travel on, and so every time-- 54 00:03:06,925 --> 00:03:08,623 - Every time you're feeling-- 55 00:03:18,807 --> 00:03:20,678 - I'm doing it, Daddy. 56 00:03:21,723 --> 00:03:24,639 - For it to be legal, Dad, you have to tell 57 00:03:24,682 --> 00:03:27,207 a nurse or a doctor who's working in hospice. 58 00:03:27,990 --> 00:03:29,861 - No, no, no, when you're in hospice, 59 00:03:29,905 --> 00:03:31,907 once you start, which will be tomorrow. 60 00:03:31,950 --> 00:03:34,344 - Eli, listen. 61 00:03:34,388 --> 00:03:37,913 You don't make the rules. 62 00:03:37,956 --> 00:03:40,785 - Yes. - You don't make the rules. 63 00:03:44,963 --> 00:03:47,662 - Daddy, you're really lucky to live in California. 64 00:03:47,705 --> 00:03:49,011 - Yep. 65 00:03:49,054 --> 00:03:50,621 - If you were in New York, with Rachel, 66 00:03:50,665 --> 00:03:52,667 you wouldn't have this option right now. 67 00:03:52,710 --> 00:03:53,972 - That's right. 68 00:03:54,016 --> 00:03:56,018 - And, Daddy, we have to do it legally, 69 00:03:56,061 --> 00:03:57,541 or we all go to jail. 70 00:03:57,585 --> 00:03:58,977 You don't want that. 71 00:04:04,592 --> 00:04:06,333 - Exactly. 72 00:04:07,682 --> 00:04:10,162 - Aww. - We understand, darling. 73 00:04:10,206 --> 00:04:12,295 And we're-- - Daddy, what is the reason? 74 00:04:12,339 --> 00:04:14,950 Are you in a lot of pain right now? 75 00:04:31,793 --> 00:04:34,448 [dog barking] 76 00:04:35,362 --> 00:04:37,799 [laughter] 77 00:04:37,842 --> 00:04:40,105 [phone line trilling] 78 00:04:40,149 --> 00:04:42,282 - Oh, my God. 79 00:04:42,325 --> 00:04:44,327 [phone line trilling] 80 00:04:46,155 --> 00:04:47,983 - Hi, Daddy. 81 00:04:49,985 --> 00:04:51,769 - Yeah, you're getting out today. 82 00:04:58,036 --> 00:05:00,387 - End it? End your life? 83 00:05:01,170 --> 00:05:02,737 - What, you think you're gonna come home, 84 00:05:02,780 --> 00:05:04,695 make a poop with Cooper, and end your life? 85 00:05:06,306 --> 00:05:08,220 - You know how it goes, Daddy, right? 86 00:05:08,264 --> 00:05:10,440 You're gonna see the hospice nurse today, 87 00:05:10,484 --> 00:05:12,442 and then you have to tell the doctor, 88 00:05:12,486 --> 00:05:13,878 and then the clock starts. 89 00:05:16,664 --> 00:05:18,187 - But you'll be in a much better place 90 00:05:18,230 --> 00:05:19,710 'cause you'll be home. 91 00:05:19,754 --> 00:05:21,408 - Yeah. - Don't you think? 92 00:05:21,451 --> 00:05:26,195 It'll be less torture to be alive when you're home. 93 00:05:32,288 --> 00:05:34,508 - Yeah. 94 00:05:34,551 --> 00:05:41,471 ♪ 95 00:06:14,809 --> 00:06:17,159 There we go. We got you. 96 00:06:17,202 --> 00:06:18,856 We got you. We got you, Daddy. 97 00:06:18,900 --> 00:06:21,468 Nobody's gonna let it happen to you, okay? 98 00:06:21,511 --> 00:06:24,427 Nobody's gonna let anything happen bad to you. 99 00:06:24,471 --> 00:06:26,821 Okay, nice and clean. 100 00:06:26,864 --> 00:06:28,866 Let's move him in a little bit more. 101 00:06:28,910 --> 00:06:31,347 You gotta pull. 102 00:06:31,391 --> 00:06:32,827 Yeah, I got him. 103 00:06:32,870 --> 00:06:36,091 One, two, three. 104 00:06:36,134 --> 00:06:37,919 There we go. 105 00:06:37,962 --> 00:06:44,882 ♪ 106 00:07:02,117 --> 00:07:04,032 - [indistinct] 107 00:07:12,519 --> 00:07:15,609 - [grunts] Ah. 108 00:07:15,652 --> 00:07:22,572 ♪ 109 00:07:24,705 --> 00:07:28,883 - Do you feel, for any reason, that you being here 110 00:07:28,926 --> 00:07:31,494 is a burden to your family or... 111 00:07:33,670 --> 00:07:35,411 - You know you're a burden. 112 00:07:35,455 --> 00:07:38,153 So how do we feel about that? 113 00:07:38,196 --> 00:07:42,462 - Well, the kids and I tell him he's not a burden. 114 00:07:42,505 --> 00:07:47,205 But in my heart, it's been a very, very, very rough year. 115 00:07:48,555 --> 00:07:50,208 That's why I've got a belt on. 116 00:07:50,252 --> 00:07:53,124 I mean, I'm a broken woman. 117 00:07:53,168 --> 00:07:56,301 ♪ 118 00:07:56,345 --> 00:07:58,129 - He really doesn't want to go to a home. 119 00:07:58,173 --> 00:08:02,612 And he knew that the situation at home couldn't continue, 120 00:08:02,656 --> 00:08:04,484 because he was, like, a fall risk, 121 00:08:04,527 --> 00:08:07,225 and he was gonna break Mom in half, 122 00:08:07,269 --> 00:08:08,749 like he already has broken her a lot. 123 00:08:08,792 --> 00:08:10,881 - He fell so many times. 124 00:08:10,925 --> 00:08:13,580 And I was always calling the children to please come 125 00:08:13,623 --> 00:08:15,407 and get Daddy off the floor. 126 00:08:15,451 --> 00:08:18,236 - Every couple of weeks, I get a call, 127 00:08:18,280 --> 00:08:20,369 maybe 11:00 at night, just gotten into bed. 128 00:08:20,412 --> 00:08:21,544 I'm, like, going to sleep. 129 00:08:21,588 --> 00:08:23,067 The phone rings, and it's like, 130 00:08:23,111 --> 00:08:25,026 "Dad's on the floor. Come over." 131 00:08:25,069 --> 00:08:26,549 - It was just awful. 132 00:08:26,593 --> 00:08:29,465 And it was COVID, so Ondi insisted 133 00:08:29,509 --> 00:08:32,468 that we were gonna Zoom for my birthday. 134 00:08:32,512 --> 00:08:34,470 I thought it was a family Zoom, 135 00:08:34,514 --> 00:08:37,342 but I didn't want to Zoom. 136 00:08:38,648 --> 00:08:40,476 - I wanted to die. 137 00:08:40,520 --> 00:08:43,348 - ♪ Happy birthday to you 138 00:08:43,392 --> 00:08:46,090 - I didn't know she had set up dozens of friends 139 00:08:46,134 --> 00:08:47,744 all over the country. 140 00:08:47,788 --> 00:08:51,618 - I started to say to Eli, "I wish I was dead." 141 00:08:51,661 --> 00:08:53,054 - Aww. 142 00:08:53,097 --> 00:08:55,578 - And then I saw all of you. 143 00:08:55,622 --> 00:08:58,276 Thank you so much. 144 00:09:03,543 --> 00:09:05,457 - Yeah. - Wow. 145 00:09:10,767 --> 00:09:12,421 - Yeah. 146 00:09:12,464 --> 00:09:14,554 Okay, he has to be able to take the medication himself. 147 00:09:14,597 --> 00:09:16,599 You can prepare it. 148 00:09:16,643 --> 00:09:19,602 You can put it in front of him. 149 00:09:19,646 --> 00:09:23,127 But you can't participate in him ingesting it. 150 00:09:24,912 --> 00:09:26,174 - Okay. 151 00:09:26,217 --> 00:09:28,045 At any time, he can change his mind. 152 00:09:28,089 --> 00:09:29,612 Just because he goes through the approval process, 153 00:09:29,656 --> 00:09:32,093 he can change his mind. 154 00:09:32,136 --> 00:09:33,703 He could say, "You know something? 155 00:09:33,747 --> 00:09:36,227 Now I know I can do it. I'm fine." 156 00:09:36,271 --> 00:09:37,620 Sometimes it's knowing you have some sort of sense 157 00:09:37,664 --> 00:09:39,753 of control back when you have no control. 158 00:09:39,796 --> 00:09:41,450 Anyway, so Dr. Bracht is gonna come. 159 00:09:41,493 --> 00:09:42,843 He's gonna assess him. 160 00:09:42,886 --> 00:09:45,236 And then what happens is the time starts, 161 00:09:45,280 --> 00:09:47,108 and there's a 15-day waiting period. 162 00:09:47,151 --> 00:09:48,762 This whole End of Life Option Act 163 00:09:48,805 --> 00:09:51,068 is still in its early stages. 164 00:09:51,112 --> 00:09:53,331 And so, you know, it's really something 165 00:09:53,375 --> 00:09:57,118 that opened all of our eyes about-- 166 00:09:57,161 --> 00:09:58,510 we don't call it assisted suicide. 167 00:09:58,554 --> 00:10:00,556 We call it, you know, supporting the right 168 00:10:00,600 --> 00:10:02,297 to terminate your life, right to die. 169 00:10:02,340 --> 00:10:04,255 So we believe in that. 170 00:10:04,299 --> 00:10:06,388 ♪ 171 00:10:06,431 --> 00:10:08,259 And what's interesting is what people have done 172 00:10:08,303 --> 00:10:10,174 in exercising that option has been spectacular. 173 00:10:10,218 --> 00:10:13,787 It's been truly amazing. 174 00:10:13,830 --> 00:10:16,050 - We don't get a choice on how we come into this world, 175 00:10:16,093 --> 00:10:17,617 but we should have a choice on how we go out. 176 00:10:17,660 --> 00:10:18,661 - Right. 177 00:10:20,315 --> 00:10:23,840 - It just says, "An aid-in-dying drug 178 00:10:23,884 --> 00:10:27,148 to end my life in a humane and dignified manner." 179 00:10:28,192 --> 00:10:31,587 - "I, Eli Timoner, am an adult of sound mind 180 00:10:31,631 --> 00:10:33,720 and a resident of the State of California." 181 00:10:33,763 --> 00:10:35,243 Okay, baby. 182 00:10:35,286 --> 00:10:37,375 You're gonna initial, put your "ET." 183 00:10:38,072 --> 00:10:39,551 - Over here, where my finger is. 184 00:10:39,595 --> 00:10:41,336 That top line. "ET." 185 00:10:41,379 --> 00:10:43,033 Okay. Phone home. 186 00:10:43,077 --> 00:10:44,600 - On the 15th day, 187 00:10:44,644 --> 00:10:46,210 Dr. Bracht will come in and do another visit. 188 00:10:46,254 --> 00:10:48,560 But in between there, another doctor will come in 189 00:10:48,604 --> 00:10:50,867 and either agree or disagree with Dr. Bracht 190 00:10:50,911 --> 00:10:52,826 to see if it's okay to take the medication. 191 00:10:52,869 --> 00:10:54,915 - There's three doctors that work with this company, 192 00:10:54,958 --> 00:10:56,133 Faith & Hope, and I'm the one that... 193 00:10:56,177 --> 00:10:58,005 - Does this. - Is writing the script. 194 00:10:59,484 --> 00:11:00,790 - It was something that-- yeah, in my heart, 195 00:11:00,834 --> 00:11:02,618 I'm okay with it. 196 00:11:04,838 --> 00:11:06,491 - Well, it's interesting. 197 00:11:06,535 --> 00:11:09,712 Your dad has the impression that his condition is COPD. 198 00:11:09,756 --> 00:11:12,846 And in all the notes that I got from the other doctors, 199 00:11:12,889 --> 00:11:14,848 it's CHF, or congestive heart failure, 200 00:11:14,891 --> 00:11:16,284 with COPD as well. 201 00:11:16,327 --> 00:11:18,547 Your dad made the first request. 202 00:11:18,590 --> 00:11:21,811 He said, well, quality of his life is "shitty." 203 00:11:21,855 --> 00:11:24,205 There has to be a second request after 14 days. 204 00:11:31,647 --> 00:11:33,083 - Yeah. 205 00:11:48,055 --> 00:11:49,534 both: It's Rachel. 206 00:11:49,578 --> 00:11:51,449 - Hi, hi, Dad. 207 00:11:51,493 --> 00:11:53,103 You're looking good. 208 00:11:53,669 --> 00:11:55,584 - He's right here in the main room. 209 00:11:55,627 --> 00:11:57,020 Look. - I know, well done. 210 00:11:57,064 --> 00:11:59,980 Well done. I see that. 211 00:12:00,023 --> 00:12:01,590 - Yeah, now he's in the swing of things, 212 00:12:01,633 --> 00:12:02,896 right in the middle of everything. 213 00:12:02,939 --> 00:12:05,463 - Yeah. - Eating again, and visiting. 214 00:12:05,507 --> 00:12:07,683 And he even had a sip of wine last night. 215 00:12:07,727 --> 00:12:09,554 - Oh, nice! 216 00:12:09,598 --> 00:12:12,122 All right, it was a big day on MSNBC today. 217 00:12:12,166 --> 00:12:15,691 - You want to tell Rachel how you think Trump should go out? 218 00:12:17,998 --> 00:12:20,000 - How should Trump go out, Dad? 219 00:12:32,882 --> 00:12:35,102 - Oh, God, okay, I don't really want to hear this. 220 00:12:36,843 --> 00:12:40,020 - Oh, no, okay. You know what, that's okay. 221 00:12:40,063 --> 00:12:41,891 I don't need to know. It's okay. 222 00:12:41,935 --> 00:12:43,066 I understand that you would like him 223 00:12:43,110 --> 00:12:43,806 to die a terrible death. 224 00:12:43,850 --> 00:12:45,199 We're done. We're good. 225 00:12:49,899 --> 00:12:52,902 - Well, that-- I support that. 226 00:12:52,946 --> 00:12:54,730 There are less violent ways to achieve that, 227 00:12:54,774 --> 00:12:56,950 like just banning him from Twitter forever. 228 00:12:56,993 --> 00:12:59,604 But okay. 229 00:12:59,648 --> 00:13:00,823 Thanks for sharing that with me. 230 00:13:06,481 --> 00:13:08,178 - I'm so glad. 231 00:13:08,222 --> 00:13:10,006 That was long-awaited. 232 00:13:10,050 --> 00:13:12,008 I'm glad that that finally happened. 233 00:13:12,052 --> 00:13:13,836 And what did you decide? 234 00:13:22,323 --> 00:13:26,588 - And what I love about that is that it's your decision, 235 00:13:26,631 --> 00:13:28,895 and that we can all support your decision. 236 00:13:36,250 --> 00:13:38,556 - Oh, no wonder, Dad. 237 00:13:49,567 --> 00:13:51,613 - So, Dad, you think March 3rd is the time? 238 00:13:56,923 --> 00:14:00,230 - Why don't we plan, like, a nighttime--like, 239 00:14:00,274 --> 00:14:01,841 a nighttime schedule? 240 00:14:01,884 --> 00:14:04,234 And if you can't do it sometimes, that's okay. 241 00:14:04,278 --> 00:14:06,062 But-- - What's good for you? 242 00:14:06,106 --> 00:14:07,847 - Like, if we could do 9:30, that would be ideal for me. 243 00:14:07,890 --> 00:14:09,152 - Right, great. 244 00:14:09,196 --> 00:14:10,893 - Dad, does that sound okay to you? 245 00:14:14,462 --> 00:14:16,856 - Oh, it's while Rachel Maddow is on. 246 00:14:16,899 --> 00:14:18,292 - Oops. 247 00:14:18,335 --> 00:14:20,860 I can't interrupt Rachel Maddow. 248 00:14:20,903 --> 00:14:22,949 Gotta have your priorities. 249 00:14:22,992 --> 00:14:26,082 I mean, I--the idea of taking Rachel Maddow away 250 00:14:26,126 --> 00:14:27,388 from you in your last couple weeks of life, 251 00:14:27,431 --> 00:14:29,172 that would be so wrong. 252 00:14:29,216 --> 00:14:30,957 - [laughing] 253 00:14:31,000 --> 00:14:33,829 - I feel like I feel like I share write her right--like, 254 00:14:33,873 --> 00:14:35,570 I should write her now saying-- 255 00:14:35,613 --> 00:14:39,182 - "My father has said he can't talk to me nightly at 6:30." 256 00:14:39,226 --> 00:14:43,404 - Yes, as he's dying, as he's dying. 