1 00:00:02,000 --> 00:00:07,000 Downloaded from YTS.MX 2 00:00:02,135 --> 00:00:05,302 (footsteps pattering) 3 00:00:07,855 --> 00:00:11,188 (gentle poignant music) 4 00:00:08,000 --> 00:00:13,000 Official YIFY movies site: YTS.MX 5 00:00:41,885 --> 00:00:45,408 - Anne and I were, had a 38-week appointment 6 00:00:45,450 --> 00:00:48,708 with the gynecologist up in Cork. 7 00:00:48,750 --> 00:00:50,328 We probably realized there was an issue 8 00:00:50,370 --> 00:00:53,418 when he had taken about 25 scans, 9 00:00:53,460 --> 00:00:55,803 and he had called for a backup. 10 00:00:55,845 --> 00:01:00,012 (gentle poignant music continues) 11 00:01:03,810 --> 00:01:04,908 Obviously I remember, I'm getting 12 00:01:04,950 --> 00:01:08,073 very upset about it, you know, sorry. 13 00:01:09,900 --> 00:01:12,468 So like, it's obviously, 14 00:01:12,510 --> 00:01:13,728 I suppose you start to think the worst, 15 00:01:13,770 --> 00:01:15,430 you know what I mean? 16 00:01:21,283 --> 00:01:22,968 A couple of days later, we went to Dublin 17 00:01:23,010 --> 00:01:26,958 and we met the senior lady up there who did the scans. 18 00:01:27,000 --> 00:01:30,438 So then we discovered, we heard of cystic hygroma 19 00:01:30,480 --> 00:01:32,398 for the first time, you know? 20 00:01:32,440 --> 00:01:35,857 (gentle poignant music) 21 00:01:56,164 --> 00:01:58,447 Finally the day of the birth, of the delivery came, 22 00:01:58,489 --> 00:02:01,608 and Daniel was delivered around 11:00. 23 00:02:01,650 --> 00:02:04,017 Now Anne was obviously still, you know, 24 00:02:05,010 --> 00:02:08,853 in the recovery ward, and I went in to see Daniel, 25 00:02:11,558 --> 00:02:16,558 and obviously it was, it was fairly traumatic. 26 00:02:16,660 --> 00:02:20,598 (gentle poignant music continues) 27 00:02:20,640 --> 00:02:25,188 So and he was born, like obviously there was, 28 00:02:25,230 --> 00:02:29,598 he was christened because they had asked us, you know, 29 00:02:29,640 --> 00:02:31,698 when he'd be born and what did we want to call him. 30 00:02:31,740 --> 00:02:34,271 So one of the nurses christened him. 31 00:02:34,313 --> 00:02:37,646 (gentle poignant music) 32 00:02:42,720 --> 00:02:45,258 We met a professor there who would be 33 00:02:45,300 --> 00:02:46,698 the head of the department there, 34 00:02:46,740 --> 00:02:49,638 and he felt there was nothing he could do 35 00:02:49,680 --> 00:02:51,747 for Daniel by way of surgery. 36 00:02:51,789 --> 00:02:53,028 But the good news he had for us 37 00:02:53,070 --> 00:02:54,528 is that there was another doctor 38 00:02:54,570 --> 00:02:58,038 who happened to be on holidays that week, Mr. Russell, 39 00:02:58,080 --> 00:03:01,518 and he was due back a week later, 40 00:03:01,560 --> 00:03:04,698 and he had been in America, and he may have seen this. 41 00:03:04,740 --> 00:03:07,398 We had to pray that Daniel would survive for the week. 42 00:03:07,440 --> 00:03:11,508 The cyst started to bleed internally. 43 00:03:11,550 --> 00:03:16,550 It's not just a piece of tissue, it's also like fibres 44 00:03:17,250 --> 00:03:18,845 that are wrapped around all the organs. 45 00:03:18,887 --> 00:03:20,838 It's a really extensive surgery, 46 00:03:20,880 --> 00:03:24,648 and we had no idea whatsoever what was before us. 47 00:03:24,690 --> 00:03:27,591 When we finally met Mr. Russell and he said to us 48 00:03:27,633 --> 00:03:29,958 that he was prepared to do surgery on him, 49 00:03:30,000 --> 00:03:32,178 and he'd be quite optimistic 50 00:03:32,220 --> 00:03:35,058 that he'd be able to reduce it at least, 51 00:03:35,100 --> 00:03:39,333 and have him in such a way that he could live a normal life. 52 00:03:45,030 --> 00:03:46,548 If you were told this was going to happen 53 00:03:46,590 --> 00:03:49,548 before the 38 weeks, if we were told that, 54 00:03:49,590 --> 00:03:51,138 you'd just say, "I can't cope," or whatever. 55 00:03:51,180 --> 00:03:53,688 But like it happens, and you have to keep going, 56 00:03:53,730 --> 00:03:55,668 because you've no choice. 