1 00:00:02,000 --> 00:00:07,000 Downloaded from YTS.MX 2 00:00:08,000 --> 00:00:13,000 Official YIFY movies site: YTS.MX 3 00:00:57,320 --> 00:01:02,920 {\an8}- Mum, we only want to sing until 9. - I don't know, let's see. 4 00:01:03,320 --> 00:01:05,520 {\an8}Only for 15 minutes. 5 00:01:06,080 --> 00:01:09,200 {\an8}Just do it, why are you so upset? 6 00:01:09,840 --> 00:01:12,800 {\an8}Come on, just stay until they begin. 7 00:01:16,920 --> 00:01:19,320 {\an8}- Ready? - Good evening, Daddy! 8 00:01:19,960 --> 00:01:22,160 {\an8}We've been missing you a lot, 9 00:01:22,520 --> 00:01:28,240 {\an8}so we prepared a little show for you with songs and poems. 10 00:01:29,000 --> 00:01:34,400 {\an8}But first I want to introduce you to a friend. 11 00:01:35,520 --> 00:01:38,960 {\an8}Mum gave me this parrot for my birthday. 12 00:01:39,280 --> 00:01:42,160 {\an8}Her name is Kira and she's a bit mean. 13 00:01:42,720 --> 00:01:46,080 {\an8}She's not used to us yet. Look. 14 00:01:49,600 --> 00:01:55,120 Daddy, I'll sing you a song, not in Moldovan, but in Spanish. 15 00:01:56,880 --> 00:01:59,320 It's called Canción para Ana. 16 00:02:12,360 --> 00:02:15,760 25 years ago, my father left to work abroad. 17 00:02:17,920 --> 00:02:22,160 We communicated through VHS tapes that reached him in Italy by bus. 18 00:02:25,160 --> 00:02:29,800 After he left, our home was finally quiet. 19 00:02:38,160 --> 00:02:42,760 Daddy, I want to show you something I learned in acting class. 20 00:02:43,240 --> 00:02:46,120 Valerica rehearsed with me, and she learned it too. 21 00:02:46,560 --> 00:02:49,720 A little tiny cat... 22 00:02:52,080 --> 00:02:54,680 Here's some milk to lap up! 23 00:02:59,080 --> 00:03:01,880 And a doggy, too - 24 00:03:02,320 --> 00:03:04,560 At 18, I left the country too, 25 00:03:05,760 --> 00:03:06,880 to become a journalist, 26 00:03:07,040 --> 00:03:09,520 and our conversations became increasingly rare. 27 00:03:11,320 --> 00:03:13,880 When he called, I felt a heaviness in my chest, 28 00:03:14,200 --> 00:03:16,960 as if something bad was about to happen. 29 00:03:18,600 --> 00:03:22,520 To live without fear, I avoided him as much as I could. 30 00:03:26,360 --> 00:03:29,560 Then I got a troubling message from him. 31 00:03:40,120 --> 00:03:43,760 See, Lina, this is what my life in Italy looks like. 32 00:03:50,400 --> 00:03:52,360 Help me, please. 33 00:03:59,600 --> 00:04:06,120 FATHER 34 00:04:13,520 --> 00:04:17,040 You've packed both cameras, right? Just to be sure. 35 00:04:17,560 --> 00:04:19,560 Yes, I got it. 36 00:04:19,920 --> 00:04:22,480 - And the lapel mics? - Yes. 37 00:04:26,640 --> 00:04:29,680 Will we need lighting and stuff? 38 00:04:29,920 --> 00:04:31,640 No, we're ready. 39 00:04:31,880 --> 00:04:34,800 Are you ready to meet him, though? 40 00:04:48,720 --> 00:04:53,920 I met Radu, my partner, when we worked together in a newsroom. 41 00:04:55,280 --> 00:05:00,040 I asked him to come with me, though he only knew my dad from my stories. 42 00:05:03,800 --> 00:05:07,320 I needed someone I could feel safe with. 43 00:05:20,240 --> 00:05:23,280 Mr. Pavel, the GPS guided us to a bridge. 44 00:05:24,440 --> 00:05:26,440 Go under that bridge. 45 00:05:27,680 --> 00:05:30,160 In 100 metres you'll go right. 46 00:05:30,320 --> 00:05:32,600 The road goes on, you follow the hedge. 47 00:05:46,680 --> 00:05:49,000 How lovely, is this where your dad lives? 48 00:05:49,360 --> 00:05:53,080 On this property, but they have a different entrance. 49 00:05:53,320 --> 00:05:57,000 He's in the workers' wing. 50 00:05:59,280 --> 00:06:00,640 Hello, dears! 51 00:06:00,960 --> 00:06:04,200 - How are you? - How did the trip go? 52 00:06:05,560 --> 00:06:09,280 Are you dead tired or still got something in you? 53 00:06:09,440 --> 00:06:11,560 Hello, sweetie, how are you? 54 00:06:13,840 --> 00:06:16,720 - Hi. - You're so thin, poor thing! 55 00:06:24,520 --> 00:06:26,080 Wow, olive trees! 56 00:06:26,360 --> 00:06:28,680 These are the plants I'm taking care of. 57 00:06:28,920 --> 00:06:32,360 - What are they? - Wild lemon and orange trees. 58 00:06:45,520 --> 00:06:47,280 You as a little girl? 59 00:06:49,480 --> 00:06:51,000 As a little girl, yes. 60 00:06:58,000 --> 00:07:00,360 This was the end-of-school party. 61 00:07:02,120 --> 00:07:04,040 The 12-th grade prom? 62 00:07:08,760 --> 00:07:11,200 Right after, I left for the United States. 63 00:07:11,480 --> 00:07:14,640 Then I moved to Iași, Romania, for university. 64 00:07:14,960 --> 00:07:16,560 That was the end of it. 65 00:07:17,360 --> 00:07:19,720 We never lived together after that. 66 00:07:24,200 --> 00:07:25,480 Look there. 67 00:07:29,200 --> 00:07:33,240 - He was a sailor back then. - He looked so different. 68 00:07:34,960 --> 00:07:37,080 Yeah, well, he's older. 69 00:07:40,360 --> 00:07:46,680 This is my yard, I pass through here every day on my way to work. 70 00:07:49,080 --> 00:07:52,200 Well, of course, since it's at the front. 71 00:07:53,000 --> 00:07:54,880 These are the vineyards. 72 00:07:55,440 --> 00:07:57,120 And there... 73 00:07:58,720 --> 00:08:01,760 The forest belongs to the owners as well. 74 00:08:01,920 --> 00:08:06,000 And there we have - don't film the truck, please! 75 00:08:06,320 --> 00:08:07,480 What's here? 76 00:08:08,160 --> 00:08:10,400 This is where I work. 77 00:08:12,400 --> 00:08:15,240 I don't want to get in trouble. 78 00:08:18,040 --> 00:08:19,160 And here... 79 00:08:20,080 --> 00:08:22,240 This is the main entrance. 80 00:08:23,120 --> 00:08:27,160 I'm not allowed to use it. I just sweep and mow the lawn. 81 00:08:27,320 --> 00:08:30,000 I do what needs doing. 82 00:08:31,400 --> 00:08:34,240 The agreement with the owners is 83 00:08:36,200 --> 00:08:40,160 that I don't pay rent in exchange for all the cleaning and gardening. 84 00:08:40,400 --> 00:08:42,680 But I pay for my gas. 85 00:08:43,600 --> 00:08:45,040 I saw a car. 86 00:08:45,320 --> 00:08:47,040 - What? - A car just passed. 87 00:08:47,600 --> 00:08:48,960 Oh, that's the boss. 88 00:08:51,360 --> 00:08:53,800 He might see us. Radu, let's go! 89 00:08:55,080 --> 00:08:57,280 What happened? I don't understand. 90 00:08:58,480 --> 00:09:00,760 She saw a car. 91 00:09:01,440 --> 00:09:05,760 We should leave now, I don't want him to see us filming. 92 00:09:06,560 --> 00:09:09,080 You should've told me as soon as you saw the car. 93 00:09:09,840 --> 00:09:12,120 Did he park? 94 00:09:13,680 --> 00:09:15,360 No, I just saw a car driving by. 95 00:09:15,800 --> 00:09:17,440 Did you see him parking? 96 00:09:17,600 --> 00:09:21,160 I don't know, Dad, he just passed by. 97 00:09:21,600 --> 00:09:23,880 Let's wait here until he leaves. 98 00:09:44,800 --> 00:09:47,760 I'll check if he's in the backyard. 99 00:09:59,960 --> 00:10:03,320 My father has always been pride personified. 100 00:10:04,160 --> 00:10:08,080 For his generation, emotions are a sign of weakness. 101 00:10:10,880 --> 00:10:14,520 Men have to appear strong and confident. 102 00:10:16,680 --> 00:10:19,880 They must rule their family with an iron fist. 103 00:10:24,080 --> 00:10:25,120 No signal. 104 00:10:25,840 --> 00:10:28,160 I have no coverage here either. 105 00:10:30,560 --> 00:10:32,680 I didn't check if there's a signal. 106 00:11:34,240 --> 00:11:36,600 What happened to you here? 107 00:11:38,760 --> 00:11:41,120 I'm going to tell you something. 108 00:11:41,440 --> 00:11:43,080 People who came here first, 109 00:11:43,560 --> 00:11:48,320 people who came here at... a certain age, 110 00:11:49,480 --> 00:11:51,360 they came here to work. 111 00:11:51,800 --> 00:11:53,800 Then, of course, you get oppressed, 112 00:11:54,280 --> 00:11:58,920 you get hounded, you get disrespected, you get... 113 00:12:00,080 --> 00:12:01,680 It's like you're nothing. 