257 00:14:43,447 --> 00:14:44,884 Dad, would that make you happy? 258 00:14:55,416 --> 00:14:57,505 [bird calling] 259 00:15:03,424 --> 00:15:05,556 - Why are you doing that? 260 00:15:12,172 --> 00:15:16,524 - You can't be peaceful-- just lie there and be peaceful? 261 00:15:27,796 --> 00:15:30,494 - Seeing people like you and visiting with friends 262 00:15:30,538 --> 00:15:33,541 and family is his great joy. 263 00:15:33,584 --> 00:15:36,457 And maybe once in a while, a little food, right, Daddy? 264 00:15:36,500 --> 00:15:38,024 Some chocolate ice cream? 265 00:15:38,067 --> 00:15:39,764 - I love you. 266 00:15:39,808 --> 00:15:42,202 And I wish you a happy journey. 267 00:15:42,245 --> 00:15:43,681 And maybe I'll see you-- 268 00:15:43,725 --> 00:15:45,335 - I'll see you in heaven. 269 00:15:45,379 --> 00:15:46,858 - You'll be waiting. 270 00:15:48,077 --> 00:15:50,906 - Goodbye, honey, bye-bye. 271 00:15:50,950 --> 00:15:52,952 - We're logging off. - I'll see you again. 272 00:15:54,954 --> 00:15:57,782 [bell tolling] 273 00:16:42,784 --> 00:16:45,308 - Hi, Daddy-O. How are you doing? 274 00:16:45,352 --> 00:16:47,049 You seem a lot better today than yesterday. 275 00:16:49,225 --> 00:16:50,835 - Can I pull the chair up? 276 00:16:50,879 --> 00:16:51,836 This one--oh, this one? 277 00:16:53,012 --> 00:16:54,752 - Yeah. 278 00:16:56,319 --> 00:16:57,973 - Oh. 279 00:17:01,063 --> 00:17:03,457 - I'll hand it to you, but don't take any more, Dad. 280 00:17:03,500 --> 00:17:07,026 ♪ 281 00:17:08,331 --> 00:17:09,941 - You take too many Xanax yesterday? 282 00:17:09,985 --> 00:17:11,682 Is that why you were out of it? 283 00:17:13,684 --> 00:17:15,077 - There she is. 284 00:17:21,040 --> 00:17:25,392 ♪ 285 00:17:27,046 --> 00:17:28,090 - Hey, Dad. 286 00:17:28,134 --> 00:17:30,353 Aww. 287 00:17:30,397 --> 00:17:32,007 Yeah. 288 00:17:32,051 --> 00:17:33,748 I think Mom's going through a lot 289 00:17:33,791 --> 00:17:36,533 because obviously, her husband's dying, 290 00:17:36,577 --> 00:17:38,666 and they've been married like 50-plus years, 291 00:17:38,709 --> 00:17:40,189 so this is huge. 292 00:17:40,233 --> 00:17:41,930 But also, I don't know if it's guilt, 293 00:17:41,973 --> 00:17:43,932 but there's--it's mixed. 294 00:17:43,975 --> 00:17:45,151 She wanted him to go to a home 295 00:17:45,194 --> 00:17:46,891 because she couldn't take care of him 296 00:17:46,935 --> 00:17:48,806 because it was breaking her down. 297 00:17:48,850 --> 00:17:50,547 So I think she's quite torn, 298 00:17:50,591 --> 00:17:52,158 and I think she is in some sort of denial. 299 00:17:52,201 --> 00:17:53,985 Yeah, you like it? 300 00:18:00,166 --> 00:18:02,124 - He's liking it. 301 00:18:02,168 --> 00:18:03,778 When did you guys move from Brooklyn to Woodmere? 302 00:18:03,821 --> 00:18:06,128 How old were you? Do you remember? 303 00:18:06,911 --> 00:18:09,218 - Oh, okay, so you don't really remember Brooklyn too well. 304 00:18:17,270 --> 00:18:18,706 [laughter] 305 00:18:21,970 --> 00:18:24,842 - What? I didn't shit my pants. 306 00:18:24,886 --> 00:18:27,976 - Oh, oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. 307 00:18:28,019 --> 00:18:31,022 - Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. - Yeah, yeah, yeah. 308 00:18:33,373 --> 00:18:36,637 - We were doing little arts and crafts in preschool, 309 00:18:36,680 --> 00:18:38,987 and I stuck one up my nose. 310 00:18:39,030 --> 00:18:40,989 [laughter] 311 00:18:41,032 --> 00:18:44,210 And then it didn't come out, and I thought, well, 312 00:18:44,253 --> 00:18:46,821 I'm not gonna tell anybody. 313 00:18:46,864 --> 00:18:50,129 [laughter] 314 00:18:55,569 --> 00:18:58,224 - I can't believe this whole thing, 315 00:18:58,267 --> 00:19:03,185 this whole 15 days-- that this is happening. 316 00:19:04,447 --> 00:19:09,757 I mean, it's just-- there's an unreality to it all. 317 00:19:09,800 --> 00:19:11,150 Yeah? 318 00:19:17,982 --> 00:19:20,115 - And was just going one foot in front of the other. 319 00:19:22,291 --> 00:19:25,207 - You don't even know what to expect, how to feel. 320 00:19:33,302 --> 00:19:36,175 - There's no rehearsing it. 321 00:19:36,218 --> 00:19:43,138 ♪ 322 00:20:28,836 --> 00:20:31,099 - You're gonna sleep well, Daddy? 323 00:20:31,142 --> 00:20:32,622 - What are you gonna dream about? 324 00:20:34,581 --> 00:20:36,409 - Really? 325 00:20:40,543 --> 00:20:42,153 - I love you, Daddy. 326 00:20:43,894 --> 00:20:45,722 - Hm. 327 00:20:48,682 --> 00:20:50,249 - I do love Morgan. 328 00:20:52,816 --> 00:20:55,079 - She does love me. 329 00:20:56,037 --> 00:20:58,344 She knows I'm crazy wacky doodle. 330 00:21:10,269 --> 00:21:12,009 - You hear that, babe? 331 00:21:14,273 --> 00:21:15,578 - Did you hear that? 332 00:21:15,622 --> 00:21:17,188 Morgan would love it if you did that. 333 00:21:17,232 --> 00:21:18,712 We'd love it if you did that. 334 00:21:19,452 --> 00:21:21,192 - She'd love it. She said so. 335 00:21:26,110 --> 00:21:27,851 - Aww, Daddy. 336 00:21:29,723 --> 00:21:32,378 - Yeah, he's got plans. 337 00:21:32,421 --> 00:21:34,031 He's always got plans, huh? 338 00:21:34,902 --> 00:21:37,339 - He's always got a plan. 339 00:21:37,383 --> 00:21:40,908 Even when you were in the hospital last week, 340 00:21:40,951 --> 00:21:44,912 you had plans to make reparations for slavery 341 00:21:44,955 --> 00:21:49,830 and all of the abuse and murder we've perpetrated 342 00:21:49,873 --> 00:21:51,440 on Native Americans. 343 00:21:51,484 --> 00:21:52,963 Right, Daddy? 344 00:21:54,400 --> 00:21:56,445 - You do have that plan, right? 345 00:22:12,331 --> 00:22:14,333 - You want me to record you explaining it 346 00:22:14,376 --> 00:22:15,986 so that we can show it to them? 347 00:22:17,466 --> 00:22:18,424 - All right, let's do that tomorrow, 348 00:22:18,467 --> 00:22:19,860 and you get some rest now, okay? 349 00:22:23,080 --> 00:22:25,169 - Eli was a philanthropist. 350 00:22:25,213 --> 00:22:28,956 He was named a pillar of society by United Way 351 00:22:28,999 --> 00:22:30,392 because he gave to everybody. 352 00:22:30,436 --> 00:22:31,393 He was on the board 353 00:22:31,437 --> 00:22:34,135 of the Fine Arts Museum in Miami. 354 00:22:34,178 --> 00:22:35,919 And Daddy went to work at the federation, 355 00:22:35,963 --> 00:22:37,443 became vice president, 356 00:22:37,486 --> 00:22:39,880 and he would raise millions of dollars. 357 00:22:39,923 --> 00:22:41,490 He was very good at raising money 358 00:22:41,534 --> 00:22:42,970 because he was giving money. 359 00:22:43,013 --> 00:22:46,060 It's no wonder Eli feels he could get his plan 360 00:22:46,103 --> 00:22:50,673 to Joe Biden because he knows Joe Biden from the '70s. 361 00:22:50,717 --> 00:22:54,938 - ♪ Why not just try a little kindness? ♪ 362 00:22:54,982 --> 00:22:57,767 ♪ Try a little kindness 363 00:22:57,811 --> 00:23:00,335 - Eli started an airline, 364 00:23:00,379 --> 00:23:03,425 and it became the fastest growing airline in the world. 365 00:23:03,469 --> 00:23:07,647 - "Fly a little kindness" became the theme of 1979. 366 00:23:07,690 --> 00:23:10,040 How in the hell did you come up with all these things, Eli? 367 00:23:10,084 --> 00:23:12,869 - Founder and president of Air Florida, Eli Timoner, 368 00:23:12,913 --> 00:23:14,567 now confidently boasts... 369 00:23:22,401 --> 00:23:24,490 - Timoner's also beaming like a proud father 370 00:23:24,533 --> 00:23:25,752 over Air Florida's profits. 371 00:23:29,408 --> 00:23:31,932 - He said, "Bernie, I want to start an airline." 372 00:23:31,975 --> 00:23:35,109 The doctor said, "Steve, you get up and let Eli lay down." 373 00:23:35,152 --> 00:23:37,328 [laughter] 374 00:23:37,372 --> 00:23:40,462 - In 1972, Air Florida was not a household word. 375 00:23:40,506 --> 00:23:42,116 Its fleet consisted 376 00:23:42,159 --> 00:23:43,509 of a whopping two electro prop jets, 377 00:23:43,552 --> 00:23:46,337 which zigzagged between Miami, Orlando, and Tampa. 378 00:23:46,381 --> 00:23:48,731 But now, the airline is competing with the big boys. 379 00:23:48,775 --> 00:23:51,212 - Eli believed everyone in America 380 00:23:51,255 --> 00:23:53,910 should be able to afford to fly and travel. 381 00:23:53,954 --> 00:23:57,087 So he testified many times before Congress, 382 00:23:57,131 --> 00:23:58,915 pushing deregulation, 383 00:23:58,959 --> 00:24:00,917 to be able to lower the air fares. 384 00:24:00,961 --> 00:24:02,832 And deregulation passed. 385 00:24:02,876 --> 00:24:04,921 And he immediately offered a flight 386 00:24:04,965 --> 00:24:09,273 to New York for $49 and London for $175, 387 00:24:09,317 --> 00:24:11,362 when everybody else was charging 800. 388 00:24:11,406 --> 00:24:14,540 And he had the first-class passengers picked up 389 00:24:14,583 --> 00:24:17,238 by Rolls-Royces with boxes of Godiva chocolates 390 00:24:17,281 --> 00:24:18,457 waiting for them in the car. 391 00:24:18,500 --> 00:24:20,110 There wasn't an empty seat, 392 00:24:20,154 --> 00:24:22,548 and they became the fastest growing airline in the world. 393 00:24:22,591 --> 00:24:25,115 They just kept buying more planes and flying more people. 394 00:24:25,159 --> 00:24:27,857 It was 3,000 strong at the highest. 395 00:24:27,901 --> 00:24:31,295 When it became very big and he didn't know everybody's name, 396 00:24:31,339 --> 00:24:33,210 it was a little frustrating for him. 397 00:24:33,254 --> 00:24:35,474 But he certainly did know all the Miami people. 398 00:24:49,662 --> 00:24:51,359 - Even though he ran an airline, 399 00:24:51,402 --> 00:24:53,100 he let me sleep in the morning. 400 00:24:53,143 --> 00:24:54,971 And he would drive the carpool, 401 00:24:55,015 --> 00:24:56,625 get the kids to school. 402 00:24:56,669 --> 00:24:58,584 The mothers who were part of the carpool 403 00:24:58,627 --> 00:25:00,411 couldn't believe it. 404 00:25:00,455 --> 00:25:01,935 Here's Eli Timoner, 405 00:25:01,978 --> 00:25:04,241 who's on television a good part of the time, 406 00:25:04,285 --> 00:25:06,243 driving the carpool. 407 00:25:06,287 --> 00:25:10,770 - Mr. Timoner, you're a small, no-frills airline also. 408 00:25:10,813 --> 00:25:12,380 Are you concerned that the big boys 409 00:25:12,423 --> 00:25:13,468 are gonna drive you out of business? 410 00:25:14,338 --> 00:25:15,339 - No? 411 00:25:15,383 --> 00:25:16,340 - Why not? 412 00:25:26,046 --> 00:25:28,657 - And then one day, he had a massive stroke 413 00:25:28,701 --> 00:25:30,659 from an accident, and he became paralyzed. 414 00:25:30,703 --> 00:25:33,357 - He had his neck cracked by a masseur. 415 00:25:33,401 --> 00:25:37,144 No high blood pressure. No heart history in his family. 416 00:25:37,187 --> 00:25:40,582 No reason to have a stroke except his neck was cracked. 417 00:25:40,626 --> 00:25:42,236 He ran that morning, 418 00:25:42,279 --> 00:25:44,064 and he also ran an Air Florida meeting 419 00:25:44,107 --> 00:25:46,196 with all the employees in the theater, 420 00:25:46,240 --> 00:25:48,459 telling them, "My door is always open." 421 00:25:48,503 --> 00:25:50,418 And then we went for his massage, 422 00:25:50,461 --> 00:25:53,203 and life changed forever. 423 00:25:53,247 --> 00:25:56,032 - I didn't know how to process it as an eight-year-old. 424 00:25:56,076 --> 00:25:58,992 I didn't tell anyone at school. 425 00:25:59,035 --> 00:26:00,341 It was in the paper. 426 00:26:00,384 --> 00:26:02,038 He was a well-known man in Miami. 427 00:26:02,082 --> 00:26:03,387 People would say, "How's your dad?" 428 00:26:03,431 --> 00:26:05,564 I'd say, "Oh, he's fine. He's fine." 429 00:26:05,607 --> 00:26:08,697 I don't know if it was ashamed or just terrified, 430 00:26:08,741 --> 00:26:10,656 but I didn't want to go to that place 431 00:26:10,699 --> 00:26:13,049 where I'd have to talk to my friend 432 00:26:13,093 --> 00:26:15,225 about what happened to my dad 'cause I was so scared. 433 00:26:15,269 --> 00:26:18,751 So maybe that's why I'm an emotional zombie. 434 00:26:18,794 --> 00:26:20,666 I don't cry. 435 00:26:20,709 --> 00:26:23,059 You know, I tear up maybe in a Pixar movie, like, 436 00:26:23,103 --> 00:26:26,715 like, know, once, but that's it, you know. 437 00:26:26,759 --> 00:26:28,804 - I used to go to help him 438 00:26:28,848 --> 00:26:30,414 with physical therapy in the hospital. 439 00:26:30,458 --> 00:26:33,026 Here he was, terrified, shaking, 440 00:26:33,069 --> 00:26:35,463 being yelled at to move his left arm, 441 00:26:35,506 --> 00:26:37,073 which was paralyzed, and he couldn't. 442 00:26:37,117 --> 00:26:39,685 I had never felt so small and so afraid. 443 00:26:39,728 --> 00:26:41,774 Something changed in me. 444 00:26:41,817 --> 00:26:44,472 And I looked at my dad, and he saw my eyes, 445 00:26:44,515 --> 00:26:47,344 and I said, "Dad, it's gonna be okay. 446 00:26:47,388 --> 00:26:48,824 It's gonna be okay. 447 00:26:48,868 --> 00:26:50,609 You could just reach out your arm and hold my hand." 448 00:26:50,652 --> 00:26:53,524 He, seemingly without effort, moved his left arm 449 00:26:53,568 --> 00:26:56,919 in an arc over his head and held my hand. 450 00:26:56,963 --> 00:26:58,791 ♪ 451 00:26:58,834 --> 00:27:02,359 And he's never been able to do that since then. 452 00:27:02,403 --> 00:27:05,232 When I ended up realizing that I wanted to be a rabbi, 453 00:27:05,275 --> 00:27:07,626 a lot of it was recalling this experience 454 00:27:07,669 --> 00:27:09,715 and realizing that I had had this feeling 455 00:27:09,758 --> 00:27:12,326 of spiritual connection since then. 456 00:27:12,369 --> 00:27:15,285 [upbeat music playing] 457 00:27:15,329 --> 00:27:17,723 ♪ 458 00:27:17,766 --> 00:27:22,118 My whole path, my whole path, has been because of him. 459 00:27:22,162 --> 00:27:24,207 My dad, he was running a roofing business, 460 00:27:24,251 --> 00:27:25,600 and he had two unions. 