57 00:03:55,710 --> 00:03:57,918 Like at the end of the day, we have two other children 58 00:03:57,960 --> 00:04:00,213 and they wanted to see him, 59 00:04:01,170 --> 00:04:04,421 and obviously all his aunt and uncles wanted to see him, 60 00:04:04,463 --> 00:04:06,460 you know what I mean? 61 00:04:06,502 --> 00:04:09,435 So we got fantastic support from everybody, 62 00:04:09,477 --> 00:04:13,081 like all, like Anne's family were amazing. 63 00:04:13,123 --> 00:04:17,290 (gentle poignant music continues) 64 00:04:19,985 --> 00:04:23,568 (bright thoughtful music) 65 00:04:31,422 --> 00:04:33,048 I was brought up in Puglia, 66 00:04:33,090 --> 00:04:35,448 which is a town in southern Italy. 67 00:04:35,490 --> 00:04:37,908 All through my teens I was dreaming 68 00:04:37,950 --> 00:04:40,698 of wanting to expand my horizons, 69 00:04:40,740 --> 00:04:43,998 and one day I had an opportunity of traveling. 70 00:04:44,040 --> 00:04:47,238 I came to London, and London has been my home 71 00:04:47,280 --> 00:04:50,178 for the past 40 years. 72 00:04:50,220 --> 00:04:52,998 I experienced isolation to the point 73 00:04:53,040 --> 00:04:57,768 that I began to feel excluded throughout my teens. 74 00:04:57,810 --> 00:05:02,478 I'm thankful that I discovered some incredible books 75 00:05:02,520 --> 00:05:05,958 that allowed me to mature in a way, 76 00:05:06,000 --> 00:05:10,677 because I was able to explore other people's identities 77 00:05:11,550 --> 00:05:14,875 and compare these identities to mine. 78 00:05:14,917 --> 00:05:18,138 I learned to appreciate the importance 79 00:05:18,180 --> 00:05:23,118 of human connection, support, and acceptance. 80 00:05:23,160 --> 00:05:28,160 I did not find the support I was looking for growing up, 81 00:05:28,470 --> 00:05:31,698 to the point that one day when the opportunity arose 82 00:05:31,740 --> 00:05:35,718 that I could leave my hometown, I did. 83 00:05:35,760 --> 00:05:38,178 I often think, why did I come to London? 84 00:05:38,220 --> 00:05:42,228 Why couldn't I go to Paris or another European city? 85 00:05:42,270 --> 00:05:45,858 I chose England because England is an island, 86 00:05:45,900 --> 00:05:49,188 and it is here that I came looking 87 00:05:49,230 --> 00:05:52,638 for stability, for friends, a new beginning, 88 00:05:52,680 --> 00:05:57,680 and then realized how important good support was, 89 00:05:57,780 --> 00:06:01,368 for me or anybody, to be able to express themselves 90 00:06:01,410 --> 00:06:03,348 with their full potential. 91 00:06:03,390 --> 00:06:08,118 And so I really appreciate what it means to be loved, 92 00:06:08,160 --> 00:06:11,388 to be supported, to be valued. 93 00:06:11,430 --> 00:06:13,878 You can have cystic hygroma anywhere on your body. 94 00:06:13,920 --> 00:06:16,638 It's more of an external condition rather than internal. 95 00:06:16,680 --> 00:06:18,948 Where Daniel had it, all his organs 96 00:06:18,990 --> 00:06:21,738 in his neck and everywhere were affected by it. 97 00:06:21,780 --> 00:06:22,638 The thing with Daniel is, 98 00:06:22,680 --> 00:06:24,258 Daniel has had this cyst from day one. 99 00:06:24,300 --> 00:06:25,548 Daniel was just one of the kids, 100 00:06:25,590 --> 00:06:28,008 and he did everything the same as like, he played hurling, 101 00:06:28,050 --> 00:06:30,858 he played sports, he was on the trampoline, 102 00:06:30,900 --> 00:06:33,648 he did bouncy castles, he did everything the same. 103 00:06:33,690 --> 00:06:37,368 He has had times when people weren't very nice to him, 104 00:06:37,410 --> 00:06:41,418 but he has a really go-ahead attitude anyway, 105 00:06:41,460 --> 00:06:42,251 you know what I mean? 106 00:06:42,293 --> 00:06:44,178 He's one of those kids who, "If it bothers you, 107 00:06:44,220 --> 00:06:46,698 it's your problem, it doesn't bother me," 108 00:06:46,740 --> 00:06:48,743 and he can cope with it that way. 109 00:06:48,785 --> 00:06:50,478 Now, like there's been several occasions 110 00:06:50,520 --> 00:06:52,518 that people looked at him and pointed at him, 111 00:06:52,560 --> 00:06:54,888 which he didn't appreciate. 