114 00:12:03,560 --> 00:12:06,360 My boss is really strict. 115 00:12:06,800 --> 00:12:10,680 It even bothers him how I hold the broom handle! 116 00:12:11,200 --> 00:12:14,200 "That's no way to sweep! You call that sweeping?" 117 00:12:15,400 --> 00:12:19,960 "You call that piling the rubbish? You call that holding a handle?" 118 00:12:20,680 --> 00:12:24,200 That's no way to tidy up, no way to mop the floor, 119 00:12:24,680 --> 00:12:27,160 he'd pick on anything. 120 00:12:28,360 --> 00:12:31,520 "That's no way of walking!" How am I supposed to walk? 121 00:12:32,600 --> 00:12:34,320 Or he'd imitate me. 122 00:12:34,600 --> 00:12:38,640 I'd just be walking and he'd be laughing: 123 00:12:39,080 --> 00:12:41,160 "What kind of walking is that?" 124 00:12:41,640 --> 00:12:44,920 "At your age, you can't walk like a normal human?" 125 00:12:45,280 --> 00:12:48,600 Then he took to twisting my arm, 126 00:12:50,320 --> 00:12:54,080 grabbing me and saying "I could tear you to pieces." 127 00:12:54,240 --> 00:12:56,680 I go back home with bruised arms. 128 00:12:57,280 --> 00:12:59,720 I even took photos of them. 129 00:13:00,000 --> 00:13:03,080 Bruises on my arms, bruises on my neck... 130 00:13:03,560 --> 00:13:08,320 Sometimes he hits my head, comes up from behind and goes bam! 131 00:13:09,040 --> 00:13:10,360 Just like that! 132 00:13:11,000 --> 00:13:16,640 How could I tell that to your mother, to you, to my brother back home? 133 00:13:18,600 --> 00:13:21,200 Once it turned really bad. 134 00:13:21,680 --> 00:13:25,640 Really bad. He came at me to beat me up! 135 00:13:26,480 --> 00:13:29,520 He shoved me, my glasses flew off. 136 00:13:29,840 --> 00:13:32,920 Good thing they didn't break, they're expensive. 137 00:13:34,040 --> 00:13:38,360 Why didn't you go to the police or something? 138 00:13:39,200 --> 00:13:41,960 Baby, it's complicated. 139 00:13:42,120 --> 00:13:47,160 You can go to the police, sure, but... 140 00:13:47,760 --> 00:13:49,440 You need witnesses. 141 00:13:49,960 --> 00:13:53,640 He told me to my face, "File all the complaints you want." 142 00:13:54,240 --> 00:13:57,360 "I can afford lawyers, you can't." 143 00:13:57,760 --> 00:14:01,560 "Let's see you manage without money," he said. 144 00:14:02,360 --> 00:14:05,640 Yes, he abuses me. He does! 145 00:14:06,680 --> 00:14:10,320 Physically, morally, mentally. 146 00:14:11,200 --> 00:14:15,240 Financially, too. He abuses me in every way. 147 00:14:15,440 --> 00:14:19,520 He abuses you and then he mocks you, laughs at you. 148 00:14:21,760 --> 00:14:26,560 You may be angry with me, our relationship may not be the best, 149 00:14:27,240 --> 00:14:30,680 you may not be happy with me, but I think you have to have the... 150 00:14:31,400 --> 00:14:34,000 The heart to help me. 151 00:14:34,360 --> 00:14:38,400 Writing about this, filming it, so I can get out of this. 152 00:14:38,560 --> 00:14:40,040 I can't take this anymore. 153 00:14:40,400 --> 00:14:43,640 You're the only one I can... 154 00:14:45,000 --> 00:14:46,400 I can't. 155 00:15:32,720 --> 00:15:37,160 As a journalist, I have always sought to expose violence. 156 00:15:43,320 --> 00:15:47,920 To give voice to people who suffer because of others. 157 00:15:50,960 --> 00:15:52,640 I wrote about war, 158 00:15:53,200 --> 00:15:55,360 about tortured prisoners, 159 00:15:57,920 --> 00:16:02,960 about immigrant workers, like my father, humiliated and abused by employers. 160 00:16:06,280 --> 00:16:08,440 It was only later that I realised I chose my stories 161 00:16:08,600 --> 00:16:11,600 because I was trying to understand the violence in my family. 162 00:16:15,880 --> 00:16:18,160 Why did my father hurt us so much? 163 00:16:33,480 --> 00:16:35,160 I have no idea what the hell to do. 164 00:16:41,120 --> 00:16:42,160 Well... 165 00:16:43,320 --> 00:16:48,720 What would you have done if this had been someone else? 166 00:16:56,760 --> 00:16:58,520 He's at the door, listening. 167 00:17:02,200 --> 00:17:06,600 Here, baby, these are all the documents I've gathered, 168 00:17:07,240 --> 00:17:11,880 in the last 12 years I've worked for this man. 169 00:17:12,040 --> 00:17:16,120 Here are the official hours I got paid for, 170 00:17:16,760 --> 00:17:20,080 and here are the unofficial ones. 171 00:17:20,560 --> 00:17:23,520 I had to write them down separately, 172 00:17:23,680 --> 00:17:27,200 because he paid them separately, look. 173 00:17:28,080 --> 00:17:31,520 See the differences between the two tables. 174 00:17:31,720 --> 00:17:35,040 Please, if you can, 175 00:17:35,360 --> 00:17:38,840 give me an idea, help me somehow. 176 00:17:39,560 --> 00:17:44,080 Or find someone who can help me. 177 00:18:10,360 --> 00:18:11,560 What's up? 178 00:18:11,840 --> 00:18:14,760 No one would take the case without solid evidence. 179 00:18:18,360 --> 00:18:21,800 The controls are intuitive enough. 180 00:18:22,600 --> 00:18:25,280 It won't show from the pocket. 181 00:18:26,000 --> 00:18:29,200 I'm worried his employer might notice. 182 00:18:29,680 --> 00:18:31,120 There's always that risk. 183 00:18:35,760 --> 00:18:37,280 It's the same model you used. 184 00:18:37,560 --> 00:18:40,320 The one I used in Ukraine, right? 185 00:18:44,680 --> 00:18:47,600 Did you wear it in your bag or under your shirt? 186 00:18:47,760 --> 00:18:49,640 Under my shirt. 187 00:18:50,120 --> 00:18:52,040 That's a bit more complicated. 188 00:18:52,320 --> 00:18:57,240 It's harder to frame, to control what you're framing. 189 00:18:58,480 --> 00:19:02,720 Essential things can happen, and if you fail to film them... 190 00:19:03,640 --> 00:19:06,120 It happened to fellows of mine. 191 00:19:07,320 --> 00:19:11,320 They gathered camera evidence and it didn't hold in court. 192 00:19:11,920 --> 00:19:16,480 Because of the poor picture, the corrupted sound... 193 00:19:18,240 --> 00:19:20,440 We'll give him a tutorial tomorrow. 194 00:19:21,880 --> 00:19:25,040 This is the main part of the camera. 195 00:19:26,320 --> 00:19:28,960 Keep it in your pocket. 196 00:19:32,240 --> 00:19:36,040 This is the lens. 197 00:19:36,440 --> 00:19:39,320 It does the filming and goes here. 198 00:19:43,080 --> 00:19:45,400 - Here, can you see? - Yes. 199 00:19:46,600 --> 00:19:49,160 You see, right? Here, for example. 200 00:19:50,720 --> 00:19:52,000 There, see? 201 00:19:52,160 --> 00:19:54,320 It films from chest level. 202 00:19:56,160 --> 00:20:00,000 You turn it on when you feel that... 203 00:20:00,880 --> 00:20:02,520 When things get hot. 204 00:20:02,720 --> 00:20:05,880 - The same button turns it off. - I see. 205 00:20:23,480 --> 00:20:26,440 When I'm in that house, I feel like... 206 00:20:31,160 --> 00:20:35,960 Like the walls are coming down on me, suffocating me. 207 00:20:42,000 --> 00:20:44,560 It's strange, it's such a beautiful place. 208 00:20:44,920 --> 00:20:47,600 - I don't... - Such a beautiful house. 209 00:21:01,360 --> 00:21:04,600 - You can rest for one hour. - One hour, yes. 210 00:21:27,240 --> 00:21:28,640 Don't answer! 211 00:21:29,160 --> 00:21:30,760 Why not? 212 00:21:32,040 --> 00:21:33,320 Oh God! 213 00:21:33,960 --> 00:21:37,520 Wait and see, he'll start calling us every day. 214 00:21:39,240 --> 00:21:43,560 My father is obsessed with knowing what the people around him do, 215 00:21:43,880 --> 00:21:46,920 he thinks everyone must report to him. 216 00:21:47,360 --> 00:21:49,880 I don't know how to call it... 217 00:21:50,560 --> 00:21:51,920 Control freak. 218 00:21:53,280 --> 00:21:56,480 - He does it to your mother, too? - To everyone! 219 00:21:57,920 --> 00:22:01,640 You couldn't do anything without him knowing. 220 00:22:04,720 --> 00:22:08,080 For example, we had a landline phone. 