461 00:27:25,644 --> 00:27:26,732 There was a white workers union 462 00:27:26,775 --> 00:27:28,559 and a Black workers union. 463 00:27:28,603 --> 00:27:29,735 And my dad, as a businessman, just was like, 464 00:27:29,778 --> 00:27:31,345 "That makes no sense." 465 00:27:31,388 --> 00:27:33,826 This was in the 1960s in Florida, 466 00:27:33,869 --> 00:27:35,784 so it was the segregated South. 467 00:27:35,828 --> 00:27:38,221 He would never have talked about it as justice. 468 00:27:38,265 --> 00:27:40,659 He wasn't, like, an activist. 469 00:27:40,702 --> 00:27:42,661 He did that because he just--it was decent. 470 00:27:42,704 --> 00:27:43,749 It's what you do. 471 00:27:43,792 --> 00:27:47,666 [upbeat music] 472 00:27:47,709 --> 00:27:51,191 I think part of what makes me dedicate myself so much 473 00:27:51,234 --> 00:27:53,976 to what's wrong in the world is 474 00:27:54,020 --> 00:27:56,326 that Dad lived the second half 475 00:27:56,370 --> 00:28:01,767 of his life beset by shame, and a sense of failure, 476 00:28:01,810 --> 00:28:05,205 and a sense of unworthiness because of the discrimination 477 00:28:05,248 --> 00:28:06,728 he faced as a disabled person. 478 00:28:06,772 --> 00:28:09,339 And I absorbed that. 479 00:28:09,383 --> 00:28:11,385 He was the chairman of the board 480 00:28:11,428 --> 00:28:13,604 and the CEO of the airline he founded, 481 00:28:13,648 --> 00:28:16,912 and the board of directors that he had handpicked 482 00:28:16,956 --> 00:28:18,740 told him that they needed him to resign 483 00:28:18,784 --> 00:28:20,568 because it was bad for the company for the CEO 484 00:28:20,611 --> 00:28:21,917 to be in a wheelchair. 485 00:28:21,961 --> 00:28:23,832 And that would be illegal now. 486 00:28:23,876 --> 00:28:25,442 [soft music] 487 00:28:25,486 --> 00:28:27,314 - He provided pretty well 488 00:28:27,357 --> 00:28:28,837 until you were all out of the nest, 489 00:28:28,881 --> 00:28:30,883 and we came up short of money 490 00:28:30,926 --> 00:28:33,624 for David's graduation from Yale. 491 00:28:33,668 --> 00:28:35,365 - I graduated from college, 492 00:28:35,409 --> 00:28:39,282 and I didn't have a diploma in my little blue, like, 493 00:28:39,326 --> 00:28:41,110 leather-bound diploma book. 494 00:28:41,154 --> 00:28:43,025 - They gave him an empty envelope 495 00:28:43,069 --> 00:28:46,333 because we had to pay the final bills. 496 00:28:46,376 --> 00:28:48,901 And things were getting pretty tight. 497 00:28:48,944 --> 00:28:50,206 - That wasn't as traumatizing 498 00:28:50,250 --> 00:28:53,470 as when we thought my car was stolen. 499 00:28:53,514 --> 00:28:56,778 Dad, being this guy who wanted to always provide, 500 00:28:56,822 --> 00:28:58,867 was like, "I'll lease your car in my name. 501 00:28:58,911 --> 00:29:00,260 You know, I'll pay your lease payments." 502 00:29:00,303 --> 00:29:01,914 So he was getting these lease payment bills, 503 00:29:01,957 --> 00:29:02,784 and he wasn't paying them. 504 00:29:02,828 --> 00:29:04,438 He couldn't pay them 505 00:29:04,481 --> 00:29:06,048 'cause he was falling behind financially, 506 00:29:06,092 --> 00:29:08,311 but he wasn't telling me. 507 00:29:08,355 --> 00:29:11,793 And so one day, my car was gone, 508 00:29:11,837 --> 00:29:13,839 and I thought someone stole it. 509 00:29:13,882 --> 00:29:16,667 And then it turned out it was repo-ed. 510 00:29:16,711 --> 00:29:19,235 - When we had to declare bankruptcy, 511 00:29:19,279 --> 00:29:21,368 that's when I went on Prozac. 512 00:29:21,411 --> 00:29:22,848 - It's like, he wants to be on top of it, 513 00:29:22,891 --> 00:29:24,850 but he doesn't have the means to be on top of it. 514 00:29:24,893 --> 00:29:27,809 - Daddy kept insisting I buy lotto tickets, 515 00:29:27,853 --> 00:29:29,855 which I never expected to win. 516 00:29:29,898 --> 00:29:31,770 I've never won anything. 517 00:29:31,813 --> 00:29:34,381 But because he felt some hope in that, 518 00:29:34,424 --> 00:29:37,210 I did it for him. 519 00:29:37,253 --> 00:29:38,733 - He fell from the heights. 520 00:29:38,777 --> 00:29:41,736 He was meeting with prime ministers, 521 00:29:41,780 --> 00:29:46,654 and princes, and presidents. 522 00:29:46,697 --> 00:29:49,352 And then he lost all his wealth. 523 00:29:49,396 --> 00:29:51,311 He lost all his income. 524 00:29:51,354 --> 00:29:53,835 He lost all his status. 525 00:29:53,879 --> 00:29:58,492 He just never complained, kept going, kept loving us. 526 00:30:20,688 --> 00:30:23,560 [phone dialing] 527 00:30:26,433 --> 00:30:28,435 [phone line trilling] 528 00:30:28,478 --> 00:30:31,307 - Welcome to Bank of America. 529 00:30:31,351 --> 00:30:32,961 Let's try again. 530 00:30:33,005 --> 00:30:34,876 Please say "repeat that" or press 1, 531 00:30:34,920 --> 00:30:38,271 "hear more" or press 2. 532 00:30:38,314 --> 00:30:40,360 Here are your recent transactions, 533 00:30:40,403 --> 00:30:43,319 looking as far as back as November 12th. 534 00:30:43,363 --> 00:30:46,627 On February 18th, a debit card purchase 535 00:30:46,670 --> 00:30:51,458 for $36.35 from Rite Aid. 536 00:30:51,501 --> 00:30:55,027 On February 5th, a keep the change transfer 537 00:30:55,070 --> 00:30:58,204 from this account for-- you can say "repeat." 538 00:31:03,383 --> 00:31:05,776 - Well, what are we talking about, in terms of time? 539 00:31:05,820 --> 00:31:07,126 How long will it take? 540 00:31:07,169 --> 00:31:08,910 - I would say, give it about three hours, 541 00:31:08,954 --> 00:31:11,565 but remember he could go really fast, 542 00:31:11,608 --> 00:31:13,001 so I just don't know. 543 00:31:16,657 --> 00:31:18,354 - Bracht. - Holger Bracht. 544 00:31:20,835 --> 00:31:22,837 - He always remembers doctors' names. 545 00:31:22,881 --> 00:31:25,796 - And March 3rd is Holger Bracht's birthday. 546 00:31:25,840 --> 00:31:27,755 - He wants that day. Remember, Daddy? 547 00:31:27,798 --> 00:31:29,800 You're dying on the doctor's birthday? 548 00:31:31,411 --> 00:31:33,108 - I wouldn't want to see it delayed. 549 00:31:33,152 --> 00:31:34,762 It's no life for him. 550 00:31:34,805 --> 00:31:38,374 - That said, we're not sorry about the 15 days, right? 551 00:31:38,418 --> 00:31:42,204 I mean, it's giving us a chance to be conscious and thoughtful 552 00:31:42,248 --> 00:31:44,337 about his departure, and for him to say goodbye 553 00:31:44,380 --> 00:31:46,034 to lots of people that mean a lot to him. 554 00:31:46,078 --> 00:31:47,514 - Yeah. 555 00:31:47,557 --> 00:31:49,168 - So many people that he impacted through his life. 556 00:31:49,211 --> 00:31:50,517 - Yeah, yeah, yeah. 557 00:31:50,560 --> 00:31:52,867 - Actually, Daddy, let's make that list 558 00:31:52,911 --> 00:31:53,912 of who you want to say goodbye to, 559 00:31:53,955 --> 00:31:55,435 so I can schedule it. 560 00:31:59,178 --> 00:32:01,397 - I mean, to know this is coming is a luxury. 561 00:32:01,441 --> 00:32:02,659 - Yeah. 562 00:32:02,703 --> 00:32:04,574 - And to have him sharp. - Yeah. 563 00:32:04,618 --> 00:32:06,489 - You must have several Alzheimer's patients. 564 00:32:06,533 --> 00:32:08,230 - Yeah. - That's heartbreaking. 565 00:32:08,274 --> 00:32:09,536 - They don't get this choice. 566 00:32:09,579 --> 00:32:13,018 They can't have any cognitive issues at all. 567 00:32:13,061 --> 00:32:14,671 Otherwise, they don't qualify. 568 00:32:14,715 --> 00:32:16,325 - I think it's really courageous work you're doing... 569 00:32:16,369 --> 00:32:17,892 - Thank you. 570 00:32:17,936 --> 00:32:20,634 - Being a hospice nurse and doing end of life. 571 00:32:20,677 --> 00:32:23,854 - I was telling your mom, not all doctors will do it. 572 00:32:23,898 --> 00:32:26,422 Not all pharmacies will participate in the medication. 573 00:32:26,466 --> 00:32:28,207 And not all nurses would do it. 574 00:32:28,250 --> 00:32:32,385 So, I find it very genuine, what I get to do, 575 00:32:32,428 --> 00:32:36,476 and very honoring, what I get to do. 576 00:32:36,519 --> 00:32:39,218 Is it hard? Yes. 577 00:32:39,261 --> 00:32:42,003 Does it get any easier? No. 578 00:32:42,047 --> 00:32:44,049 And the moment it does get easier 579 00:32:44,092 --> 00:32:46,138 is the moment I need to change careers 580 00:32:46,181 --> 00:32:49,097 'cause I don't ever want to lose that humanity in me. 581 00:32:49,141 --> 00:32:50,794 - Yeah. 582 00:32:50,838 --> 00:32:55,147 [soft music] 583 00:32:58,846 --> 00:33:00,456 - Yes, we do see you. 584 00:33:10,031 --> 00:33:10,989 - Yes. 585 00:33:15,689 --> 00:33:17,082 - That's right. 586 00:33:17,125 --> 00:33:18,648 That wasn't a good flight for Karen 587 00:33:18,692 --> 00:33:21,477 because she forgot to latch one cabinet. 588 00:33:21,521 --> 00:33:23,653 And if you'll remember, when we landed, 589 00:33:23,697 --> 00:33:26,830 all of the galley equipment came out of that cabinet 590 00:33:26,874 --> 00:33:28,615 and crashed onto the floor. 591 00:33:28,658 --> 00:33:30,965 It sounded like an avalanche in the back. 592 00:33:36,753 --> 00:33:38,059 - There's my hero. 593 00:33:40,148 --> 00:33:41,410 - How are you doing, my darling? 594 00:33:45,675 --> 00:33:47,503 - I'm telling you, before you called, 595 00:33:47,547 --> 00:33:49,462 I was outside on the patio, 596 00:33:49,505 --> 00:33:52,160 having a glass of wine and a cigarette. 597 00:33:52,204 --> 00:33:54,075 I know, but all I could think is, 598 00:33:54,119 --> 00:33:57,078 this is like being called to Eli's office back in the day. 599 00:33:57,122 --> 00:33:58,123 I'm nervous. 600 00:33:58,166 --> 00:33:59,776 [laughs] 601 00:33:59,820 --> 00:34:01,039 I have to tell you the truth. 602 00:34:01,082 --> 00:34:02,475 When he would call me in there, 603 00:34:02,518 --> 00:34:04,346 it was usually because I needed to do something. 604 00:34:04,390 --> 00:34:05,826 It was, "Now, we're gonna get DC-9s. 605 00:34:05,869 --> 00:34:07,088 Can you train them?" 606 00:34:07,132 --> 00:34:10,091 "Now, we're gonna get a DC-10. Can you train that?" 607 00:34:10,135 --> 00:34:12,789 And it didn't matter how concerned I was, 608 00:34:12,833 --> 00:34:14,095 he was like, "Oh, you can do it. 609 00:34:14,139 --> 00:34:16,358 I know you can do it." 610 00:34:16,402 --> 00:34:18,143 And we did it, didn't we? 611 00:34:19,796 --> 00:34:21,755 - Well, that's because of you. 612 00:34:21,798 --> 00:34:24,192 When I got to be an executive, all I wanted to do 613 00:34:24,236 --> 00:34:26,673 was be as good as your dad, to be honest. 614 00:34:26,716 --> 00:34:29,980 It was, can I please lead that way? 615 00:34:30,024 --> 00:34:32,113 - Even the way he's doing this. 616 00:34:32,157 --> 00:34:35,160 - Yep, it's the bravest thing I've known. 617 00:34:35,203 --> 00:34:38,250 - Eli, say goodbye and tell her you love her and all the rest. 618 00:34:40,643 --> 00:34:42,167 [laughter] 619 00:34:42,210 --> 00:34:44,604 - I love you, my darling hero. 620 00:34:44,647 --> 00:34:47,085 You are my hero. 621 00:34:47,128 --> 00:34:54,048 ♪ 622 00:35:00,881 --> 00:35:03,231 - Okay, and then you know, one day, one day, 623 00:35:03,275 --> 00:35:04,754 I will join you, 624 00:35:04,798 --> 00:35:07,975 and we're going to drink milk and honey, 625 00:35:08,018 --> 00:35:10,499 and drink Red Stripe beer, 626 00:35:10,543 --> 00:35:12,545 and listen to Jamaica reggae music. 627 00:35:17,985 --> 00:35:19,552 - Okay. 628 00:35:19,595 --> 00:35:22,250 ♪ 629 00:35:23,904 --> 00:35:25,297 - Hello. 630 00:35:25,340 --> 00:35:27,821 I wanted to ask you a couple things. 631 00:35:30,563 --> 00:35:32,086 - Are you scared of going? 632 00:35:33,218 --> 00:35:34,915 - No? 633 00:35:34,958 --> 00:35:37,526 Remember when you were in hospital before. 634 00:35:37,570 --> 00:35:39,615 You weren't ready to go then, were you? 635 00:35:40,616 --> 00:35:42,227 - No. 636 00:35:42,270 --> 00:35:44,925 So what's made the difference now? 637 00:35:46,361 --> 00:35:47,667 - Confidence. 638 00:36:03,204 --> 00:36:04,988 - I said I wouldn't cry. 639 00:36:05,032 --> 00:36:06,990 - It's okay to be a crier. 640 00:36:07,034 --> 00:36:10,951 - Yeah, I just have such an issue with people dying. 641 00:36:12,257 --> 00:36:14,128 - Thank you. 642 00:36:14,955 --> 00:36:17,218 - I'll miss you too. 643 00:36:18,176 --> 00:36:23,790 But, I mean, I kind of think that I'm of the belief that, 644 00:36:23,833 --> 00:36:28,229 you know, people who die are never really gone. 645 00:36:28,273 --> 00:36:32,842 What would be quite nice is if you--Ondi, you-- 646 00:36:32,886 --> 00:36:37,456 and your dad discuss something which you could 647 00:36:37,499 --> 00:36:39,632 identify him as, you know? 648 00:36:40,850 --> 00:36:42,374 - Yeah. 649 00:36:44,985 --> 00:36:46,987 - You're not gonna come back as a horse's ass. 650 00:36:47,030 --> 00:36:50,469 What I'm saying is-- but some way that you can 651 00:36:50,512 --> 00:36:54,951 let us know that you're there 652 00:36:54,995 --> 00:36:56,910 and you're communicating, you know? 653 00:36:58,303 --> 00:37:01,219 - Oh, yes, I know. We do believe in you. 654 00:37:01,262 --> 00:37:03,960 But we want to know, you know. We want to know. 655 00:37:04,004 --> 00:37:07,790 - I think she wants a sign. - We want a sign, you know? 656 00:37:11,577 --> 00:37:13,274 - Okay. 657 00:37:18,540 --> 00:37:20,455 - Oh, yeah, I think you will. 658 00:37:21,282 --> 00:37:22,457 - I'll miss you too. 659 00:37:23,328 --> 00:37:25,286 - Yeah, I will. 660 00:37:25,330 --> 00:37:32,250 ♪ 661 00:37:39,300 --> 00:37:42,129 - Another sip of clam chowder, Daddy, or Ensure? 