112 00:06:54,930 --> 00:06:57,168 But a few times it has annoyed me, 113 00:06:57,210 --> 00:07:00,228 especially with older kids, like talking about him. 114 00:07:00,270 --> 00:07:02,268 There'll be always one who will be leading the charge. 115 00:07:02,310 --> 00:07:03,745 Daniel and I would walk over to him and I'd say, 116 00:07:03,787 --> 00:07:05,418 "Well this is Daniel, what's your name?" 117 00:07:05,460 --> 00:07:07,338 And that puts him on the back foot. 118 00:07:07,380 --> 00:07:10,098 Nobody wants to be spoken about unkindly, 119 00:07:10,140 --> 00:07:10,931 you know what I mean? 120 00:07:10,973 --> 00:07:12,018 But to be fair to Daniel, 121 00:07:12,060 --> 00:07:15,003 he has a really, really good attitude to it. 122 00:07:16,140 --> 00:07:21,140 - I have great memories from the time I moved to London, 123 00:07:21,510 --> 00:07:25,548 and these are beautiful memories that give me 124 00:07:25,590 --> 00:07:29,715 the courage really to do the work that I do. 125 00:07:29,757 --> 00:07:31,278 The love that I received 126 00:07:31,320 --> 00:07:34,878 from total strangers when I came here. 127 00:07:34,920 --> 00:07:38,208 For a week or two weeks, I was walking 128 00:07:38,250 --> 00:07:39,873 through South Kensington, 129 00:07:41,068 --> 00:07:43,878 thinking that South Kensington was London, 130 00:07:43,920 --> 00:07:47,898 which no doubt was much bigger than this small little town 131 00:07:47,940 --> 00:07:50,298 I came from in southern Italy. 132 00:07:50,340 --> 00:07:53,538 It is in South Kensington that I met this couple 133 00:07:53,580 --> 00:07:58,580 that gave me so much love, gave me a roof over my head, 134 00:07:59,220 --> 00:08:01,548 made me feel appreciated. 135 00:08:01,590 --> 00:08:05,391 Never did they make me feel that I was an outsider, 136 00:08:05,433 --> 00:08:08,628 but, so their memory is with me. 137 00:08:08,670 --> 00:08:11,688 It does give me the strength to continue. 138 00:08:11,730 --> 00:08:13,968 It has given me strength all along. 139 00:08:14,010 --> 00:08:16,428 All these years have gone by. 140 00:08:16,470 --> 00:08:21,470 Honestly, what a contrast between the place I was brought up 141 00:08:22,140 --> 00:08:26,598 and the home I found in London, in this huge city. 142 00:08:26,640 --> 00:08:31,197 It is through this experience that I set up Youmanity. 143 00:08:32,297 --> 00:08:35,464 (bright lively music) 144 00:09:10,225 --> 00:09:11,418 You feel so helpless, you know what I mean? 145 00:09:11,460 --> 00:09:14,538 You're putting your trust in the hands of the surgeon, 146 00:09:14,580 --> 00:09:15,371 you know what I mean? 147 00:09:15,413 --> 00:09:17,808 And while they're all trying to reassure you, 148 00:09:17,850 --> 00:09:19,668 but like inevitably, you know, 149 00:09:19,710 --> 00:09:21,751 you're going in for major surgery. 150 00:09:21,793 --> 00:09:24,168 He was in ICU, and with line with the cross 151 00:09:24,210 --> 00:09:25,248 with no heartbeat. 152 00:09:25,290 --> 00:09:27,168 There was trolleys flying and falling over, 153 00:09:27,210 --> 00:09:30,858 and nurses running in red all over the place to give him CPR 154 00:09:30,900 --> 00:09:32,265 to get him back on track, you know what I mean? 155 00:09:32,307 --> 00:09:35,928 And like obviously, we were put out of the room immediately. 156 00:09:35,970 --> 00:09:38,865 That's a scary situation, now when you see that, 157 00:09:38,907 --> 00:09:40,968 and it's just a bit mental for a couple of minutes, 158 00:09:41,010 --> 00:09:41,801 you know what I mean? 159 00:09:41,843 --> 00:09:44,178 But thankfully, you know, he always came good. 160 00:09:44,220 --> 00:09:46,608 And again, a second or third surgery, 161 00:09:46,650 --> 00:09:49,758 he got an infection in where the surgery was, 162 00:09:49,800 --> 00:09:52,698 he got an infection, and when the doctor left him, 163 00:09:52,740 --> 00:09:56,178 he was stable, but he deteriorated fairly rapidly. 