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- Hello!
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Oh. Thank you so much
for coming.
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- Thank you for being here.
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Thank you for watching.
My name is Alex Edelman.
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I'm a comedian,
and I'm gonna tell you a story.
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I'm gonna tell you a story
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about something
that happened to me.
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But first I wanna tell you
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about something
that happened to this gorilla.
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- Ooh. Okay.
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So there's this gorilla
named Koko.
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Has everyone heard
of Koko the gorilla?
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- Yes. Some for yeses.
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Koko the gorilla,
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for those of you
that don't know,
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is a gorilla that spoke
fluent sign language.
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And in 1999, this is true,
Koko met Robin Williams.
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And a couple of years ago,
they told Koko
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that Robin Williams
had passed away.
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And Koko went,
"Koko friend, Koko sad."
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Aw!
- Yes, which is sad,
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but on the plus side,
how funny was Robin Williams,
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that even gorillas are like,
"This guy!"
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-"He's unbelievable."
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My comedy barely works
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if you're not
from the Upper West Side.
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Robin Williams crossed
the species barrier.
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- Brilliant comedian.
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Also, and obviously,
did they have to tell...
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...the gorilla
that Robin Williams
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had passed away?
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She wasn't gonna catch it on CNN
or anything like that.
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I heard about this
in, like, September of 2017
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and I couldn't stop imagining
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somebody walking
into a gorilla enclosure,
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just like, "No. I'll do it.
I'll do it. Let me."
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-"Hi, Koko?"
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-"Can you put down the banana?"
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"We have some bad news."
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And they tell Koko
and Koko's like...
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- "Oh, no."
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-"But Prince is fine, right?"
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Like, "Get the gun. Koko. Koko,
calm down." And Koko's like,
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"Why was the last
David Bowie album so sad?"
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- And they're like, "Koko!"
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And Koko's like,
"What else do you know--"
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And they're like, "Koko, no."
And Koko's like...
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And they're like, "Koko, no."
And Koko's like,
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"Who is the president
right now?"
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Those are the kind of jokes
I write.
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I write jokes
that are so dumb and simple
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that part of it is like,
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"Oh, I can't believe
someone took the time
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- to think about that."
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"I can't believe
that someone thought
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that was worth informing
an audience of."
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I can't believe--
This is true sadly,
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that in the middle
of a pandemic,
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someone spent 500 dollars
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on sign language lessons
over Zoom...
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...for a joke about a gorilla.
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I love a dumb joke.
I love a silly joke.
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It's my job. It's my currency.
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I wrote a joke a while ago
that was so dumb,
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it took a month
and a half to realize
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it was actually too dumb
to ever grace a stage.
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- Here it is.
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I don't think I've ever seen
a fat horse.
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I don't think I've ever seen
a fat horse.
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Maybe that's because
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they get four times
as many steps as we do.
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- I... I know, I know.
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And a month and a half later,
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I was walking through
a Whole Foods
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and out of nowhere I was like...
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-"Twice as many steps."
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They don't have
eight goddamn legs.
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- It's twice as many steps.
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And that's what
this show was gonna be
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when I started writing it.
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It was gonna be
a show full of benign silliness,
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like I've done
my whole comedy life,
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and then something happened.
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So, I write radio comedy shows
for the BBC.
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Nobody listens to these things.
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- No one.
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People my age don't even know
what a radio comedy show is.
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Like, I'll tell people,
"I write radio comedy shows."
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And they're like,
"What's a radio comedy show?"
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And I have to explain
that it's like a podcast,
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but for the dying.
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And like,
this radio show comes out
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and there's this massive wave
of indifference, right?
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No one cares.
It's a radio comedy show.
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But there are two tweets.
Just two.
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And one tweet's
actually very nice.
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It's very complimentary,
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because the tweet
is from my Aunt Nancy
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- in Teaneck, New Jersey.
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- And it said--
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Her fans are everywhere,
of course.
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And the second tweet
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is from someone
I'm not related to.
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And this guy's just listened
to the show.
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And this guy's very upset.
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And this guy's very upset,
largely by the fact that I...
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- ...am a Jew.
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And sometimes people can tell
that I'm Jewish
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because of my name, or my face,
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or anything
about my personality.
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But this guy's very upset
by the fact that I'm Jewish,
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and he lets me know,
and I make a mistake.
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- I respond to the tweet. I know.
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And then he writes back
and then I write back,
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and then he writes back,
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and then other people
get involved.
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And then I go to bed,
and I wake up the next morning,
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and my Twitter feed,
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it's just this avalanche
of antisemitism.
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Nothing but anti--
And it bothered me.
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It's never fun to see
that stuff directed at you.
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And then it stopped bothering me
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because I started adding
these people to a Twitter list.
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Do you guys know
what I mean, generally
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- when I say Twitter lists?
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A couple of yeses,
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- a couple of blank stares.
All right, fine.
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By the way, you don't...
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you don't need to know
what this is. I promise you,
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it's an obscure function
of a dying platform.
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- Like, you don't truly need
to know.
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But on Twitter--
Yeah...
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But on Twitter, the way it works
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is you follow folks.
You know that,
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you follow people,
everybody knows.
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But imagine you're interested
in, like, a common area.
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Imagine you're interested
in, like, opera or the NBA,
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but you don't feel
like following
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a whole bunch of NBA players.
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What you can do is,
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you can make
a list of NBA players
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and then follow that list
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and check it occasionally, right?
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So I did that,
but with anti-Semites.
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And because of certain issues
within the NBA at the moment,
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there would indeed
be some crossover
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between the two lists.
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But I made this list
of anti-Semites
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and I like it immediately.
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I like it for two reasons.
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Reason number one,
let them be on a list for once!
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- Okay? Okay?
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Even Schindler, not a Jew,
we make the list now.
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And reason number two,
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these guys got a notification
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when they were added
to the list.
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- And the name of this list,
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and they saw this
when they were added,
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was Jewish National Fund
contributors.
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And I got so many tweets
from anti-Semites going,
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"Take me off your goddamn list."
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-"I have never contributed
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to the Jewish National Fund."
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And I would always write back,
"There's still time."
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"We're planting a million trees
outside of Haifa,
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be part of the Zionist dream."
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And I love my list.
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I love my list
for these two silly reasons,
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but then I get to love it
for a third reason,
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which is that it's got
all of the worst opinions on it.
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And that's one of the reasons
you go on social media.
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- Right? You wanna be offended.
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Right? Same reason you watch
cable news.
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You're not a moron, you know
you're not getting real news.
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But you get to be upset.
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Right? You get to be upset
at something
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someone on the other team
did or didn't do,
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or something they did
or didn't say.
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And I have a list.
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I have a digital terrarium
of assholes.
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And occasionally,
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with great sanctimony,
obviously,
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I go down the list and be like,
"Oh, my God, that's so racist.
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Oh, my God, that's so sexist.
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Oh, my God,
that's so homophobic.
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I don't have
any of these opinions.
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I'm such a good boy."
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Anyway, it's a Tuesday night
and I'm doing my favorite thing.
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When I'm alone,
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my favorite thing to do
is I lie on my couch
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and I hold my phone
like an otter,
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- like an inch from my face.
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Do you know what I mean?
Just a brisk nine,
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ten hours in a row,
just going like this?
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And I see this tweet
from someone on the list.
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And the tweet says, "Hey!"
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-"Hey."
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"If you live in NYC
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and you have questions
about your Whiteness,
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come to 441, 27th Avenue,"
which is in Queens,
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"Tomorrow night at 9:15."
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- And I saw the tweet.
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And I thought to myself,
I live in NYC.
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And as an Ashkenazi Jew,
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I have some questions
about my Whiteness.
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And I'm free tomorrow night
at 9:15.
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And I took a screen grab.
I took a picture of the tweet.
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And I sent it to my best friend
in the world,
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this guy named David Burstein.
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And I wrote,
"David...
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...do you wanna come with me
to this meeting of Nazis
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- in Queens?"
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And I saw the three dots
on the iPhone,
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that means
someone's texting you back.
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And then the dots disappeared,
then they reappeared,
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- then they disappeared again.
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And then he called me.
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And he said, "What's going on?"
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And I said,
"I'm gonna go to this Nazi bar."
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And he said, "Why?"
And I said,
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"I'm gonna listen
to everything they have to say.
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I will learn something.
It'll be fascinating,
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- illuminating."
- And he's like,
"You're so brave."
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And I was like,
"I know, I am so brave."
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And the next night around 9:15,
I take the subway into Queens,
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and I get off and I walk
to the address of this Nazi bar,
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and it's not a bar.
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- It's an apartment building.
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And I thought to myself...
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-"How brave are we?"
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It was January. It was so--
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I stood outside this building,
freezing, dithering,
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for like 20 minutes,
being like, "Maybe I'm an idiot.
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Maybe my mouth is writing checks
that my butt can't cash."
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And there was one moment
where I was like,
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"Well, obviously
I'm in the wrong place."
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But I knew I wasn't.
I knew I was in the right place
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'cause there was a sign
on the front door
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of this building and the sign
just said third floor,
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but it said it
in Comic Sans font,
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the most radical
of all the fonts.
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And after a while,
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I sort of rediscover
the intestines
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that I left on the 7 train.
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- And I go upstairs...
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to the third floor
of this building.
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And there's this long corridor,
long,
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doors on either side of me,
overhead lighting, bad.
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And there's one open door
in this hallway.
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And when I walk in,
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the first thing I see
in the foyer of this apartment
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is this older lady.
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She's in her seventies,
at least, or like eighties,
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but she moisturizes.
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- And like...
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And she's got this table
in front of her.
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And on this table
is the biggest jigsaw puzzle
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I have ever seen.
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A jigsaw puzzle.
Here's how big it is.
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When I walked in
and I saw the puzzle,
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involuntarily,
I just went, "Oh, wow."
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And without looking up,
she went,
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"12,000 pieces."
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She knew exactly
what I was talking about
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from, "Oh, wow."
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And I said,
"That's so much puzzle."
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And she went,
"This isn't even all of it."
279
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"This is, like,
a quarter of the puzzle.
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I've been working on this part
for, like, six months."
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And I thought to myself,
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"You should be further
into that puzzle, probably."
283
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Although,
maybe White supremacists'
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- jigsaw puzzles are harder.
285
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You know, 'cause, like,
all the faces look the same.
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She's sitting. I'm standing.
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We're making small talk
about her tonnage of puzz.
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- And like--
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And she tells me how much
like, the puzzles mean to her.
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And for what it's worth,
I like jigsaw puzzles.
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And I like people that do them,
like,
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it's a very, like,
thoughtful, fulsome exercise,
293
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there aren't
a ton of those left.
294
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And it's even, like,
a tidy metaphor
295
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for why I'm here, right? Like--
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Because, as with the world,
with a puzzle,
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you need every piece
for a complete picture.
298
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You need every piece
for a full perspective.
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If you're missing
even one piece of your puzzle,
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it is suspect or worthless.
301
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But even a metaphorical puzzle,
I can do quicker than this lady.
302
00:13:22,260 --> 00:13:24,429
Like, she's making
zero progress,
303
00:13:24,512 --> 00:13:25,889
and at some point she just went,
304
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"You know the last one
of these...
305
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- took, like, three years."
306
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And I said, "Last one?"
307
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And she points behind herself,
down this hallway.
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And I follow her finger.
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And as I go down in,
I pass two enormous, framed,
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- framed jigsaw puzzles. Framed.
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And then to my right,
there's like a threshold.
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Like a doorway with no door.
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And when I walk through
this threshold,
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I'm in this living room.
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And it's like a... It's a pretty
spacious living room.
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And there's, like,
a hodgepodge of chairs around,
317
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and folks
are walking around talking.
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And of all--
Oh, and to my-- Sorry.
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To my left,
there's, like, a big table
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of, like, pastries
and orange juice.
321
00:14:08,765 --> 00:14:10,308
And even though
I was a little scared,
322
00:14:10,350 --> 00:14:12,644
I was like,
"Oh, sick! Pastries!"
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00:14:18,983 --> 00:14:20,860
So, I'm eating
this Whites' only muffin.
324
00:14:26,324 --> 00:14:28,243
And on the other side
of the room...
325
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- I see this cute girl.
326
00:14:33,331 --> 00:14:35,500
And this is
how dumb of a moron I am.
327
00:14:36,668 --> 00:14:42,132
I saw the girl and I thought
to myself with no irony...
328
00:14:45,301 --> 00:14:49,806
- you never know.
329
00:14:49,889 --> 00:14:52,017
You never know, right?
You gotta shoot your shot.
330
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So, I put down my racist pastry
331
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- and I went over.
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And I said, "Hi, I'm Alex."
333
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And she went,
"Oh, hi, I'm Chelsea."
334
00:15:00,233 --> 00:15:02,694
And we start chatting
and it's good chat.
335
00:15:02,777 --> 00:15:05,697
But a few moments in,
Chelsea just went,
336
00:15:05,780 --> 00:15:12,412
"Ah! Hey, Alex!
The White House! Hmm?"
337
00:15:16,416 --> 00:15:22,339
And I thought to myself,
"This could go... anywhere."
338
00:15:24,007 --> 00:15:25,717
I actually have
a thing for this.
339
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I have a thing for this.
340
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If anyone ever asks you
a question
341
00:15:29,012 --> 00:15:31,848
and you know they want
a specific answer from you,
342
00:15:31,890 --> 00:15:33,725
but you're not sure
what that answer is,
343
00:15:33,767 --> 00:15:34,934
there are four words
344
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that will save you
every single time.
345
00:15:37,145 --> 00:15:38,688
Every--
Sir, sorry to bother you.
346
00:15:38,730 --> 00:15:40,940
Would you mind asking me
if I saw the game last night?
347
00:15:41,024 --> 00:15:42,067
Did you see the game
last night?
348
00:15:42,108 --> 00:15:43,485
Oh, can you believe it?
349
00:15:46,279 --> 00:15:48,865
- Well done.
That was very nice.
350
00:15:48,907 --> 00:15:52,369
Okay. Very nice.
"Can you believe it?"
351
00:15:52,410 --> 00:15:55,497
- Guys, this works. It's amazing.
352
00:15:55,580 --> 00:15:56,915
"Can you believe it?"
353
00:15:56,956 --> 00:15:59,334
It means people's
three favorite things
in a conversation.
354
00:15:59,417 --> 00:16:01,252
It means I know
what you're talking about,
355
00:16:01,294 --> 00:16:05,006
I agree with you,
and most importantly, you talk.
356
00:16:05,090 --> 00:16:06,925
- It works every single time.
357
00:16:06,966 --> 00:16:08,927
By the way,
I'm from New England.
358
00:16:09,010 --> 00:16:10,595
There is
a New England version of this.
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00:16:10,637 --> 00:16:12,555
If you're ever caught
in a stalled conversation
360
00:16:12,597 --> 00:16:15,433
with a New Englander,
just go, "Fucking Brady, right?"
361
00:16:15,475 --> 00:16:17,686
- It works every single time.
362
00:16:17,769 --> 00:16:19,437
But this is better?
363
00:16:19,479 --> 00:16:22,774
It is evergreen.
"Can you believe it?"
364
00:16:22,857 --> 00:16:24,317
I have a neighbor in L.A.
365
00:16:24,401 --> 00:16:26,361
I never know
what he's talking about.
366
00:16:26,444 --> 00:16:28,947
I use this
in every conversation with him.
367
00:16:29,030 --> 00:16:31,449
He'll be like, "Oh, recycling!"
368
00:16:31,533 --> 00:16:33,368
And I'll be like,
"Can you believe it?"
369
00:16:33,451 --> 00:16:35,954
And he's like, "They should
take it out on Thursdays."
370
00:16:35,995 --> 00:16:37,956
And I'll be like, "Okay."
Or he'll be like,
371
00:16:37,997 --> 00:16:39,374
"Minor League Baseball."
372
00:16:39,457 --> 00:16:40,667
And I'm like,
"Can you believe it?"
373
00:16:40,750 --> 00:16:42,961
And he's like, "They should pay
the players more."
374
00:16:43,044 --> 00:16:44,546
And I'm like, "Absolutely."
375
00:16:44,629 --> 00:16:47,465
And my favorite one ever,
this is like six months ago.
376
00:16:47,507 --> 00:16:51,636
He just went, "Hey, Alex,
the Kennedy assassination."
377
00:16:55,473 --> 00:16:57,058
And I was like,
"Can you believe it?"
378
00:16:57,142 --> 00:16:58,643
And he said, "Bobby did it."
379
00:16:58,685 --> 00:17:01,312
- And I was like, "Oh."
380
00:17:01,354 --> 00:17:04,315
"Well, he got his, didn't he?"
I mean...
381
00:17:06,067 --> 00:17:07,610
"Can you believe it?"
382
00:17:07,652 --> 00:17:12,323
It is a mirror of a question
of an answer, and it works here.
383
00:17:12,365 --> 00:17:15,118
Because she just went,
"The White House! Hmm?"
384
00:17:15,160 --> 00:17:17,245
And I said,
"Can you believe it?"
385
00:17:17,328 --> 00:17:19,956
- And she went off on this rant
386
00:17:19,998 --> 00:17:21,583
about Jared Kushner.
387
00:17:21,666 --> 00:17:24,461
- Trump's Jewish son-in-law,
388
00:17:24,502 --> 00:17:27,839
and she goes off
on how "Kushner and his friends"
389
00:17:27,881 --> 00:17:30,008
are ruining
the Trump administration
390
00:17:30,050 --> 00:17:31,217
and the country.
391
00:17:31,301 --> 00:17:33,386
And I so had to stop myself
from doing
392
00:17:33,470 --> 00:17:35,555
what I desperately wanted to do,
393
00:17:35,638 --> 00:17:37,849
which was go,
"Oh, I hate Jared Kushner.
394
00:17:37,891 --> 00:17:40,393
He sits behind me in synagogue
on the Upper East Side.
395
00:17:40,477 --> 00:17:44,981
- He's so goddamn loud."
396
00:17:45,023 --> 00:17:46,649
That's true, by the way.
397
00:17:47,317 --> 00:17:48,610
It's 1,000 percent true.
398
00:17:48,693 --> 00:17:51,029
Kehilath Jeshurun
on 85th and Lexington,
399
00:17:51,071 --> 00:17:52,864
it's where he goes.