662 00:37:46,002 --> 00:37:48,831 - Sweetheart, it's time to talk to Patti O'Kane in England. 663 00:37:48,875 --> 00:37:50,485 Are you up for that, baby? 664 00:37:50,529 --> 00:37:51,312 - Okay, great. 665 00:37:51,356 --> 00:37:53,009 - Hi. 666 00:37:53,053 --> 00:37:54,446 - There's Patti. 667 00:37:55,447 --> 00:37:56,926 - Hello. 668 00:37:58,188 --> 00:38:00,278 - What a pretty girl. 669 00:38:00,321 --> 00:38:06,240 You joined us as Eli embarked on this 40-year journey 670 00:38:06,284 --> 00:38:08,460 where he couldn't use his left side. 671 00:38:08,503 --> 00:38:12,420 - Is that 40 years? - It's 40 years, 1982. 672 00:38:12,464 --> 00:38:14,117 - Oh, my goodness. - Yeah. 673 00:38:14,161 --> 00:38:15,336 You were just 18, right? 674 00:38:15,380 --> 00:38:17,164 - Yeah. 675 00:38:17,207 --> 00:38:19,384 My own dad was-- well, he was an alcoholic, 676 00:38:19,427 --> 00:38:21,690 so he wasn't a good dad. 677 00:38:21,734 --> 00:38:26,129 And Eli was the first person that I saw. 678 00:38:26,173 --> 00:38:28,218 Such a wonderful father. 679 00:38:28,784 --> 00:38:30,482 - I think Patti's crying. 680 00:38:30,525 --> 00:38:32,875 - Just the kind of father you would want for people. 681 00:38:32,919 --> 00:38:34,703 Just always so kind, 682 00:38:34,747 --> 00:38:36,314 not just to me but to everybody. 683 00:38:38,577 --> 00:38:40,492 - I love you too. 684 00:38:40,535 --> 00:38:42,668 Have a good rest. 685 00:38:47,325 --> 00:38:49,022 - How you doing? 686 00:38:50,415 --> 00:38:51,372 - That's good. 687 00:38:51,416 --> 00:38:53,809 Your hand is so bruised. 688 00:38:53,853 --> 00:38:55,333 - That's from the IV. 689 00:38:55,376 --> 00:38:57,291 - Yeah. 690 00:38:57,335 --> 00:38:59,119 ♪ 691 00:39:01,948 --> 00:39:04,429 - Know this turkey is 692 00:39:04,472 --> 00:39:08,520 the same size and... 693 00:39:08,563 --> 00:39:11,349 - Same weight. - Same weight as me. 694 00:39:15,004 --> 00:39:19,748 ♪ 695 00:39:19,792 --> 00:39:21,271 - Love you, Eli. 696 00:39:24,318 --> 00:39:26,625 - Yeah, David and I have been tweeting lately 697 00:39:26,668 --> 00:39:28,409 because we're both big crypto junkies. 698 00:39:32,282 --> 00:39:33,458 - That's right. 699 00:39:36,286 --> 00:39:37,679 - Seems like it. 700 00:39:37,723 --> 00:39:40,334 - I find all your stories so interesting, Dad. 701 00:39:40,378 --> 00:39:41,814 But it sounds like most of the Timoners 702 00:39:41,857 --> 00:39:42,858 were pretty accomplished. 703 00:39:42,902 --> 00:39:44,425 Was it--or not really? 704 00:39:45,513 --> 00:39:47,254 - No? Just your dad? 705 00:39:49,735 --> 00:39:51,171 - None of the--most of the Timoners did nothing? 706 00:39:51,214 --> 00:39:52,477 - All the way in. 707 00:39:59,614 --> 00:40:01,529 - I guess. 708 00:40:01,573 --> 00:40:03,749 99, I've never even seen that. 709 00:40:06,404 --> 00:40:07,405 - I have 100! 710 00:40:11,496 --> 00:40:13,236 - How are you, sir? 711 00:40:16,326 --> 00:40:18,372 - This is from Langer's. 712 00:40:21,114 --> 00:40:23,029 - Mm-hmm. 713 00:40:28,861 --> 00:40:30,297 - Aww. 714 00:40:37,130 --> 00:40:38,871 - Hi, beautiful. 715 00:40:41,090 --> 00:40:42,483 - Hi. 716 00:40:49,534 --> 00:40:54,234 ♪ 717 00:40:55,888 --> 00:40:57,846 - I love you too, very much. 718 00:41:00,240 --> 00:41:01,807 - Mm-hmm. 719 00:41:05,506 --> 00:41:07,116 - Hmm? 720 00:41:13,906 --> 00:41:15,603 This light. 721 00:41:15,647 --> 00:41:18,127 - I'll tell you, when I go out there in the morning 722 00:41:18,171 --> 00:41:22,131 and he's lying--has been alone all night in the living room, 723 00:41:22,175 --> 00:41:25,047 and I'll see that his glass of water has been knocked 724 00:41:25,091 --> 00:41:26,527 off the table 'cause he reached 725 00:41:26,571 --> 00:41:28,442 for it and knocked it over. 726 00:41:28,486 --> 00:41:32,315 And I give him a sip of water, and he's glad 727 00:41:32,359 --> 00:41:34,579 to see me in the morning, and the day begins. 728 00:41:34,622 --> 00:41:37,495 But it's really sad. 729 00:41:47,635 --> 00:41:48,941 - Oh, sure. 730 00:41:48,984 --> 00:41:50,638 I'm on my way over there right now, actually. 731 00:41:50,682 --> 00:41:52,031 You want to email it? 732 00:41:57,079 --> 00:41:58,951 - Well, I mean, good. 733 00:41:58,994 --> 00:42:01,170 Today's the second doctor visit, 734 00:42:01,214 --> 00:42:03,477 and it's the doctor who's not a believer in end of life, 735 00:42:03,521 --> 00:42:04,609 so I don't know how that's gonna go. 736 00:42:04,652 --> 00:42:08,438 But I just can't believe there's only a week left. 737 00:42:17,404 --> 00:42:18,579 - I know. 738 00:42:18,623 --> 00:42:20,189 It feels really strange to think 739 00:42:20,233 --> 00:42:21,843 that all the information in his mind 740 00:42:21,887 --> 00:42:24,498 is just gonna, zap, be gone, you know? 741 00:42:24,542 --> 00:42:25,934 - Yep. 742 00:42:25,978 --> 00:42:27,545 - So tell me when you're coming, and I'll film it. 743 00:42:27,588 --> 00:42:29,024 I'd love to. 744 00:42:29,068 --> 00:42:30,678 - Okay, thanks. 745 00:42:31,766 --> 00:42:33,115 - Okay, that sounds good, Dave. Love you. 746 00:42:41,471 --> 00:42:45,519 - Hey, Daddy, we have to meet with this other doctor now. 747 00:42:45,563 --> 00:42:47,216 He's gonna give a second opinion 748 00:42:47,260 --> 00:42:49,436 on whether you're of sound mind and qualify 749 00:42:49,479 --> 00:42:51,569 for end of life option, okay? 750 00:42:53,222 --> 00:42:55,834 - I understand that you're, you know, 751 00:42:55,877 --> 00:42:57,226 going through the end of life option. 752 00:43:00,839 --> 00:43:02,928 - Eli, I'm just gonna ask you a couple questions. 753 00:43:14,592 --> 00:43:17,203 Right now, do you know what day today is? 754 00:43:17,246 --> 00:43:20,685 ♪ 755 00:43:22,904 --> 00:43:25,733 - Okay. And did you have any lunch? 756 00:43:33,785 --> 00:43:35,700 Are you able to get up and move around? 757 00:43:37,049 --> 00:43:38,703 - He can't get out of bed. 758 00:43:41,140 --> 00:43:44,578 - He is forgetful, but his long-term memory is fabulous. 759 00:43:44,622 --> 00:43:47,494 And he still is able to make his needs known. 760 00:43:48,756 --> 00:43:50,062 - Yeah, he's determined. 761 00:43:55,633 --> 00:43:58,853 - Okay, all right, well, we'll talk to Dr. Bracht, 762 00:43:58,897 --> 00:44:00,942 and he's gonna make his visit 763 00:44:00,986 --> 00:44:04,032 in another four or five more days, 764 00:44:04,076 --> 00:44:06,731 and we can go from there, okay? 765 00:44:12,954 --> 00:44:16,001 [laughter] 766 00:44:17,263 --> 00:44:19,700 - Do you think that doctor can prevent Eli 767 00:44:19,744 --> 00:44:21,615 from getting the medicine? 768 00:44:21,659 --> 00:44:24,096 ♪ 769 00:44:24,139 --> 00:44:27,752 - Daddy, are you ready for the obituary? 770 00:44:27,795 --> 00:44:29,231 Draft one. 771 00:44:29,275 --> 00:44:30,493 We can make any changes 772 00:44:30,537 --> 00:44:32,844 that you feel you need to make, okay? 773 00:44:32,887 --> 00:44:34,454 - Great. 774 00:44:34,497 --> 00:44:37,675 "Eli grew Laura Lee Candies into a thriving business. 775 00:44:37,718 --> 00:44:40,895 "He opened the factory every morning 776 00:44:40,939 --> 00:44:44,943 and began the day with"-- how much chocolate? 777 00:44:46,509 --> 00:44:48,163 - Yum, okay. 778 00:44:48,207 --> 00:44:50,339 "It was during Giffen's meteoric rise 779 00:44:50,383 --> 00:44:53,778 "that Eli met Elissa Doane, a receptionist, model, 780 00:44:53,821 --> 00:44:56,519 "and fellow New York transplant who was a neighbor 781 00:44:56,563 --> 00:44:59,348 in his Biscayne Bay apartment building." 782 00:44:59,392 --> 00:45:03,788 I really want to say they married on December 4, 1966. 783 00:45:03,831 --> 00:45:05,790 - After Dad played two sets of tennis. 784 00:45:05,833 --> 00:45:08,488 - Two sets of tennis. 785 00:45:08,531 --> 00:45:11,709 - When I met him, he was so beautiful. 786 00:45:11,752 --> 00:45:13,449 So full of life. 787 00:45:13,493 --> 00:45:15,364 Took the stairs two at a time. 788 00:45:15,408 --> 00:45:16,757 Never sat down. 789 00:45:16,801 --> 00:45:22,807 He was brilliant, sweet, modest, generous, kind. 790 00:45:22,850 --> 00:45:25,287 We married in '66. 791 00:45:25,331 --> 00:45:27,376 Those were idyllic years. 792 00:45:27,420 --> 00:45:31,032 I mean, they were probably too good for any two people. 793 00:45:31,076 --> 00:45:33,774 The children came four years into it, 794 00:45:33,818 --> 00:45:36,646 and we were the talk of the town 795 00:45:36,690 --> 00:45:39,824 'cause I was always pregnant for like 27 months straight. 796 00:45:39,867 --> 00:45:42,217 We were happy. 797 00:45:42,261 --> 00:45:43,784 We were a happy fivesome. 798 00:45:43,828 --> 00:45:47,745 And life was just a dream. 799 00:45:47,788 --> 00:45:51,749 When Daddy had his stroke in 1982, 800 00:45:51,792 --> 00:45:54,447 we banded together as the T Team. 801 00:45:54,490 --> 00:45:56,797 The kids got me a license plate 802 00:45:56,841 --> 00:45:59,539 for the front of my car, "The T Team." 803 00:45:59,582 --> 00:46:01,759 And we began running races together 804 00:46:01,802 --> 00:46:03,804 to show we will overcome. 805 00:46:03,848 --> 00:46:06,589 Yeah, we became a band of four, 806 00:46:06,633 --> 00:46:09,636 holding up our dad. 807 00:46:09,679 --> 00:46:12,421 - Maybe we should add that you ran track in high school. 808 00:46:12,465 --> 00:46:13,814 Were you a track star? 809 00:46:35,749 --> 00:46:38,186 - You're almost at the finish line, Dad. 810 00:46:38,230 --> 00:46:40,275 You know what today is? 811 00:46:42,974 --> 00:46:45,063 - You're gonna reach the finish line 812 00:46:45,106 --> 00:46:46,934 one week from today. 813 00:46:46,978 --> 00:46:48,718 Can you hang in there till then? 814 00:46:50,982 --> 00:46:57,902 ♪ 815 00:47:04,169 --> 00:47:06,911 - You can see how the pieces are coming together, right? 816 00:47:06,954 --> 00:47:08,738 We know what we gotta do. 817 00:47:08,782 --> 00:47:11,045 That this could be something that feels like history. 818 00:47:11,089 --> 00:47:13,091 You can see the concept of how this could become 819 00:47:13,134 --> 00:47:14,005 something that we could... 820 00:47:14,048 --> 00:47:15,658 - Here's Daddy. 821 00:47:15,702 --> 00:47:16,877 - Get levels of transmission down low enough... 822 00:47:16,921 --> 00:47:18,270 - Here's Daddy. 823 00:47:20,054 --> 00:47:22,622 - Hi, Dad. Guess what I have for you. 824 00:47:22,665 --> 00:47:23,884 You ready? Can you see? 825 00:47:24,798 --> 00:47:26,713 - Okay, here goes. 826 00:47:31,631 --> 00:47:34,112 - It's Rachel Maddow from MSNBC. 827 00:47:34,155 --> 00:47:37,245 - Your daughter, Rabbi Rachel, 828 00:47:37,289 --> 00:47:39,682 reached out through some mutual friends 829 00:47:39,726 --> 00:47:43,295 and found me to tell me that you have been 830 00:47:43,338 --> 00:47:44,905 watching "The Rachel Maddow Show," 831 00:47:44,949 --> 00:47:47,255 watching me on MSNBC, 832 00:47:47,299 --> 00:47:50,911 religiously-- small R, religiously-- 833 00:47:50,955 --> 00:47:53,871 and that this might be a good time 834 00:47:53,914 --> 00:47:57,875 for me to reach out and say hi and to say thank you. 835 00:47:57,918 --> 00:47:59,877 So this is hi, and this is thank you. 836 00:47:59,920 --> 00:48:00,965 I know that this has been 837 00:48:01,008 --> 00:48:02,357 a really, really difficult time. 838 00:48:02,401 --> 00:48:03,924 It has been a difficult time for the world 839 00:48:03,968 --> 00:48:08,059 and for the country, but for you in particular 840 00:48:08,102 --> 00:48:10,757 these past weeks and months. 841 00:48:10,800 --> 00:48:12,759 And I just want to tell you that you're in my heart 842 00:48:12,802 --> 00:48:13,716 and you're in my prayers. 843 00:48:15,240 --> 00:48:17,677 - Thank you for paying attention to me. 844 00:48:17,720 --> 00:48:19,548 And I'm just hoping you'll let me pay a little bit 845 00:48:19,592 --> 00:48:21,115 of it back to you now. 846 00:48:21,159 --> 00:48:22,508 God bless you. 847 00:48:22,551 --> 00:48:24,118 - Aww. 848 00:48:25,467 --> 00:48:27,339 - Beautiful. 849 00:48:27,382 --> 00:48:29,341 What do you think, Daddy? 850 00:48:39,133 --> 00:48:41,092 - Sorry about the delay. 851 00:48:41,135 --> 00:48:43,790 Daddy has a catheter in, and it leaked. 852 00:48:43,833 --> 00:48:45,226 Mom's coming. 853 00:48:45,270 --> 00:48:47,663 She's walking Dad's morning caregiver out. 854 00:48:47,707 --> 00:48:49,665 - They bought us a double plot, 855 00:48:49,709 --> 00:48:51,711 where one of us is on the bottom, 856 00:48:51,754 --> 00:48:53,234 and the other one's on the top. 857 00:48:53,278 --> 00:48:56,542 Eli, when he heard that he'd be waiting for me, 858 00:48:56,585 --> 00:48:58,979 and he'd be on the bottom, he said, "That's heaven! 859 00:48:59,023 --> 00:49:01,199 I love Lisa on top. 860 00:49:01,242 --> 00:49:02,417 [laughter] 861 00:49:05,464 --> 00:49:07,901 - That looks like a former tennis player 862 00:49:07,945 --> 00:49:09,598 I used to play tennis with. 863 00:49:09,642 --> 00:49:10,948 - Yeah, Eli, I remember 864 00:49:10,991 --> 00:49:13,037 when you had the biggest serve in tennis. 