221 00:22:09,000 --> 00:22:14,320 At the end of the month, when we got the invoice, he wanted the call list, 222 00:22:15,600 --> 00:22:22,520 the numbers we had called, duration, time of call, date, etc. 223 00:22:23,520 --> 00:22:27,880 He'd come to me with the list and say "Who called this number?" 224 00:22:28,320 --> 00:22:31,480 And I'd say "I did. I called Mariana, my desk mate." 225 00:22:31,960 --> 00:22:36,320 "What could you possibly talk about for 23 minutes?" I had no clue. 226 00:22:36,880 --> 00:22:38,160 I didn't know! 227 00:22:38,440 --> 00:22:40,000 "Where were you all that time?" 228 00:22:40,160 --> 00:22:43,680 "Your acting class ends at 2.30. Why did you get home at 3?" 229 00:22:43,840 --> 00:22:47,840 "It only takes you ten minutes to get home from Art School." 230 00:22:48,440 --> 00:22:49,800 And? 231 00:22:54,080 --> 00:22:56,160 Sometimes you're like that too. 232 00:22:58,120 --> 00:23:00,920 Not like that, believe me. 233 00:23:01,200 --> 00:23:04,160 I am not like that, Radu. 234 00:23:04,360 --> 00:23:07,040 I'm just saying, sometimes... 235 00:23:07,200 --> 00:23:10,080 If I was like that, you wouldn't be with me. 236 00:23:10,440 --> 00:23:14,880 Are you telling me you could put up with that? 237 00:23:15,400 --> 00:23:19,200 You leave, you don't call me, you don't speak with me at all. 238 00:23:19,680 --> 00:23:22,360 - I know you don't want to know. - Yeah, right, I don't. 239 00:23:22,520 --> 00:23:24,440 That's the thing, I... 240 00:23:25,440 --> 00:23:28,560 I give you all the freedom I can, because I know 241 00:23:28,720 --> 00:23:30,960 what it's like to be suffocated. 242 00:23:42,320 --> 00:23:44,560 The last one to tell me I was like my father 243 00:23:44,720 --> 00:23:49,440 was my ex-husband, who left me just five months after the wedding. 244 00:23:54,080 --> 00:23:57,600 It made me realise my father's violence had always been a part of me, 245 00:23:57,960 --> 00:24:00,880 like an invisible hand or an extra lung. 246 00:24:07,320 --> 00:24:11,320 Out of fear of being hurt, I caused suffering to the people I loved. 247 00:24:17,560 --> 00:24:21,640 To escape the violence, I had to look inside myself. 248 00:24:23,440 --> 00:24:28,160 If I hadn't done that then, I couldn't help my father now. 249 00:24:34,120 --> 00:24:35,760 There he is now. 250 00:24:36,840 --> 00:24:38,440 Dad's boss appears here. 251 00:24:39,520 --> 00:24:42,160 Four hours, you get paid for four hours. 252 00:24:43,520 --> 00:24:44,880 But you... 253 00:24:46,880 --> 00:24:47,960 Yes, but... 254 00:24:49,400 --> 00:24:51,680 They're talking about money, right? 255 00:24:53,280 --> 00:24:55,280 He's paying him. 256 00:24:57,920 --> 00:25:00,560 Taking it out of his wallet. 257 00:25:03,960 --> 00:25:06,960 - What's that? - 361. 258 00:25:07,600 --> 00:25:09,440 361 euro. 259 00:25:11,720 --> 00:25:14,480 He actually gives him one euro. 260 00:25:18,400 --> 00:25:21,760 There's our evidence! Undocumented pay! 261 00:25:22,040 --> 00:25:25,120 This is super-important, let me mark it. 262 00:25:29,480 --> 00:25:32,040 These are from the labour union. 263 00:25:34,600 --> 00:25:37,800 With all his registered work hours. 264 00:25:39,640 --> 00:25:42,160 In their record. 265 00:25:43,200 --> 00:25:46,120 Then there are the hours Dad actually worked. 266 00:25:46,800 --> 00:25:48,280 And the difference. 267 00:25:48,480 --> 00:25:52,760 Here are the hours worked on top of the standard. 268 00:25:53,360 --> 00:25:56,080 Contributions weren't paid for these. 269 00:25:56,720 --> 00:25:58,320 - Yes. - Pension contributions. 270 00:26:03,160 --> 00:26:09,000 It should be easy to prove, if you look at his production in those months. 271 00:26:09,200 --> 00:26:15,120 What, he packaged a million wine bottles with two employees on four hours a day? 272 00:26:16,720 --> 00:26:19,400 I wanted to look at another file. 273 00:26:35,960 --> 00:26:42,880 Hello, my little girl, Lina. Today I want to talk to you. 274 00:26:46,600 --> 00:26:52,880 I thought I should tell you some things I never could say. 275 00:26:54,600 --> 00:27:00,120 Sometimes I'm depressed too, I want you to know that. 276 00:27:00,520 --> 00:27:03,840 I am a man, but I'm not made of iron. 277 00:27:04,200 --> 00:27:06,080 A lot of times... 278 00:27:08,240 --> 00:27:12,160 A lot of times, I feel very, very bad, 279 00:27:14,560 --> 00:27:19,760 and, to be honest, in those moments I can't call you. 280 00:27:19,960 --> 00:27:23,880 I'm worried I might start crying. 281 00:27:24,520 --> 00:27:29,320 You were little, I barely spoke with you, and your mother knew why. 282 00:27:29,800 --> 00:27:34,040 I would talk a little and choke up. 283 00:27:34,480 --> 00:27:37,960 I couldn't speak without tearing up 284 00:27:38,960 --> 00:27:41,720 and feeling a lump in my throat. 285 00:27:42,960 --> 00:27:46,440 Then I had to stop so you wouldn't see it. 286 00:27:47,200 --> 00:27:50,320 I think we should forgive each other 287 00:27:51,800 --> 00:27:55,640 for things we've done in our lives. 288 00:27:56,600 --> 00:27:57,920 Your father... 289 00:27:58,440 --> 00:28:04,120 Father loves you all and wishes you all the best. 290 00:28:18,760 --> 00:28:23,040 All my life I've waited for my dad to tell me these things. 291 00:28:27,000 --> 00:28:31,040 To show me, in his own way, that he loves me. 292 00:28:35,760 --> 00:28:40,040 His attempt to bridge the gap comes as another life grows in me. 293 00:28:56,600 --> 00:28:59,760 - Can you see the baby's gender? - I didn't check. 294 00:29:00,760 --> 00:29:03,120 Let's find out together. 295 00:29:03,920 --> 00:29:06,400 Yes, it's a girl. 296 00:29:08,160 --> 00:29:09,960 You can see it here. 297 00:29:11,040 --> 00:29:14,640 Here are the legs, the knees and the soles. 298 00:29:15,400 --> 00:29:16,920 One, two. 299 00:29:26,800 --> 00:29:29,160 - Is that her leg? - Yes, a femur. 300 00:29:29,520 --> 00:29:32,800 Look, the liver, the stomach, the spine. 301 00:29:41,440 --> 00:29:44,240 The message from my dad and the child inside me 302 00:29:44,440 --> 00:29:48,520 make me see the past in a different, unexpected light. 303 00:29:50,120 --> 00:29:53,600 I want to return to Moldova, the place I fled from, 304 00:29:53,760 --> 00:29:57,920 to understand where the violence in our family comes from. 305 00:30:02,920 --> 00:30:05,480 Show him your grades. 306 00:30:05,800 --> 00:30:08,120 The schoolbags he sent you, too. 307 00:30:09,680 --> 00:30:14,600 The fear of my father is the feeling I remember best from my childhood. 308 00:30:15,520 --> 00:30:18,680 The fear of being beaten when the house wasn't tidy. 309 00:30:19,080 --> 00:30:21,400 When I got a lower grade at school. 310 00:30:21,760 --> 00:30:25,120 When neither we sisters nor our mother were perfect. 311 00:30:26,360 --> 00:30:27,480 Daddy! 312 00:30:29,480 --> 00:30:30,720 Look. 313 00:30:31,040 --> 00:30:35,720 Today I got a 10 for that poem I recited you. 314 00:30:36,760 --> 00:30:39,440 Last week I got a 9. 315 00:30:44,840 --> 00:30:47,120 I hope you are pleased with my grades. 316 00:30:51,160 --> 00:30:55,800 This is the schoolbag you sent me. It's torn a bit here. 317 00:30:58,000 --> 00:31:02,080 I really like it, and I hope it will last for a long time. 318 00:31:02,280 --> 00:31:04,280 It's already the second year I've been using it. 319 00:31:05,000 --> 00:31:09,000 I went to Italy to help him, but the meeting triggered me, 320 00:31:09,200 --> 00:31:12,680 reminded me he wasn't always the victim. 321 00:31:30,360 --> 00:31:33,120 You tell me, let's talk about it. 322 00:31:33,320 --> 00:31:36,360 What did I do to deserve beatings? 323 00:31:36,640 --> 00:31:39,320 What did my sisters do that was so bad? 324 00:31:39,680 --> 00:31:41,600 You call those "beatings"? 