He's fucking loud.
400
00:17:52,947 --> 00:17:55,200
- And he's arrogant.
401
00:17:55,241 --> 00:17:56,284
That's the word. He's so--
402
00:17:56,368 --> 00:17:58,161
Like when they call him up
to the Torah,
403
00:17:58,203 --> 00:17:59,537
he walks up like he wrote it.
404
00:17:59,621 --> 00:18:01,289
He's got a problem,
I'm telling you.
405
00:18:06,878 --> 00:18:08,505
And-- Anyway,
406
00:18:09,464 --> 00:18:11,383
she's off on her rant
about the Kush.
407
00:18:11,424 --> 00:18:13,385
- I'm standing there.
408
00:18:13,468 --> 00:18:15,804
I'm nodding, I'm trying to focus
more on the face,
409
00:18:15,887 --> 00:18:18,223
- less on the opinions, you know.
410
00:18:18,264 --> 00:18:20,266
And we talk for like 15 minutes.
411
00:18:20,350 --> 00:18:22,102
And she does
most of the talking,
412
00:18:22,185 --> 00:18:24,020
which is a red flag,
but not a deal breaker,
413
00:18:24,062 --> 00:18:28,400
- you know.
414
00:18:28,441 --> 00:18:30,610
And after about 15 minutes,
415
00:18:30,694 --> 00:18:34,197
I feel someone kind of, like,
lurking in my periph.
416
00:18:34,239 --> 00:18:36,783
- Like I'm being haunted.
417
00:18:38,493 --> 00:18:42,122
And when I turn around,
there's this guy standing there.
418
00:18:42,205 --> 00:18:45,583
And this guy's sizing me up
with a look on his face
419
00:18:45,625 --> 00:18:49,671
that I would honestly
most accurately describe as...
420
00:18:56,761 --> 00:18:58,096
"This is a Jew!"
421
00:19:04,310 --> 00:19:06,813
Like, "I'm pretty sure
this is a Jew!"
422
00:19:09,274 --> 00:19:13,361
And he said to me,
"Hey, can I help you?"
423
00:19:13,445 --> 00:19:14,446
As if I was gonna be like...
424
00:19:14,529 --> 00:19:15,739
"Yes!
425
00:19:15,780 --> 00:19:18,450
Well, I was on my way
to synagogue for Yom Kippur!
426
00:19:18,491 --> 00:19:21,369
But I got lost
and I stumbled in here.
427
00:19:21,453 --> 00:19:24,831
Do you know if these muffins
is kosher?"
428
00:19:28,877 --> 00:19:31,838
But I tried to be neutral
and I said, "Hey, man."
429
00:19:31,921 --> 00:19:33,590
And he said, "Can I help you?"
430
00:19:33,631 --> 00:19:35,550
And I said,
"I'm here for the thing."
431
00:19:35,633 --> 00:19:37,510
And he said,
"You're here for the meeting?"
432
00:19:37,594 --> 00:19:40,305
And I thought about saying,
"Can you believe it?"
433
00:19:46,394 --> 00:19:48,146
But I had just used it,
so I said,
434
00:19:48,229 --> 00:19:49,689
"Yeah, man,
I'm here for the meeting."
435
00:19:49,773 --> 00:19:53,026
And he said,
"Chelsea, he's with you?"
436
00:19:53,109 --> 00:19:55,320
And Chelsea just went,
437
00:19:55,362 --> 00:19:56,654
"Oh...
438
00:19:56,738 --> 00:20:00,033
...we just met,
but he seems cool."
439
00:20:00,116 --> 00:20:02,494
And I thought to myself, "Nice."
440
00:20:02,535 --> 00:20:07,540
- You never know, right?
441
00:20:07,624 --> 00:20:09,751
And then this guy,
like, fumfers for--
442
00:20:09,834 --> 00:20:12,045
Like this guy's
not quite sure what to say.
443
00:20:12,128 --> 00:20:14,089
But when he recovered,
he just said,
444
00:20:14,172 --> 00:20:16,508
"Okay. All right. But who is he?
445
00:20:17,342 --> 00:20:19,678
Excuse me, who are you?
446
00:20:22,931 --> 00:20:24,307
Like, what's your name?"
447
00:20:31,898 --> 00:20:32,899
Here's the thing.
448
00:20:32,982 --> 00:20:37,153
- Here's the thing. Growing up...
449
00:20:37,195 --> 00:20:40,198
...I always wanted to be White.
450
00:20:40,281 --> 00:20:41,950
- Yeah, yes.
451
00:20:42,033 --> 00:20:43,993
I'm aware there are a few of you
looking at me like,
452
00:20:44,035 --> 00:20:47,539
-"Mission accomplished, buddy."
453
00:20:47,580 --> 00:20:49,207
"Does he not...?" I am White.
454
00:20:49,290 --> 00:20:51,167
I'm definitely White.
But I grew up in a place
455
00:20:51,209 --> 00:20:52,544
where there were different kinds
of White people.
456
00:20:52,627 --> 00:20:55,422
I grew up in a place where
there was a strict hierarchy
457
00:20:55,505 --> 00:20:57,340
for Whiteness.
I grew up in Boston.
458
00:20:57,382 --> 00:20:59,968
I grew up in this really
racist part of Boston
459
00:21:00,051 --> 00:21:01,344
called Boston.
460
00:21:01,428 --> 00:21:04,889
- And in Boston...
461
00:21:04,973 --> 00:21:05,807
And in Boston,
462
00:21:05,890 --> 00:21:07,225
there are different kinds
of White people,
463
00:21:07,308 --> 00:21:09,019
there are different kinds
of Whiteness, right?
464
00:21:09,060 --> 00:21:10,937
Like, there are Ashkenazi Jews,
like me,
465
00:21:11,021 --> 00:21:13,148
and we're in places
like Brookline and Newton
466
00:21:13,231 --> 00:21:14,733
and an outer suburb way
to the south
467
00:21:14,774 --> 00:21:16,443
called Sharon,
there are the Russians.
468
00:21:16,526 --> 00:21:18,486
In Eastie, in East Boston,
there are the Greeks.
469
00:21:18,570 --> 00:21:20,739
In Dorchester, there are
the Italians in the North End.
470
00:21:20,780 --> 00:21:22,782
And of course,
Irish Catholics, right?
471
00:21:22,866 --> 00:21:25,118
ICs practically synonymous
with Boston,
472
00:21:25,201 --> 00:21:26,411
and they're scattered all over,
473
00:21:26,494 --> 00:21:28,246
but a lot of them
very famously concentrate in,
474
00:21:28,288 --> 00:21:29,914
anybody know?
475
00:21:29,956 --> 00:21:31,207
Southie.
476
00:21:31,249 --> 00:21:33,209
Southie, South Boston. Yes.
477
00:21:33,251 --> 00:21:35,003
And they've had
an amazing century.
478
00:21:36,463 --> 00:21:38,673
No, truly,
an incredible 100 years
479
00:21:38,757 --> 00:21:40,383
for the Bostonian
Irish Catholics.
480
00:21:40,425 --> 00:21:42,844
They've gone up a couple
of socioeconomic classes
481
00:21:42,927 --> 00:21:43,887
as a whole.
482
00:21:43,928 --> 00:21:44,888
They've had their own president,
483
00:21:44,929 --> 00:21:47,015
who was apparently killed
by his brother.
484
00:21:47,098 --> 00:21:49,100
- Right? Like,
there's any reason...
485
00:21:49,142 --> 00:21:51,770
But they've not ascended
to the top of this totem pole.
486
00:21:51,811 --> 00:21:53,438
'Cause at the top
of this pyramid
487
00:21:53,521 --> 00:21:56,775
of Bostonian Caucasian, unquestionably?
488
00:21:56,816 --> 00:21:59,152
WASPs.
- WASPs. Exactly.
489
00:21:59,235 --> 00:22:00,945
The WASPs. And let me tell you,
490
00:22:00,987 --> 00:22:04,949
that is the kind of White
you wanna be...
491
00:22:07,911 --> 00:22:09,621
...in Boston.
You know what I mean?
492
00:22:09,662 --> 00:22:12,332
The sort of, like,
any country club you want White.
493
00:22:12,415 --> 00:22:14,793
Or, like, had a relative
on the Mayflower White.
494
00:22:14,876 --> 00:22:18,963
Or, like, "I can't read,
but I got into Harvard!"
495
00:22:20,715 --> 00:22:23,426
Like, that's the White
you wanna be in Beantown.
496
00:22:23,468 --> 00:22:25,762
And growing up,
I became so keenly aware of that
497
00:22:25,804 --> 00:22:28,014
and I started changing things
about myself
498
00:22:28,098 --> 00:22:30,266
to appear a little less Jewish.
499
00:22:30,308 --> 00:22:32,519
Like, when I was a kid,
no one called me Alex.
500
00:22:32,602 --> 00:22:35,021
Everyone called me David
or David Yosef.
501
00:22:35,105 --> 00:22:36,523
- My--
502
00:22:36,606 --> 00:22:38,983
My full name isn't Alex Edelman.
503
00:22:39,067 --> 00:22:40,944
My full name, get ready,
504
00:22:40,985 --> 00:22:46,991
is David Yosef Shimon Ben Elazar
Reuven Alexander Halevi Edelman.
505
00:22:47,075 --> 00:22:48,326
That is my full name.
506
00:22:48,368 --> 00:22:52,831
- I go-- Sure.
507
00:22:52,914 --> 00:22:57,961
I go by Alex now and my family
has noticed the shift.
508
00:23:00,005 --> 00:23:03,425
My father's name is Elazar.
That's the name that he goes by.
509
00:23:03,508 --> 00:23:05,385
And he's like, "You're not proud
of your real name?"
510
00:23:05,468 --> 00:23:07,762
And I'm like, "No."
And he's like, "Why not?"
511
00:23:07,846 --> 00:23:09,472
And I'm like,
"I don't know, Elazar.
512
00:23:09,514 --> 00:23:11,850
Maybe because it sounds like
we're all in Slytherin.
513
00:23:11,891 --> 00:23:16,771
- That's why."
514
00:23:16,855 --> 00:23:19,024
I have cousins Mikal
and Penecost.
515
00:23:19,065 --> 00:23:21,234
You can't even spell
their names right in English
516
00:23:21,317 --> 00:23:23,486
'cause there's no English letter
for phlegm.
517
00:23:32,287 --> 00:23:35,582
I don't wanna get into a game
of like, "How Jewish are you?"
518
00:23:35,665 --> 00:23:38,251
This is how Jewish we are.
My brother AJ,
519
00:23:38,335 --> 00:23:40,253
or Adam Yitzhak Chaim...
520
00:23:43,548 --> 00:23:46,301
...qualified
for the last Winter Olympics
521
00:23:46,384 --> 00:23:48,011
for Israel.
522
00:23:48,053 --> 00:23:49,637
This is not a joke.
523
00:23:49,721 --> 00:23:51,806
AJ-- I mean, like,
it is eventually a joke,
524
00:23:51,890 --> 00:23:55,560
- but like this...
525
00:23:55,602 --> 00:23:59,397
AJ qualified for the last
Winter Olympics for Israel.
526
00:23:59,481 --> 00:24:01,149
And whenever I tell people that,
527
00:24:01,232 --> 00:24:02,442
they always have
a few questions.
528
00:24:02,525 --> 00:24:04,569
They're like, "Your brother?"
"Yes."
529
00:24:04,652 --> 00:24:06,529
-"Your brother?" "Yes."
530
00:24:06,571 --> 00:24:07,906
"Your brother's an Olympian?"
"Yeah."
531
00:24:07,989 --> 00:24:10,867
If you're wondering,
turns out it's nurture.
532
00:24:14,537 --> 00:24:16,539
"Your brother's an Olympian?"
"I know."
533
00:24:16,581 --> 00:24:18,333
"For Israel?" "I know."
534
00:24:18,416 --> 00:24:20,251
"The Winter Olympics?" "I know."
535
00:24:20,293 --> 00:24:21,419
"Does Israel have winters?"
536
00:24:21,503 --> 00:24:23,546
"Not really.
He had to train in Munich,"
537
00:24:23,588 --> 00:24:26,591
in what must be the irony
to end all ironies.
538
00:24:32,180 --> 00:24:36,393
"What's AJ's sport?"
"AJ's sport is called skeleton."
539
00:24:36,434 --> 00:24:37,435
Which is like...
540
00:24:37,477 --> 00:24:39,145
Which is like luge
but head-first.
541
00:24:40,438 --> 00:24:43,066
By the way,
my father says on television
542
00:24:43,108 --> 00:24:44,943
that I have to inform audiences
543
00:24:45,026 --> 00:24:47,612
that AJ is a hero,
it's an accomplishment,
544
00:24:47,654 --> 00:24:48,947
and we're so proud of him.
545
00:24:48,988 --> 00:24:51,116
- There. Okay. Skeleton--
546
00:24:51,157 --> 00:24:54,619
Oh, are you--
No, no, no, no, no. It's...
547
00:24:54,703 --> 00:24:57,247
It's the dumbest sport
in the world,
548
00:24:57,288 --> 00:24:58,498
it's not a real sport,
549
00:24:58,581 --> 00:25:00,792
it's a lunch tray
and an icy hill.
550
00:25:00,875 --> 00:25:04,337
- Here's...
551
00:25:04,421 --> 00:25:05,588
Here's how dumb this sport is.
552
00:25:05,630 --> 00:25:08,550
We went to go see AJ qualify
upstate Lake Placid,
553
00:25:08,633 --> 00:25:10,677
and this guy from Italy
named Cicini,
554
00:25:10,760 --> 00:25:12,387
named Jean-Luc Cicini,
555
00:25:12,470 --> 00:25:14,139
he crashed
at the top of the run,
556
00:25:14,180 --> 00:25:16,433
and his little sled went down
without him,
557
00:25:16,474 --> 00:25:18,143
and the sled on its own
558
00:25:18,184 --> 00:25:20,103
finished in fourth place.
559
00:25:26,026 --> 00:25:27,986
And I think
about that every day,
560
00:25:28,069 --> 00:25:30,405
'cause my brother's always like,
"It's a skill sport."
561
00:25:30,488 --> 00:25:32,574
And I'm like,
"It's gravity, AJ!"
562
00:25:34,617 --> 00:25:38,204
A corpse and some duct tape
would medal in this event.
563
00:25:38,747 --> 00:25:39,831
You turn on the Olympics
564
00:25:39,914 --> 00:25:42,000
and Bob Costas would be like,
"Wow, Tom!
565
00:25:42,042 --> 00:25:44,586
Look at Simmons keeping
his shoulders so still
566
00:25:44,669 --> 00:25:45,670
in those corners."
567
00:25:53,928 --> 00:25:56,473
Also, I had no faith in him.
568
00:25:56,556 --> 00:25:58,683
No. Like, whenever
they interview athlete families,
569
00:25:58,725 --> 00:26:00,852
they're always like, "We knew."
I'm like, "You knew?"
570
00:26:00,894 --> 00:26:02,854
"Oh, we knew that Megan
was special
571
00:26:02,937 --> 00:26:05,357
and she would lead
the women's team to the World--"
572
00:26:05,440 --> 00:26:07,400
There was none of that
in my house.
573
00:26:07,484 --> 00:26:09,361
I made fun of my brother
every day.
574
00:26:09,444 --> 00:26:12,739
I called him "The Frozen Chosen"
for like four years in a row.
575
00:26:16,701 --> 00:26:19,245
And then my mom was like,
"Stop calling him that."
576
00:26:19,329 --> 00:26:22,540
And this is gonna be too Jewish
for a couple of you,
577
00:26:22,624 --> 00:26:24,334
but I switched over
to "Shul Runnings"
578
00:26:24,376 --> 00:26:31,383
- and I am so proud.
579
00:26:31,549 --> 00:26:33,009
Shul means synagogue in Yiddish.
580
00:26:33,051 --> 00:26:34,969
We had T-shirts made.
It's like a whole thing.
581
00:26:35,053 --> 00:26:37,263
We're at...
We're at the Olympics.
582
00:26:37,347 --> 00:26:38,556
We're sitting on this bus
583
00:26:38,640 --> 00:26:40,600
from the Olympic village
to the venue.
584
00:26:40,684 --> 00:26:43,228
And this Israeli reporter
was interviewing AJ
585
00:26:43,269 --> 00:26:44,479
and he was like, "Adam...
586
00:26:46,606 --> 00:26:47,649
...what was it like
when you found out
587
00:26:47,732 --> 00:26:49,567
you were going
to be...
588
00:26:49,609 --> 00:26:52,237
- ...an Olympian?"
589
00:26:52,278 --> 00:26:54,572
And AJ was like, "Oh, Guri,
590
00:26:54,614 --> 00:26:57,200
no one was more surprised
than I was."
591
00:26:57,242 --> 00:27:01,204
And out loud on Israeli TV,
I just went, "That's not true."
592
00:27:04,624 --> 00:27:06,418
"It's not true.
I bet my dad 50 dollars
593
00:27:06,501 --> 00:27:07,919
that he wouldn't make
the Olympics."
594
00:27:07,961 --> 00:27:11,006
- But he did.
He made the Olympics.
595
00:27:11,089 --> 00:27:13,258
He's one of
the 30 best skeleton athletes
596
00:27:13,299 --> 00:27:14,217
on the planet,
597
00:27:14,259 --> 00:27:16,469
out of the 42 skeleton athletes
on the planet.
598
00:27:18,513 --> 00:27:19,764
And he did it for Israel.
599
00:27:19,848 --> 00:27:21,683
And that's a whole
separate kettle of fish,
600
00:27:21,766 --> 00:27:24,769
but we are proudly
and emphatically Jewish.
601
00:27:24,811 --> 00:27:26,438
And it's a huge part
of my background
602
00:27:26,521 --> 00:27:27,731
and my upbringing
603
00:27:27,772 --> 00:27:30,734
and the filter through which
I see the world, but...
604
00:27:32,736 --> 00:27:34,446
- but...
605
00:27:37,907 --> 00:27:41,369
...when I'm standing
in this apartment
606
00:27:41,453 --> 00:27:43,872
in Queens and this guy says,
607
00:27:43,955 --> 00:27:46,583
"What's your name?"