865 00:49:13,080 --> 00:49:14,952 I don't know if you knew that, Ondi. 866 00:49:17,041 --> 00:49:18,390 - Okay. 867 00:49:23,830 --> 00:49:25,179 - That's right. 868 00:49:25,223 --> 00:49:27,181 Donny Lefton came on his motorcycle. 869 00:49:27,225 --> 00:49:29,053 And he's still riding his motorcycle around. 870 00:49:29,096 --> 00:49:31,533 - I love you, Eli. 871 00:49:31,577 --> 00:49:34,493 - Yeah, Lisa, give him a big kiss for us now 872 00:49:34,536 --> 00:49:36,495 from the three of us. 873 00:49:36,538 --> 00:49:38,714 - Good? - Nice. 874 00:49:38,758 --> 00:49:40,281 - Mwah. 875 00:49:40,325 --> 00:49:43,589 - It's been good being a co-grandfather with you. 876 00:49:43,632 --> 00:49:45,156 Happy trails, sir. 877 00:49:46,809 --> 00:49:48,550 - He's gonna say goodbye again. 878 00:49:50,770 --> 00:49:53,077 - Goodbye, Eli. We love you. 879 00:50:03,087 --> 00:50:05,219 - That's a great question. 880 00:50:06,829 --> 00:50:09,006 I don't know the answer. 881 00:50:09,049 --> 00:50:10,920 What would you like to have happen? 882 00:50:20,452 --> 00:50:22,323 - They will make sure of that, 883 00:50:22,367 --> 00:50:24,151 that you will no longer be alive 884 00:50:24,195 --> 00:50:25,457 when they close up the box. 885 00:50:25,500 --> 00:50:28,155 - You want to blow her a kiss, Daddy? 886 00:50:28,199 --> 00:50:30,244 - Oh, yes! 887 00:50:30,288 --> 00:50:32,942 [birds chirping] 888 00:50:32,986 --> 00:50:35,336 - It just means so much to us that you've been through this 889 00:50:35,380 --> 00:50:36,424 with your own father. 890 00:50:36,468 --> 00:50:37,947 Even though it was Vermont, 891 00:50:37,991 --> 00:50:39,862 I'm sure there's some insights you can share 892 00:50:39,906 --> 00:50:42,343 on what we can expect on March 3rd. 893 00:50:42,387 --> 00:50:44,563 - If you have the instructions, I can look at them 894 00:50:44,606 --> 00:50:46,608 and let you know anything that I-- 895 00:50:46,652 --> 00:50:48,132 - They gave me a couple pieces of paper. 896 00:50:48,175 --> 00:50:49,524 Why don't we take a look and then, 897 00:50:49,568 --> 00:50:51,787 yeah, I was gonna practice dad drinking 898 00:50:51,831 --> 00:50:53,137 'cause he needs to be able to do it himself, 899 00:50:53,180 --> 00:50:54,225 if you want to help out. 900 00:50:54,268 --> 00:50:55,443 - That's a really important piece. 901 00:50:55,487 --> 00:50:57,445 - Okay, thanks, cuz. 902 00:50:57,489 --> 00:51:00,318 Love you. - I love you too. 903 00:51:00,361 --> 00:51:02,146 - Hey, Daddy, Dana's here. 904 00:51:02,189 --> 00:51:03,495 - Hi. 905 00:51:03,538 --> 00:51:06,280 So what I would say that seems similar 906 00:51:06,324 --> 00:51:08,456 is that the anti-nausea medication 907 00:51:08,500 --> 00:51:11,720 that came before made him really sleepy. 908 00:51:11,764 --> 00:51:13,157 My dad. 909 00:51:13,200 --> 00:51:17,117 So I would just say that any conversations 910 00:51:17,161 --> 00:51:19,511 you want to have, just make sure to have those 911 00:51:19,554 --> 00:51:21,948 before he takes the anti-nausea medication. 912 00:51:21,991 --> 00:51:25,038 - He has to hold the cup in his hand and-- 913 00:51:28,650 --> 00:51:30,870 - I think we should just use one of his big straws, 914 00:51:30,913 --> 00:51:32,698 the straws that he's using with his Ensure. 915 00:51:34,830 --> 00:51:36,789 - Not allowed. 916 00:51:36,832 --> 00:51:38,138 - We had to break up 100 pills. 917 00:51:38,182 --> 00:51:39,661 - Wow. 918 00:51:39,705 --> 00:51:42,142 - It was not an elegant solution. 919 00:51:42,186 --> 00:51:43,839 - And he had to hold it, right? 920 00:51:43,883 --> 00:51:45,406 - He had to hold it. 921 00:51:45,450 --> 00:51:48,757 - Daddy, try to hold that in your hand, yourself. 922 00:51:48,801 --> 00:51:51,369 Can you? 923 00:51:51,412 --> 00:51:52,848 Okay. 924 00:51:55,677 --> 00:51:57,897 - Hmm, maybe a lighter cup. - He's gonna have to. 925 00:51:57,940 --> 00:51:59,290 - A lighter weight. 926 00:51:59,333 --> 00:52:01,161 - Even if you have a plastic cup, I wonder. 927 00:52:01,205 --> 00:52:03,032 - Hold that, Daddy. 928 00:52:03,076 --> 00:52:05,122 I just want to see if the width of the cup is good. 929 00:52:07,341 --> 00:52:09,126 - Okay. 930 00:52:09,169 --> 00:52:11,345 Think something more narrow, Daddy? 931 00:52:14,261 --> 00:52:16,089 - Hello, Daddy. 932 00:52:16,133 --> 00:52:17,960 - Here, try this one. 933 00:52:25,620 --> 00:52:27,361 - Sit you up. 934 00:52:31,322 --> 00:52:32,975 - The straw-- 935 00:52:33,019 --> 00:52:34,368 - Okay, so a shorter straw. 936 00:52:34,412 --> 00:52:35,674 - A shorter straw. 937 00:52:35,717 --> 00:52:37,241 - All right, let me try again, Daddy. 938 00:52:37,284 --> 00:52:39,199 And let's try it with some clear liquid. 939 00:52:39,243 --> 00:52:41,462 - That's probably a good idea. 940 00:52:41,506 --> 00:52:43,377 - All right. Here we go, Daddy. 941 00:52:43,421 --> 00:52:46,859 ♪ 942 00:52:46,902 --> 00:52:49,253 - There you go. 943 00:52:49,296 --> 00:52:52,560 ♪ 944 00:52:52,604 --> 00:52:54,649 - That's great. All right. 945 00:52:54,693 --> 00:52:56,216 Okay. 946 00:52:56,260 --> 00:52:58,871 - Should we do the meeting about finances stuff? 947 00:52:58,914 --> 00:53:00,046 - Let's do it. - Oh, man. 948 00:53:00,089 --> 00:53:01,003 - Mom, it's gonna be so easy. 949 00:53:01,047 --> 00:53:02,266 You've got, like... 950 00:53:02,309 --> 00:53:03,571 - We're just gonna talk-- - A few bills. 951 00:53:03,615 --> 00:53:05,312 - Now, why am I gonna be doing this? 952 00:53:05,356 --> 00:53:06,705 - If you ever want to know how much money 953 00:53:06,748 --> 00:53:07,793 you have in the bank. 954 00:53:07,836 --> 00:53:09,229 - You might want to check that, 955 00:53:09,273 --> 00:53:11,013 or are you just gonna call David to find out? 956 00:53:11,057 --> 00:53:12,493 - I mean, why do you want-- - Or you could-- 957 00:53:12,537 --> 00:53:14,016 - I like option two. - Hear that? 958 00:53:14,060 --> 00:53:15,235 - What? - She's gonna call you. 959 00:53:15,279 --> 00:53:18,020 - [laughs] - Oh, my God. 960 00:53:18,064 --> 00:53:19,935 - All right, do you want to tell us what you're doing 961 00:53:19,979 --> 00:53:22,677 so that Mom knows how to do it? 962 00:53:22,721 --> 00:53:24,723 - Yeah, write down the numbers. 963 00:53:29,162 --> 00:53:30,294 - Where are the bills that we have? 964 00:53:30,337 --> 00:53:32,600 - So we have-- Daddy, we have Spectrum. 965 00:53:34,385 --> 00:53:36,604 - Was there anything that you can remember that was, 966 00:53:36,648 --> 00:53:37,779 like, a unique charge? 967 00:53:40,391 --> 00:53:41,914 - 65 a month. 968 00:53:42,697 --> 00:53:43,698 - Yeah? 969 00:53:49,748 --> 00:53:51,140 - Yeah. 970 00:53:51,184 --> 00:53:52,707 Anything else you want us to know? 971 00:53:57,799 --> 00:53:59,148 - 85 a month. 972 00:54:00,889 --> 00:54:02,804 - 21st Century. 973 00:54:04,589 --> 00:54:07,244 Have you had a chance to have loving times with mom, 974 00:54:07,287 --> 00:54:10,159 just you and her, these last couple days? 975 00:54:11,596 --> 00:54:13,598 - No? Not yet? 976 00:54:15,295 --> 00:54:17,689 - I know you do. 977 00:54:17,732 --> 00:54:19,517 She loves you too. 978 00:54:37,143 --> 00:54:38,579 - To Mom. - To Mom. 979 00:54:38,623 --> 00:54:40,102 - She's the rock. - To Mom and Pop Pop. 980 00:54:40,146 --> 00:54:41,539 - Mm-hmm. - And to Pop Pop. 981 00:54:41,582 --> 00:54:43,105 - Yeah. 982 00:54:43,149 --> 00:54:46,283 - For his generous, and loving, and humorous self. 983 00:54:49,634 --> 00:54:52,593 [laughter] 984 00:54:52,637 --> 00:54:59,861 ♪ 985 00:55:00,514 --> 00:55:02,603 - He's like this great tree I've been able 986 00:55:02,647 --> 00:55:05,040 to take shade under, which I won't be able 987 00:55:05,084 --> 00:55:07,347 to take shade under anymore. 988 00:55:07,391 --> 00:55:09,958 Oh, you see the tree over him? - Yeah, yeah. 989 00:55:10,002 --> 00:55:12,265 There's a story in the Talmud about a person 990 00:55:12,309 --> 00:55:14,528 who's on a journey, and they're thirsty, 991 00:55:14,572 --> 00:55:15,877 and they're hungry, 992 00:55:15,921 --> 00:55:18,184 and they come to a beautiful tree. 993 00:55:18,227 --> 00:55:20,621 And the tree has deep roots, and it's tall, 994 00:55:20,665 --> 00:55:21,927 and it's got wide branches, 995 00:55:21,970 --> 00:55:24,146 and beautiful foliage, and fruit. 996 00:55:24,190 --> 00:55:26,323 And the person spends some time there in the shade, 997 00:55:26,366 --> 00:55:28,368 cools down and rests, 998 00:55:28,412 --> 00:55:30,109 leaning against the trunk of the tree, 999 00:55:30,152 --> 00:55:32,894 and eats the fruit of the tree and rests there. 1000 00:55:32,938 --> 00:55:34,896 And when the person's totally replenished, 1001 00:55:34,940 --> 00:55:36,376 they say to the tree, 1002 00:55:36,420 --> 00:55:38,378 "You have blessed me with so much. 1003 00:55:38,422 --> 00:55:40,641 "With what can I offer you my thanks? 1004 00:55:40,685 --> 00:55:41,990 "There's nothing I can offer you 1005 00:55:42,034 --> 00:55:43,340 "because you already have a tall trunk, 1006 00:55:43,383 --> 00:55:45,429 and you already are so sturdy." 1007 00:55:45,472 --> 00:55:47,256 Here is my blessing to you. 1008 00:55:47,300 --> 00:55:50,390 May your saplings be just like you. 1009 00:55:50,434 --> 00:55:52,131 - Hear that, Daddy? 1010 00:55:52,653 --> 00:55:55,003 - Each one of us carries so much of you. 1011 00:55:55,047 --> 00:55:56,831 You did pretty well with the saplings, 1012 00:55:56,875 --> 00:55:58,224 don't you think? 1013 00:56:00,487 --> 00:56:03,403 [laughter] 1014 00:56:05,405 --> 00:56:07,364 - Do you think that you have a soul? 1015 00:56:10,671 --> 00:56:12,107 - You haven't given thought to that? 1016 00:56:22,466 --> 00:56:26,034 - One thing he's been clear about since I was ordained 1017 00:56:26,078 --> 00:56:28,472 was that he wanted me to do his funeral. 1018 00:56:28,515 --> 00:56:30,430 He didn't want any other rabbi to do his funeral. 1019 00:56:30,474 --> 00:56:32,084 I knew from the first time he asked me 1020 00:56:32,127 --> 00:56:33,477 that it wasn't what I wanted. 1021 00:56:33,520 --> 00:56:35,870 As he's getting closer to death, 1022 00:56:35,914 --> 00:56:38,786 he is more and more often calling me his rabbi, 1023 00:56:38,830 --> 00:56:42,007 which is surprising to me because as he's getting closer 1024 00:56:42,050 --> 00:56:43,704 and closer to death, I am more and more clear 1025 00:56:43,748 --> 00:56:45,271 that I'm his daughter. 1026 00:56:45,314 --> 00:56:48,579 So I'm gonna go there and be his daughter, 1027 00:56:48,622 --> 00:56:49,928 but when he needs me to be his rabbi, 1028 00:56:49,971 --> 00:56:51,712 I'll be his rabbi. 1029 00:56:51,756 --> 00:56:58,850 ♪ 1030 00:56:58,893 --> 00:57:00,504 When I first told him I wanted to be a rabbi, 1031 00:57:00,547 --> 00:57:02,288 he didn't support it. 1032 00:57:02,331 --> 00:57:03,985 I think that now, as he's nearing the end of his life, 1033 00:57:04,029 --> 00:57:05,596 it's becoming really meaningful to him 1034 00:57:05,639 --> 00:57:09,077 that I've put a lot of my time into this kind of moment 1035 00:57:09,121 --> 00:57:12,211 and the deepest questions about life and death. 1036 00:57:12,254 --> 00:57:19,392 ♪ 1037 00:57:20,219 --> 00:57:21,525 - Can you take one that big again, 1038 00:57:21,568 --> 00:57:23,744 or should I make it smaller? 1039 00:57:23,788 --> 00:57:25,790 Look who's here. 1040 00:57:26,965 --> 00:57:30,229 - Hi, hi. 1041 00:57:33,058 --> 00:57:34,363 - Hi, Dad. 1042 00:57:34,407 --> 00:57:36,235 So nice to be with you now. 1043 00:57:37,366 --> 00:57:38,759 - At long last. 1044 00:57:38,803 --> 00:57:40,065 So, Dad, I heard that you wanted me 1045 00:57:40,108 --> 00:57:42,676 to give a full eulogy at the funeral here. 1046 00:57:42,720 --> 00:57:44,504 And I wrote it on the airplane. 1047 00:57:46,288 --> 00:57:48,029 - Is it truthful? 1048 00:57:49,030 --> 00:57:52,556 - I aimed to be very, very precisely truthful. 1049 00:57:52,599 --> 00:57:53,905 Yes. 1050 00:57:56,211 --> 00:57:58,039 - You're crying inside? 1051 00:57:58,083 --> 00:57:59,388 Why are you crying? 1052 00:58:07,266 --> 00:58:08,354 - After the stroke? 1053 00:58:10,008 --> 00:58:11,618 - And feeling like a failure. 1054 00:58:12,576 --> 00:58:14,360 - I understand that. 1055 00:58:14,403 --> 00:58:19,583 ♪ 1056 00:58:19,626 --> 00:58:22,368 - The T Team has reassembled to help Daddy 1057 00:58:22,411 --> 00:58:24,413 on to his next adventure. 1058 00:58:28,983 --> 00:58:35,903 ♪ 1059 00:59:06,194 --> 00:59:08,283 - Hi. 1060 00:59:08,327 --> 00:59:11,983 - Ondi is just so worried 1061 00:59:12,026 --> 00:59:15,595 that I don't spend enough time squeezing your hand. 1062 00:59:15,639 --> 00:59:17,597 That bothers her. 1063 00:59:23,385 --> 00:59:25,474 I'm here. 1064 00:59:30,741 --> 00:59:33,265 - Pretty tall. - Yeah, she's tall. 1065 00:59:33,308 --> 00:59:36,398 Adores her brother. - Okay. 1066 00:59:36,442 --> 00:59:38,009 - And you can see her brother is the sweetest kid 1067 00:59:38,052 --> 00:59:39,445 in the whole world. 1068 00:59:39,488 --> 00:59:41,665 - Peaceful. - Hi. 1069 00:59:45,146 --> 00:59:47,540 - [laughs] I don't mind. 1070 00:59:47,584 --> 00:59:49,716 I love him. He knows I love him. 1071 00:59:49,760 --> 00:59:50,978 She's the director. 