325 00:31:42,360 --> 00:31:45,360 You whipped us with your trouser belt! 326 00:31:45,640 --> 00:31:51,560 The last time you beat us was when I tried to defend myself. 327 00:31:51,960 --> 00:31:54,760 It was just meant to scare you! 328 00:31:55,200 --> 00:31:58,040 So it's normal to scare children with beatings? 329 00:31:58,320 --> 00:32:02,040 Instead of explaining patiently, saying: 330 00:32:02,440 --> 00:32:05,440 "This is wrong, if you do this, it will cause that." 331 00:32:05,680 --> 00:32:08,600 Let me ask this again, make sure I get it. 332 00:32:08,920 --> 00:32:10,520 I'll ask again: 333 00:32:10,800 --> 00:32:14,240 You never understood your dad worked four jobs 334 00:32:14,440 --> 00:32:18,080 to put food on the family table? 335 00:32:18,320 --> 00:32:22,520 You think I had the time to sit down and talk, 336 00:32:22,880 --> 00:32:26,240 two hours of explaining with each of you girls? 337 00:32:27,120 --> 00:32:30,480 What's the point in trying so hard, 338 00:32:31,360 --> 00:32:34,560 doing well in school, getting awards, 339 00:32:34,760 --> 00:32:38,920 if inside you feel like you don't deserve anything? 340 00:32:41,640 --> 00:32:45,960 Just to prove to someone that you're worth anything at all? 341 00:32:46,240 --> 00:32:48,200 Why, if you're miserable inside? 342 00:32:50,080 --> 00:32:53,480 Where do you think these feelings of mine come from? 343 00:33:06,520 --> 00:33:11,640 I want to understand how you can look at a child who's 5, 6, or 12, 344 00:33:13,080 --> 00:33:14,640 and then beat them. 345 00:33:14,800 --> 00:33:16,880 Maybe you never will. 346 00:33:17,120 --> 00:33:21,640 I want to understand, because I don't want to do the same! 347 00:33:21,880 --> 00:33:25,600 Good, but you won't even listen to me. 348 00:33:25,920 --> 00:33:27,880 I'm listening. 349 00:33:28,560 --> 00:33:32,600 Our generation never thought badly of our parents! 350 00:33:32,960 --> 00:33:36,760 We told ourselves this is life and we must go on with it! 351 00:33:37,120 --> 00:33:42,040 Other people I know acted the same, 352 00:33:42,360 --> 00:33:47,000 and I'm not seeing their children whining! 353 00:33:47,200 --> 00:33:48,760 You can't know that. 354 00:33:49,040 --> 00:33:51,680 Sure, but I'm telling you. 355 00:33:52,120 --> 00:33:53,720 I remember it clearly. 356 00:33:53,920 --> 00:33:56,960 I barely hit you, every now and then! 357 00:33:57,280 --> 00:34:00,960 Do you have any idea how bad it hurts? 358 00:34:01,480 --> 00:34:05,280 I'm sick of always fighting this. 359 00:34:05,640 --> 00:34:09,240 All my depression, all my issues. 360 00:34:09,640 --> 00:34:12,400 Sometimes I'm sick of myself! 361 00:34:12,600 --> 00:34:14,080 Of myself! 362 00:34:14,840 --> 00:34:17,120 Of course others get sick of me too. 363 00:34:53,160 --> 00:34:55,720 I felt so much shame. 364 00:34:59,320 --> 00:35:05,120 I remember that feeling so well. The shame was overwhelming. 365 00:35:05,680 --> 00:35:11,040 After he would yell at us or beat us, or after a fight with my mum, 366 00:35:11,840 --> 00:35:14,160 I didn't want the others to see me. 367 00:35:14,840 --> 00:35:20,840 If I did go out, I hoped no one would mention the subject. 368 00:35:23,000 --> 00:35:25,480 Let's all pretend nothing has happened. 369 00:35:25,680 --> 00:35:29,080 Now I notice the door is the same. 370 00:35:29,240 --> 00:35:31,760 It's the door from my childhood. 371 00:35:38,480 --> 00:35:42,880 Look at you, Sis, look how beautiful you were! 372 00:35:44,880 --> 00:35:47,640 This is my favourite photo of you. 373 00:36:02,560 --> 00:36:06,560 I always felt that, in a way, you were more mature than me. 374 00:36:08,280 --> 00:36:10,240 Only emotionally. Maybe. 375 00:36:13,600 --> 00:36:20,520 Yes, I felt it as well, but that's because I was more protected. 376 00:36:22,240 --> 00:36:26,640 You have more bad memories with him than I do. 377 00:36:27,200 --> 00:36:32,680 I don't remember it so well, but you always told me what was happening. 378 00:36:34,920 --> 00:36:40,120 I remember it got worse later, when we moved to this apartment. 379 00:36:41,160 --> 00:36:43,520 We cried every night in our room. 380 00:36:43,840 --> 00:36:46,240 Even when the two of us argued, 381 00:36:48,200 --> 00:36:53,480 when something like that happened, we'd still cry on each other's shoulder. 382 00:36:53,760 --> 00:36:56,520 We needed each other, so we had to make up. 383 00:36:58,280 --> 00:36:59,800 - Remember? - Yes. 384 00:37:00,200 --> 00:37:02,880 We went to bed angry with each other, 385 00:37:04,120 --> 00:37:07,400 but when Mum and Dad fought, well, when Dad fought with her, 386 00:37:07,840 --> 00:37:09,640 when Dad hurt Mother, 387 00:37:14,600 --> 00:37:17,240 you and I put aside our argument. 388 00:37:19,080 --> 00:37:23,640 I guess, in a way, it helped us bond better. 389 00:37:25,240 --> 00:37:27,040 Us? 100%. 390 00:37:28,320 --> 00:37:30,600 That was the most... 391 00:37:32,880 --> 00:37:36,320 - We were united against danger. - Yes. 392 00:37:36,600 --> 00:37:39,200 We were the only ones who knew what was happening. 393 00:37:39,600 --> 00:37:44,720 Nobody would have understood it anyway. 394 00:38:03,840 --> 00:38:07,240 My mother always had a sadness on her face that broke my heart. 395 00:38:11,080 --> 00:38:12,280 When I was six, 396 00:38:12,480 --> 00:38:15,400 my father pushed her against the balcony door in the kitchen. 397 00:38:21,800 --> 00:38:25,680 The shards of glass cut into her skin and drenched her dress in blood. 398 00:38:30,400 --> 00:38:33,320 I came out from behind the fridge, grabbed my little sister, 399 00:38:33,760 --> 00:38:36,560 and we hid under the bed in our room. 400 00:38:39,200 --> 00:38:43,160 We prayed, as we did many times, not to lose her altogether. 401 00:38:55,160 --> 00:38:58,240 You dye it in parallel lines. 402 00:38:58,440 --> 00:39:00,480 Yes, I know. 403 00:39:01,880 --> 00:39:05,680 I've dyed your hair before, just not in a long time. 404 00:39:05,840 --> 00:39:07,360 True. 405 00:39:07,640 --> 00:39:11,840 I'm lucky to have three daughters to dye my hair! 406 00:39:12,400 --> 00:39:14,520 I've done it myself too. 407 00:39:14,800 --> 00:39:18,840 - And you've managed? - Yes, looking in the mirror. 408 00:39:19,480 --> 00:39:22,640 I do the back by feel mostly, but... 409 00:39:24,040 --> 00:39:25,760 It works. 410 00:39:28,360 --> 00:39:32,000 When I found out I had cancer, 411 00:39:32,960 --> 00:39:35,680 I thought it was all over. 412 00:39:36,120 --> 00:39:40,520 My sister had died of cancer, so I thought my turn had come. 413 00:39:42,120 --> 00:39:46,600 - You thought it was over? - Yes, I thought I wouldn't survive. 414 00:39:47,560 --> 00:39:51,760 I would walk down the street, looking around, feeling like 415 00:39:52,040 --> 00:39:55,200 I was seeing the trees for the last time. 416 00:39:56,680 --> 00:39:58,040 But... 417 00:40:00,200 --> 00:40:03,200 God is great, I was healed. 418 00:40:03,720 --> 00:40:05,560 The cancer was gone. 419 00:40:06,520 --> 00:40:08,240 After that, you changed. 420 00:40:08,480 --> 00:40:12,320 Yes, I've changed my attitude towards life a bit. 421 00:40:12,560 --> 00:40:16,680 I thought, after going through this illness, 422 00:40:17,400 --> 00:40:22,160 it's not worth being so strict with myself. 423 00:40:22,600 --> 00:40:26,880 I figured I deserve to be a little more free. 424 00:40:28,960 --> 00:40:33,800 To allow myself more things that I didn't allow myself before. 425 00:40:34,640 --> 00:40:40,240 To have my own point of view, not to always do what your father says. 426 00:40:41,680 --> 00:40:45,360 I figured I have a right to that. 427 00:40:45,680 --> 00:40:47,880 To say and think something else. 428 00:40:48,160 --> 00:40:51,760 I used to be like a child, naive, dreaming. 