I tell him my name's Alex,
608
00:27:46,624 --> 00:27:48,793
'cause I'm not gonna give him
the backstory.
609
00:27:48,877 --> 00:27:52,547
- I said, "I'm Alex."
610
00:27:52,589 --> 00:27:55,300
And of course,
I said, "How about you, man?"
611
00:27:57,886 --> 00:27:59,179
"Like, what's your name?"
612
00:28:00,347 --> 00:28:03,641
And the guy thought about it.
613
00:28:03,683 --> 00:28:05,894
- He just went...
614
00:28:10,357 --> 00:28:11,983
"My name's Cortez."
615
00:28:12,067 --> 00:28:15,153
And I said, "I'm sorry,
your name is Cortez?"
616
00:28:15,195 --> 00:28:16,988
And with a real knife
in his voice,
617
00:28:17,030 --> 00:28:19,240
the guy just said,
"We don't give real names
618
00:28:19,324 --> 00:28:21,826
to people who are here
for the first time."
619
00:28:23,828 --> 00:28:26,498
And he looked directly
into my face.
620
00:28:26,539 --> 00:28:27,707
And I'm trying
to look back at him,
621
00:28:27,791 --> 00:28:29,084
like not too aggressive,
622
00:28:29,167 --> 00:28:31,670
but also not like a coward,
and it's very awkward.
623
00:28:31,711 --> 00:28:33,213
There's like a real moment
of tension.
624
00:28:33,296 --> 00:28:35,757
But that tension
is broken fairly quickly,
625
00:28:35,840 --> 00:28:37,717
'cause this guy
just came crossing
626
00:28:37,801 --> 00:28:39,094
from the other side of the room
627
00:28:39,177 --> 00:28:40,553
and he looked at us,
and he just went,
628
00:28:40,637 --> 00:28:48,019
-"Hey, Matt, we're starting."
629
00:28:50,063 --> 00:28:53,024
And I was like,
"Nice to meet you, Cortez."
630
00:28:54,734 --> 00:28:56,194
And then we start.
631
00:28:57,529 --> 00:28:58,738
We start.
632
00:28:59,781 --> 00:29:01,700
There was a moment
before I walked in
633
00:29:01,783 --> 00:29:03,410
where I was like,
"All right, if I get scared,
634
00:29:03,493 --> 00:29:05,954
I won't... I won't try
anything fancy, I will leave.
635
00:29:06,037 --> 00:29:08,498
I will excuse myself
to the bathroom and just go."
636
00:29:08,540 --> 00:29:10,500
But nothing scary
is happening yet.
637
00:29:10,542 --> 00:29:12,377
People are just
pulling up chairs
638
00:29:12,419 --> 00:29:13,420
to the middle of the room,
639
00:29:13,503 --> 00:29:15,338
and everything's like
a little higgledy-piggledy.
640
00:29:15,380 --> 00:29:17,716
But we wind up
with like a ragged circle
641
00:29:17,799 --> 00:29:19,843
of chairs
that doesn't quite close
642
00:29:19,884 --> 00:29:21,761
all the way on the end
over here.
643
00:29:21,845 --> 00:29:23,847
It's like a semicircle
or like...
644
00:29:23,888 --> 00:29:25,348
an anti-semicircle.
645
00:29:25,390 --> 00:29:29,185
- It's...
646
00:29:29,227 --> 00:29:31,896
I'm over here.
I'm over here.
647
00:29:33,273 --> 00:29:34,899
I'm over here.
648
00:29:34,941 --> 00:29:37,569
There's, uh...
There are 17 of us, okay?
649
00:29:37,652 --> 00:29:38,653
I'm gonna say us.
650
00:29:38,737 --> 00:29:40,572
I'm gonna lump myself in
logistically.
651
00:29:40,655 --> 00:29:41,865
Seventeen of us.
652
00:29:41,948 --> 00:29:45,827
Twelve men, five women,
including Chelsea, my new love.
653
00:29:47,746 --> 00:29:49,664
Chelsea's, like, two,
three seats away from me
654
00:29:49,748 --> 00:29:51,750
on this side.
This side of the circle,
655
00:29:51,833 --> 00:29:54,085
a little bit younger
than this side of the circle.
656
00:29:54,127 --> 00:29:56,963
But this side of the circle
seems to know each other.
657
00:29:57,047 --> 00:29:58,590
Much better,
a little more engaged,
658
00:29:58,631 --> 00:29:59,716
a little more hardcore.
659
00:29:59,758 --> 00:30:02,719
This side, of course,
has Cortez, my pal.
660
00:30:04,262 --> 00:30:05,805
He's, like, um,
661
00:30:05,889 --> 00:30:07,515
five, six seats away from me
on this side,
662
00:30:07,599 --> 00:30:11,311
jigsaw lady's sitting
next to him, and we start.
663
00:30:12,604 --> 00:30:14,272
We start.
664
00:30:15,565 --> 00:30:18,860
And for the first 15
or so minutes of this meeting,
665
00:30:18,943 --> 00:30:22,572
these guys talked
about the royal wedding.
666
00:30:24,616 --> 00:30:25,742
Meghan and Harry.
667
00:30:25,784 --> 00:30:27,952
It had happened
since they last got together,
668
00:30:27,994 --> 00:30:29,454
and they were upset about it.
669
00:30:29,537 --> 00:30:32,499
And it took me
way longer than it should have
670
00:30:32,582 --> 00:30:34,292
to realize why they were upset.
671
00:30:38,630 --> 00:30:42,967
Meghan Markle's mixed race.
Of course she is. I forgot that.
672
00:30:43,051 --> 00:30:45,178
I forgot.
You know who didn't forget?
673
00:30:45,261 --> 00:30:47,430
- White nationalists.
They're very upset.
674
00:30:47,472 --> 00:30:50,308
They prefer that he marry
a first cousin as per usual.
675
00:30:52,477 --> 00:30:54,229
Uh, real quick,
676
00:30:54,312 --> 00:30:55,647
I have a connection
to Prince Harry,
677
00:30:55,730 --> 00:30:58,483
which is that my friend Jack
once did cocaine with him
678
00:30:58,566 --> 00:31:01,861
- in a London nightclub bathroom.
679
00:31:01,945 --> 00:31:03,697
All right,
that did not get the reaction
680
00:31:03,780 --> 00:31:05,740
- that I wanted from you.
681
00:31:05,824 --> 00:31:07,325
I will sidebar for this.
682
00:31:07,367 --> 00:31:09,327
Prince Harry had
a cocaine problem.
683
00:31:09,369 --> 00:31:10,537
It's the best thing.
684
00:31:10,620 --> 00:31:11,705
We don't talk about it enough
685
00:31:11,788 --> 00:31:13,164
as a culture.
It's in the new book.
686
00:31:13,206 --> 00:31:15,917
It's fantastic.
I don't approve of cocaine,
687
00:31:16,001 --> 00:31:18,169
but I love that Prince Harry
had a cocaine problem.
688
00:31:18,211 --> 00:31:20,588
Because in America,
we forget this.
689
00:31:20,672 --> 00:31:23,800
But in England, the Queen
is on all of the money.
690
00:31:29,097 --> 00:31:30,932
So that means at some point,
691
00:31:31,016 --> 00:31:34,686
Prince Harry rolled up
a picture of his grandmother
692
00:31:34,728 --> 00:31:36,354
to do drugs that he bought
693
00:31:36,438 --> 00:31:39,357
with other pictures
of his grandmother.
694
00:31:41,026 --> 00:31:44,195
That will never happen
to any of you.
695
00:31:44,279 --> 00:31:46,823
None of you can walk
into Times Square after this
696
00:31:46,865 --> 00:31:48,533
and the drug dealer's like,
"Excuse me,
697
00:31:48,575 --> 00:31:50,994
that'll be 300 dollars."
And you're like, "Excuse me.
698
00:31:51,077 --> 00:31:54,622
Here's a picture of my grandma
at her 50th Jubilee parade."
699
00:31:54,706 --> 00:31:55,749
He's like, "What?"
700
00:31:55,832 --> 00:31:57,334
You're like,
"Here's a picture of my grandma
701
00:31:57,417 --> 00:31:58,209
with Winston Churchill."
702
00:31:58,251 --> 00:31:59,377
And he's like,
"How'd you get this?"
703
00:31:59,419 --> 00:32:01,087
And you're like,
"Here's a picture of my grandma
704
00:32:01,171 --> 00:32:03,882
planning the death of my mom."
It only works for him.
705
00:32:06,343 --> 00:32:08,386
What are you gonna do
about it though, huh?
706
00:32:09,721 --> 00:32:11,890
What, are you gonna tell people
not to watch the special?
707
00:32:11,973 --> 00:32:13,683
Fuck you. What are you gonna do?
708
00:32:16,186 --> 00:32:17,354
Just 'cause it's not
in The Crown,
709
00:32:17,395 --> 00:32:19,439
doesn't mean it didn't happen.
Grow the fuck up.
710
00:32:23,485 --> 00:32:24,569
By the way,
711
00:32:24,611 --> 00:32:27,113
just so you know,
cocaine has no effect on me.
712
00:32:27,197 --> 00:32:29,074
- None. Zero.
713
00:32:29,115 --> 00:32:30,742
Because I'm part
of this generation
714
00:32:30,784 --> 00:32:34,204
of over-medicated ADHD children.
715
00:32:34,245 --> 00:32:36,206
Do you know what I mean?
Like, someone offered me cocaine
716
00:32:36,247 --> 00:32:38,375
a couple of years ago,
and I tried it,
717
00:32:38,416 --> 00:32:40,293
and they were like,
"How do you feel?"
718
00:32:40,377 --> 00:32:43,546
And I was like,
"Like there's homework to do!"
719
00:32:52,263 --> 00:32:54,641
"Do you feel like dancing?
We're going dancing."
720
00:32:54,724 --> 00:32:55,642
And I'm like, "I can't,
721
00:32:55,725 --> 00:32:58,019
I'm putting a bibliography
together, aren't I?"
722
00:33:01,272 --> 00:33:03,316
I'm gonna get started
on the secondary sources.
723
00:33:03,400 --> 00:33:05,610
You fact-check
the primary sources.
724
00:33:07,195 --> 00:33:09,030
Where are you going?
We need 3,000 words
725
00:33:09,114 --> 00:33:10,907
on Moby Dick by Thursday.
726
00:33:17,747 --> 00:33:21,042
Anyway. They're upset.
727
00:33:21,126 --> 00:33:24,295
And this is a huge group
of nodders.
728
00:33:24,379 --> 00:33:26,506
Like, if anyone ever agreed
with anything, they were like,
729
00:33:26,589 --> 00:33:29,467
"Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm."
730
00:33:29,509 --> 00:33:31,302
And someone's like,
"It's a disgrace."
731
00:33:31,386 --> 00:33:33,221
And everyone's like,
"It's a disgrace!"
732
00:33:33,304 --> 00:33:38,309
- "It's a disgrace."
733
00:33:38,393 --> 00:33:40,145
And someone else was like,
"It represents
734
00:33:40,186 --> 00:33:41,646
the sorry state of the West."
735
00:33:41,730 --> 00:33:43,231
And everyone's like, "The West?
736
00:33:43,314 --> 00:33:46,151
What happened to our standards
in the West?"
737
00:33:53,450 --> 00:33:55,035
And jigsaw lady.
738
00:33:56,036 --> 00:33:58,955
Jigsaw-- I'm fascinated
by this person.
739
00:33:58,997 --> 00:34:00,415
Not much for eye contact.
740
00:34:00,498 --> 00:34:03,001
Always looking at her shoes,
like they owed her money.
741
00:34:03,043 --> 00:34:04,544
- Always straight down.
742
00:34:04,627 --> 00:34:07,839
But whenever she spoke,
you knew who was talking.
743
00:34:07,922 --> 00:34:09,799
No one else had a register
like this.
744
00:34:09,841 --> 00:34:11,051
And at some point,
she just went,
745
00:34:11,134 --> 00:34:13,053
"Didn't just happen though,
did it?
746
00:34:15,388 --> 00:34:17,557
Didn't just happen
is what we've come to.
747
00:34:19,017 --> 00:34:20,435
This is what we've come to.
748
00:34:20,518 --> 00:34:23,855
A member of the royal family
marrying a--"
749
00:34:23,938 --> 00:34:25,315
And then...
750
00:34:26,649 --> 00:34:29,986
- she uses the N-word.
751
00:34:30,028 --> 00:34:33,573
And Chelsea just said...
752
00:34:33,656 --> 00:34:34,699
"You know...
753
00:34:36,034 --> 00:34:38,536
I'm not crazy
about that word actually."
754
00:34:38,620 --> 00:34:43,041
And I thought to myself,
"There's a spectrum of Nazi?"
755
00:34:50,757 --> 00:34:53,385
I kept falling in love
with Chelsea a little bit.
756
00:34:54,844 --> 00:34:56,179
I did, for two reasons.
757
00:34:56,221 --> 00:34:57,931
- First of all, you never know.
758
00:34:58,014 --> 00:34:59,599
Second of all--
Right? You never know.
759
00:34:59,683 --> 00:35:02,727
Second of all,
I love romantic comedy films.
760
00:35:06,356 --> 00:35:08,066
Right? You wouldn't watch this?
761
00:35:08,108 --> 00:35:11,528
What a great meet-cute
for a rom-com, no?
762
00:35:11,569 --> 00:35:14,572
We meet at this meeting.
She's played by Anne Hathaway.
763
00:35:14,656 --> 00:35:16,741
I like to imagine
I've booked the role of myself,
764
00:35:16,825 --> 00:35:18,743
but if we're being honest,
it's Jesse Eisenberg
765
00:35:18,785 --> 00:35:20,078
- or skinny Jonah Hill.
766
00:35:20,161 --> 00:35:21,162
And like,
we meet at this meeting.
767
00:35:21,246 --> 00:35:22,288
And we start dating,
768
00:35:22,372 --> 00:35:23,498
and I have to hide the fact
that I'm Jewish.
769
00:35:23,581 --> 00:35:25,000
And eventually,
we start sleeping together,
770
00:35:25,083 --> 00:35:26,334
and she's like,
"Why are you circumcised?"
771
00:35:26,418 --> 00:35:27,460
And I'm like,
"Don't worry about it."
772
00:35:27,544 --> 00:35:28,837
And, like, things are going
really amazing,
773
00:35:28,920 --> 00:35:30,505
and I get down on one knee
towards the end of the film
774
00:35:30,588 --> 00:35:32,048
at the top
of the Empire State Building,
775
00:35:32,090 --> 00:35:33,258
in the rain, it's a rom-com.
776
00:35:33,299 --> 00:35:35,427
And as I open up
my ring box to propose,
777
00:35:35,510 --> 00:35:37,387
I lock eyes
with my TALMA teacher
778
00:35:37,429 --> 00:35:39,514
from fifth grade,
and I'm like, "Rabbi Klammer?"
779
00:35:39,597 --> 00:35:40,974
And he's like,
"David Yosef Shimon Edelman?"
780
00:35:41,057 --> 00:35:42,100
And she's like...
781
00:35:42,142 --> 00:35:43,226
And she runs away.
782
00:35:43,268 --> 00:35:45,145
But her best friend,
Rebel Wilson, is like,
783
00:35:45,228 --> 00:35:47,480
"Girl, you gotta go back to him.
He is a good man."
784
00:35:47,564 --> 00:35:51,109
And so we reunite, and we kiss,
and the last scene of the movie,
785
00:35:51,192 --> 00:35:53,486
we're married
in my parents' synagogue, right?
786
00:35:53,570 --> 00:35:55,113
Like that's how that would go.
787
00:35:59,993 --> 00:36:03,204
You know, on Broadway,
I've had to explain that to--
788
00:36:03,288 --> 00:36:04,873
The stomp to people.
789
00:36:05,957 --> 00:36:07,876
So, like,
if you guys don't know,
790
00:36:07,959 --> 00:36:11,004
when Jews get married,
they wrap a glass up in a napkin
791
00:36:11,087 --> 00:36:15,008
and then they crush the glass
because the glass represents...
792
00:36:15,091 --> 00:36:17,135
happiness.
So, you're just like, bam.
793
00:36:26,144 --> 00:36:28,438
Here's the problem
with my rom-com.
794
00:36:28,480 --> 00:36:30,982
I date very assertive women.
I always have.
795
00:36:31,066 --> 00:36:33,651
So, what would really happen is,
we'd meet at this meeting,
796
00:36:33,735 --> 00:36:37,155
we'd start dating,
and then three weeks later...
797
00:36:37,197 --> 00:36:38,948
...I would be a Nazi.
798
00:36:42,660 --> 00:36:44,537
I'd be standing
on my parents' front lawn
799
00:36:44,621 --> 00:36:46,748
in Brookline, Massachusetts,
holding a brick,
800
00:36:46,790 --> 00:36:48,166
and she'd be like, "Do it."
801
00:36:48,249 --> 00:36:49,250
And I'm like...
802
00:36:53,338 --> 00:36:56,049
-"Hi, Eema."
803
00:36:56,132 --> 00:36:58,802
"Hi, Mom, this is Chelsea.
This is Matt--
804
00:36:58,843 --> 00:37:03,515
- Sorry, this is Cortez."
805
00:37:15,777 --> 00:37:18,363
There's so much complaining
in this room.
806
00:37:19,572 --> 00:37:20,657
That's the first thing that--
807
00:37:20,699 --> 00:37:23,284
There's so much kvetching
in this room.
808
00:37:24,369 --> 00:37:25,453
This is around the time
809
00:37:25,537 --> 00:37:26,871
they were taking down
Confederate statues.
810
00:37:26,955 --> 00:37:29,040
Remember that?
They're very upset about that.
811
00:37:29,082 --> 00:37:32,794
They talked a lot about how
White history is being erased.
812
00:37:32,877 --> 00:37:35,714
They're taking down statues
of White people.
813
00:37:35,797 --> 00:37:38,216
They're pulling White people
out of textbooks.
814
00:37:38,258 --> 00:37:39,384
Someone over here says,
815
00:37:39,467 --> 00:37:41,011
"They don't even teach
about White men
816
00:37:41,052 --> 00:37:42,429
in public schools anymore."
817
00:37:42,512 --> 00:37:45,557
- And everyone's like, "Mm-hmm."