1072 00:59:52,153 --> 00:59:53,851 - What is it about? 1073 00:59:56,375 --> 00:59:57,724 - I'm spending time-- 1074 01:00:02,860 --> 01:00:05,166 - You want to say something to me? 1075 01:00:05,210 --> 01:00:07,168 I'm an old shoe, don't you understand? 1076 01:00:11,042 --> 01:00:13,261 - You want to say something to me, baby? 1077 01:00:15,176 --> 01:00:17,265 - I'm his slipper. 1078 01:00:20,486 --> 01:00:21,661 - Comfy. 1079 01:01:17,717 --> 01:01:19,284 - I think she doesn't know what-- 1080 01:01:19,327 --> 01:01:21,634 I think she needs to really allow herself 1081 01:01:21,678 --> 01:01:22,983 to feel what's happening. 1082 01:01:23,027 --> 01:01:24,158 - Uh-huh. 1083 01:01:24,202 --> 01:01:27,074 - I think she's really scared of it. 1084 01:01:27,118 --> 01:01:29,816 I don't know, probably fear. I don't know. 1085 01:01:29,860 --> 01:01:31,949 But she's just wrapping everything in a story. 1086 01:01:31,992 --> 01:01:33,864 You know, she's--story, story. 1087 01:01:33,907 --> 01:01:35,430 - And chatting. 1088 01:01:47,921 --> 01:01:49,357 - Right. 1089 01:02:06,940 --> 01:02:08,463 And he said, "No, I haven't." 1090 01:02:09,682 --> 01:02:11,336 And, so I thought-- 1091 01:02:18,212 --> 01:02:19,648 - All right, I love you. I'll see you soon. 1092 01:02:20,606 --> 01:02:22,303 - Okay, bye. 1093 01:02:25,393 --> 01:02:29,484 ♪ 1094 01:02:30,747 --> 01:02:32,487 - There he is. 1095 01:02:33,880 --> 01:02:35,229 - Hi. 1096 01:02:36,927 --> 01:02:38,755 - I'm good. Just doing some work. 1097 01:02:38,798 --> 01:02:39,886 I saw you getting some ice cream. 1098 01:02:39,930 --> 01:02:40,800 That looked good. 1099 01:02:44,282 --> 01:02:46,545 - Sounds like a pretty nice life right there. 1100 01:02:46,588 --> 01:02:48,373 - Ready for some more? 1101 01:02:48,416 --> 01:02:49,417 Yes, you are. 1102 01:02:49,461 --> 01:02:50,767 - There's more. 1103 01:02:50,810 --> 01:02:53,595 - Another dish. 1104 01:02:53,639 --> 01:02:56,555 - I mean, why not, really? 1105 01:02:56,598 --> 01:02:58,513 - You want to get to talking? - Sure. 1106 01:02:58,557 --> 01:03:00,080 - So, Dave-- 1107 01:03:00,124 --> 01:03:01,560 - Dad, we're gonna have a little conversation 1108 01:03:01,603 --> 01:03:03,692 about how we're gonna remember you... 1109 01:03:03,736 --> 01:03:05,825 - Yes. - After you die. 1110 01:03:05,869 --> 01:03:11,222 So let's imagine that the funeral is on Thursday. 1111 01:03:11,265 --> 01:03:14,747 The thought that we are having is that we would be-- 1112 01:03:14,791 --> 01:03:16,662 just us, right? 1113 01:03:16,705 --> 01:03:18,620 It's not on Zoom. 1114 01:03:18,664 --> 01:03:21,014 It's not, like, broadcast to the public, right? 1115 01:03:21,058 --> 01:03:22,711 - Right. - Right. 1116 01:03:22,755 --> 01:03:26,324 - And the basics of what you do at a graveside funeral 1117 01:03:26,367 --> 01:03:30,023 in Judaism, you start out with some Psalms. 1118 01:03:30,067 --> 01:03:32,286 You have some time for remembrances. 1119 01:03:32,330 --> 01:03:34,593 You have the prayer Kel Maleh Rachamim, 1120 01:03:34,636 --> 01:03:37,726 which is asking God to take our loved one 1121 01:03:37,770 --> 01:03:41,643 and to take Dad under God's wings and hold him forever. 1122 01:03:41,687 --> 01:03:45,604 And then you have the physical burial. 1123 01:03:45,647 --> 01:03:48,520 And then you say Kaddish. 1124 01:03:48,563 --> 01:03:51,784 It is traditional to participate in the burial. 1125 01:03:51,828 --> 01:03:54,743 You actually place the earth into the grave. 1126 01:03:54,787 --> 01:03:57,790 And the more you do, the better. 1127 01:03:57,834 --> 01:03:59,487 So we could be there for a while, 1128 01:03:59,531 --> 01:04:01,620 if we wanted to, just continuing to do that. 1129 01:04:01,663 --> 01:04:04,841 It's kind of like tucking Dad in. 1130 01:04:04,884 --> 01:04:06,799 ♪ 1131 01:04:58,720 --> 01:05:05,640 ♪ 1132 01:05:24,877 --> 01:05:27,314 - If you were up above the clouds, 1133 01:05:27,358 --> 01:05:29,969 and I hope you end up there, 1134 01:05:30,013 --> 01:05:33,930 that would be a beautiful place to be every day. 1135 01:05:37,063 --> 01:05:39,152 - I think the world looks so peaceful 1136 01:05:39,196 --> 01:05:40,980 from above, from a plane. 1137 01:05:41,024 --> 01:05:43,417 You've been grounded for so long. 1138 01:05:43,461 --> 01:05:45,811 But you know what, you're not even gonna need a plane. 1139 01:05:47,117 --> 01:05:48,814 - You're gonna be able to fly. 1140 01:05:50,859 --> 01:05:53,079 - Like a "boid." 1141 01:05:53,123 --> 01:05:54,385 ♪ 1142 01:05:57,040 --> 01:05:58,911 - See if that's easier. 1143 01:07:29,697 --> 01:07:36,617 ♪ 1144 01:07:43,537 --> 01:07:45,844 - Okay, Daddy, I'm gonna write your name. 1145 01:07:45,887 --> 01:07:50,153 "I, Eli Timoner, am an adult of sound mind 1146 01:07:50,196 --> 01:07:52,503 and a resident of the State of California." 1147 01:07:52,546 --> 01:07:54,157 - I put the time down as noon. - Yeah. 1148 01:07:54,200 --> 01:07:56,333 - It has to be 48 hours? 1149 01:07:56,376 --> 01:07:57,943 - Don't time it. Don't time it. 1150 01:07:57,986 --> 01:07:59,597 - Right. - What is the law? 1151 01:07:59,640 --> 01:08:01,164 Why-- - It has to be 48 hours? 1152 01:08:01,207 --> 01:08:03,296 I don't know. - 48 hours. 1153 01:08:03,340 --> 01:08:06,169 - Yes, so she--if he wants to do it at 10:30, 1154 01:08:06,212 --> 01:08:09,041 12:00 noon is two hours. 1155 01:08:09,085 --> 01:08:10,782 - So the date today is March 1st. 1156 01:08:10,825 --> 01:08:12,914 - Yes, all day. 1157 01:08:12,958 --> 01:08:15,134 ♪ 1158 01:08:15,178 --> 01:08:17,397 Already. - I can't believe it. 1159 01:08:17,441 --> 01:08:20,139 It's just so surreal. 1160 01:08:20,183 --> 01:08:22,707 I cannot stop crying today. 1161 01:08:22,750 --> 01:08:25,927 ♪ 1162 01:08:25,971 --> 01:08:28,191 All right, Daddy. 1163 01:08:28,234 --> 01:08:31,063 Let's get this horseshit over with, again. 1164 01:08:31,107 --> 01:08:33,370 All right. 1165 01:08:33,413 --> 01:08:35,720 Top, you gotta initial right there. 1166 01:08:35,763 --> 01:08:37,591 Right here. 1167 01:08:37,635 --> 01:08:39,071 Up. Up, up, up, up. 1168 01:08:39,115 --> 01:08:40,725 Okay. 1169 01:08:40,768 --> 01:08:43,206 See where you're going? Right here. 1170 01:08:43,249 --> 01:08:44,859 Nice one, Daddy. 1171 01:08:44,903 --> 01:08:46,644 Very nice. 1172 01:08:46,687 --> 01:08:49,908 ♪ 1173 01:08:56,697 --> 01:08:58,177 - Love you so much. 1174 01:08:58,221 --> 01:09:01,180 And I'm scared to lose you, 1175 01:09:01,224 --> 01:09:03,226 but I know you're gonna be here still. 1176 01:09:07,273 --> 01:09:09,319 - I know. 1177 01:09:09,362 --> 01:09:11,451 I know, Daddy. 1178 01:09:11,495 --> 01:09:14,628 I'm so happy for you to have a new adventure. 1179 01:09:14,672 --> 01:09:17,065 You loved running around, and playing, and everything, 1180 01:09:17,109 --> 01:09:18,197 and you get to do that again. 1181 01:09:21,157 --> 01:09:23,159 - Oh, good. 1182 01:09:23,202 --> 01:09:25,117 Oh, good. 1183 01:09:25,161 --> 01:09:27,815 [phone rings] Candice, you gotta go. 1184 01:09:27,859 --> 01:09:34,779 ♪ 1185 01:09:45,093 --> 01:09:46,965 - All mic'd up. 1186 01:09:47,008 --> 01:09:49,837 How does it feel to be mic'd up all the time? 1187 01:09:49,881 --> 01:09:51,622 Cameras trained on you. 1188 01:09:51,665 --> 01:09:53,406 - You don't like it? 1189 01:10:01,327 --> 01:10:04,939 - Well, if you don't like it, you could yank them off. 1190 01:10:09,335 --> 01:10:10,728 - Cross the director? 1191 01:10:10,771 --> 01:10:12,251 Hey, you're the star of the show. 1192 01:10:15,211 --> 01:10:17,213 - No, he doesn't want to cross you. 1193 01:10:21,782 --> 01:10:23,741 - He likes it better that it's on. 1194 01:10:23,784 --> 01:10:26,091 - Okay, until tomorrow. 1195 01:10:34,317 --> 01:10:35,927 - I love you. 1196 01:10:37,711 --> 01:10:39,539 - You always made the best out of it, Dad. 1197 01:10:39,583 --> 01:10:42,499 You gave me the best life ever. 1198 01:10:42,542 --> 01:10:45,980 I want you to feel no regrets, okay? 1199 01:10:51,029 --> 01:10:53,684 - You want to work with Rachel and do the viddui now? 1200 01:10:53,727 --> 01:10:55,860 Think you have the energy for it? 1201 01:10:58,384 --> 01:11:01,257 - When you die on Wednesday... 1202 01:11:01,866 --> 01:11:06,044 - You're going into another realm. 1203 01:11:06,087 --> 01:11:07,741 Yeah? 1204 01:11:09,090 --> 01:11:10,962 - And when you go into that other realm, 1205 01:11:11,005 --> 01:11:15,575 we want you to be as free and as light as you can be. 1206 01:11:15,619 --> 01:11:19,057 And so this is a chance for you 1207 01:11:19,100 --> 01:11:23,409 to talk about anything 1208 01:11:23,453 --> 01:11:25,759 that still might weigh you down. 1209 01:11:25,803 --> 01:11:27,718 And then you can be forgiven. 1210 01:11:27,761 --> 01:11:30,286 And then you can forgive yourself. 1211 01:11:30,329 --> 01:11:33,376 And then, when you die, you're not carrying any 1212 01:11:33,419 --> 01:11:34,942 of that anymore. 1213 01:11:58,749 --> 01:12:00,316 - Mm. 1214 01:12:02,361 --> 01:12:05,277 That's exactly what we're here to talk about right now. 1215 01:12:05,321 --> 01:12:07,845 You still are carrying shame from that. 1216 01:12:48,146 --> 01:12:50,104 - Those are some big mistakes. 1217 01:13:21,005 --> 01:13:22,659 - Mm. 1218 01:13:22,702 --> 01:13:26,010 Oh, Dad, that sounds so painful. 1219 01:13:27,751 --> 01:13:29,970 Sounds like you felt so much shame. 1220 01:13:31,929 --> 01:13:33,974 - Yeah. 1221 01:13:34,018 --> 01:13:36,847 I'm so sorry. That sounds so hard. 1222 01:13:41,373 --> 01:13:43,070 - You're really angry at yourself, 1223 01:13:43,114 --> 01:13:44,855 and you're really angry upset that you feel like 1224 01:13:44,898 --> 01:13:47,510 you did something stupid. 1225 01:13:51,644 --> 01:13:54,430 - Then, you recovered, Daddy, and went to Air Florida. 1226 01:14:05,136 --> 01:14:06,224 - All right. - Okay. 1227 01:14:06,267 --> 01:14:10,576 [speaking Hebrew] 1228 01:14:10,620 --> 01:14:14,275 And God said, "I have forgiven as you have spoken." 1229 01:14:21,587 --> 01:14:25,678 Now it is to you to forgive yourself, 1230 01:14:25,722 --> 01:14:29,377 and leave it all behind. 1231 01:14:29,421 --> 01:14:32,076 You were not perfect in this life. 1232 01:14:32,119 --> 01:14:34,339 But you were good. 1233 01:14:36,602 --> 01:14:39,300 You can leave all that behind now, okay? 1234 01:14:39,344 --> 01:14:41,302 Can you do that? 1235 01:14:41,346 --> 01:14:43,174 Can you put it down? 1236 01:14:45,132 --> 01:14:46,960 - Good. 1237 01:14:59,799 --> 01:15:01,584 - Here you are. - She brought the wrong-- 1238 01:15:01,627 --> 01:15:03,629 - Sign here for me. Sign here for me. 1239 01:15:03,673 --> 01:15:05,588 - Sure. 1240 01:15:10,157 --> 01:15:11,855 - Thank you. 1241 01:15:13,334 --> 01:15:14,597 - Oh. - Yeah. 1242 01:15:14,640 --> 01:15:17,164 I just felt it all just sort of fall away right there. 1243 01:15:17,208 --> 01:15:19,297 I've been having that feeling of, like, vertigo, 1244 01:15:19,340 --> 01:15:21,125 like, my stomach falls like I'm on a roller coaster, 1245 01:15:21,168 --> 01:15:22,605 and I just had that right there. 1246 01:15:22,648 --> 01:15:24,563 - Oh! - You know? 1247 01:15:24,607 --> 01:15:26,913 Diazepam. Morphine. 1248 01:15:26,957 --> 01:15:29,263 - Hazardous drug. - Wow. 1249 01:15:29,307 --> 01:15:33,311 Diazepam, morphine, amitriptyline, 1250 01:15:33,354 --> 01:15:37,358 SyrSpend, Stevia. 1251 01:15:37,402 --> 01:15:40,100 - We need to put it somewhere safe and out of the way. 1252 01:15:40,144 --> 01:15:42,538 And they said it's not to be refrigerated. 1253 01:15:42,581 --> 01:15:44,235 Got it. 1254 01:15:44,278 --> 01:15:46,629 - When the pharmacy was saying that we had 1255 01:15:46,672 --> 01:15:50,415 to pay for the medicine, I put it on my credit card, 1256 01:15:50,458 --> 01:15:52,591 and then I felt really, really bad that I was paying 1257 01:15:52,635 --> 01:15:54,811 for poison for you. 1258 01:15:54,854 --> 01:15:57,640 Are you definitely, definitely sure 1259 01:15:57,683 --> 01:15:59,076 that you want to take this medicine? 1260 01:16:03,080 --> 01:16:04,777 - You're ready to go? 1261 01:16:12,132 --> 01:16:13,960 - To the next adventure. 1262 01:16:20,837 --> 01:16:24,014 - David has confided in me that Gigi doesn't want to come, 1263 01:16:24,057 --> 01:16:26,625 doesn't want to come, doesn't want to come. 1264 01:16:26,669 --> 01:16:30,281 And of course, we all sensed it's because Pop Pop's dying. 1265 01:16:30,324 --> 01:16:34,459 So after they all left, Eli said, "I miss Gigi." 1266 01:16:39,725 --> 01:16:42,075 - I love standing. - She likes to stand. 1267 01:16:42,119 --> 01:16:44,687 - Oh it's right by this-- - Oh, Gigi! 1268 01:16:44,730 --> 01:16:46,819 - She's gonna play some Rachmaninoff for you. 1269 01:16:46,863 --> 01:16:48,429 - Are you gonna sing too? 1270 01:16:48,473 --> 01:16:50,431 Wow. 1271 01:16:51,302 --> 01:16:53,217 - Okay. 1272 01:16:53,260 --> 01:16:55,959 This is "Vocalise" by Rachmaninoff. 1273 01:16:57,830 --> 01:17:00,485 I hope you like it. It's really pretty. 1274 01:17:00,528 --> 01:17:07,448 ♪ 1275 01:17:39,393 --> 01:17:41,352 [applause] 1276 01:17:43,963 --> 01:17:45,661 - Lovely. 1277 01:17:46,879 --> 01:17:47,706 - Yeah. 1278 01:17:47,750 --> 01:17:49,577 - Okay, Pop Pop, you're on. 1279 01:17:49,621 --> 01:17:50,840 - I'm ready. 