429 00:40:52,080 --> 00:40:57,120 I thought life happens, will happen to me anyway, and it will all be fine. 430 00:40:57,600 --> 00:41:02,840 But it's not quite like that. You have to work for it all to be fine. 431 00:41:03,880 --> 00:41:06,840 You have to think things through. 432 00:41:26,400 --> 00:41:28,320 See, that's it! 433 00:41:28,880 --> 00:41:31,120 Now I have a different face. 434 00:41:31,920 --> 00:41:34,120 Thank you so much, dear! 435 00:41:34,360 --> 00:41:37,160 - Do you like it? - Yes, it turned out nicely. 436 00:41:38,040 --> 00:41:42,080 Now I see myself and think I look nice. 437 00:41:42,920 --> 00:41:45,960 - Thank you very much. - You're welcome. 438 00:41:46,120 --> 00:41:47,760 Thanks for helping. 439 00:42:02,200 --> 00:42:04,360 He's Peter the Rooster! 440 00:42:05,200 --> 00:42:07,440 He used to come out and sing for me. 441 00:42:07,640 --> 00:42:10,520 - He ran off, Mum. - He forgot all about me. 442 00:42:11,000 --> 00:42:14,960 When I bought him, he'd come flap his wings and sing. 443 00:42:16,240 --> 00:42:19,200 But he hasn't seen me much over winter. 444 00:42:28,880 --> 00:42:31,840 Now the camera is filming us both. 445 00:42:32,080 --> 00:42:33,240 Alright? 446 00:42:33,480 --> 00:42:35,440 Let me show you my baby. 447 00:42:44,240 --> 00:42:47,240 Did you miss me? 448 00:42:49,120 --> 00:42:51,200 I missed you so much. 449 00:42:51,560 --> 00:42:54,440 I last saw you in summer, right? 450 00:42:54,720 --> 00:42:57,560 - No, last year. - I missed you so much! 451 00:42:57,960 --> 00:42:59,920 It's been a year, Grandma. 452 00:43:04,640 --> 00:43:05,960 I remember... 453 00:43:06,120 --> 00:43:11,200 My poor mother had to gather dowry for three daughters, I was the fourth! 454 00:43:12,120 --> 00:43:14,920 She didn't really want me, I was Dad's girl. 455 00:43:15,680 --> 00:43:17,680 I was always around him. 456 00:43:18,320 --> 00:43:20,960 My father taught me to eat by myself. 457 00:43:21,280 --> 00:43:23,440 We had no forks. 458 00:43:24,240 --> 00:43:28,080 He'd go "Here, love, hold your hand like this!" 459 00:43:28,360 --> 00:43:31,200 "Grab it and bring it to your mouth!" 460 00:43:31,440 --> 00:43:33,320 I'll never forget. 461 00:43:33,640 --> 00:43:36,440 - Grandma, what about your brother? - Ion! 462 00:43:36,800 --> 00:43:38,840 Tell her how he died. 463 00:43:39,080 --> 00:43:42,440 He was in 4th grade at the Romanian-language school. 464 00:43:43,280 --> 00:43:45,240 We had a lot of sheep. 465 00:43:46,760 --> 00:43:48,680 My other brother, Gheorghe, 466 00:43:49,120 --> 00:43:51,600 went to school in the morning. 467 00:43:52,560 --> 00:43:54,800 Ion had school in the afternoon. 468 00:43:55,080 --> 00:43:58,080 So Ion took the sheep to graze in the morning, 469 00:43:58,400 --> 00:44:01,200 and waited for Gheorghe to come take over. 470 00:44:01,480 --> 00:44:04,120 So he was often late for school. 471 00:44:04,640 --> 00:44:07,080 He was late once, late twice... 472 00:44:07,680 --> 00:44:11,040 I remember the teacher, he wasn't a bad man. 473 00:44:11,200 --> 00:44:12,840 He just... 474 00:44:13,120 --> 00:44:16,840 He got angry, because Ion was otherwise a good pupil. 475 00:44:17,560 --> 00:44:20,920 He dragged him from his desk and broke his leg. 476 00:44:21,840 --> 00:44:23,440 Broke his knee. 477 00:44:23,600 --> 00:44:26,640 He died, in the end. 478 00:44:27,640 --> 00:44:28,720 Then... 479 00:44:29,800 --> 00:44:32,880 People tried to convince my father 480 00:44:33,960 --> 00:44:36,400 to take the teacher to court. 481 00:44:38,000 --> 00:44:41,560 The man's wife was my first-grade teacher. 482 00:44:43,640 --> 00:44:47,160 My father said "No. I just buried a son." 483 00:44:47,640 --> 00:44:50,680 "At least his children should have a father." 484 00:44:51,520 --> 00:44:53,520 So he forgave him. 485 00:44:58,160 --> 00:45:00,920 - Really? - But he lost little Ion. 486 00:45:01,320 --> 00:45:03,000 I still remember. 487 00:45:27,560 --> 00:45:29,600 Look at this! 488 00:45:30,080 --> 00:45:32,000 There was a problem with... 489 00:45:32,960 --> 00:45:35,880 Enough! Stop talking! 490 00:45:42,680 --> 00:45:45,600 You know nothing, you fool! 491 00:45:48,520 --> 00:45:50,720 I'll break this bottle in your face! 492 00:45:51,120 --> 00:45:52,360 Back to work! 493 00:45:52,520 --> 00:45:54,640 I'll kill you! 494 00:45:55,400 --> 00:45:57,080 I'll kill you! 495 00:45:58,280 --> 00:46:01,640 - You didn't do your job! - I did everything, you didn't pay me! 496 00:46:01,920 --> 00:46:05,200 - Don't touch me! - I'll kill you! 497 00:46:05,640 --> 00:46:07,840 Get out of here while I'm working! 498 00:46:08,320 --> 00:46:09,680 You're useless! 499 00:46:14,960 --> 00:46:16,480 You're useless! 500 00:46:18,120 --> 00:46:20,320 You're useless, totally useless! 501 00:46:21,280 --> 00:46:23,240 You can't do a single thing! 502 00:47:05,200 --> 00:47:08,920 What can I say about today? 503 00:47:12,840 --> 00:47:14,360 My employer... 504 00:47:15,520 --> 00:47:18,840 My work giver, as they say here... 505 00:47:20,600 --> 00:47:24,320 He attacked me for no reason. 506 00:47:25,400 --> 00:47:28,880 I'm trying to find someone to take me to the hospital. 507 00:47:29,520 --> 00:47:32,200 I can't drive right now. 508 00:47:33,000 --> 00:47:35,280 My leg won't move. 509 00:47:36,080 --> 00:47:39,600 I can't even drag it along, can't even touch it. 510 00:47:41,520 --> 00:47:44,000 Let's see how this whole mess ends. 511 00:47:51,480 --> 00:47:56,040 [The Association for Juridical Studies on Immigration] 512 00:48:51,960 --> 00:48:54,160 He pushed me onto the forklift. 513 00:48:54,760 --> 00:48:57,840 The skin got, how to say, it got all twisted. 514 00:48:58,320 --> 00:49:00,120 I went to the hospital. 515 00:49:00,280 --> 00:49:03,480 He's hurt me so, so much. 516 00:49:04,920 --> 00:49:06,840 And to top it off... 517 00:49:10,040 --> 00:49:13,120 I have the document. He sent me off, he did. 518 00:49:13,360 --> 00:49:15,880 He said "You're crazy." 519 00:49:16,240 --> 00:49:20,440 "I'll show you how crazy. I'll kick you out." 520 00:49:20,800 --> 00:49:24,720 You understand, he made me do some... mental health tests. 521 00:49:25,160 --> 00:49:27,080 I was tested here. 522 00:49:29,280 --> 00:49:31,440 It makes me want to cry. 523 00:49:34,400 --> 00:49:36,840 Being called crazy just like that... 524 00:49:38,600 --> 00:49:40,160 What happened then? 525 00:49:40,760 --> 00:49:43,360 I'll show you, I have the... 526 00:49:44,280 --> 00:49:49,640 All the papers from the psychiatrist and everything. 527 00:49:49,880 --> 00:49:54,800 I paid it out of my own pocket, he never reimbursed me. 528 00:49:55,600 --> 00:49:57,720 We can ask for reimbursement. 529 00:49:57,880 --> 00:50:00,240 It's unbelievable. 530 00:50:02,960 --> 00:50:08,120 Here's the calendar, this is all overtime off the record! 531 00:50:08,720 --> 00:50:12,160 The same as what's written here, yes? 532 00:50:12,400 --> 00:50:13,720 No! 533 00:50:13,880 --> 00:50:18,400 At the end of the year, he destroys them, but I hid these. 534 00:50:18,560 --> 00:50:21,120 He did all that. 535 00:50:21,280 --> 00:50:23,720 That's why I brought this. 536 00:51:05,920 --> 00:51:09,160 It was only when you came to see me last time 537 00:51:09,760 --> 00:51:13,920 that I saw how much grief you're carrying. 538 00:51:14,880 --> 00:51:17,800 Then I thought a lot about what you told me. 539 00:51:18,160 --> 00:51:21,520 What did I do so wrong? 540 00:51:22,280 --> 00:51:24,360 What was my mistake? 541 00:51:25,400 --> 00:51:27,920 I always thought I was doing everything for you. 542 00:51:28,360 --> 00:51:32,240 Because you sent us money, and you thought that was enough. 543 00:51:32,720 --> 00:51:35,880 But just bringing money home isn't enough. 