818
00:37:45,640 --> 00:37:46,725
"Mm-hmm."
819
00:37:48,560 --> 00:37:49,769
And White people
aren't just being replaced
820
00:37:49,853 --> 00:37:52,731
in the classroom.
It's happening in real life.
821
00:37:52,772 --> 00:37:55,400
It's happening in real life
in their own country,
822
00:37:55,442 --> 00:37:58,903
in their own country,
it's a disgrace.
823
00:38:01,406 --> 00:38:02,699
It's a disgrace.
824
00:38:03,742 --> 00:38:06,161
And what's enabling
this replacement?
825
00:38:06,244 --> 00:38:08,872
What's enabling,
as the guy next to me says,
826
00:38:08,913 --> 00:38:12,584
"The slow-moving genocide
against Whites in America"?
827
00:38:14,919 --> 00:38:16,087
It's this myth.
828
00:38:16,880 --> 00:38:18,882
It's this myth
of White privilege.
829
00:38:18,923 --> 00:38:21,509
And this myth drives
so much of the stuff they hate.
830
00:38:21,593 --> 00:38:23,678
It drives diversity
hiring initiatives.
831
00:38:23,762 --> 00:38:26,514
It drives a popular culture
they despise!
832
00:38:26,598 --> 00:38:28,099
Despise.
833
00:38:28,141 --> 00:38:31,019
And it drives reverse racism,
which is when people are racist
834
00:38:31,102 --> 00:38:34,397
against White people
just because they're White.
835
00:38:34,439 --> 00:38:38,276
And then someone over here says,
"It's the biggest problem
836
00:38:38,360 --> 00:38:39,652
in the country today,
837
00:38:39,736 --> 00:38:42,030
and no one is brave enough
to talk about it."
838
00:38:42,113 --> 00:38:47,744
- And everyone's like,
"Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm."
839
00:38:52,832 --> 00:38:55,543
And I can give you
two guesses...
840
00:38:55,627 --> 00:38:58,463
...at who they blame
for this kind of thing.
841
00:39:00,632 --> 00:39:02,967
And you might not need
your second guess.
842
00:39:04,302 --> 00:39:05,720
Because running
through this meeting
843
00:39:05,804 --> 00:39:08,431
is this thick vein
of antisemitism,
844
00:39:08,473 --> 00:39:11,142
but I've never seen this kind
of antisemitism before.
845
00:39:11,184 --> 00:39:12,811
It's almost exhilarating.
846
00:39:12,852 --> 00:39:16,064
It's like thick,
Technicolor, weapons-grade,
847
00:39:16,147 --> 00:39:19,567
conspiracy-theory level anti--
Like, at some point,
848
00:39:19,651 --> 00:39:22,320
this guy two seats away
from me, he just went,
849
00:39:22,362 --> 00:39:26,491
"Jews are sneaky
and they're everywhere!"
850
00:39:26,533 --> 00:39:31,162
- And I was like...
851
00:39:37,460 --> 00:39:38,503
"Seems like the wrong time
852
00:39:38,586 --> 00:39:40,797
to argue
with this guy actually."
853
00:39:41,881 --> 00:39:43,842
"That's a disgrace."
"That's a disgrace."
854
00:39:48,304 --> 00:39:50,640
I see myself very much as a Jew.
855
00:39:51,891 --> 00:39:56,604
Obviously. But I see myself more
than anything else as a Jew.
856
00:39:56,688 --> 00:39:57,856
Like when I wake up
in the morning,
857
00:39:57,939 --> 00:40:00,275
my first thought is like,
"Jew waking up."
858
00:40:05,196 --> 00:40:07,157
And not just Jewish religious,
859
00:40:07,198 --> 00:40:11,161
observant, thoughtful
about what it means in my life.
860
00:40:11,202 --> 00:40:12,287
If I was very secular,
861
00:40:12,370 --> 00:40:14,247
I'd be a completely
different human being.
862
00:40:14,330 --> 00:40:16,291
Complete-- If I was very secular
in a fun,
863
00:40:16,332 --> 00:40:19,127
liberal city like New York
or San Francisco,
864
00:40:19,169 --> 00:40:21,379
I think I'd consider
myself bisexual.
865
00:40:21,463 --> 00:40:23,089
But because
I was raised religious
866
00:40:23,173 --> 00:40:24,215
in a place like Boston,
867
00:40:24,257 --> 00:40:27,594
I consider myself straight
with a couple of secrets.
868
00:40:32,932 --> 00:40:35,727
And I remember the first time
I was aware of being Jewish.
869
00:40:35,769 --> 00:40:37,395
I should have been aware,
like, eight days in.
870
00:40:37,479 --> 00:40:42,108
- But the first time
I was aware...
871
00:40:42,192 --> 00:40:45,070
The first time I was aware,
I was, like, five years old.
872
00:40:45,111 --> 00:40:48,281
I'm at a Chuck E. Cheese
at a children's birthday party
873
00:40:48,365 --> 00:40:49,866
in Natick, Massachusetts.
874
00:40:49,908 --> 00:40:51,576
And I reached for
a slice of pizza
875
00:40:51,659 --> 00:40:53,453
that had some sausage on it
or pepperoni,
876
00:40:53,536 --> 00:40:54,746
something not kosher.
877
00:40:54,829 --> 00:40:57,665
And my grandfather was there,
and he saw me reaching,
878
00:40:57,749 --> 00:41:00,377
and he kicked my hand. Kicked.
879
00:41:02,003 --> 00:41:03,797
And he said,
"You can't have that, David.
880
00:41:03,880 --> 00:41:06,508
We're Jewish." And I said,
"What does that mean?"
881
00:41:06,591 --> 00:41:08,885
And with a totally
straight face, he just went,
882
00:41:08,927 --> 00:41:10,762
"It means you'll never
be happy."
883
00:41:20,689 --> 00:41:23,441
And I said, "Be'emet?"
which means, "For real?"
884
00:41:23,483 --> 00:41:26,027
And he went, "Oh, yeah."
And I said, "Why?"
885
00:41:26,111 --> 00:41:27,612
And he said,
"It means you'll never be happy
886
00:41:27,654 --> 00:41:28,655
with the way things are.
887
00:41:28,738 --> 00:41:30,240
And you'll always
question things.
888
00:41:30,281 --> 00:41:31,783
And even when things
are pretty good,
889
00:41:31,825 --> 00:41:33,451
they won't seem
that good to you."
890
00:41:33,535 --> 00:41:36,579
And I said,
"Papa, I don't wanna be Jewish!"
891
00:41:36,621 --> 00:41:39,416
And then my grandfather
laughed at me.
892
00:41:39,457 --> 00:41:41,459
And he just went...
"Sweetie,
893
00:41:41,501 --> 00:41:43,628
that's the most Jewish thing
there is."
894
00:41:48,633 --> 00:41:52,262
And it blows my mind
when I meet non-Jews,
895
00:41:52,303 --> 00:41:55,015
and they say things to me
like, "Oh, well, I get it
896
00:41:55,098 --> 00:41:57,183
'cause I used
to be a Christian, so."
897
00:41:59,060 --> 00:42:00,770
"Sorry, what?"
"Well, I was raised Christian,
898
00:42:00,812 --> 00:42:02,814
but a couple years ago,
I decided I was nothing, so."
899
00:42:05,900 --> 00:42:07,485
- No--
900
00:42:07,569 --> 00:42:09,738
I understand
that intellectually.
901
00:42:09,821 --> 00:42:11,990
I respect that, of course.
902
00:42:12,032 --> 00:42:16,411
But that is not
how it works in Judaism.
903
00:42:16,494 --> 00:42:18,997
You can't leave
when you feel like it.
904
00:42:19,039 --> 00:42:22,792
Judaism is the Hotel California
of religions.
905
00:42:24,336 --> 00:42:25,337
It is a mailing list,
906
00:42:25,420 --> 00:42:27,922
you can never
"unsubscribe" from.
907
00:42:29,174 --> 00:42:31,634
And I worry
that I'm not Jewish enough.
908
00:42:31,676 --> 00:42:32,844
I worry that.
909
00:42:32,927 --> 00:42:35,013
I-- Which is crazy,
'cause to my comedy friends,
910
00:42:35,096 --> 00:42:37,098
I'm the most Jewish person
they've ever met.
911
00:42:37,182 --> 00:42:39,517
I'm a beard away
from their conception of rabbi.
912
00:42:40,769 --> 00:42:43,521
And to my family, I'm Lady Gaga.
913
00:42:47,525 --> 00:42:48,693
I called my father once.
914
00:42:48,735 --> 00:42:51,696
My father is this lovely,
thoughtful professor
915
00:42:51,738 --> 00:42:53,907
at Harvard Medical School,
religious,
916
00:42:53,990 --> 00:42:55,700
wears a yarmulke,
a kippah.
917
00:42:55,742 --> 00:42:57,952
Every single day of his life.
If something goes well,
918
00:42:58,036 --> 00:43:00,038
he says, "Baruch Hashem."
"Thank God."
919
00:43:00,121 --> 00:43:02,707
And I called him,
I said, "Dad, Abba, I worry
920
00:43:02,749 --> 00:43:05,043
that the life that I lead
isn't Jewish enough."
921
00:43:05,126 --> 00:43:07,504
And he said, "Alex,
I understand that concern."
922
00:43:07,545 --> 00:43:08,922
And I said,
"Do you ever worry about that?"
923
00:43:09,005 --> 00:43:11,049
And he said,
"Of course. I worry every day
924
00:43:11,132 --> 00:43:13,510
that the life that you lead
isn't Jewish enough."
925
00:43:18,431 --> 00:43:23,520
And I am so tough on other Jews.
I am relentless with other Jews.
926
00:43:23,561 --> 00:43:25,563
It's my least favorite thing
about myself.
927
00:43:25,605 --> 00:43:27,899
Like... Like,
I was at a friend's house.
928
00:43:27,941 --> 00:43:29,693
I'm meeting my friend's baby.
929
00:43:29,734 --> 00:43:33,238
So many of my friends
are having babies or adopting.
930
00:43:33,321 --> 00:43:36,199
I'm thinking a lot
about adoption, but I'm 34.
931
00:43:36,241 --> 00:43:37,075
And I think for adoption,
932
00:43:37,117 --> 00:43:39,828
that's right on the line,
age-wise.
933
00:43:39,911 --> 00:43:41,121
Right?
Like, I think that's too old.
934
00:43:41,204 --> 00:43:43,039
I don't think anyone
is gonna take me at this point.
935
00:43:43,081 --> 00:43:46,668
- But like--
936
00:43:48,503 --> 00:43:51,256
I'm holding...
I'm holding this baby,
937
00:43:51,339 --> 00:43:54,092
and the baby starts to cry.
Oh, baby's name is Yasi.
938
00:43:54,134 --> 00:43:56,469
My friend's name is Mati.
His wife's name is Rahel.
939
00:43:56,553 --> 00:43:58,763
- These are normal names
where I'm from.
940
00:43:58,805 --> 00:44:00,348
They are.
Those are normal names.
941
00:44:00,432 --> 00:44:01,433
And I'm holding the baby,
942
00:44:01,516 --> 00:44:03,476
and he starts to cry,
which is fine.
943
00:44:03,560 --> 00:44:05,145
He's a baby. But Rahel,
944
00:44:05,228 --> 00:44:07,522
who I don't think's
ever really liked me,
945
00:44:07,605 --> 00:44:11,568
- just went, "Huh."
946
00:44:11,609 --> 00:44:14,029
"Looks like he's not
a fan of yours, is he?"
947
00:44:15,613 --> 00:44:19,284
And I said,
"It's fine. He's a baby."
948
00:44:19,367 --> 00:44:22,662
And she said, "He actually has
a really good sense for men."
949
00:44:24,873 --> 00:44:26,791
And I said, "He doesn't have
a good sense for anything.
950
00:44:26,833 --> 00:44:28,918
He doesn't even know
he's alive yet."
951
00:44:28,960 --> 00:44:32,005
And apparently,
never say this to a new mother.
952
00:44:32,088 --> 00:44:35,133
I said, "He's just like
a brisket with eyes right now."
953
00:44:44,142 --> 00:44:46,061
And she said,
"He's very intuitive."
954
00:44:46,144 --> 00:44:49,439
And I said,
"He's not. He shits himself."
955
00:44:50,648 --> 00:44:52,984
And the husband,
who I've known forever,
956
00:44:53,026 --> 00:44:54,694
he's seen enough
and he just went,
957
00:44:54,778 --> 00:44:57,489
"Whoa! Whoa--"
Still calls me David.
958
00:44:57,572 --> 00:44:58,656
That's how long
I've known this guy.
959
00:44:58,698 --> 00:44:59,657
I've known this guy forever.
960
00:44:59,699 --> 00:45:01,826
And he went,
"Whoa! Sorry, David,
961
00:45:01,910 --> 00:45:04,496
we're a little uptight-- We are.
We're a little uptight,
962
00:45:04,537 --> 00:45:05,914
'cause people have been
judging us
963
00:45:05,997 --> 00:45:07,707
for the way
that we're raising the baby."
964
00:45:07,791 --> 00:45:09,417
And I said,
"What do you mean?"
965
00:45:09,459 --> 00:45:12,170
And he said,
"Well, we've decide--
966
00:45:12,212 --> 00:45:15,632
We've decided
that we're not gonna vaccinate
967
00:45:15,674 --> 00:45:17,342
until we know a bit more."
968
00:45:17,425 --> 00:45:18,843
And I was like, "Against COVID,
969
00:45:18,927 --> 00:45:20,845
you don't need to.
He's an infant."
970
00:45:20,929 --> 00:45:24,432
He's like, "Not against COVID,
against like mumps and measles
971
00:45:24,516 --> 00:45:25,558
and the other stuff."
972
00:45:25,642 --> 00:45:30,021
- And I was like, "Oh!"
973
00:45:30,105 --> 00:45:34,401
"Oh, well, first of all,
here's your disease baby back."
974
00:45:44,786 --> 00:45:47,747
"Second of all,
what are you talking about?"
975
00:45:47,831 --> 00:45:49,040
And he said, "Well, we've read
976
00:45:49,082 --> 00:45:50,834
that the vaccines
can cause autism."
977
00:45:50,875 --> 00:45:52,836
And I said, "That is not true."
978
00:45:52,877 --> 00:45:55,380
And Rahel went,
"What do you know about autism?"
979
00:45:55,463 --> 00:45:59,342
And I was like, "First of all,
I've been tested 11 times."
980
00:46:02,679 --> 00:46:03,805
"You think you get like this
981
00:46:03,888 --> 00:46:06,850
without people asking
a couple of questions?"
982
00:46:08,560 --> 00:46:10,186
I am so neurodivergent.
983
00:46:10,228 --> 00:46:13,481
I saw so many
child psychiatrists growing up
984
00:46:13,565 --> 00:46:14,816
in the Greater Boston area,
985
00:46:14,899 --> 00:46:16,735
the last one was free.
986
00:46:16,818 --> 00:46:18,403
And I just have, like,
one memory.
987
00:46:18,445 --> 00:46:21,406
I'm sitting on this brown couch
in this doctor's office,
988
00:46:21,448 --> 00:46:22,323
and my mom is outside
989
00:46:22,407 --> 00:46:24,159
in the waiting room talking
to the doctor.
990
00:46:24,242 --> 00:46:25,910
And I just remember
hearing her go,
991
00:46:25,994 --> 00:46:27,787
"What do you mean, 'He's fine?'"
992
00:46:43,178 --> 00:46:47,390
And I was like, "Yeah,
vaccines don't cause autism."
993
00:46:47,432 --> 00:46:48,308
"Mati, you know that."
994
00:46:48,391 --> 00:46:50,727
And like,
it ends the conversation.
995
00:46:50,769 --> 00:46:52,270
He just went, "Well...
996
00:46:53,980 --> 00:46:55,440
it's our opinion, isn't it?
997
00:46:57,233 --> 00:46:59,903
We're his parents.
It's our opinion."
998
00:46:59,944 --> 00:47:02,113
And I don't know
that I would do this
999
00:47:02,155 --> 00:47:05,075
with someone who wasn't Jewish,
but I just went,
1000
00:47:05,116 --> 00:47:07,619
"Oh, and you guys
are embarrassed."
1001
00:47:09,162 --> 00:47:10,372
"Right, you're mortified,
1002
00:47:10,455 --> 00:47:12,624
'cause it's such
a low-information opinion."
1003
00:47:16,294 --> 00:47:17,796
"'Cause there's no basis
in science,
1004
00:47:17,837 --> 00:47:19,005
and it's so bad for the child,
1005
00:47:19,089 --> 00:47:20,507
so you probably
don't tell people."
1006
00:47:22,842 --> 00:47:24,511
"Something so ill-informed."
1007
00:47:26,346 --> 00:47:29,974
And he said,
"Excuse me, we're his parents.
1008
00:47:30,016 --> 00:47:31,017
You don't have children.
1009
00:47:31,101 --> 00:47:32,352
You've never had to make
this choice.
1010
00:47:32,435 --> 00:47:34,312
You're judging us
for our opinion?"
1011
00:47:34,354 --> 00:47:36,981
And I was like,
"That's how we judge people!"
1012
00:47:39,317 --> 00:47:40,819
"Their opinions
and their actions,
1013
00:47:40,902 --> 00:47:42,320
and the content
of their character.
1014
00:47:42,404 --> 00:47:45,448
It used to be skin color,
but someone had a dream."
1015
00:47:48,535 --> 00:47:50,912
And he said to me, in Hebrew,
1016
00:47:50,995 --> 00:47:54,207
in Hebrew,
"David, you can't judge us.
1017
00:47:54,290 --> 00:47:59,170
Only God,
only Hashem can judge."
1018
00:47:59,212 --> 00:48:02,465
- And that worked with me.
1019
00:48:02,507 --> 00:48:03,883
No, but that calmed me down
immediately,
1020
00:48:03,967 --> 00:48:05,510
'cause it reminded me
how I know this guy.
1021
00:48:05,552 --> 00:48:07,595
I know this guy 'cause
we went to a yeshiva together,
1022
00:48:07,679 --> 00:48:08,888
which is a Hebrew day school.