1280 01:18:27,267 --> 01:18:28,791 [laughter] 1281 01:18:28,834 --> 01:18:31,315 - This guy, a vending machine. 1282 01:18:31,358 --> 01:18:34,144 - What was he thinking? What was he thinking? 1283 01:18:34,187 --> 01:18:37,147 - Don't put your penis in the machine. 1284 01:18:39,627 --> 01:18:40,716 - Yeah. - Okay. 1285 01:18:49,420 --> 01:18:51,248 ♪ 1286 01:18:59,082 --> 01:19:00,605 Everybody's with you. 1287 01:19:00,648 --> 01:19:04,304 ♪ 1288 01:19:04,348 --> 01:19:07,568 - I told Owen, and I told Gigi and the other grandkids, 1289 01:19:07,612 --> 01:19:09,396 Benji, and Eitan, and Juki, like, this is it. 1290 01:19:09,440 --> 01:19:10,789 You got anything you want to find out 1291 01:19:10,833 --> 01:19:12,443 from your grandfather, talk to him. 1292 01:19:12,486 --> 01:19:13,836 'Cause that's the amazing thing about him 1293 01:19:13,879 --> 01:19:15,446 is he's so lucid right now. 1294 01:19:15,489 --> 01:19:16,795 He's always been lucid. 1295 01:19:16,839 --> 01:19:19,102 He's always been super sharp. 1296 01:19:20,538 --> 01:19:23,062 - The main thing I wanted to talk about 1297 01:19:23,106 --> 01:19:26,457 is I wanted to ask for advice on, like, 1298 01:19:26,500 --> 01:19:29,329 just how to live your life. 1299 01:19:32,463 --> 01:19:34,247 - Advice. Just life advice. 1300 01:19:34,291 --> 01:19:37,816 Just how to live in life. 1301 01:19:41,385 --> 01:19:42,865 - Mm-hmm. 1302 01:19:58,358 --> 01:20:01,971 ♪ 1303 01:20:04,625 --> 01:20:06,845 - No, you didn't disappoint me. 1304 01:20:06,889 --> 01:20:08,760 Thank you so much, Pop Pop. 1305 01:20:12,677 --> 01:20:19,597 ♪ 1306 01:20:22,034 --> 01:20:24,341 - That is very cool. - What'd you get? 1307 01:20:24,384 --> 01:20:25,777 - That one's really cool too. 1308 01:20:25,821 --> 01:20:28,649 - Some Italian--Isaac Zelcer. 1309 01:20:33,654 --> 01:20:35,961 - See the tie? - See the butterfly tie? 1310 01:20:36,005 --> 01:20:37,441 It's very, very nice. 1311 01:20:37,484 --> 01:20:40,009 It's, like, silk. You want to feel it? 1312 01:20:40,052 --> 01:20:41,706 Feel how soft it is? 1313 01:20:42,663 --> 01:20:43,882 - I'll be wearing it on Thursday. 1314 01:20:44,927 --> 01:20:46,885 - Yeah, absolutely. 1315 01:20:46,929 --> 01:20:49,888 - Yeah, see you flying off. 1316 01:20:49,932 --> 01:20:51,672 Just like the butterflies. 1317 01:20:51,716 --> 01:20:53,239 - Yeah. 1318 01:20:54,893 --> 01:20:56,939 - Exactly, exactly. 1319 01:20:58,984 --> 01:21:00,638 [laughter] 1320 01:21:00,681 --> 01:21:07,558 ♪ 1321 01:21:13,738 --> 01:21:16,132 - Hi, Pop Pop. 1322 01:21:16,175 --> 01:21:19,091 - How you doing? 1323 01:21:19,135 --> 01:21:21,920 - How's today been for you? 1324 01:21:22,878 --> 01:21:24,705 - Good. 1325 01:21:27,621 --> 01:21:29,841 - I'll be saying-- if only there was 1326 01:21:29,885 --> 01:21:32,931 a dime for every time I'd ask, "What would Pop Pop do?" 1327 01:21:32,975 --> 01:21:34,759 you know? 1328 01:21:34,802 --> 01:21:37,893 - Can you tell Owen again your advice about love? 1329 01:22:04,615 --> 01:22:06,660 - What do you mean by the perfect circle? 1330 01:22:11,143 --> 01:22:12,971 - Yep. 1331 01:22:21,806 --> 01:22:28,726 ♪ 1332 01:23:06,546 --> 01:23:08,940 - That's really good to hear. 1333 01:23:12,117 --> 01:23:14,511 - Okay, I'll try. That's a tall order. 1334 01:23:17,818 --> 01:23:20,734 - I want you to know that I'm not 1335 01:23:20,778 --> 01:23:24,912 very good at expressing myself and being vulnerable, 1336 01:23:24,956 --> 01:23:28,046 but I love you so much. 1337 01:23:28,090 --> 01:23:34,139 And I just--I feel bad 1338 01:23:34,183 --> 01:23:37,621 because I'm, like, not very good 1339 01:23:37,664 --> 01:23:40,189 at expressing myself and stuff, 1340 01:23:40,232 --> 01:23:44,149 and I want you to know how much I love you. 1341 01:24:03,516 --> 01:24:05,127 - You look so nice and clean. 1342 01:24:05,170 --> 01:24:06,389 - I know. He's so clean and fresh. 1343 01:24:09,131 --> 01:24:11,133 - Such a good man. 1344 01:24:11,176 --> 01:24:14,092 I'm gonna thank these people during your eulogy, okay? 1345 01:24:18,662 --> 01:24:20,533 - Bringing up so much. 1346 01:24:21,186 --> 01:24:23,928 - As you're coming to the end, you're remembering everything. 1347 01:24:23,971 --> 01:24:26,931 I heard you telling amazing stories to the grandkids. 1348 01:24:26,974 --> 01:24:29,020 Were you able to hear how your grandchildren 1349 01:24:29,064 --> 01:24:30,717 see you as a model for who to be? 1350 01:24:33,242 --> 01:24:34,243 - They really do. 1351 01:24:38,203 --> 01:24:39,596 - Do you remember a couple of days ago 1352 01:24:39,639 --> 01:24:42,120 we were talking about that maybe your assessment 1353 01:24:42,164 --> 01:24:44,818 about your life has been a little bit off? 1354 01:24:49,562 --> 01:24:50,824 - Yes. 1355 01:24:50,868 --> 01:24:52,261 You know how you're a provider 1356 01:24:52,304 --> 01:24:54,959 and what you care about the most is providing? 1357 01:24:55,002 --> 01:24:57,788 What you've provided for us our whole lives is love and care. 1358 01:24:57,831 --> 01:24:59,224 But you know what's the last thing 1359 01:24:59,268 --> 01:25:00,617 you could really provide for us? 1360 01:25:00,660 --> 01:25:02,662 Loving yourself like that. 1361 01:25:02,706 --> 01:25:05,491 Really knowing how good you are. 1362 01:25:05,535 --> 01:25:07,189 That would give us all so much comfort 1363 01:25:07,232 --> 01:25:09,495 to know that you were leaving this world, 1364 01:25:09,539 --> 01:25:11,106 putting down all that baggage. 1365 01:25:16,415 --> 01:25:18,113 - Good. 1366 01:25:18,156 --> 01:25:21,203 'Cause you are a shining light, and you should know it. 1367 01:25:21,246 --> 01:25:23,205 That's what we want more than anything. 1368 01:25:23,248 --> 01:25:25,424 All of us. 1369 01:25:25,468 --> 01:25:27,078 Does everybody agree with me? 1370 01:25:27,122 --> 01:25:28,297 Is that what we want for Pop Pop? 1371 01:25:28,340 --> 01:25:30,299 - I want nothing more. 1372 01:25:30,342 --> 01:25:33,171 - Everybody... 1373 01:25:33,215 --> 01:25:35,130 - It's unanimous. 1374 01:25:37,480 --> 01:25:39,525 - No, no, there are no filibusters here. 1375 01:25:39,569 --> 01:25:41,179 - Uh-huh. 1376 01:25:46,924 --> 01:25:48,186 - That's it. 1377 01:25:48,230 --> 01:25:50,667 We did it. 1378 01:25:50,710 --> 01:25:55,237 ♪ 1379 01:25:55,280 --> 01:26:01,199 - If you had a chance to stick around and be in a safe place 1380 01:26:01,243 --> 01:26:03,375 we could come visit you, would you stick around? 1381 01:26:21,219 --> 01:26:23,395 - I know. 1382 01:26:23,439 --> 01:26:25,223 I'm sorry you struggled for so many years. 1383 01:26:25,267 --> 01:26:26,268 - I feel like I'm-- 1384 01:26:26,311 --> 01:26:28,008 - There's nothing to say sorry about. 1385 01:26:28,052 --> 01:26:29,967 If this is what you want, we are all behind you. 1386 01:26:30,010 --> 01:26:31,403 But you're saying you want this, right? 1387 01:26:31,447 --> 01:26:33,057 Is that what you're saying? 1388 01:26:35,929 --> 01:26:37,975 - You have said it many times. 1389 01:26:43,676 --> 01:26:45,722 - No, babe. 1390 01:26:45,765 --> 01:26:49,247 This whole year has been cruel to both of us, and to Cooper. 1391 01:26:51,641 --> 01:26:53,686 - Yeah. Thank you, Cooper. 1392 01:26:53,730 --> 01:26:56,950 You've given us everything your whole life. 1393 01:26:56,994 --> 01:26:59,214 That's why you're so loved. 1394 01:27:04,262 --> 01:27:05,698 - I love you, honey. 1395 01:27:08,440 --> 01:27:10,573 - But you're gonna watch after me, you said. 1396 01:27:17,362 --> 01:27:20,322 - But I'll look for you. I'll look for signs. 1397 01:27:20,365 --> 01:27:24,326 That World War II song, 1398 01:27:24,369 --> 01:27:28,286 "I'll find you in the morning." 1399 01:27:28,330 --> 01:27:31,637 ♪ And when the day is done 1400 01:27:31,681 --> 01:27:34,901 ♪ I'll be looking at the moon 1401 01:27:34,945 --> 01:27:38,905 ♪ But I'll be seeing you 1402 01:27:43,997 --> 01:27:45,956 I love you, baby. 1403 01:27:45,999 --> 01:27:48,741 Thank you for the whole life. 1404 01:27:51,396 --> 01:27:54,965 - I'll see you tomorrow, Dad. I love you. 1405 01:27:55,008 --> 01:27:56,749 I love you so much. See you tomorrow. 1406 01:27:58,229 --> 01:27:59,665 - Okay. 1407 01:28:00,927 --> 01:28:02,712 - I love you, Dad. 1408 01:28:05,410 --> 01:28:08,979 I'm scared of what it's gonna be like to not have a father. 1409 01:28:09,022 --> 01:28:11,460 I've always had him there. 1410 01:28:28,303 --> 01:28:31,044 - Love you so much. 1411 01:28:31,088 --> 01:28:32,481 But you remember what I told you. 1412 01:28:32,524 --> 01:28:33,960 You have to say goodbye. 1413 01:28:34,004 --> 01:28:35,310 Too many people love you. 1414 01:28:37,877 --> 01:28:39,531 - What do you think now? 1415 01:28:39,575 --> 01:28:41,011 Was I right? 1416 01:28:46,277 --> 01:28:48,366 - You matter too much to so many people. 1417 01:29:04,948 --> 01:29:07,429 - Hi, beautiful. 1418 01:29:07,472 --> 01:29:09,735 Hi. 1419 01:29:12,347 --> 01:29:14,261 How are you feeling? 1420 01:29:16,873 --> 01:29:18,440 - Yeah. 1421 01:29:19,963 --> 01:29:21,399 - Yeah. 1422 01:29:21,443 --> 01:29:24,402 You've done everything you have to do in this whole life. 1423 01:29:24,446 --> 01:29:27,666 You've lived an incredible life. 1424 01:29:27,710 --> 01:29:30,452 And you are cleared for takeoff. 1425 01:29:30,495 --> 01:29:32,454 - [singing indistinctly] 1426 01:29:32,497 --> 01:29:33,411 - You know what I saw this morning? 1427 01:29:33,455 --> 01:29:34,456 - No. 1428 01:29:34,499 --> 01:29:36,240 - A beautiful peacock, 1429 01:29:36,283 --> 01:29:38,242 with the longest tail feathers I've ever seen. 1430 01:29:38,285 --> 01:29:40,331 - Turquoise like silk. 1431 01:29:40,375 --> 01:29:41,854 And I walked close to him, and he didn't-- 1432 01:29:42,899 --> 01:29:44,422 - He didn't flinch. 1433 01:29:44,466 --> 01:29:48,426 And as he walked away, his feathers looked like waves. 1434 01:29:48,470 --> 01:29:52,125 And I thought my Dad's gonna fly like a beautiful peacock, 1435 01:29:52,169 --> 01:29:54,606 up into the trees. 1436 01:29:54,650 --> 01:30:01,570 ♪ 1437 01:30:05,312 --> 01:30:09,316 - I'll make sure to take care of everyone for you. 1438 01:30:10,883 --> 01:30:13,495 - Hi, Dad. - It is David. 1439 01:30:13,538 --> 01:30:14,974 - Hi, hi, hi. 1440 01:30:16,933 --> 01:30:18,456 - Hi, Dad. 1441 01:30:18,500 --> 01:30:19,544 - I'm proud of you. 1442 01:30:24,593 --> 01:30:25,985 - Really? 1443 01:30:27,422 --> 01:30:29,206 - Hi. 1444 01:30:31,600 --> 01:30:32,992 - Thank you. 1445 01:30:33,036 --> 01:30:35,212 Very much. 1446 01:30:36,431 --> 01:30:39,303 - [singing Hebrew] 1447 01:30:44,656 --> 01:30:48,443 - What we want first is Zofran or Haldol. 1448 01:30:48,486 --> 01:30:50,662 - This is the final? - No, that's digoxin. 1449 01:30:50,706 --> 01:30:53,230 This is the Reglan. - Oh. 1450 01:30:53,273 --> 01:30:54,492 - This is the Reglan. - This is the Zofran. 1451 01:30:54,536 --> 01:30:55,841 - This is Zofran. 1452 01:30:55,885 --> 01:30:57,408 Wow, that's a lot of powder. 1453 01:30:57,452 --> 01:30:59,889 Why are we told that, once he takes this one, 1454 01:30:59,932 --> 01:31:01,412 there's no turning back? 1455 01:31:01,456 --> 01:31:02,892 - 'Cause it's gonna slow his heartrate. 1456 01:31:02,935 --> 01:31:04,241 - So he'll just go into a coma. - Critically. 1457 01:31:04,284 --> 01:31:05,503 Yeah. 1458 01:31:05,547 --> 01:31:06,765 - Like, if we don't continue, then-- 1459 01:31:06,809 --> 01:31:07,940 - He'll just end up in a coma. 1460 01:31:07,984 --> 01:31:09,638 - But then we wait 30 minutes for that. 1461 01:31:09,681 --> 01:31:11,291 Okay. All right. 1462 01:31:11,335 --> 01:31:13,903 So this is pills. Pills we know how to do. 1463 01:31:13,946 --> 01:31:18,777 ♪ 1464 01:31:18,821 --> 01:31:21,258 Hey, Daddy. You ready to start? 1465 01:31:21,301 --> 01:31:23,216 I've got three pills here 1466 01:31:23,260 --> 01:31:25,305 that are anti-nausea medication. 1467 01:31:25,349 --> 01:31:27,090 And it's gonna start the clock. 1468 01:31:27,133 --> 01:31:29,135 It's 10:35. 1469 01:31:29,179 --> 01:31:32,530 ♪ 1470 01:31:32,574 --> 01:31:35,794 - [singing Hebrew] 1471 01:31:35,838 --> 01:31:42,758 ♪ 1472 01:31:46,675 --> 01:31:49,329 - We're gonna pass this around. 1473 01:31:49,373 --> 01:31:52,463 And we're gonna each just say whatever comes to mind, 1474 01:31:52,507 --> 01:31:54,770 whatever we want Daddy to hear and to have 1475 01:31:54,813 --> 01:31:57,033 wrapped around him forever. 1476 01:31:57,076 --> 01:31:59,557 - As I hold this right now, 1477 01:31:59,601 --> 01:32:01,603 and when it's around your wrist, 1478 01:32:01,646 --> 01:32:04,083 for me, what it means is that we are connected, 1479 01:32:04,127 --> 01:32:06,129 that death can't separate us. 1480 01:32:06,172 --> 01:32:10,612 I'm so grateful that I've had you as a father. 1481 01:32:10,655 --> 01:32:14,180 I've had a wonderful, wonderful father. 1482 01:32:14,224 --> 01:32:16,966 And you have always loved me. 1483 01:32:17,009 --> 01:32:21,231 And that has sustained me more than you can ever know. 1484 01:32:25,583 --> 01:32:30,980 - You've always been such an inspiration--your bravery, 1485 01:32:31,023 --> 01:32:32,634 your honesty. 1486 01:32:32,677 --> 01:32:37,682 I feel so empowered by you. 1487 01:32:37,726 --> 01:32:41,468 Your legacy is something that I... 1488 01:32:42,252 --> 01:32:45,342 - I will be. I will live for. 1489 01:32:45,385 --> 01:32:48,171 ♪ 1490 01:32:48,214 --> 01:32:50,434 - All right, Daddy. 