544 00:51:36,400 --> 00:51:38,800 Back then, I had no idea what poverty was. 545 00:51:39,000 --> 00:51:43,400 For me, it was more important for you to be kind, 546 00:51:43,640 --> 00:51:48,320 to hug me, kiss me, tell me you loved me, create a peaceful home. 547 00:51:48,920 --> 00:51:51,560 I am very sorry 548 00:51:51,880 --> 00:51:57,560 I couldn't show the love I felt for you children. 549 00:51:58,200 --> 00:52:00,120 Or not the right way. 550 00:52:00,480 --> 00:52:05,000 I hope you see that I am not that person anymore. 551 00:52:05,160 --> 00:52:08,720 I understand now that I made mistakes. 552 00:52:09,160 --> 00:52:12,880 If I could turn back time, I'd change things. 553 00:52:13,520 --> 00:52:17,000 But I realise I can't. It's impossible. 554 00:52:32,280 --> 00:52:36,680 - Radu, I'm going to see a priest. - Can I come? To film a few shots? 555 00:52:39,160 --> 00:52:42,080 If the priest is fine with it. 556 00:52:59,800 --> 00:53:02,240 - Hello, Father. - God bless. 557 00:53:03,760 --> 00:53:06,440 I would like a word with you. 558 00:53:07,960 --> 00:53:11,440 I was hoping, since there are fewer people today... 559 00:53:11,800 --> 00:53:13,600 I have these burdens on my soul. 560 00:53:13,880 --> 00:53:16,520 My second-eldest's name is Lina. 561 00:53:17,040 --> 00:53:20,680 She did great in school, 562 00:53:21,080 --> 00:53:24,800 but you know how hard it is to keep children in check. 563 00:53:25,600 --> 00:53:28,440 They can fall into sin so easily. 564 00:53:29,160 --> 00:53:31,640 What should I do now, 565 00:53:31,960 --> 00:53:35,000 when I realise I did things wrong? 566 00:53:35,440 --> 00:53:37,320 I was wrong. 567 00:53:37,520 --> 00:53:41,320 Children need more freedom than I thought. 568 00:53:41,800 --> 00:53:45,400 Through the education you gave them, strict or not, 569 00:53:45,880 --> 00:53:48,840 you've raised them well. 570 00:53:50,080 --> 00:53:54,720 You kept them from debauchery and bad choices. 571 00:53:55,080 --> 00:54:01,600 If that girl finished her studies and achieved her goals, 572 00:54:03,000 --> 00:54:06,760 that means you taught her well. 573 00:54:07,600 --> 00:54:13,160 Why worry about your mistakes in educating your children? 574 00:54:14,440 --> 00:54:18,800 Why doesn't your child think about... 575 00:54:19,600 --> 00:54:21,600 ...how she abandoned you? 576 00:54:21,760 --> 00:54:26,320 Being considered guilty before your children, that is wrong. 577 00:54:34,000 --> 00:54:36,760 - Now I can go, right? - Yes. 578 00:54:37,400 --> 00:54:38,440 Thank you. 579 00:54:39,080 --> 00:54:40,560 Yes, thank you. 580 00:54:58,000 --> 00:54:59,280 Excuse me? 581 00:55:04,600 --> 00:55:07,280 - You wanted to see me? - Yes. 582 00:55:15,200 --> 00:55:17,800 Here's the first thing I want to ask. 583 00:55:19,840 --> 00:55:23,840 You tell me: Why didn't you show up for work? 584 00:55:24,240 --> 00:55:26,280 - When? - The other day. 585 00:55:27,080 --> 00:55:30,520 - But I'm here! - It's the law. 586 00:55:31,360 --> 00:55:33,160 You were supposed to be at work. 587 00:55:33,320 --> 00:55:35,000 No one tells me anything. 588 00:55:35,280 --> 00:55:38,200 You're supposed to be responsible for your own work! 589 00:55:38,680 --> 00:55:39,760 But... 590 00:55:39,920 --> 00:55:42,680 You didn't show up for work, that's serious. 591 00:55:43,120 --> 00:55:44,880 But I didn't... 592 00:55:45,160 --> 00:55:48,240 Just for that, I can fire you. 593 00:55:49,440 --> 00:55:51,360 - No, wait. - You resign! 594 00:55:51,560 --> 00:55:54,960 I can't do that, I don't want to resign! 595 00:55:55,200 --> 00:55:58,880 I've always wanted to work, get a normal pension. 596 00:55:59,280 --> 00:56:01,000 The law is clear. Sign it. 597 00:56:01,640 --> 00:56:04,800 I won't sign a thing, I'll talk to my attorney! 598 00:56:04,960 --> 00:56:07,200 That does it. See yourself out! 599 00:56:07,360 --> 00:56:10,040 - No, but... - Get out. 600 00:56:10,800 --> 00:56:14,840 You know I have a lawyer and you want to get rid of me! 601 00:56:15,000 --> 00:56:18,480 I'm the one who gives the orders here! 602 00:56:18,960 --> 00:56:20,880 - Yes, I know. - Me! 603 00:56:21,200 --> 00:56:24,120 - But you never said... - You answer to me! 604 00:56:25,040 --> 00:56:29,200 I don't want to resign, I won't! 605 00:57:13,360 --> 00:57:17,600 It's alright, Mr. Pavel, we'll see him again in court. 606 00:58:15,200 --> 00:58:17,880 You go inside, I'll get to work here. 607 00:58:18,920 --> 00:58:20,640 Let me prop it up. 608 00:58:22,040 --> 00:58:24,440 There. I'll film you for a bit! 609 00:58:25,000 --> 00:58:27,040 How are you, Grandma? 610 00:58:29,600 --> 00:58:31,720 - How are you? - Grandma's little girl! 611 00:58:32,360 --> 00:58:34,600 I've grown, haven't I? 612 00:58:35,120 --> 00:58:38,320 - Nice and rounded. - Of course, just look! 613 00:58:40,200 --> 00:58:43,880 When Mum and Diana were pregnant, their belly was narrower. 614 00:58:44,200 --> 00:58:47,560 I'm saying when they were pregnant, their belly was narrower. 615 00:58:48,040 --> 00:58:50,040 Well, of course. 616 00:58:50,840 --> 00:58:52,880 - This one's a girl. - She is. 617 00:58:53,560 --> 00:58:55,280 Girls give you a wide belly. 618 00:58:55,920 --> 00:58:58,000 Boys make it pointy. 619 00:58:58,240 --> 00:58:59,920 This is a girl. 620 00:59:01,760 --> 00:59:03,960 - Need help, Mr. Pavel? - No! 621 00:59:04,560 --> 00:59:07,200 I'll be done before you get up here. 622 00:59:21,120 --> 00:59:23,920 Will these tomatoes grow, Mum? 623 00:59:24,080 --> 00:59:26,680 You'll come this summer and eat them. 624 00:59:26,840 --> 00:59:29,960 Sweet and tasty, not like supermarket ones. 625 00:59:37,240 --> 00:59:40,760 Lina wants to know how many times you've been married. 626 00:59:41,640 --> 00:59:44,240 - Three times. - Three times. 627 00:59:45,800 --> 00:59:49,560 With Dad, you weren't married in church because he was a Communist. 628 00:59:49,840 --> 00:59:52,200 And he didn't believe in God. 629 00:59:53,320 --> 00:59:54,880 Well, he was... 630 00:59:55,440 --> 00:59:59,120 He believed, but there was nothing he could do. 631 00:59:59,840 --> 01:00:03,600 Did any of Granny's husbands beat her? 632 01:00:04,240 --> 01:00:08,200 I don't know. Did any of your husbands beat you? 633 01:00:08,360 --> 01:00:10,920 No, she was an obedient woman. 634 01:00:11,880 --> 01:00:14,760 I knew how to deal with him. 635 01:00:15,200 --> 01:00:18,960 He was surprised I had that power. 636 01:00:19,640 --> 01:00:21,960 You were a good psychologist. 637 01:00:22,280 --> 01:00:26,680 - You saw he was aggressive. - I had a Psychology degree, you know. 638 01:00:27,000 --> 01:00:29,840 You knew how to deal with him. 639 01:00:30,720 --> 01:00:34,080 He told neighbours "When would I beat her?" 640 01:00:34,240 --> 01:00:38,320 "I go to bed, she's working. I wake up, she's working." 641 01:00:38,800 --> 01:00:42,960 When he was drunk and wanted scandal, I'd lay the table for him, 642 01:00:43,480 --> 01:00:47,600 give him a glass of wine, wash his feet... 643 01:00:47,760 --> 01:00:49,840 She treated him with respect. 644 01:00:50,040 --> 01:00:52,320 I'd say "let's talk in the morning". 645 01:00:59,560 --> 01:01:02,400 Are you wrong in the head? 646 01:01:02,920 --> 01:01:06,840 Ever since you came back, you keep criticizing. 647 01:01:07,080 --> 01:01:09,200 I didn't do this, didn't do that. 648 01:01:09,600 --> 01:01:12,600 Because you won't use your head! 649 01:01:12,800 --> 01:01:14,320 I just can't! 650 01:01:14,720 --> 01:01:17,720 Now don't give me that face. 651 01:01:18,040 --> 01:01:19,960 Stop that right now. 652 01:01:21,320 --> 01:01:24,400 You always complained to the children. 653 01:01:24,720 --> 01:01:26,400 You keep playing the victim! 