1023
00:48:08,972 --> 00:48:11,683
And in a yeshiva,
you study Torah every morning
1024
00:48:11,766 --> 00:48:13,601
from 8:00 a.m.
to 6:00 p.m.,
1025
00:48:13,685 --> 00:48:15,270
because "yeshiva"
is a Hebrew word
1026
00:48:15,353 --> 00:48:16,938
- that means "miserable."
1027
00:48:17,022 --> 00:48:19,399
In a yeshiva,
when they teach you about God,
1028
00:48:19,482 --> 00:48:21,192
they teach you
that he acts through you.
1029
00:48:21,234 --> 00:48:23,528
If you are kind,
that is God showing kindness.
1030
00:48:23,611 --> 00:48:24,612
If you're empathetic,
1031
00:48:24,654 --> 00:48:26,489
that is Hashem
manifesting empathy.
1032
00:48:26,531 --> 00:48:29,284
In Hebrew, the word is "kli."
It means "vessel."
1033
00:48:29,367 --> 00:48:31,369
You are a vessel
for God's action.
1034
00:48:31,453 --> 00:48:33,747
And so he said to me,
"David, you can't judge us.
1035
00:48:33,830 --> 00:48:36,041
Only God can judge us.
Alex can't judge us.
1036
00:48:36,124 --> 00:48:38,126
Only Hashem.
Only Hashem can judge."
1037
00:48:38,209 --> 00:48:39,377
I calmed myself down,
1038
00:48:39,461 --> 00:48:41,254
and I remembered that we have
this common language
1039
00:48:41,338 --> 00:48:44,799
and lineage, and that on paper,
we're basically the same person.
1040
00:48:44,883 --> 00:48:46,468
And I explained to him
that it's possible
1041
00:48:46,551 --> 00:48:50,055
that God was judging him,
but that I was the vessel
1042
00:48:50,138 --> 00:48:51,848
through which he had chosen
to judge him.
1043
00:48:56,186 --> 00:48:58,480
And we have not been invited
back to that house.
1044
00:48:59,981 --> 00:49:03,735
But it's worth asking
why this guy and his wife,
1045
00:49:03,777 --> 00:49:05,362
who I have everything
in common with,
1046
00:49:05,403 --> 00:49:08,740
that's who I go toe-to-toe with
in their own living room,
1047
00:49:08,782 --> 00:49:10,909
I show them
so little understanding.
1048
00:49:10,992 --> 00:49:13,578
In this living room in Queens,
1049
00:49:13,661 --> 00:49:16,081
where I have so little
in common with anyone,
1050
00:49:16,164 --> 00:49:20,377
I sat there listening to them
for an hour.
1051
00:49:20,418 --> 00:49:25,382
All right.
Guys, I sat in a conversation
1052
00:49:25,423 --> 00:49:29,177
- without talking one time...
1053
00:49:29,260 --> 00:49:31,513
...for an hour, which for me...
1054
00:49:33,807 --> 00:49:35,934
unprecedented.
I couldn't even nod.
1055
00:49:35,975 --> 00:49:39,938
Everybody else was like,
"Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm."
1056
00:49:39,979 --> 00:49:42,607
I had to nod at things
out of context.
1057
00:49:42,649 --> 00:49:44,776
Like at some point
someone was like,
1058
00:49:44,859 --> 00:49:49,072
"What it means to be a man
in the workplace is changing."
1059
00:49:49,114 --> 00:49:50,365
And I was like...
1060
00:49:51,032 --> 00:49:53,243
"That's absolutely--
1061
00:49:53,284 --> 00:49:54,786
Yeah, there's a reckoning
going on.
1062
00:49:54,869 --> 00:49:56,871
I agree with that.
It's way better now.
1063
00:49:56,955 --> 00:49:58,123
You can't just, like,
throw your interns
1064
00:49:58,164 --> 00:49:59,374
out the windows. Mm-hmm."
1065
00:50:03,670 --> 00:50:04,713
And someone's like,
1066
00:50:04,796 --> 00:50:07,465
"Billionaires and corporations
control our elections."
1067
00:50:07,549 --> 00:50:08,967
And I was like,
1068
00:50:09,050 --> 00:50:11,219
"I'd like to see meaningful
campaign finance reform
in the United States."
1069
00:50:13,138 --> 00:50:15,682
"Such a progressive value,
isn't it? Yeah, that's good."
1070
00:50:19,060 --> 00:50:21,479
And finally,
I get a chance to talk.
1071
00:50:22,647 --> 00:50:25,150
There's this guy two seats away
from Chelsea,
1072
00:50:25,233 --> 00:50:26,651
and his name is Witt.
1073
00:50:26,735 --> 00:50:29,863
And if such a thing can be said,
he's my favorite.
1074
00:50:31,865 --> 00:50:33,867
You know how some people
can be in their early thirties,
1075
00:50:33,950 --> 00:50:35,368
but they have
a vibe of teenager?
1076
00:50:35,452 --> 00:50:37,871
That's Witt.
He's a little blithe and slumpy.
1077
00:50:37,954 --> 00:50:39,039
And, at some point, he's like,
1078
00:50:39,122 --> 00:50:42,000
"You know what's really hard
for us now?
1079
00:50:42,042 --> 00:50:44,085
It's really hard for us
to reach new people
1080
00:50:44,169 --> 00:50:45,253
on social media."
1081
00:50:45,337 --> 00:50:47,797
And I said,
"Do you know why that is?"
1082
00:50:47,839 --> 00:50:49,049
And Chelsea went,
1083
00:50:49,132 --> 00:50:50,550
"Alex, do you know something
about social media?"
1084
00:50:50,633 --> 00:50:51,384
And I said, "Chelsea,
1085
00:50:51,468 --> 00:50:53,178
I know a lot
about social media."
1086
00:50:53,261 --> 00:50:54,637
And I started explaining
this thing
1087
00:50:54,679 --> 00:50:57,098
called the meaningful
content algorithm.
1088
00:50:57,182 --> 00:50:59,184
This is so interesting.
All right,
1089
00:50:59,225 --> 00:51:01,144
it used to be in the early days
of social media,
1090
00:51:01,186 --> 00:51:03,313
when you logged in,
you'd see stuff chronologically.
1091
00:51:03,355 --> 00:51:05,607
Remember that? You'd see things
based on when they were posted.
1092
00:51:05,690 --> 00:51:07,776
But now when you log in,
you don't see that anymore.
1093
00:51:07,859 --> 00:51:11,863
You see what the algorithm
thinks you'll enjoy most first.
1094
00:51:11,946 --> 00:51:13,281
That's because of this thing
1095
00:51:13,365 --> 00:51:14,949
called the meaningful
content algorithm.
1096
00:51:15,033 --> 00:51:16,117
And it's Balkanized us
1097
00:51:16,201 --> 00:51:17,911
into these social media
echo chambers,
1098
00:51:17,994 --> 00:51:19,621
which has made it so hard
for new ideas,
1099
00:51:19,704 --> 00:51:21,706
or in this, like,
one specific instance,
1100
00:51:21,748 --> 00:51:24,334
the oldest ideas in the world
to reach new people.
1101
00:51:24,376 --> 00:51:26,169
And so I start explaining
the algorithm,
1102
00:51:26,211 --> 00:51:28,129
I start explaining
social media echo chambers,
1103
00:51:28,213 --> 00:51:30,048
I start explaining
Cambridge Analytica,
1104
00:51:30,090 --> 00:51:31,383
the company that's, like,
best at this,
1105
00:51:31,424 --> 00:51:33,343
and everybody's listening to me.
1106
00:51:33,385 --> 00:51:35,220
And, at some point,
I looked around the circle,
1107
00:51:35,261 --> 00:51:37,055
and people have got
their arms crossed,
1108
00:51:37,097 --> 00:51:38,598
and they're nodding
at each other,
1109
00:51:38,682 --> 00:51:39,849
and they're nodding at me.
1110
00:51:39,891 --> 00:51:42,352
And I thought to myself
all at once,
1111
00:51:42,394 --> 00:51:45,021
"Oh, I'm positively contributing
1112
00:51:45,063 --> 00:51:47,565
to this meeting
of White nationalists."
1113
00:51:49,776 --> 00:51:52,237
I came as an observer.
I'm gonna leave as, like,
1114
00:51:52,278 --> 00:51:54,239
the "youth outreach officer"
or something.
1115
00:52:01,287 --> 00:52:03,915
But there was a moment...
1116
00:52:03,957 --> 00:52:07,585
where I actually started to feel
very badly for these people.
1117
00:52:09,879 --> 00:52:11,589
I don't want to be gratuitous,
1118
00:52:12,465 --> 00:52:15,093
but these
are not life's winners.
1119
00:52:15,135 --> 00:52:17,220
Hashem has not given
with both hands
1120
00:52:17,262 --> 00:52:19,931
- to anyone in this room.
1121
00:52:19,973 --> 00:52:23,143
They are not the brightest.
They are not the wealthiest.
1122
00:52:23,226 --> 00:52:27,397
They are very badly informed.
And most importantly...
1123
00:52:27,439 --> 00:52:31,651
...these guys
are racists in New York City!
1124
00:52:33,862 --> 00:52:38,408
They're racists in Queens,
the most diverse borough
1125
00:52:38,450 --> 00:52:40,785
and the most--
Guys, it's Queens.
1126
00:52:40,869 --> 00:52:44,497
In Queens, you can't even
get 17 Nazis together
1127
00:52:44,581 --> 00:52:46,332
without a Jew being sat
right there
1128
00:52:46,416 --> 00:52:47,459
in the middle of you.
1129
00:52:53,340 --> 00:52:55,925
This isn't Arkan-ssippi.
Are you kidding me?
1130
00:52:57,635 --> 00:52:59,679
We're two blocks away
from Little Ethiopia.
1131
00:52:59,763 --> 00:53:01,973
Things are going not well
for these people.
1132
00:53:06,144 --> 00:53:08,313
And at some point,
I had a thought,
1133
00:53:08,396 --> 00:53:10,523
which was so, like...
1134
00:53:10,607 --> 00:53:13,026
I had a thought
that was so self-aggrandizing,
1135
00:53:13,109 --> 00:53:15,862
it took me two years
to tell anyone about it.
1136
00:53:17,489 --> 00:53:19,866
But at some point,
I looked around the circle,
1137
00:53:19,949 --> 00:53:22,744
and I thought to myself, "Wow."
1138
00:53:26,831 --> 00:53:28,249
"Look at me empathizing."
1139
00:53:32,128 --> 00:53:34,255
"Look at me feeling bad
for these people
1140
00:53:34,339 --> 00:53:38,093
when they're so horrible,
but I'm such a good boy."
1141
00:53:38,176 --> 00:53:39,761
"Am I the hero
that we need
1142
00:53:39,844 --> 00:53:41,846
in these difficult
and divided times?"
1143
00:53:44,307 --> 00:53:47,602
And then I thought,
"Do I have a duty as a Jew...
1144
00:53:49,145 --> 00:53:50,188
to hear these people,
1145
00:53:50,271 --> 00:53:51,773
'cause there's actually
something to that?"
1146
00:53:51,856 --> 00:53:53,858
If you raise
Jewish children correctly,
1147
00:53:53,942 --> 00:53:55,485
empathy is the default.
1148
00:53:55,527 --> 00:53:58,863
Empathy is the true north
for every Jewish value.
1149
00:53:58,905 --> 00:54:01,491
And all of the best
Jewish moments of my life
1150
00:54:01,533 --> 00:54:03,493
are moments where those values
showed up in places
1151
00:54:03,535 --> 00:54:05,286
you would never look for them.
1152
00:54:05,370 --> 00:54:08,415
Like, once when I was a kid,
my family had Christmas.
1153
00:54:08,498 --> 00:54:10,041
This is totally true.
1154
00:54:10,083 --> 00:54:11,710
My mom had this friend
named Kate.
1155
00:54:11,751 --> 00:54:13,628
And over the course
of a calendar year,
1156
00:54:13,712 --> 00:54:16,381
Kate lost her last parent
and her last sibling.
1157
00:54:16,423 --> 00:54:19,551
She had nowhere to go
for the holiday. My mom said,
1158
00:54:19,634 --> 00:54:21,386
"Kate, why don't you come
to our house?
1159
00:54:21,469 --> 00:54:22,554
We'll do Christmas."
1160
00:54:22,637 --> 00:54:25,015
That's the kind of person
my mom is.
1161
00:54:25,056 --> 00:54:27,600
- My father...
1162
00:54:27,684 --> 00:54:29,811
- ...did not want that.
1163
00:54:29,894 --> 00:54:32,939
Mom is a Jew from Cincinnati.
She's a Midwestern Jew.
1164
00:54:33,023 --> 00:54:36,234
- It's a slightly
gentler existence.
1165
00:54:36,317 --> 00:54:38,403
My father grew up Jewish
in Boston like me,
1166
00:54:38,486 --> 00:54:40,196
but in a time
when it was so hard
1167
00:54:40,238 --> 00:54:41,239
to be Jewish there,
1168
00:54:41,281 --> 00:54:44,075
which is
between the years 1500 and 1991.
1169
00:54:49,330 --> 00:54:51,791
And he said, "Cheryl,
I will not have Christmas
1170
00:54:51,875 --> 00:54:54,127
in a Jewish home."
And my mom was like,
1171
00:54:54,210 --> 00:54:55,962
"Elazar,
we're having Christmas."
1172
00:54:56,046 --> 00:54:57,922
And he's like,
"Over my dead body
1173
00:54:57,964 --> 00:54:59,257
are we having Christmas."
1174
00:54:59,299 --> 00:55:01,718
So they compromised
and we had Christmas.
1175
00:55:01,760 --> 00:55:03,928
- So...
1176
00:55:04,012 --> 00:55:06,931
Yeah, obviously. Obviously
1177
00:55:08,558 --> 00:55:10,435
AJ and I come
downstairs one day.
1178
00:55:10,518 --> 00:55:12,645
My parents are sitting
in the living room.
1179
00:55:12,729 --> 00:55:15,357
I don't know if any of you
grew up in a home like this.
1180
00:55:15,440 --> 00:55:17,776
We were never allowed
in our living room.
1181
00:55:17,817 --> 00:55:21,112
Never. The living room
is for guests and tragedies.
1182
00:55:21,154 --> 00:55:22,781
Those are the only times.
1183
00:55:22,864 --> 00:55:25,700
And every piece of furniture
is covered in plastic,
1184
00:55:25,784 --> 00:55:28,787
in case the real owners
of the house show up one day.
1185
00:55:31,956 --> 00:55:33,792
We come downstairs, no guests.
1186
00:55:33,875 --> 00:55:35,335
AJ and I look
at each other like,
1187
00:55:35,418 --> 00:55:37,337
"Oh, no. Bubbe died again,"
1188
00:55:37,420 --> 00:55:40,882
- and we sit down...
1189
00:55:40,965 --> 00:55:44,969
...on the couch.
And my mom just said, "Boys...
1190
00:55:46,971 --> 00:55:47,972
this year...
1191
00:55:49,849 --> 00:55:51,559
we're having Christmas."
1192
00:55:52,644 --> 00:55:55,397
And AJ and I
were so young and insulated.
1193
00:55:55,480 --> 00:55:57,440
We looked at each other
1194
00:55:57,482 --> 00:56:00,527
and we looked at my dad
and I just went, "Okay.
1195
00:56:02,487 --> 00:56:04,239
What's Christmas?"
1196
00:56:04,322 --> 00:56:07,409
And my father said,
"It's like Hanukkah."
1197
00:56:07,492 --> 00:56:10,286
And my mom undermined him
immediately and went,
1198
00:56:10,328 --> 00:56:12,872
"Yeah, but maybe even
a little bit more fun."
1199
00:56:17,210 --> 00:56:19,671
Hanukkah sucks, by the way.
1200
00:56:19,713 --> 00:56:21,965
Hanukkah-- I appreciate
the politically correct world
1201
00:56:22,007 --> 00:56:24,009
that everybody lives in
where we all pretend
1202
00:56:24,092 --> 00:56:26,845
that all the holidays are equal.
They are not equal.
1203
00:56:26,928 --> 00:56:29,806
Every-- Hanukkah's very much
the Diet Coke
1204
00:56:29,848 --> 00:56:33,435
to Christmas' black tar heroin.
There is no comparison.
1205
00:56:35,270 --> 00:56:38,189
No-- Go into a supermarket
come December.
1206
00:56:38,273 --> 00:56:39,566
Christmas is everywhere.
1207
00:56:39,649 --> 00:56:42,569
Hanukkah's one little nub
at the end of the shampoo aisle,
1208
00:56:42,652 --> 00:56:45,238
there's Passover matzah in there
for some reason.
1209
00:56:48,825 --> 00:56:51,119
And non-Jews are gorgeous
'cause they're always like,
1210
00:56:51,202 --> 00:56:54,039
"Well, you're so lucky.
You get eight days of gifts."
1211
00:56:54,122 --> 00:56:57,500
I have never met a single Jew
1212
00:56:57,542 --> 00:57:00,253
who got eight days
of decent gifts.
1213
00:57:00,337 --> 00:57:01,588
Here's how it works.
1214
00:57:01,671 --> 00:57:04,049
You get one gift
over the course of the--
1215
00:57:04,090 --> 00:57:05,008
Like if you're getting a bike,
1216
00:57:05,050 --> 00:57:06,843
you get, like,
a pedal on the first day,
1217
00:57:06,885 --> 00:57:08,845
handlebars on the second,
then the wheel.
1218
00:57:08,887 --> 00:57:13,975
- It is absolute bullshit.
1219
00:57:16,061 --> 00:57:17,771
Anyway, we do Christmas
1220
00:57:17,854 --> 00:57:20,982
and oh, my God,
do we do Christmas.
1221
00:57:21,066 --> 00:57:23,735
We do the lights.
We do the Christmas dinner.
1222
00:57:23,777 --> 00:57:27,739
My... My mom put up stockings
above the fireplace
1223
00:57:27,781 --> 00:57:30,241
with our names on them
in Hebrew and we...
1224
00:57:33,161 --> 00:57:37,248
...we went whole hog.
No hog. Kosher, Christmas.
1225
00:57:37,290 --> 00:57:40,585
But we decked these halls. Deck!
1226
00:57:40,627 --> 00:57:44,255
And Kate comes into our house.