1491 01:32:50,477 --> 01:32:53,655 You've always been my pal. 1492 01:32:53,698 --> 01:32:57,093 You always loved us all, unconditionally, 1493 01:32:57,136 --> 01:32:59,530 and I know you hung in there when you didn't want to, 1494 01:32:59,574 --> 01:33:01,401 and I know you struggled so hard 1495 01:33:01,445 --> 01:33:04,622 these last years, especially. 1496 01:33:04,666 --> 01:33:06,537 Thank you. 1497 01:33:06,581 --> 01:33:09,192 Fly a little kindness for all of us. 1498 01:33:09,235 --> 01:33:12,848 ♪ 1499 01:33:18,897 --> 01:33:21,378 - You are a hero, honey. 1500 01:33:23,293 --> 01:33:27,253 - You've been just an incredible husband and father. 1501 01:33:27,297 --> 01:33:29,299 I love you, baby, forever. 1502 01:33:40,919 --> 01:33:42,921 - Okay. This is all of our love. 1503 01:33:42,965 --> 01:33:44,357 - Can you tie it? 1504 01:33:44,401 --> 01:33:48,623 - All of our love will be tied around you. 1505 01:33:48,666 --> 01:33:51,626 This one, Daddy, you need to take by yourself. 1506 01:33:51,669 --> 01:33:53,105 Okay? 1507 01:33:53,149 --> 01:33:56,195 And once you take this, there's no turning back. 1508 01:33:56,239 --> 01:33:57,719 And then the last one we're gonna take 1509 01:33:57,762 --> 01:33:59,895 in 30 minutes from now. 1510 01:33:59,938 --> 01:34:02,245 And that one is gonna be the final goodbye. 1511 01:34:02,288 --> 01:34:04,334 That's when you'll lose consciousness 1512 01:34:04,377 --> 01:34:06,553 shortly thereafter, upon taking that one. 1513 01:34:06,597 --> 01:34:08,686 But this one, you're gonna be with us still. 1514 01:34:08,730 --> 01:34:10,601 It's just gonna slow down your heart. 1515 01:34:11,820 --> 01:34:13,343 - Okay, Dad? 1516 01:34:18,740 --> 01:34:20,306 - Here, Daddy. There we go. 1517 01:34:20,350 --> 01:34:21,830 - Straw. - There we go. 1518 01:34:21,873 --> 01:34:23,745 - It's all you. - Okay. 1519 01:34:27,444 --> 01:34:28,924 Okay. 1520 01:34:28,967 --> 01:34:29,751 There's still some more there, Dad. 1521 01:34:29,794 --> 01:34:31,840 I'm sorry. 1522 01:34:31,883 --> 01:34:34,712 [all singing Hebrew] 1523 01:35:17,973 --> 01:35:21,106 - Okay, so this goes into glass. 1524 01:35:21,150 --> 01:35:23,587 Just mix approximately 4 ounces of water 1525 01:35:23,630 --> 01:35:25,676 or clear juice with the powder and stir well. 1526 01:35:25,720 --> 01:35:29,680 ♪ 1527 01:35:29,724 --> 01:35:31,682 Dump this in? 1528 01:35:31,726 --> 01:35:33,989 ♪ 1529 01:35:34,032 --> 01:35:35,817 Wow. 1530 01:35:35,860 --> 01:35:41,213 ♪ 1531 01:35:41,257 --> 01:35:42,998 Have a sip of water or juice in between 1532 01:35:43,041 --> 01:35:44,826 can be helpful, so I'm gonna have-- 1533 01:35:44,869 --> 01:35:50,962 - The other glass, we can take and put--when, Candice? 1534 01:35:51,006 --> 01:35:53,878 Now? - Now. 1535 01:35:57,882 --> 01:35:59,797 - Hey, Daddy, you ready? 1536 01:35:59,841 --> 01:36:02,452 You ready to go? 1537 01:36:02,495 --> 01:36:03,845 Here we go. 1538 01:36:03,888 --> 01:36:06,499 Okay, we're gonna sit you up a little bit for this. 1539 01:36:06,543 --> 01:36:08,371 This one's a little more than the last one. 1540 01:36:08,414 --> 01:36:10,199 Quite a bit more. 1541 01:36:10,242 --> 01:36:13,985 Now, you have to take this all within two minutes' time, okay? 1542 01:36:14,029 --> 01:36:16,771 Somebody start a clock. 1543 01:36:16,814 --> 01:36:19,077 Daddy, you tell me when you're ready to start this, okay? 1544 01:36:19,121 --> 01:36:23,647 Because once you start it, you gotta keep it going. 1545 01:36:23,690 --> 01:36:26,693 Okay, Dad. Hold the glass. 1546 01:36:26,737 --> 01:36:28,652 Got it? 1547 01:36:28,695 --> 01:36:30,915 Okay, Dad. 1548 01:36:30,959 --> 01:36:33,352 ♪ 1549 01:36:33,396 --> 01:36:34,832 You got to get it to your-- 1550 01:36:34,876 --> 01:36:36,878 - Straw. - Almost, almost, almost. 1551 01:36:36,921 --> 01:36:39,271 A little more to your right. A little more to your right. 1552 01:36:39,315 --> 01:36:40,751 Almost. 1553 01:36:42,709 --> 01:36:45,887 - Timer's started. 1554 01:36:45,930 --> 01:36:47,889 - Very bitter. Here, Daddy. 1555 01:36:47,932 --> 01:36:50,413 Here, have a sip of water. 1556 01:36:50,456 --> 01:36:53,546 ♪ 1557 01:36:53,590 --> 01:36:55,418 Okay. Gotta take some more. 1558 01:36:55,461 --> 01:36:56,723 - [groans] 1559 01:36:56,767 --> 01:36:58,595 - I know it's hard. 1560 01:36:58,638 --> 01:37:00,118 You gotta keep going, though. 1561 01:37:00,162 --> 01:37:01,772 - [groans] 1562 01:37:01,816 --> 01:37:03,426 - You gotta keep going, Daddy. 1563 01:37:03,469 --> 01:37:04,949 - You got it. - Keep drinking, Daddy. 1564 01:37:04,993 --> 01:37:06,255 - Drink it, Daddy. - Daddy. 1565 01:37:06,298 --> 01:37:07,734 - Believe in you. - Keep drinking, Dad. 1566 01:37:07,778 --> 01:37:08,866 - You got this. - You're so strong. 1567 01:37:08,910 --> 01:37:10,737 - You gotta drink more. - You gotta hold it up. 1568 01:37:11,477 --> 01:37:12,739 - I can't. I'm not allowed. 1569 01:37:12,783 --> 01:37:14,132 But I can hold your hand. 1570 01:37:14,176 --> 01:37:16,047 I'm gonna hold your hand. 1571 01:37:19,181 --> 01:37:21,487 - Okay, Daddy. 1572 01:37:21,531 --> 01:37:25,883 ♪ 1573 01:37:25,927 --> 01:37:27,319 Good job, Dad. 1574 01:37:27,363 --> 01:37:29,191 Keep going, keep going. 1575 01:37:30,932 --> 01:37:32,847 - Water? 1576 01:37:32,890 --> 01:37:33,978 - [coughing] 1577 01:37:34,022 --> 01:37:35,327 - Quickly. 1578 01:37:35,371 --> 01:37:36,676 - Dad, you gotta do it. 1579 01:37:36,720 --> 01:37:38,026 - Here. 1580 01:37:38,069 --> 01:37:39,462 So close, Daddy. 1581 01:37:39,505 --> 01:37:41,856 One more big sip, and you got it. 1582 01:37:41,899 --> 01:37:43,727 - Get it down. - Daddy, just get it down. 1583 01:37:43,770 --> 01:37:44,989 You got this. 1584 01:37:45,033 --> 01:37:49,037 ♪ 1585 01:37:49,080 --> 01:37:50,386 - Okay, that's two minutes. - Here. 1586 01:37:51,343 --> 01:37:52,779 - Okay. 1587 01:37:52,823 --> 01:37:54,869 - Just a little less. - Little bit less. 1588 01:37:54,912 --> 01:37:56,958 - Way, way, way less. - Way less. 1589 01:37:57,001 --> 01:37:58,524 Just on his mouth, just a tiny bit. 1590 01:37:58,568 --> 01:37:59,917 - Okay, can we count that as done? 1591 01:37:59,961 --> 01:38:01,266 - Can we count that as done? 1592 01:38:01,310 --> 01:38:03,007 - Yes. - Okay, great. 1593 01:38:03,051 --> 01:38:04,530 Okay. 1594 01:38:04,574 --> 01:38:06,532 Daddy. - We love you. 1595 01:38:06,576 --> 01:38:07,925 - Here is chocolate sorbet. - We love you. 1596 01:38:07,969 --> 01:38:10,014 - Just here, take that. - We love you. 1597 01:38:10,058 --> 01:38:11,668 We love you. - Take that. 1598 01:38:11,711 --> 01:38:13,844 - Is that better, Daddy? 1599 01:38:13,888 --> 01:38:16,368 ♪ 1600 01:38:16,412 --> 01:38:19,154 - Just rest. - Just rest, Daddy. 1601 01:38:19,197 --> 01:38:21,591 - Just let go. - Let go. 1602 01:38:24,855 --> 01:38:26,161 - Okay. 1603 01:38:26,204 --> 01:38:27,902 We really can't give him any more sorbet? 1604 01:38:27,945 --> 01:38:29,555 - [coughing] 1605 01:38:30,905 --> 01:38:32,384 - The flavor? 1606 01:38:32,428 --> 01:38:33,603 - [coughing] 1607 01:38:35,997 --> 01:38:38,825 - Take off his oxygen. 1608 01:38:38,869 --> 01:38:40,523 - Careful of his ears. 1609 01:38:42,133 --> 01:38:45,049 - Okay, Daddy. 1610 01:38:45,093 --> 01:38:46,964 It's gone, Daddy. 1611 01:38:47,008 --> 01:38:48,835 - Don't worry. 1612 01:38:48,879 --> 01:38:50,707 - Just rest now, Daddy. - Mm-hmm. 1613 01:38:50,750 --> 01:38:57,627 ♪ 1614 01:39:05,852 --> 01:39:07,506 - What happened? 1615 01:39:07,550 --> 01:39:08,943 No, he's still there. 1616 01:39:33,663 --> 01:39:35,752 - Okay. 1617 01:39:37,319 --> 01:39:38,798 What time is it? 1618 01:39:38,842 --> 01:39:41,062 - 12:10. 1619 01:39:41,105 --> 01:39:43,455 - Time of death 12:10. - That's the time of death. 1620 01:39:43,499 --> 01:39:44,891 Yeah. 1621 01:39:44,935 --> 01:39:47,024 - Here we go, Daddy. 1622 01:39:47,068 --> 01:39:53,988 ♪ 1623 01:40:16,053 --> 01:40:17,968 - Aww, poor Daddy. - Oh, my God. 1624 01:40:18,012 --> 01:40:19,491 Look at those bedsores. - Poor Daddy. 1625 01:40:19,535 --> 01:40:21,189 - Yeah, let's clean you up. 1626 01:40:21,232 --> 01:40:23,408 - That looks super painful. 1627 01:40:23,452 --> 01:40:25,889 He never even complained. 1628 01:40:25,932 --> 01:40:27,238 - Well, he's been sitting there for-- 1629 01:40:27,282 --> 01:40:28,935 - Forever. - No more pain. 1630 01:40:28,979 --> 01:40:31,634 - Yeah. - No more pain. 1631 01:40:31,677 --> 01:40:33,549 - Daddy. - Wow. 1632 01:40:33,592 --> 01:40:35,594 His arm is as light as a feather. 1633 01:40:35,638 --> 01:40:37,509 - No resistance. Like, so-- 1634 01:40:37,553 --> 01:40:39,468 - Yeah. - Wow. 1635 01:40:39,511 --> 01:40:41,035 What was that weight? 1636 01:40:41,078 --> 01:40:43,341 - Probably just gripping. - Just gripping. 1637 01:40:43,385 --> 01:40:45,126 - Pull this down. 1638 01:40:45,169 --> 01:40:47,476 - The blanket. - Pull it down. 1639 01:40:47,519 --> 01:40:49,173 Okay. 1640 01:40:49,217 --> 01:40:52,524 - He looks beautiful. Oh, Eli. 1641 01:40:52,568 --> 01:40:59,488 ♪ 1642 01:42:04,466 --> 01:42:06,772 - I asked my father to pray the viddui, 1643 01:42:06,816 --> 01:42:08,600 the prayer we say on Yom Kippur 1644 01:42:08,644 --> 01:42:10,559 and just before we die, 1645 01:42:10,602 --> 01:42:13,301 which we release our guilt, and confess our wrongdoing, 1646 01:42:13,344 --> 01:42:15,041 and ask for forgiveness, 1647 01:42:15,085 --> 01:42:17,305 so we can leave the world lighter. 1648 01:42:17,348 --> 01:42:21,222 ♪ 1649 01:42:21,265 --> 01:42:23,789 Stripped of all status and dignity, 1650 01:42:23,833 --> 01:42:27,010 my father felt a shame so deep that he came to believe 1651 01:42:27,053 --> 01:42:29,578 that he had no worth. 1652 01:42:29,621 --> 01:42:33,669 ♪ 1653 01:42:33,712 --> 01:42:38,978 This was the sin he most needed to confess before he died. 1654 01:42:39,022 --> 01:42:41,633 My father's realization 1655 01:42:41,677 --> 01:42:44,593 was that he had measured his life wrong. 1656 01:42:44,636 --> 01:42:47,465 He thought his worth was earned by his success. 1657 01:42:47,509 --> 01:42:49,554 And in the last two weeks of his life, 1658 01:42:49,598 --> 01:42:53,471 he saw how loved he was despite all 1659 01:42:53,515 --> 01:42:56,300 of his perceived failures, 1660 01:42:56,344 --> 01:42:59,434 and how much his love had shaped the lives 1661 01:42:59,477 --> 01:43:01,697 of the people around him. 1662 01:43:01,740 --> 01:43:06,180 ♪ 1663 01:43:06,223 --> 01:43:09,487 On the last night of his life, 1664 01:43:09,531 --> 01:43:12,621 his kids, and grandkids, and my mom sat around his bed, 1665 01:43:12,664 --> 01:43:14,971 and we all saw the change in him. 1666 01:43:15,014 --> 01:43:18,366 ♪ 1667 01:43:18,409 --> 01:43:22,631 Just in time, he started to understand 1668 01:43:22,674 --> 01:43:27,244 that the true worth of his life was measured in love. 1669 01:43:27,288 --> 01:43:32,118 And by that measure, he had wildly succeeded. 1670 01:43:32,162 --> 01:43:35,165 We do not have to wait 1671 01:43:35,209 --> 01:43:38,212 until the last night of our lives to know 1672 01:43:38,255 --> 01:43:41,476 that we are already loved and worthy of it. 1673 01:43:41,519 --> 01:43:44,914 We do not have to wait until the last day 1674 01:43:44,957 --> 01:43:47,960 to measure our lives by love. 1675 01:43:48,004 --> 01:43:51,312 Today, Yom Kippur is meant to simulate 1676 01:43:51,355 --> 01:43:54,010 the last day of our lives. 1677 01:43:54,053 --> 01:43:55,794 ♪ 1678 01:43:55,838 --> 01:43:59,798 What if we begin right now? 1679 01:43:59,842 --> 01:44:04,281 What if we begin today? 1680 01:44:04,325 --> 01:44:06,327 Ken yehi ratzon. 1681 01:44:06,370 --> 01:44:13,290 ♪ 1682 01:44:15,684 --> 01:44:18,426 [Merritt Lear and Christophe Beck's "I'll Be Seeing You"] 1683 01:44:18,469 --> 01:44:21,820 ♪ 1684 01:44:21,864 --> 01:44:27,304 - ♪ I'll be seeing you 1685 01:44:27,348 --> 01:44:29,524 ♪ In all 1686 01:44:29,567 --> 01:44:35,094 ♪ The old familiar places 1687 01:44:35,138 --> 01:44:41,231 ♪ That this heart of mine embraces ♪ 1688 01:44:41,275 --> 01:44:47,150 ♪ All day through 1689 01:44:47,193 --> 01:44:53,809 ♪ In that small café 1690 01:44:53,852 --> 01:44:58,727 ♪ The park across the way 1691 01:44:58,770 --> 01:45:00,424 ♪ 1692 01:45:00,468 --> 01:45:05,386 ♪ The children's carousel 1693 01:45:05,429 --> 01:45:11,392 ♪ The chestnut trees, the wishing well ♪ 1694 01:45:11,435 --> 01:45:15,874 ♪ 1695 01:45:15,918 --> 01:45:21,967 ♪ I'll be seeing you 1696 01:45:22,011 --> 01:45:27,364 ♪ In every lovely summer's day ♪ 1697 01:45:27,408 --> 01:45:33,544 ♪ In every thing that's light and gay ♪ 1698 01:45:33,588 --> 01:45:36,895 ♪ I'll always think 1699 01:45:36,939 --> 01:45:41,639 ♪ Of you that way 1700 01:45:41,683 --> 01:45:47,558 ♪ I'll find you in the morning sun ♪ 1701 01:45:47,602 --> 01:45:53,042 ♪ And when the night is new 1702 01:45:53,085 --> 01:45:56,001 ♪ 1703 01:45:56,045 --> 01:46:01,355 ♪ I'll be looking at the moon ♪ 1704 01:46:01,398 --> 01:46:05,402 ♪ But I'll be seeing 1705 01:46:05,446 --> 01:46:08,492 ♪ 1706 01:46:08,536 --> 01:46:12,496 ♪ You 1707 01:46:12,540 --> 01:46:16,413 ♪ 1708 01:46:16,457 --> 01:46:21,897 - ♪ Row, row, row your boat gently down the stream ♪ 1709 01:46:21,940 --> 01:46:25,466 ♪ Merrily, merrily, merrily, merrily ♪ 1710 01:46:25,509 --> 01:46:28,338 - ♪ Life is but a dream