654 01:01:26,720 --> 01:01:30,840 I never said a bad word about you to the girls! 655 01:01:31,240 --> 01:01:34,320 - I didn't... - You badmouthed me in front of them! 656 01:01:42,800 --> 01:01:48,080 All the nights of my childhood looked like this, with endless arguments. 657 01:01:50,240 --> 01:01:53,360 All I wanted back then was to grow up quick 658 01:01:53,560 --> 01:01:55,880 and escape this place. 659 01:01:58,560 --> 01:02:00,480 Now I can be here, where it hurts, 660 01:02:00,640 --> 01:02:04,880 for as long as it takes for all of us to heal. 661 01:02:21,320 --> 01:02:24,480 Move, Liuda, clear that up, then we'll water them. 662 01:02:26,000 --> 01:02:27,920 Pull out the roots too! 663 01:02:28,400 --> 01:02:31,400 - This one's a flower. - Why did you rip it out? 664 01:02:32,680 --> 01:02:34,680 Why did you put them here? 665 01:02:35,320 --> 01:02:36,840 These are flowers. 666 01:02:37,120 --> 01:02:40,960 Not this one, it isn't. This is a weed. 667 01:02:41,920 --> 01:02:44,040 Just put that candle there already! 668 01:02:52,960 --> 01:02:55,000 Here's to their memory. 669 01:02:55,240 --> 01:02:58,320 They were good people, our family exists thanks to them. 670 01:02:58,520 --> 01:02:59,520 Hurry it. 671 01:02:59,720 --> 01:03:02,880 If it wasn't for your grandmother, who knows? 672 01:03:03,280 --> 01:03:06,680 - Just hurry it. - Thanks to her, you were born. 673 01:03:07,160 --> 01:03:08,920 May they rest in peace. 674 01:03:10,640 --> 01:03:13,440 Your grandpa came back from the war with issues. 675 01:03:14,080 --> 01:03:18,120 He had concussions, poor thing, he was left with nervous issues. 676 01:03:20,040 --> 01:03:22,960 He loved to drink the hard stuff. 677 01:03:23,720 --> 01:03:27,520 - It made his stomach numb. - Yes, he didn't drink for pleasure. 678 01:03:27,760 --> 01:03:29,760 - I was talking! - I apologise. 679 01:03:32,840 --> 01:03:33,840 So... 680 01:03:34,840 --> 01:03:37,440 My mum took care of things. 681 01:03:37,880 --> 01:03:39,760 She made the brandy too. 682 01:03:40,120 --> 01:03:42,920 She basically did all the work. 683 01:03:44,360 --> 01:03:48,560 Getting men for the harvest, making the wine... 684 01:03:49,200 --> 01:03:53,040 You need a wagon, ask Mum. You need a tractor, ask Mum. 685 01:03:53,280 --> 01:03:57,240 You need a handyman, Mum knows one. 686 01:03:57,760 --> 01:04:01,240 My dad was a tailor, a good one. 687 01:04:05,840 --> 01:04:08,640 He could make you anything. 688 01:04:09,320 --> 01:04:10,960 But as a person? 689 01:04:11,800 --> 01:04:13,840 He was kind-hearted. 690 01:04:14,480 --> 01:04:17,560 When he drank, he had serious fights with Mum. 691 01:04:19,080 --> 01:04:23,640 If Mum knew when to shut up, 692 01:04:25,400 --> 01:04:28,040 then he would cool down. 693 01:04:28,360 --> 01:04:32,640 But if she let her tongue loose, she was guaranteed a beating. 694 01:04:33,080 --> 01:04:36,280 When she could, she ran. When she couldn't... 695 01:04:36,440 --> 01:04:38,040 If he caught her... 696 01:04:38,320 --> 01:04:42,760 They fought, then he got over it and all was well. 697 01:04:45,720 --> 01:04:49,200 I believe they forgave each other. 698 01:04:50,560 --> 01:04:54,880 I believe their souls are peaceful together in the afterlife. 699 01:04:55,560 --> 01:04:58,480 Neither of them passed away in anger. 700 01:04:59,240 --> 01:05:02,240 My dad passed away with a lot of regret, I'm sure. 701 01:05:04,840 --> 01:05:08,000 He often cried after Mum died. 702 01:05:08,320 --> 01:05:10,560 Anytime she was mentioned, he'd cry. 703 01:05:13,080 --> 01:05:15,560 My mum never held things against him. 704 01:05:16,120 --> 01:05:19,400 She never hated him. 705 01:05:20,720 --> 01:05:25,640 Even if he did something wrong, she found a reason and forgave him. 706 01:05:54,520 --> 01:05:56,960 - Hello? - Why did you pick up? 707 01:05:57,480 --> 01:06:01,600 - It's my cousin. - You shouldn't have picked up! 708 01:06:02,560 --> 01:06:04,640 Isn't it that way? 709 01:06:06,080 --> 01:06:09,480 It's your fault for interrupting the GPS. 710 01:06:10,480 --> 01:06:11,640 Yes, but... 711 01:06:11,800 --> 01:06:15,240 Then shut up already! 712 01:06:32,600 --> 01:06:37,560 - How are you, brother dear? - Who taught you to drive like that? 713 01:06:46,120 --> 01:06:47,480 Wabbits! 714 01:06:50,240 --> 01:06:51,960 Feeding the bunnies? 715 01:06:52,520 --> 01:06:55,360 Listen, how are things between you and Tamara? 716 01:06:55,960 --> 01:06:57,600 How is it with Tamara? 717 01:06:58,680 --> 01:07:01,560 Getting along or still fighting all the time? 718 01:07:02,800 --> 01:07:06,120 Now the children are here, she sleeps in the other house. 719 01:07:06,440 --> 01:07:08,960 This week they're sleeping over. 720 01:07:09,400 --> 01:07:12,440 - But when the grandchildren are away... - Then she sleeps here. 721 01:07:12,800 --> 01:07:15,360 I was worried I'd come at a bad time. 722 01:07:15,840 --> 01:07:17,080 No? 723 01:07:17,760 --> 01:07:20,240 - No, we're good. - You are? 724 01:07:20,800 --> 01:07:22,440 Why wouldn't we be? 725 01:07:22,720 --> 01:07:23,840 I don't know. 726 01:07:29,960 --> 01:07:31,200 What was his problem, Aunt Tamara? 727 01:07:31,680 --> 01:07:35,360 Your aunt Stela called him a drunkard. 728 01:07:36,600 --> 01:07:38,600 Told him to drink less. 729 01:07:40,320 --> 01:07:43,720 He started yelling at me that I should have sided with him, 730 01:07:43,880 --> 01:07:45,600 said he doesn't drink! 731 01:07:46,240 --> 01:07:50,320 How can I say you don't drink when you do? 732 01:07:52,120 --> 01:07:54,000 I've had enough. 733 01:07:54,600 --> 01:07:57,080 I've been alone all my life. 734 01:07:57,720 --> 01:08:01,640 That sounds like someone we know, huh? 735 01:08:02,120 --> 01:08:03,760 You see, Lina, 736 01:08:04,880 --> 01:08:09,760 I always think, if your father was home, she'd have it as bad as me. 737 01:08:11,840 --> 01:08:14,840 - My mum and my father? - Yes. 738 01:08:15,040 --> 01:08:18,720 I'm 100% positive they'd be even worse. 739 01:08:20,520 --> 01:08:24,520 I always wonder how you survived, you and my mum. 740 01:08:26,000 --> 01:08:29,440 Maybe your dad's not so bad, but my man beat me, 741 01:08:29,920 --> 01:08:33,080 kicked me out, threw stones at me. 742 01:08:33,320 --> 01:08:37,120 When he worked in Spain, he brought his mistress home. 743 01:08:37,680 --> 01:08:40,480 The things he did to me! 744 01:08:42,280 --> 01:08:44,240 Why did you forgive him? 745 01:08:46,680 --> 01:08:51,840 Lina, I always thought, when our children come back home 746 01:08:52,480 --> 01:08:53,720 and I have grandchildren, 747 01:08:53,880 --> 01:08:56,720 another man wouldn't love them as his own. 748 01:08:56,960 --> 01:08:59,080 - We're almost ready. - Us too. 749 01:08:59,360 --> 01:09:01,640 Can I get a bowl for the meat? 750 01:09:02,480 --> 01:09:03,920 Will this do? 751 01:09:04,440 --> 01:09:06,680 - Is this one alright? - Yes. 752 01:09:09,360 --> 01:09:10,560 Yes, that one! 753 01:09:15,880 --> 01:09:20,040 If I could get an apartment, even a single-room! 754 01:09:21,360 --> 01:09:24,720 - What for? - I can't live in that house. 755 01:09:24,960 --> 01:09:27,520 Don't you own the apartment, though? 756 01:09:28,280 --> 01:09:29,520 It's not in my name. 757 01:09:34,960 --> 01:09:38,080 I see you're making plans already. 758 01:09:40,280 --> 01:09:43,920 A time comes when you have to put yourself first. 759 01:09:44,280 --> 01:09:49,760 I've already had ulcer and cancer from the stress. 760 01:09:50,080 --> 01:09:51,680 I don't want that again. 761 01:09:58,080 --> 01:10:01,840 Aggression is chillingly commonplace in these parts. 762 01:10:03,400 --> 01:10:07,160 When I was little, I felt powerless against it. 763 01:10:08,320 --> 01:10:12,800 Later, I became a journalist and tried to change something with my writing. 