And Kate...
1227
00:57:44,297 --> 00:57:46,800
...White.
1228
00:57:47,801 --> 00:57:52,263
Princess Diana haircut,
chunky gold earrings,
1229
00:57:52,347 --> 00:57:55,850
Hermès scarf,
shocking blue pantsuit.
1230
00:57:55,934 --> 00:57:56,851
White.
1231
00:57:56,935 --> 00:57:59,104
But she walks into our house
like a little kid.
1232
00:57:59,187 --> 00:58:00,230
Just like...
1233
00:58:05,026 --> 00:58:09,155
And she starts
to cry immediately.
1234
00:58:10,281 --> 00:58:11,366
And my mom said,
1235
00:58:11,408 --> 00:58:14,786
"Boys, whatever she wants to do,
we're gonna do."
1236
00:58:14,869 --> 00:58:17,372
And we did all
this deep cuts Christmas stuff.
1237
00:58:17,455 --> 00:58:19,666
We strung popcorn together
on a string.
1238
00:58:19,749 --> 00:58:22,627
We ate our way through an entire
chocolate Advent calendar
1239
00:58:22,669 --> 00:58:26,131
- in, like, 25 minutes.
1240
00:58:26,214 --> 00:58:27,924
And we watched Christmas movies.
1241
00:58:27,966 --> 00:58:30,552
Please try to imagine
being a young Jew
1242
00:58:30,635 --> 00:58:32,470
and you've never heard
of Christmas,
1243
00:58:32,512 --> 00:58:33,847
and then on the day
you find out about it,
1244
00:58:33,930 --> 00:58:36,641
you watch, like,
seven Christmas movies in a row.
1245
00:58:36,725 --> 00:58:37,809
AJ and I are like,
1246
00:58:37,851 --> 00:58:40,520
"Oh, so this holiday's
a huge deal, huh?"
1247
00:58:44,566 --> 00:58:45,817
And the one that sticks out
1248
00:58:45,859 --> 00:58:47,986
is the Peanuts
Christmas special.
1249
00:58:49,154 --> 00:58:52,490
Snoopy, Charlie Brown,
best thing we've ever seen.
1250
00:58:52,574 --> 00:58:55,076
AJ and I are like vibrating
an inch from the TV.
1251
00:58:55,160 --> 00:58:57,746
AJ's like, "The meaning
of Christmas, Snoopy."
1252
00:58:57,829 --> 00:59:00,832
And I'm like, "The spirit
of Christmas, Charlie Brown."
1253
00:59:00,874 --> 00:59:03,543
My dad's in the corner,
like, praying for lightning.
1254
00:59:03,626 --> 00:59:07,172
- Like...
1255
00:59:07,255 --> 00:59:08,340
And at some point,
1256
00:59:08,423 --> 00:59:09,841
a character on the screen
just went,
1257
00:59:09,883 --> 00:59:13,178
"Linus, we need
to put out cookies
1258
00:59:13,219 --> 00:59:15,347
for Santa Claus, don't we?"
1259
00:59:16,473 --> 00:59:18,266
And AJ and I look at each other.
1260
00:59:21,019 --> 00:59:24,898
And we look at my dad,
and I just went, "Abba...
1261
00:59:26,733 --> 00:59:31,237
- who's Santa Claus?"
1262
00:59:32,113 --> 00:59:35,575
And my father says
this didn't happen.
1263
00:59:36,826 --> 00:59:39,412
And it is
the single clearest memory
1264
00:59:39,496 --> 00:59:43,500
- from my childhood.
1265
00:59:43,541 --> 00:59:46,086
My father rarely cursed
in front of us
1266
00:59:46,169 --> 00:59:48,213
and maybe he thought
we couldn't hear him,
1267
00:59:48,254 --> 00:59:52,217
but he looked at my mom
and he just went, "Cheryl...
1268
00:59:53,843 --> 00:59:59,307
- Jesus fucking Christ."
1269
01:00:01,643 --> 01:00:05,188
And my mom said, "Elazar."
And he said, "Come on."
1270
01:00:05,230 --> 01:00:07,065
And she went, "Just do it."
1271
01:00:12,821 --> 01:00:14,739
This is a direct quote.
1272
01:00:15,615 --> 01:00:17,409
This is a direct quote from,
like...
1273
01:00:18,827 --> 01:00:20,078
...twenty-five years ago.
1274
01:00:20,120 --> 01:00:23,206
My father walked up to us
and he said...
1275
01:00:25,542 --> 01:00:27,252
"Santa Claus, boys...
1276
01:00:30,046 --> 01:00:31,089
he is a fat man."
1277
01:00:35,885 --> 01:00:37,053
"But it's a good fat."
1278
01:00:37,095 --> 01:00:41,266
-"But it's a good--"
1279
01:00:41,307 --> 01:00:43,768
You know, like,
Santa's an avocado or something.
1280
01:00:48,481 --> 01:00:49,524
"But it's a good fat.
1281
01:00:49,607 --> 01:00:53,278
And he comes down
non-Jewish chimneys
1282
01:00:53,361 --> 01:00:54,529
in the middle of the night
1283
01:00:54,612 --> 01:00:56,197
and he gives gifts
to young Christians."
1284
01:00:56,281 --> 01:00:57,449
And AJ and I are like...
1285
01:00:59,909 --> 01:01:01,911
And AJ just said,
"And he's coming here?"
1286
01:01:01,953 --> 01:01:04,831
My father's like, "Sure.
I guess he's coming here."
1287
01:01:08,793 --> 01:01:10,754
We put out cookies
for Santa Claus.
1288
01:01:10,795 --> 01:01:12,964
We're very skeptical, obviously.
1289
01:01:13,006 --> 01:01:15,175
We go upstairs. We go to bed.
1290
01:01:15,258 --> 01:01:17,302
We come downstairs
the next morning.
1291
01:01:17,385 --> 01:01:19,763
The cookies are gone.
1292
01:01:20,847 --> 01:01:22,891
Guys, they're gone.
1293
01:01:22,974 --> 01:01:24,517
And AJ and I see that
1294
01:01:24,601 --> 01:01:26,561
and we lose consciousness
immediately.
1295
01:01:29,773 --> 01:01:32,108
We, like, black out,
and I know it's happened,
1296
01:01:32,150 --> 01:01:34,569
'cause there's home video,
and on the home video,
1297
01:01:34,652 --> 01:01:35,737
we're going crazy.
1298
01:01:35,820 --> 01:01:38,239
We're like,
"Oh, my God! Oh, my God!
1299
01:01:38,323 --> 01:01:39,908
He was here! He was here!
1300
01:01:39,991 --> 01:01:42,369
Eema, he was here!
Dad, he was here!"
1301
01:01:42,452 --> 01:01:43,370
And, at some point,
1302
01:01:43,453 --> 01:01:45,955
AJ's standing on the couch
and he looked at me
1303
01:01:45,997 --> 01:01:51,419
and he just went, "Santa came!"
And I went, "Baruch Hashem!"
1304
01:02:05,725 --> 01:02:08,019
And we ran out
to the garage.
1305
01:02:08,103 --> 01:02:10,772
Why? Because
this is the one concession
1306
01:02:10,855 --> 01:02:12,190
my father got from my mom.
1307
01:02:12,273 --> 01:02:15,485
He's like, "Cheryl,
I will not have a Christmas tree
1308
01:02:15,527 --> 01:02:16,861
in a Jewish home."
1309
01:02:16,945 --> 01:02:19,572
And my mother was like,
"I can respect that, Elazar.
1310
01:02:19,656 --> 01:02:21,282
We'll put it in the garage."
1311
01:02:23,618 --> 01:02:25,620
And there are two photos
of this.
1312
01:02:25,704 --> 01:02:27,038
Weird photos.
1313
01:02:27,080 --> 01:02:29,624
We're wearing pajamas
'cause we're children,
1314
01:02:29,708 --> 01:02:30,875
but we're wearing jackets
1315
01:02:30,959 --> 01:02:34,337
'cause we're in a Boston garage
in December,
1316
01:02:34,379 --> 01:02:36,881
and we're wearing yarmulkes
'cause we're Jews.
1317
01:02:36,965 --> 01:02:37,924
But we're standing in front
1318
01:02:38,008 --> 01:02:40,385
of a fully-decorated
Christmas tree
1319
01:02:40,427 --> 01:02:41,511
with a teddy bear
1320
01:02:41,553 --> 01:02:44,055
wearing his own yarmulke
on top of it.
1321
01:02:47,225 --> 01:02:50,020
And we've got
headphones on. Why?
1322
01:02:50,061 --> 01:02:52,731
Because this is
how long ago it was.
1323
01:02:52,772 --> 01:02:55,942
We got cassette tape Walkmen.
1324
01:02:56,026 --> 01:02:58,653
Remember the square dealies?
We were thrilled.
1325
01:02:58,737 --> 01:03:00,321
That was Santa's gift.
1326
01:03:01,698 --> 01:03:03,575
Kate had gotten us her own gift.
1327
01:03:03,658 --> 01:03:05,827
Kate had pulled
my parents aside
1328
01:03:05,910 --> 01:03:07,287
the night before
and she was like,
1329
01:03:07,370 --> 01:03:08,788
"Don't worry, Cheryl."
1330
01:03:11,833 --> 01:03:13,293
"Don't worry, Elaser."
1331
01:03:18,715 --> 01:03:20,967
"I got your boys Jewish gifts."
1332
01:03:21,051 --> 01:03:22,761
My father was like, "Oh!"
1333
01:03:24,763 --> 01:03:28,933
"Okay, um, Kate,
when you say Jewish gifts,
1334
01:03:28,975 --> 01:03:30,769
what do you mean?"
And Kate's like,
1335
01:03:30,810 --> 01:03:33,229
"I got them gifts
from the Torah."
1336
01:03:35,315 --> 01:03:38,276
This was Kate's gift
from the Torah.
1337
01:03:38,318 --> 01:03:40,487
To put in
our cassette tape Walkmen,
1338
01:03:40,570 --> 01:03:42,655
Kate got us, on cassette,
1339
01:03:42,739 --> 01:03:45,492
the cast recording
of Andrew Lloyd-Webber's
1340
01:03:45,575 --> 01:03:48,578
Joseph and the Amazing
Technicolor Dreamcoat...
1341
01:03:51,039 --> 01:03:53,917
...where the role of Joseph
was sung by-- Anybody know?
1342
01:03:53,958 --> 01:03:56,419
Donny Osmond.
- Donny Osmond, thank you.
1343
01:03:56,461 --> 01:03:59,464
Donny Osmond.
Two photos. Weird photos.
1344
01:03:59,506 --> 01:04:03,134
Pajamas, jackets, yarmulkes,
Christmas, teddy bear,
1345
01:04:03,218 --> 01:04:05,845
yarmulke, headphones,
and on the headphones,
1346
01:04:05,929 --> 01:04:08,223
an Old Testament story
from the Torah
1347
01:04:08,306 --> 01:04:11,351
adapted into a musical
by a British aristocrat
1348
01:04:11,434 --> 01:04:13,978
where the lead role,
sung by a Mormon.
1349
01:04:14,062 --> 01:04:17,982
- It's very interfaith.
1350
01:04:18,066 --> 01:04:21,027
And we go to school that day
because yeshiva,
1351
01:04:21,111 --> 01:04:24,322
Hebrew day school,
not canceled for Christmas.
1352
01:04:27,742 --> 01:04:31,663
And we come home that night
and my father gets a phone call.
1353
01:04:33,748 --> 01:04:35,291
It's exactly what you think.
1354
01:04:37,168 --> 01:04:39,337
And the first thing
the principal says to him is,
1355
01:04:39,379 --> 01:04:43,049
"Professor Edelman,
your sons have a lying problem."
1356
01:04:44,926 --> 01:04:46,678
My father said,
"What did they do?"
1357
01:04:46,761 --> 01:04:48,513
And the principal said, "Well,
1358
01:04:48,555 --> 01:04:50,890
the teacher tried to explain
to the children
1359
01:04:50,974 --> 01:04:53,351
the very delicate topic
of Christmas
1360
01:04:53,435 --> 01:04:57,897
and Alex raised his hand
and just went...
1361
01:05:01,568 --> 01:05:04,612
- 'We had Christmas.'"
1362
01:05:04,696 --> 01:05:06,489
And the teacher's like,
"You didn't have Christmas."
1363
01:05:06,531 --> 01:05:09,451
And I was like, "Hmm,
pretty sure we had Christmas."
1364
01:05:11,870 --> 01:05:14,372
"Lights, stockings,
Snoopy, Charlie Brown,
1365
01:05:14,456 --> 01:05:16,499
meaning of Christmas,
spirit of Christmas.
1366
01:05:16,541 --> 01:05:17,667
Pretty sure we had Christmas."
1367
01:05:17,709 --> 01:05:19,336
And the teacher's like,
"You didn't have Christmas.
1368
01:05:19,377 --> 01:05:21,379
You had Hanukkah
three weeks ago,
or four months from now,
1369
01:05:21,421 --> 01:05:22,839
depending
on the Jewish calendar year."
1370
01:05:22,881 --> 01:05:25,091
- Anyway...
1371
01:05:25,175 --> 01:05:27,719
...non-Jews believe
in this guy called Santa Claus.
1372
01:05:27,761 --> 01:05:29,346
And in my mind's eye,
1373
01:05:29,387 --> 01:05:33,058
I see AJ raising his hand
and saying,
1374
01:05:33,141 --> 01:05:37,228
"We had Santa Claus."
And I'm wrong.
1375
01:05:37,312 --> 01:05:40,065
The teacher came to the show.
I'm wrong about two things.
1376
01:05:40,148 --> 01:05:43,401
First of all, apparently,
AJ didn't raise his hand.
1377
01:05:43,485 --> 01:05:46,071
Apparently,
AJ lifted two fingers,
1378
01:05:46,112 --> 01:05:47,489
in the words of the teacher,
1379
01:05:47,572 --> 01:05:50,492
like he was
"ordering his second martini".
1380
01:06:00,585 --> 01:06:03,755
And AJ didn't say,
"We had Santa Claus."
1381
01:06:03,838 --> 01:06:06,132
Apparently, AJ just went...
1382
01:06:07,801 --> 01:06:09,594
"We know Santa Claus."
1383
01:06:13,390 --> 01:06:15,225
And the teacher's like,
"You don't know Santa Claus."
1384
01:06:15,266 --> 01:06:17,686
And AJ's like, "Hmm.
But we do know Santa Claus."
1385
01:06:17,769 --> 01:06:19,688
And the other kids are like,
"Who's Santa Claus?"
1386
01:06:19,771 --> 01:06:21,898
And AJ's like,
"Oh! He's amazing.
1387
01:06:21,940 --> 01:06:24,818
He's a fat man,
but it's a good kind of fat.
1388
01:06:24,901 --> 01:06:27,028
And he comes down
non-Jewish chimneys
1389
01:06:27,112 --> 01:06:28,238
in middle of the night,
1390
01:06:28,279 --> 01:06:29,989
and he gives gifts
to young Christians.
1391
01:06:30,073 --> 01:06:32,075
But...
But, last night,
1392
01:06:32,117 --> 01:06:35,120
because he's friends
with our dad...
1393
01:06:42,502 --> 01:06:43,420
...he came to our house
1394
01:06:43,461 --> 01:06:45,296
and he left this Walkman
underneath the tree
1395
01:06:45,380 --> 01:06:46,881
that my parents put
in the garage,
1396
01:06:46,965 --> 01:06:48,633
and he ate all of the cookies."
1397
01:06:48,717 --> 01:06:49,467
And the principal said,
1398
01:06:49,551 --> 01:06:52,053
"Professor Edelman,
is this true?"
1399
01:06:52,137 --> 01:06:56,266
And, apparently,
my father just went, "No."
1400
01:07:04,733 --> 01:07:07,402
-"It... It's not entirely true."
1401
01:07:08,028 --> 01:07:09,237
And Rabbi Falk said,
1402
01:07:09,320 --> 01:07:11,322
"What do you mean
it's not entirely true?"
1403
01:07:11,364 --> 01:07:15,160
Then my father said,
"Cheryl and I ate the cookies."
1404
01:07:23,335 --> 01:07:25,670
"Santa Claus didn't come
to our house."
1405
01:07:26,671 --> 01:07:29,841
And my mom says
there was a significant pause
1406
01:07:29,883 --> 01:07:32,719
on the other end of the phone,
and then the principal said,
1407
01:07:32,802 --> 01:07:35,805
"I'm aware Santa Claus
didn't come to your house."
1408
01:07:44,606 --> 01:07:45,857
"You had Christmas?"
1409
01:07:47,942 --> 01:07:50,278
And my father explained.
1410
01:07:50,362 --> 01:07:53,531
My father explained
that this woman was bereft.
1411
01:07:53,615 --> 01:07:55,450
She had nowhere to go.
1412
01:07:55,533 --> 01:07:57,118
And he had reservations
about it,
1413
01:07:57,202 --> 01:07:58,536
but he let it happen
1414
01:07:58,620 --> 01:08:01,122
because he thought it was such
a valuable, teachable moment,
1415
01:08:01,206 --> 01:08:02,665
right, where he could show
his children
1416
01:08:02,707 --> 01:08:05,585
that doing the thing centered
in Jewish values,
1417
01:08:05,669 --> 01:08:09,172
the good deed,
may not always appear...
1418
01:08:10,340 --> 01:08:13,218
- conventionally Jewish.
1419
01:08:13,301 --> 01:08:14,886
Principal says,
"Professor Edelman,
1420
01:08:14,928 --> 01:08:18,264
I understand where you're
coming from but you're wrong,
1421
01:08:18,932 --> 01:08:20,558
'cause what you've actually done
1422
01:08:20,600 --> 01:08:22,268
is you've introduced
this holiday,
1423
01:08:22,352 --> 01:08:25,397
that is foreign and corrosive,
into your home
1424
01:08:25,480 --> 01:08:28,149
and you've clearly confused
your children
1425
01:08:28,233 --> 01:08:30,902
and perhaps
harmed them permanently...
1426
01:08:32,070 --> 01:08:33,154
...when you've given them
this holiday.
1427
01:08:33,238 --> 01:08:34,406
Next year,
are you gonna take it away?
1428
01:08:34,447 --> 01:08:36,700
Will you keep celebrating?
What are you gonna do?
1429
01:08:36,741 --> 01:08:37,951
And more than anything else,
1430
01:08:38,034 --> 01:08:39,994
this isn't a good deed.
It's idol worship.
1431
01:08:40,036 --> 01:08:43,164
It's the most serious sin
a Jew can commit.
1432
01:08:43,248 --> 01:08:46,710
And you and your wife need
to begin atoning for it
1433
01:08:46,751 --> 01:08:48,712
right now."
1434
01:08:50,422 --> 01:08:53,842
And my father,
to his credit, said,
1435
01:08:53,925 --> 01:08:55,218
"Well, clearly, Rabbi,
1436
01:08:55,260 --> 01:08:57,429
you don't understand
the meaning of Christmas,"
1437
01:08:57,512 --> 01:08:59,097
and then he hung up the phone.
1438
01:09:07,272 --> 01:09:09,524
And, look,
I love that story.
1439
01:09:09,607 --> 01:09:11,776
I think it reflects so well
on my parents,
1440
01:09:11,860 --> 01:09:13,153
but there's such a good question
1441
01:09:13,236 --> 01:09:15,572
at the center of it,
very Jewish one, actually,
1442
01:09:15,613 --> 01:09:19,159
which is, like,
to what do our empathies extend?
1443
01:09:19,242 --> 01:09:21,619
Is it unconditional?
Does it matter who they are?
1444
01:09:21,661 --> 01:09:23,204
Does it matter
how they feel about us?
1445
01:09:23,288 --> 01:09:25,081
Does it matter
why we're empath--
1446
01:09:25,123 --> 01:09:27,250
Does it matter
why we're empathizing?
1447
01:09:27,292 --> 01:09:30,295
'Cause, for a while,
I was empathizing.
1448
01:09:30,337 --> 01:09:32,630
In this room,
these people feel powerless,
1449
01:09:32,672 --> 01:09:33,923
they feel voiceless,
1450
01:09:33,965 --> 01:09:37,302
even if they
are 1,000 percent wrong!
1451
01:09:38,595 --> 01:09:40,597
Those are universal struggles.
1452
01:09:40,638 --> 01:09:42,640
It's hard
to hate people up close.
1453
01:09:42,724 --> 01:09:44,267
But once I realized
I was empathizing,
1454
01:09:44,309 --> 01:09:45,310
I was like, "Look at me."
1455
01:09:47,020 --> 01:09:48,730
By the way,
not just empathizing.
1456
01:09:48,813 --> 01:09:51,149
- Connecting.
1457
01:09:51,191 --> 01:09:52,525
Once I started talking,
1458
01:09:52,609 --> 01:09:55,695
I was in the flow
of conversation so effortlessly,
1459
01:09:55,779 --> 01:09:56,905
I thought to myself,
1460
01:09:56,988 --> 01:09:59,699
"I'm gonna be a grand wizard
in like two weeks at this rate."
1461
01:10:01,701 --> 01:10:04,204
I'm getting my hood tonight.
Like, it's happening.
1462
01:10:05,497 --> 01:10:07,832
I keep making eye contact
with Chelsea.
1463
01:10:07,916 --> 01:10:09,000
That's going amazing.
1464
01:10:09,084 --> 01:10:11,795
But like-- But now my fantasy's
not just Chelsea anymore.
1465
01:10:11,836 --> 01:10:14,005
Now, it sort of flowered out
to the rest of the room.
1466
01:10:14,089 --> 01:10:15,548
Like, obviously,
everybody here's
1467
01:10:15,632 --> 01:10:16,841
gonna be a table at the wedding,
1468
01:10:16,883 --> 01:10:18,468
- but like besides that, I'm--
1469
01:10:18,510 --> 01:10:21,805
No. I'm gonna fix these people.
1470
01:10:21,846 --> 01:10:23,848
Guys, me. I'm gonna fix them.
1471
01:10:23,890 --> 01:10:26,810
By the time this meeting
starts to wind down,
1472
01:10:26,851 --> 01:10:29,896
my "good guy" fantasies
are like a runaway train.
1473
01:10:29,979 --> 01:10:31,272
I have spoken
1474
01:10:31,356 --> 01:10:33,942
more than two-thirds
of the people in this room.
1475
01:10:34,025 --> 01:10:36,027
I am in. They like me.
1476
01:10:36,111 --> 01:10:39,197
And there's this guy sitting
almost directly across from me,
1477
01:10:39,239 --> 01:10:40,365
right where the circle gaps,
1478
01:10:40,448 --> 01:10:42,325
and he's sort of running
the meeting.
1479
01:10:42,367 --> 01:10:43,493
And, at some point, he was like,
1480
01:10:43,535 --> 01:10:45,537
"All right, guys.
We're gonna take a break.
1481
01:10:45,620 --> 01:10:47,539
Anyone who wants to get
a pastry, can get a pastry.
1482
01:10:47,580 --> 01:10:49,541
When we come back,
we'll talk next steps."
1483
01:10:49,582 --> 01:10:52,293
And I'm nodding at this point.
I'm like,
1484
01:10:52,377 --> 01:10:55,338
-"Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Next steps."
1485
01:10:55,380 --> 01:10:59,718
And Cortez, whose eyes
have very rarely left my area,
1486
01:10:59,801 --> 01:11:02,887
just went, "Hold on one--
Brian, excuse me.
1487
01:11:02,971 --> 01:11:04,014
Hold on one second."
1488
01:11:05,807 --> 01:11:09,019
And he said, "Alex?"
And I said, "Mm-hmm."
1489
01:11:10,145 --> 01:11:11,771
And he said,
"Where are you from?"
1490
01:11:12,772 --> 01:11:13,898
And I said...
1491
01:11:15,734 --> 01:11:16,901
"I'm from Boston."
1492
01:11:17,444 --> 01:11:18,611
And he said, "Cool.
1493
01:11:18,695 --> 01:11:20,447
How long have you lived
in New York City?"
1494
01:11:20,530 --> 01:11:22,699
And I said, "Oh, I've been here
about nine years."
1495
01:11:22,741 --> 01:11:23,658
And he went, "Great.
1496
01:11:23,742 --> 01:11:25,869
What's the ethnic origin
of your grandparents?"
1497
01:11:27,912 --> 01:11:29,247
And there was a little voice
1498
01:11:29,289 --> 01:11:31,249
in the back of my head
that just went,
1499
01:11:31,291 --> 01:11:32,959
"Wow, that third question
was so different
1500
01:11:33,043 --> 01:11:37,714
- from the first two questions."
1501
01:11:39,424 --> 01:11:41,051
And I was like,
"Well, my father's family
1502
01:11:41,092 --> 01:11:42,427
is from Poland
1503
01:11:43,094 --> 01:11:44,763
but my mother's family...
1504
01:11:47,724 --> 01:11:49,934
is also from Poland, actually."
1505
01:11:50,018 --> 01:11:53,521
And the guy starts peppering me
with questions, one after the--
1506
01:11:53,605 --> 01:11:55,440
He asks me where
in New York City I live.
1507
01:11:55,523 --> 01:11:56,858
He asks me if I live alone.
1508
01:11:56,941 --> 01:12:00,528
He asks me
how much money I make in a year.
1509
01:12:00,612 --> 01:12:03,281
And, at some point,
I got a little offended.
1510
01:12:03,365 --> 01:12:05,492
And I was just like,
"This guy's got a problem.
1511
01:12:05,575 --> 01:12:06,618
He's obsessed with me.
1512
01:12:06,701 --> 01:12:07,952
Everyone else in this room,
they like me.
1513
01:12:07,994 --> 01:12:09,746
It's so weird
that they're not stopping him.
1514
01:12:09,788 --> 01:12:11,289
It's weird
that he can read that."
1515
01:12:11,373 --> 01:12:12,582
And he's like,
"Where did you go to college?"
1516
01:12:12,624 --> 01:12:14,167
And I was like,
"I went to New York University."
1517
01:12:14,250 --> 01:12:15,293
He said, "What did you study?"
1518
01:12:15,335 --> 01:12:16,461
And I said,
"English Literature."
1519
01:12:16,503 --> 01:12:17,879
He said, "Where did you go
to high school?"
1520
01:12:17,962 --> 01:12:20,131
And I said, "I went to a school
in Boston called Maimonides."
1521
01:12:20,215 --> 01:12:23,927
And he went, "Maimonides?"
And I said, "It's a yeshiva."
1522
01:12:23,968 --> 01:12:25,136
Oh!
1523
01:12:25,220 --> 01:12:29,974
And halfway around the circle,
this lady just went, "Oh, boy."
1524
01:12:33,812 --> 01:12:35,855
And Witt went,
"What's a yeshiva?"
1525
01:12:35,939 --> 01:12:38,233
And I said,
"It's like a Hebrew day school."
1526
01:12:38,316 --> 01:12:39,484
And Chelsea,
1527
01:12:39,567 --> 01:12:41,695
looking for any sort of out
at this point I assume,
1528
01:12:41,778 --> 01:12:43,988
just went,
"Your parents made you go
1529
01:12:44,072 --> 01:12:45,699
to a Hebrew day school?"
1530
01:12:49,911 --> 01:12:52,247
And I said, "Kind of."
And she said, "Why?"
1531
01:12:52,330 --> 01:12:56,167
And jigsaw lady, of course,
not looking at me, of course,
1532
01:12:56,251 --> 01:12:57,836
just went, "Chelsea!"
1533
01:13:01,506 --> 01:13:03,508
"So very clearly a Jew."
1534
01:13:06,636 --> 01:13:11,099
And because it wasn't
that big a deal, I just went...
1535
01:13:14,352 --> 01:13:15,645
"I mean, yeah."
1536
01:13:18,148 --> 01:13:19,607
"Yeah, I'm... I'm Jewish."
1537
01:13:26,781 --> 01:13:28,033
You know...
1538
01:13:29,534 --> 01:13:31,911
people say
that political correctness...
1539
01:13:33,204 --> 01:13:34,998
is a big part of our culture,
1540
01:13:36,124 --> 01:13:37,584
but maybe it's great,
1541
01:13:37,667 --> 01:13:39,336
because I think
political correctness
1542
01:13:39,377 --> 01:13:42,297
is the reason
that after I said I was Jewish,
1543
01:13:42,380 --> 01:13:43,882
there was a split second
1544
01:13:43,965 --> 01:13:46,551
where everyone in the circle
kind of looked at each other
1545
01:13:46,634 --> 01:13:48,511
with a real energy of like...
1546
01:13:51,389 --> 01:13:52,599
"Are we cool with that now?"
1547
01:13:56,269 --> 01:13:58,146
"Did I miss an email
or something?"
1548
01:13:59,731 --> 01:14:01,274
"I don't wanna be rude,
but isn't that, like,
1549
01:14:01,358 --> 01:14:02,942
one of our big things?"
1550
01:14:04,861 --> 01:14:06,112
And then one person
starts to talk,
1551
01:14:06,196 --> 01:14:08,239
and then another,
and then... and then I realized
1552
01:14:08,281 --> 01:14:09,783
I may have misread
how welcome I am.
1553
01:14:09,866 --> 01:14:12,619
And people are yelling,
but no one's yelling at me.
1554
01:14:12,702 --> 01:14:14,579
They're yelling
at the guy running the meeting,
1555
01:14:14,662 --> 01:14:15,830
and I felt a little bad for him.
1556
01:14:15,914 --> 01:14:16,915
I was like,
"They're not gonna get
1557
01:14:16,998 --> 01:14:19,376
to the next steps
for a while, probably."
1558
01:14:19,417 --> 01:14:20,752
- And Cortez,
1559
01:14:20,794 --> 01:14:23,421
this guy's out of his seat
like he's won a basketball game.
1560
01:14:23,505 --> 01:14:24,506
He's like, "I told you.
1561
01:14:24,589 --> 01:14:26,424
I fucking--
So obvious. Look at him."
1562
01:14:26,508 --> 01:14:27,717
And I look at Chelsea.
1563
01:14:27,759 --> 01:14:29,719
And as soon as I do,
I regret it.
1564
01:14:29,761 --> 01:14:32,764
She has such an expression
on her face.
1565
01:14:32,847 --> 01:14:35,517
She looks so aggrieved.
She has an expression
1566
01:14:35,600 --> 01:14:37,394
like a shattered
and re-glued plate.
1567
01:14:37,435 --> 01:14:38,895
She looks so upset.
1568
01:14:38,937 --> 01:14:40,814
And I find it so hard
to look at her after that.
1569
01:14:40,897 --> 01:14:43,566
And this guy running the meeting
calms everybody down,
1570
01:14:43,608 --> 01:14:44,651
no small feat.
1571
01:14:44,734 --> 01:14:47,904
He's like,
"Okay. Okay. No, I didn't know."
1572
01:14:50,740 --> 01:14:53,201
And he said, "Alex?"
And I said, "Mm-hmm."
1573
01:14:53,284 --> 01:14:54,911
And he said, "Why are you here?"
1574
01:14:54,953 --> 01:14:58,123
Which, in retrospect,
is an excellent question.
1575
01:15:01,793 --> 01:15:05,463
And this is my favorite detail
from the whole meeting.
1576
01:15:05,547 --> 01:15:08,258
This is my favorite detail
from the whole night.
1577
01:15:08,299 --> 01:15:09,592
He said, "Why are you here?"
1578
01:15:09,634 --> 01:15:11,886
And I said,
"Oh, I saw this tweet
1579
01:15:11,970 --> 01:15:14,305
that said if you have questions
about your Whiteness,
1580
01:15:14,389 --> 01:15:16,349
then come--"
Before I can finish,
1581
01:15:16,433 --> 01:15:18,393
Witt, almost brightly,
1582
01:15:18,476 --> 01:15:20,603
just went,
"Oh! That's my tweet."
1583
01:15:27,444 --> 01:15:29,487
"Oh! That's my tweet,"
1584
01:15:29,529 --> 01:15:31,072
with a real energy of like,
"See?
1585
01:15:31,156 --> 01:15:34,200
We are reaching some new people
on social media."
1586
01:15:35,452 --> 01:15:38,621
And even then, I was like,
"Yeah, bud, I saw your tweet.
1587
01:15:38,663 --> 01:15:40,373
And as a White man,
I actually--"
1588
01:15:40,457 --> 01:15:41,833
And I don't get
to finish that sentence.
1589
01:15:41,916 --> 01:15:44,502
Everyone starts yelling
except for--
1590
01:15:44,544 --> 01:15:46,880
"No. You're not White.
You're Jewish.
1591
01:15:46,963 --> 01:15:48,798
You're Semitic. It's different."
1592
01:15:48,840 --> 01:15:52,052
Someone over here went,
"He's not even a real Jew."
1593
01:15:52,135 --> 01:15:53,470
And I was like, "Dad?"
1594
01:15:57,724 --> 01:16:00,060
And he said, "He's an impostor
from the Khazars."
1595
01:16:00,143 --> 01:16:01,353
And I said, "Oh, I-- Okay.
1596
01:16:01,394 --> 01:16:02,771
Well, I don't know
where that is,
1597
01:16:02,854 --> 01:16:04,856
but I am Jewish and I am White."
And everyone says, "You're not."
1598
01:16:04,939 --> 01:16:06,524
And I thought
this would help me.
1599
01:16:06,608 --> 01:16:08,026
I really did. I went,
1600
01:16:08,109 --> 01:16:09,402
"Guys. Guys,
1601
01:16:09,486 --> 01:16:11,780
I know it's complicated given...
1602
01:16:11,863 --> 01:16:15,116
...given that Whiteness
is largely a social construct...
1603
01:16:17,660 --> 01:16:20,330
...but I actually benefit
an enormous amount
1604
01:16:20,372 --> 01:16:21,539
from White privilege."
1605
01:16:21,581 --> 01:16:24,084
And everyone's like...
1606
01:16:24,167 --> 01:16:25,960
"No. No. Are you kidding?
1607
01:16:26,044 --> 01:16:28,463
Haven't you been listening?
White privilege isn't real.
1608
01:16:28,546 --> 01:16:29,839
White privilege is bullshit."
1609
01:16:29,881 --> 01:16:32,300
Someone over here just went,
"You have Jewish privilege.
1610
01:16:32,384 --> 01:16:34,511
It's different." I was like,
"That's so interesting.
1611
01:16:34,552 --> 01:16:35,804
I never thought
about that before.
1612
01:16:35,887 --> 01:16:38,556
But actually, I benefit
a great deal from my Whiteness."
1613
01:16:38,598 --> 01:16:41,601
And Cortez is incensed.
He's out of his seat.
1614
01:16:41,685 --> 01:16:43,561
He's like, "It doesn't exist."
1615
01:16:43,645 --> 01:16:45,939
And I said, "Come on, man."
And he went, "Really."
1616
01:16:46,022 --> 01:16:49,609
And I said, "I benefit from it."
He went, "When was the last time
1617
01:16:49,693 --> 01:16:52,404
you got something
for being White?"
1618
01:16:52,487 --> 01:16:55,240
And I said,
"Matt, I got a free muffin
1619
01:16:55,323 --> 01:16:57,492
for it like an hour ago."
1620
01:17:12,465 --> 01:17:13,675
I...
1621
01:17:13,758 --> 01:17:15,802
I don't wanna spoil
the ending of this for you...
1622
01:17:17,095 --> 01:17:19,806
...but Chelsea and I,
we're not gonna work out.
1623
01:17:22,100 --> 01:17:23,935
Although it'd be so cool
if I could say,
1624
01:17:23,977 --> 01:17:26,187
-"And here she is."
1625
01:17:26,271 --> 01:17:29,482
"Come on out, sweetie!"
And she's like, "Ah!"
1626
01:17:36,823 --> 01:17:39,743
I actually started
dating someone.
1627
01:17:40,535 --> 01:17:41,619
I actually started
dating someone
1628
01:17:41,703 --> 01:17:42,746
a couple months after this.
1629
01:17:42,787 --> 01:17:44,122
And when I told her
about this night,
1630
01:17:44,205 --> 01:17:46,916
the first thing she said to me,
she said, "Just so you know,
1631
01:17:46,958 --> 01:17:49,002
this is the epitome
of White privilege."