764 01:10:16,320 --> 01:10:20,480 Now I realise that the only place where I can make a profound change 765 01:10:20,680 --> 01:10:23,040 is within my own family. 766 01:10:36,720 --> 01:10:38,640 My beautiful little girl. 767 01:10:45,000 --> 01:10:46,640 You're finally here. 768 01:11:04,520 --> 01:11:08,840 The other party's attorney contacted me 769 01:11:09,280 --> 01:11:12,800 to see if we could find a solution. 770 01:11:13,200 --> 01:11:15,120 We had a talk. 771 01:11:15,320 --> 01:11:21,160 I mean a financial solution, compensatory pay. 772 01:11:21,520 --> 01:11:26,000 For extra time that you have worked, 773 01:11:26,600 --> 01:11:30,640 or for the undignified treatment resulted 774 01:11:30,920 --> 01:11:36,480 from the confirmed behaviour of your employer. 775 01:11:36,640 --> 01:11:42,520 Remember that a lawsuit takes time and requires eye witnesses 776 01:11:43,920 --> 01:11:47,480 who have seen your employer personally, 777 01:11:47,760 --> 01:11:51,440 and can declare under oath to a judge: 778 01:11:51,800 --> 01:11:57,320 "Yes, I've seen this man work from 8 am to 8 pm," 779 01:11:58,000 --> 01:12:00,040 "and weekends too." 780 01:12:01,480 --> 01:12:04,440 Then there are the moral damages. 781 01:12:04,600 --> 01:12:08,040 We have the evidence, because you filmed it. 782 01:12:08,520 --> 01:12:14,560 But the judge's evaluation of said damages 783 01:12:15,480 --> 01:12:17,680 can differ a lot. 784 01:12:17,840 --> 01:12:19,480 I'm tired. 785 01:12:19,760 --> 01:12:22,760 I'm... exhausted. 786 01:12:25,280 --> 01:12:27,840 Both mentally and physically. 787 01:12:29,400 --> 01:12:33,840 Of course, I want to end this one way or another, 788 01:12:34,160 --> 01:12:37,120 but not just any way, rather in a decent way. 789 01:12:38,200 --> 01:12:41,160 You have to decide, and it's a hard choice to make. 790 01:12:41,600 --> 01:12:45,200 Yours is a very long, very complicated story. 791 01:12:45,720 --> 01:12:48,800 - It's taken years. - Yes, years. 792 01:12:49,240 --> 01:12:52,200 After being through so much, 793 01:12:52,680 --> 01:12:55,720 it's not easy to say "let's strike an agreement". 794 01:12:56,680 --> 01:13:00,920 What I've seen in your footage has been 795 01:13:01,400 --> 01:13:05,440 very traumatising, both physically and mentally. 796 01:13:31,640 --> 01:13:33,440 I'll close the door. 797 01:13:39,680 --> 01:13:41,120 [videoconference] 798 01:13:41,320 --> 01:13:42,240 Judge: Hello. 799 01:13:46,080 --> 01:13:48,680 Judge: Do you agree to the settlement offer? 800 01:13:48,840 --> 01:13:50,200 Pavel: I agree. 801 01:13:50,640 --> 01:13:51,960 Judge: Perfect. 802 01:13:53,760 --> 01:13:58,600 Judge: Do you avail yourself of all that has been said? 803 01:13:59,160 --> 01:14:00,160 Pavel: I agree. 804 01:14:00,320 --> 01:14:01,320 Judge: Perfect. 805 01:14:01,840 --> 01:14:04,680 Thank God the whole thing's over. 806 01:14:05,120 --> 01:14:07,640 The Lord be praised! 807 01:14:08,160 --> 01:14:10,040 Yes, it's all over. 808 01:14:10,320 --> 01:14:11,320 It is! 809 01:14:13,160 --> 01:14:17,640 All good then, we'll come home and celebrate. 810 01:14:20,440 --> 01:14:22,400 Yes, we must celebrate. 811 01:14:23,480 --> 01:14:24,680 Properly. 812 01:14:34,080 --> 01:14:37,080 I'm glad we got justice for Dad. 813 01:14:38,920 --> 01:14:44,440 The money from his former employer means a more peaceful old age for him, 814 01:14:45,720 --> 01:14:48,800 and confidence that evil can be defeated. 815 01:15:11,960 --> 01:15:13,640 Oh, you're filming? 816 01:15:18,720 --> 01:15:21,560 - You couldn't sleep? - No. 817 01:15:22,080 --> 01:15:26,520 I texted Lina, and she replied when I had just fallen asleep. 818 01:15:27,400 --> 01:15:29,560 - I texted back... - Too late! 819 01:15:30,200 --> 01:15:32,080 That woke me up and... 820 01:15:32,480 --> 01:15:35,320 - What the hell is this? - A night light. 821 01:15:36,040 --> 01:15:39,520 So I don't keep the big one on. 822 01:15:40,320 --> 01:15:45,200 The others aren't bright enough and they're too high for me to change. 823 01:15:58,280 --> 01:16:01,120 Don't you talk back to me! 824 01:16:01,520 --> 01:16:03,440 Stop, think, use your head! 825 01:16:04,200 --> 01:16:07,200 It drives me mad that you won't use your head! 826 01:16:07,520 --> 01:16:10,600 - You're just not capable! - Maybe I'm not. 827 01:16:11,120 --> 01:16:13,880 What do you mean, you're not? 828 01:16:24,040 --> 01:16:26,160 Patience, patience... 829 01:16:27,400 --> 01:16:30,080 No matter how hard you try, you're not good enough. 830 01:16:30,240 --> 01:16:33,320 You're always bad, bad, bad! 831 01:16:35,360 --> 01:16:38,480 I've always been afraid that I won't manage on my own, 832 01:16:38,760 --> 01:16:42,240 that I won't endure, that I won't have enough money. 833 01:16:43,640 --> 01:16:48,160 This is how he acts! And he always thinks I'm in the wrong. 834 01:16:48,480 --> 01:16:51,000 "Why did you move that there?" 835 01:16:51,240 --> 01:16:53,320 "Why didn't you do this and that?" 836 01:16:53,560 --> 01:16:56,080 It's always my fault. 837 01:16:57,880 --> 01:17:04,800 When you grow up in an orphanage, you have no experience in life. 838 01:17:05,440 --> 01:17:10,200 You don't see how a family should be, how Dad should treat Mum. 839 01:17:10,760 --> 01:17:14,880 In our house, it was really weird with my stepdad. 840 01:17:15,240 --> 01:17:17,160 I couldn't get close to my mum. 841 01:17:17,360 --> 01:17:21,600 I had lost my father, but I still had my mum. 842 01:17:21,880 --> 01:17:26,320 Then we moved into his house and I lost my mum too. 843 01:17:36,640 --> 01:17:39,080 It was too much. 844 01:17:39,640 --> 01:17:42,000 I know, dear. I know. 845 01:17:45,760 --> 01:17:48,720 I hit my stepfather once. 846 01:17:50,440 --> 01:17:55,640 I didn't want you to have a stepfather. That's why I never left him. 847 01:18:03,160 --> 01:18:07,320 You are leaving soon, you have your own life. 848 01:18:07,480 --> 01:18:11,360 I will make some decisions as well. 849 01:18:18,640 --> 01:18:20,280 There, calm down now. 850 01:18:50,480 --> 01:18:54,520 Since Aster was born I feel, for the first time in my life, 851 01:18:54,960 --> 01:19:01,040 the parts of me that were always at war finally harmonising. 852 01:19:04,520 --> 01:19:07,320 I'm learning to step into this fragile universe 853 01:19:07,520 --> 01:19:09,480 where love doesn't hurt. 854 01:19:11,120 --> 01:19:12,400 Aster! 855 01:19:13,720 --> 01:19:15,920 Look, I see our world! 856 01:19:16,360 --> 01:19:17,920 I work everyday 857 01:19:18,080 --> 01:19:23,360 for my little girl to be more serene than other generations in my family. 858 01:19:38,240 --> 01:19:40,080 I want to come up! 859 01:19:42,760 --> 01:19:45,720 I want to sit next to you! 860 01:19:47,840 --> 01:19:50,880 - Daddy, I love you! - I love you too. 861 01:20:05,080 --> 01:20:07,000 What does it say there? 862 01:20:07,920 --> 01:20:10,560 - What does it say? - Can you read for me? 863 01:20:15,040 --> 01:20:16,840 Here's what it says... 864 01:20:21,200 --> 01:20:23,160 Why are you upset? 865 01:20:23,800 --> 01:20:25,840 Why are you upset? 866 01:20:26,720 --> 01:20:29,080 I'll tell you when you grow up some. 867 01:20:29,360 --> 01:20:32,840 - But why are you upset? - When you're older. 868 01:20:34,280 --> 01:20:36,080 Just tell me! 869 01:20:37,960 --> 01:20:39,480 Tell me! 870 01:20:39,880 --> 01:20:43,760 Love, some days people are just upset. 871 01:20:44,720 --> 01:20:47,320 But why are you upset? 872 01:20:47,680 --> 01:20:50,040 Give me a kiss and I'll be better. 873 01:20:52,640 --> 01:20:53,880 There! 874 01:20:55,440 --> 01:20:56,920 Read for me. 875 01:21:03,000 --> 01:21:07,920 Revised and Synchronized by FAST TITLES MEDIA