1632
01:17:49,085 --> 01:17:50,920
And I said, "What do you mean?"
And she said,
1633
01:17:50,962 --> 01:17:52,881
"Nothing says
White privilege more
1634
01:17:52,964 --> 01:17:55,842
than a Jew walking into
a meeting of racists
1635
01:17:55,925 --> 01:17:57,635
and thinking,
'This'll probably be fine.'"
1636
01:18:02,807 --> 01:18:05,894
"Things usually work out
pretty good for me, honestly."
1637
01:18:05,977 --> 01:18:08,271
"Oh, look.
Muffins. Those are for me?"
1638
01:18:19,657 --> 01:18:21,576
I'll be out there afterwards,
by the way,
1639
01:18:21,659 --> 01:18:23,370
if anyone wants
to ask a question.
1640
01:18:24,245 --> 01:18:25,372
I answer every question.
1641
01:18:25,455 --> 01:18:26,414
But obviously,
1642
01:18:26,498 --> 01:18:28,833
if you're watching at home
and you have a question,
1643
01:18:28,875 --> 01:18:31,836
I'm obscenely easy to reach
on social media.
1644
01:18:31,920 --> 01:18:34,172
Even if you hated the show,
tweet at me.
1645
01:18:34,214 --> 01:18:36,424
There's a list I can add you to,
you know?
1646
01:18:39,344 --> 01:18:41,680
And the two questions
I get the most are,
1647
01:18:41,721 --> 01:18:44,849
one, "Were you scared?"
Not really.
1648
01:18:44,891 --> 01:18:47,811
Here's the thing. Nazis, hmm,
1649
01:18:48,687 --> 01:18:50,146
far less intimidating
than the way
1650
01:18:50,188 --> 01:18:51,856
that my grandfather
described them.
1651
01:18:56,695 --> 01:18:58,905
Also, they're not Nazis.
1652
01:18:58,988 --> 01:19:01,032
But-- I hate to clarify a joke,
but being a Nazi
1653
01:19:01,074 --> 01:19:02,951
is actually such
a specific thing
1654
01:19:03,034 --> 01:19:05,787
from an extremely
specific moment in history.
1655
01:19:05,870 --> 01:19:07,789
These guys wish they were Nazis.
1656
01:19:07,872 --> 01:19:09,207
Like, you ever see kids
in the park,
1657
01:19:09,249 --> 01:19:11,334
and they're hitting each other
with tinfoil swords?
1658
01:19:11,376 --> 01:19:13,545
These guys are Nazis
the way that those guys
1659
01:19:13,586 --> 01:19:15,422
are the Knights
of the Round Table.
1660
01:19:16,715 --> 01:19:18,299
These are Nerf Nazis, you know?
1661
01:19:19,884 --> 01:19:23,304
And the second question
I get asked every single day is,
1662
01:19:23,388 --> 01:19:24,723
"Why'd you go?"
1663
01:19:24,806 --> 01:19:25,765
"Did you really go?"
1664
01:19:25,849 --> 01:19:27,475
"My wife
and I can't believe you."
1665
01:19:27,559 --> 01:19:28,476
"Why'd you go?"
1666
01:19:31,062 --> 01:19:32,397
Thought I could make it work.
1667
01:19:33,898 --> 01:19:35,233
It's my job.
1668
01:19:36,776 --> 01:19:38,445
I make it work.
1669
01:19:38,528 --> 01:19:40,113
I get on stage every night,
1670
01:19:40,196 --> 01:19:41,906
and I am pandering
and solicitous.
1671
01:19:43,408 --> 01:19:45,660
And I hope that it's enough
to make people enjoy the show
1672
01:19:45,744 --> 01:19:46,745
or tell a friend.
1673
01:19:46,828 --> 01:19:48,913
Please tell a friend.
And it's gross.
1674
01:19:48,997 --> 01:19:50,373
And there's a huge part of me
1675
01:19:50,415 --> 01:19:52,584
that genuinely walked
into this room thinking
1676
01:19:52,667 --> 01:19:54,169
like they're just anti-Semites
1677
01:19:54,252 --> 01:19:56,254
'cause they haven't
met Alex yet.
1678
01:19:57,422 --> 01:20:00,759
Haven't met David Yosef
Shimon Ben Elazar Reuven.
1679
01:20:03,720 --> 01:20:04,929
This...
1680
01:20:07,640 --> 01:20:09,392
not that different
from the meeting.
1681
01:20:11,436 --> 01:20:12,479
Not for me.
1682
01:20:13,855 --> 01:20:16,900
I'm only telling you stuff
I think you'd enjoy.
1683
01:20:17,901 --> 01:20:19,027
Right, like,
if you really knew me,
1684
01:20:19,110 --> 01:20:20,528
you might not like me, right?
1685
01:20:20,612 --> 01:20:22,822
There'd be a political opinion
you couldn't stand,
1686
01:20:22,906 --> 01:20:25,325
or I'd be too something.
I'd be too pretentious,
1687
01:20:25,408 --> 01:20:28,119
or ambitious,
or lazy, or too Jewish,
1688
01:20:28,161 --> 01:20:30,622
or not Jewish enough.
There'd be something.
1689
01:20:30,663 --> 01:20:32,540
You know
who I think about constantly?
1690
01:20:32,624 --> 01:20:33,792
Robin Williams.
1691
01:20:33,875 --> 01:20:37,712
A gift for connection
no one else could--
1692
01:20:37,796 --> 01:20:39,422
- A gorilla!
1693
01:20:39,464 --> 01:20:43,134
A gorilla was like, "Oh, my God,
the talent is undeniable."
1694
01:20:43,218 --> 01:20:44,511
- A gorilla!
1695
01:20:44,594 --> 01:20:46,805
If Robin Williams
can make it work with a gorilla,
1696
01:20:46,888 --> 01:20:50,308
I should be okay
with 16 White people in Queens.
1697
01:20:52,018 --> 01:20:53,645
Trying to acknowledge
their humanity
1698
01:20:53,728 --> 01:20:54,688
with this analogy,
1699
01:20:54,771 --> 01:20:56,398
but I am aware
that in this analogy,
1700
01:20:56,481 --> 01:20:57,315
these guys are gorillas
1701
01:20:57,399 --> 01:20:58,858
and I'm one
of the greatest comics
1702
01:20:58,942 --> 01:21:02,487
- who's ever lived.
1703
01:21:02,529 --> 01:21:06,116
But if you think about it,
who gets dehumanized?
1704
01:21:06,157 --> 01:21:10,328
Right? 'Cause for a second,
I'm in.
1705
01:21:10,370 --> 01:21:12,330
I'm White. Finally.
1706
01:21:13,164 --> 01:21:15,834
Right? Childhood dream achieved.
1707
01:21:15,917 --> 01:21:17,460
And then they find out
that I'm Jewish...
1708
01:21:17,502 --> 01:21:19,671
- ...and the walls go up.
1709
01:21:19,713 --> 01:21:21,548
But it doesn't reflect amazing
on me,
1710
01:21:21,631 --> 01:21:24,009
'cause I wanted them to like me.
1711
01:21:24,050 --> 01:21:27,012
I was performing.
I am always perform--
1712
01:21:27,053 --> 01:21:28,763
I got kicked out
of this meeting,
1713
01:21:28,847 --> 01:21:30,515
and it bothers me...
1714
01:21:32,142 --> 01:21:33,518
...on a craft level...
1715
01:21:36,146 --> 01:21:37,480
...'cause that's what happens.
1716
01:21:37,522 --> 01:21:38,732
This guy calms everybody down
1717
01:21:38,815 --> 01:21:42,110
and he's like, "Okay. Okay.
We're gonna take that break
1718
01:21:42,193 --> 01:21:45,280
and anyone who needs
to leave can leave."
1719
01:21:45,363 --> 01:21:47,782
And even though I'm not amazing
with social cues,
1720
01:21:47,866 --> 01:21:49,743
I was like, "I bet he means me."
1721
01:21:54,372 --> 01:21:56,499
And this is
the kind of dumb joke
1722
01:21:56,541 --> 01:21:58,209
the whole show could have been.
1723
01:21:59,210 --> 01:22:00,670
Everybody else...
1724
01:22:00,712 --> 01:22:02,922
...gets up and they all move...
1725
01:22:03,965 --> 01:22:05,592
to the far right corner
of the room.
1726
01:22:11,014 --> 01:22:13,058
And I'm getting my stuff.
I look sad now.
1727
01:22:13,099 --> 01:22:14,851
I look like I've lost Wimbledon
or something.
1728
01:22:14,893 --> 01:22:17,645
- I'm like, "Oh, God."
1729
01:22:17,729 --> 01:22:18,897
"Can't believe
they would do this
1730
01:22:18,938 --> 01:22:20,273
to the good boy."
1731
01:22:20,357 --> 01:22:24,069
And Chelsea...
Chelsea.
1732
01:22:25,403 --> 01:22:26,279
Chelsea crosses
1733
01:22:26,363 --> 01:22:29,240
this vast expanse
of floor to me.
1734
01:22:30,658 --> 01:22:32,786
And I felt so bad for her
1735
01:22:32,869 --> 01:22:34,079
in that-- I remember thinking,
1736
01:22:34,120 --> 01:22:36,289
"Man, horrible time
and place for you
1737
01:22:36,373 --> 01:22:38,416
to discover
that this is your type."
1738
01:22:44,089 --> 01:22:45,465
And she gets to me.
1739
01:22:51,680 --> 01:22:52,972
She said...
1740
01:22:55,433 --> 01:22:56,601
"You're Jewish?"
1741
01:22:57,018 --> 01:22:58,436
And I said...
1742
01:23:00,230 --> 01:23:01,272
"Can you believe it?"
1743
01:23:04,901 --> 01:23:07,153
And for the first time,
it doesn't work.
1744
01:23:09,447 --> 01:23:11,741
And she went,
"So you're fully Semitic
1745
01:23:12,742 --> 01:23:13,993
or partial? What's going on."
1746
01:23:14,077 --> 01:23:16,037
And I said,
"Both my parents are Jewish."
1747
01:23:16,121 --> 01:23:17,706
And she said,
"That's so interesting."
1748
01:23:17,789 --> 01:23:19,207
She's very calm, actually.
1749
01:23:19,290 --> 01:23:21,167
"That's so interesting.
You know why?
1750
01:23:21,251 --> 01:23:22,919
Because this
is a private residence."
1751
01:23:22,961 --> 01:23:24,462
And I said,
"Well, I was invited."
1752
01:23:24,504 --> 01:23:26,798
And she said, "You were...
You weren't invited.
1753
01:23:26,881 --> 01:23:28,258
You're committing
a crime right now.
1754
01:23:28,299 --> 01:23:31,136
You're trespassing.
You can't be here.
1755
01:23:31,219 --> 01:23:34,222
This is just for us. Go!"
1756
01:24:02,667 --> 01:24:03,668
So...
1757
01:24:05,170 --> 01:24:07,088
So the next morning,
1758
01:24:08,173 --> 01:24:09,716
call David Burstein...
1759
01:24:10,967 --> 01:24:12,052
tell him what he missed.
1760
01:24:14,220 --> 01:24:16,473
And he's quiet
all the way through.
1761
01:24:16,514 --> 01:24:19,100
He just lets me talk.
I talk for like 40 minutes.
1762
01:24:19,184 --> 01:24:21,353
But when I got
to this part of the story,
1763
01:24:21,436 --> 01:24:24,022
he interrupted me.
And pardon the language,
1764
01:24:24,105 --> 01:24:25,857
but he was like,
"And you looked at her
1765
01:24:25,940 --> 01:24:27,442
and you said, 'Fuck you, lady.'
1766
01:24:27,525 --> 01:24:29,527
And then you looked
at everybody else in the room
1767
01:24:29,611 --> 01:24:31,863
and you're like,
'Fuck every single one
1768
01:24:31,946 --> 01:24:33,990
of you racist, bigoted,
1769
01:24:34,032 --> 01:24:36,868
anti-Semitic assholes.'"
And I was like...
1770
01:24:40,205 --> 01:24:42,540
-"Yeah."
1771
01:24:42,582 --> 01:24:44,876
"Of course I put a finger
in her face
1772
01:24:44,918 --> 01:24:46,461
and I'm like,
'Screw you. And screw--
1773
01:24:46,544 --> 01:24:48,171
Screw all
your little Nazi budd--'"
1774
01:24:48,213 --> 01:24:50,590
But that's not what happened.
What really happened is,
1775
01:24:50,674 --> 01:24:53,093
I got scared
by the trespassing thing.
1776
01:24:54,511 --> 01:24:57,305
And I quailed immediately,
and I just went...
1777
01:24:58,348 --> 01:24:59,391
"Okay."
1778
01:24:59,432 --> 01:25:02,060
And on the way out,
this is so much worse,
1779
01:25:02,143 --> 01:25:04,020
I looked at everybody else,
and I just went,
1780
01:25:04,062 --> 01:25:05,814
"Sorry, you guys!"
1781
01:25:11,778 --> 01:25:14,864
And I left. I left.
1782
01:25:16,157 --> 01:25:18,076
You know, I had a conversation
with someone
1783
01:25:18,118 --> 01:25:20,328
the day before this run
on Broadway started
1784
01:25:20,412 --> 01:25:23,456
and... and he said to me,
"Would you go back?"
1785
01:25:23,540 --> 01:25:26,418
"A thousand percent."
And he said, "Really?"
1786
01:25:26,459 --> 01:25:28,128
I said, "Yeah. What,
I'm supposed to lock myself
1787
01:25:28,211 --> 01:25:30,588
in a room with people
who agree with me?"
1788
01:25:30,672 --> 01:25:32,590
"That's how you
wind up like this."
1789
01:25:33,925 --> 01:25:36,469
But I get his point,
because whenever anyone is like,
1790
01:25:36,553 --> 01:25:38,221
"Oh, the way to reach
these people
1791
01:25:38,263 --> 01:25:40,265
on the far right or the far left
1792
01:25:40,348 --> 01:25:43,226
is to extend this hand
of brotherhood and connection,
1793
01:25:43,268 --> 01:25:45,478
and let them know that
in the marketplace of ideas,
1794
01:25:45,562 --> 01:25:48,690
they are welcome--"
Like that's a lovely notion.
1795
01:25:48,773 --> 01:25:51,359
That's how I feel.
That's a Jewish value.
1796
01:25:51,443 --> 01:25:56,072
But some of them want us gone.
And when I say us, I mean, us.
1797
01:25:56,114 --> 01:25:58,116
Like even if you guys
aren't Jewish
1798
01:25:58,158 --> 01:25:59,284
or a person of color,
1799
01:25:59,367 --> 01:26:01,953
the fact that you bought
a ticket to this show...
1800
01:26:04,289 --> 01:26:05,582
...I feel bad for you guys.
1801
01:26:06,624 --> 01:26:08,835
You guys are screwed.
See you on the trains.
1802
01:26:08,918 --> 01:26:09,961
They hate you so much.
1803
01:26:15,592 --> 01:26:16,676
I'm glad I went.
1804
01:26:17,510 --> 01:26:19,596
I really took something
away with me.
1805
01:26:20,472 --> 01:26:22,682
Not like a lesson
or anything like that.
1806
01:26:22,766 --> 01:26:25,810
I really took something away
with me and it's very small,
1807
01:26:25,852 --> 01:26:29,147
but I think it's significant.
And I think it's significant
1808
01:26:29,230 --> 01:26:30,648
because it's one piece
1809
01:26:30,690 --> 01:26:33,902
from a 12,000-piece
jigsaw puzzle.
1810
01:26:40,116 --> 01:26:42,327
♪ ("SECTION 14
" BY
THE POLYPHONIC SPREE PLAYING) ♪
1811
01:26:42,410 --> 01:26:46,206
♪ And I know there's a lot
Outside the window ♪
1812
01:26:46,289 --> 01:26:49,459
♪ Woo-hoo ♪
1813
01:26:49,501 --> 01:26:53,296
♪ It seems a lot
For you and me ♪
1814
01:26:53,338 --> 01:26:56,549
♪ Woo-hoo ♪
1815
01:26:56,633 --> 01:27:00,345
♪ It takes the sun
To make the sidewalk ♪
1816
01:27:00,387 --> 01:27:03,640
♪ Woo-hoo ♪
1817
01:27:03,682 --> 01:27:07,560
♪ It takes the moon
To burn my feet ♪
1818
01:27:07,644 --> 01:27:10,689
♪ Woo-hoo ♪
1819
01:27:10,730 --> 01:27:13,858
♪ It means a lot
To take some time ♪
1820
01:27:13,942 --> 01:27:19,030
♪ I know it's right
You gotta be good ♪
1821
01:27:19,072 --> 01:27:22,075
♪ You gotta be strong ♪
1822
01:27:22,158 --> 01:27:27,038
♪ You gotta be 2,000 places
At once ♪
1823
01:27:28,331 --> 01:27:34,379
♪ You gotta be good
You gotta be strong ♪
1824
01:27:34,462 --> 01:27:39,384
♪ You gotta be 2,000 places
At once ♪
1825
01:27:40,552 --> 01:27:43,763
- ♪ You gotta be good ♪
- ♪ It seems a lot to show ♪
1826
01:27:43,847 --> 01:27:46,808
- ♪ You gotta be strong ♪
- ♪ You've got the time to grow ♪
1827
01:27:46,891 --> 01:27:52,647
♪ You gotta be 2,000 places
At once ♪
1828
01:27:52,731 --> 01:27:55,942
- ♪ You gotta be good ♪
- ♪ It seems a lot to show ♪
1829
01:27:56,026 --> 01:27:59,070
- ♪ You gotta be strong ♪
- ♪ You've got the time to grow ♪
1830
01:27:59,154 --> 01:28:02,615
♪ You got 2,000 places ♪
1831
01:28:05,744 --> 01:28:07,037
♪ Whoo! ♪
1832
01:28:08,329 --> 01:28:12,584
♪ And time will show the way ♪
1833
01:28:12,625 --> 01:28:17,339
♪ And love will shine today ♪
1834
01:28:17,422 --> 01:28:21,885
♪ And time will go away ♪
1835
01:28:21,926 --> 01:28:28,933
♪ So love can grow ♪
1836
01:28:29,267 --> 01:28:32,437
♪ (SONG CONCLUDES) ♪