164 00:09:56,220 --> 00:09:59,058 Subsequently, Mr. Russell too, he was going down 165 00:09:59,100 --> 00:10:01,368 to the south of Ireland, and they ended up 166 00:10:01,410 --> 00:10:03,438 having to call the police to stop him, 167 00:10:03,480 --> 00:10:06,573 and to get him to come back, which he did. 168 00:10:08,317 --> 00:10:11,067 And so he had to come back and do some further surgery, 169 00:10:15,690 --> 00:10:20,313 and kind of, there was something had got poisoned in his, 170 00:10:21,627 --> 00:10:24,018 in the area where the surgery was, 171 00:10:24,060 --> 00:10:26,823 and I'd been told to go down to, 172 00:10:29,588 --> 00:10:31,823 to go down to Cork to get his, 173 00:10:33,270 --> 00:10:35,470 bring up his grandparents and the kids, yes. 174 00:10:36,660 --> 00:10:39,813 But it didn't look good, you know. (inhaling) 175 00:10:40,777 --> 00:10:44,478 And then anyway, I went down to Cork to collect the kids. 176 00:10:44,520 --> 00:10:47,047 And Mr. Russell, he did surgery on him, 177 00:10:48,100 --> 00:10:49,488 and I didn't get back then, 178 00:10:49,530 --> 00:10:51,361 so that was maybe in the late evening, 179 00:10:51,403 --> 00:10:55,578 maybe 7:00 or 8:00, and I didn't get back from Cork 180 00:10:55,620 --> 00:10:57,843 into the room, be 12:00 or 1:00. 181 00:11:01,102 --> 00:11:03,510 And when we came back to the room, 182 00:11:04,620 --> 00:11:07,458 he was sitting up eating yogurt, after I'd been told 183 00:11:07,500 --> 00:11:10,425 that he could be dead, you know what I mean, so. 184 00:11:10,467 --> 00:11:13,800 (gentle poignant music) 185 00:11:20,727 --> 00:11:24,310 (bright thoughtful music) 186 00:11:26,370 --> 00:11:30,528 I met Daniel Moloney last August, 187 00:11:30,570 --> 00:11:33,888 at a time when unfortunately I was going through 188 00:11:33,930 --> 00:11:38,930 a rather difficult period, when suicide ideation 189 00:11:39,390 --> 00:11:42,288 was much present in my life. 190 00:11:42,330 --> 00:11:45,078 There are times when you don't even know 191 00:11:45,120 --> 00:11:47,778 why you get into a dark corner. 192 00:11:47,820 --> 00:11:52,820 But I was once again questioning the value of life. 193 00:11:54,180 --> 00:11:57,618 I felt despite all of the projects and the work 194 00:11:57,660 --> 00:12:01,848 that I'd done for Youmanity, I questioned myself 195 00:12:01,890 --> 00:12:06,888 as to whether all of this was worth anything. 196 00:12:06,930 --> 00:12:09,528 When you do come from a background 197 00:12:09,570 --> 00:12:11,868 where you've experienced some hardships, 198 00:12:11,910 --> 00:12:14,598 it doesn't take much for people 199 00:12:14,640 --> 00:12:17,928 to say the wrong thing to you and desimilize you. 200 00:12:17,970 --> 00:12:20,118 And then I bumped into Daniel Moloney 201 00:12:20,160 --> 00:12:23,418 and I had to really do a double take, 202 00:12:23,460 --> 00:12:27,348 because Daniel had a facial disfigurement, 203 00:12:27,390 --> 00:12:31,908 a cyst is protruding out of his face and neck. 204 00:12:31,950 --> 00:12:36,918 This is a young man that is working on a building site, 205 00:12:36,960 --> 00:12:41,838 zooming between places as if really there's no issue. 206 00:12:41,880 --> 00:12:46,638 So when I saw Daniel walking around with a confident, 207 00:12:46,680 --> 00:12:50,898 the dignity that everyone should have, must have, 208 00:12:50,940 --> 00:12:55,428 gave me some food for thought. 209 00:12:55,470 --> 00:12:58,503 I realized that, hold on a moment, 210 00:12:59,970 --> 00:13:04,970 what I am experiencing is nothing in comparison 211 00:13:05,280 --> 00:13:08,283 to what this young guy must have gone through. 212 00:13:09,310 --> 00:13:11,478 So I wanted to meet him. 213 00:13:11,520 --> 00:13:14,583 And I approached Daniel, I told him about the charity, 214 00:13:15,794 --> 00:13:18,768 and through speaking to him 215 00:13:18,810 --> 00:13:23,628 and through meeting his father William Moloney afterwards 216 00:13:23,670 --> 00:13:27,258 I realized that Friendship 217 00:13:27,300 --> 00:13:29,873 had to be the name of my next project. 218 00:13:29,915 --> 00:13:33,165 (bright upbeat music) 219 00:13:39,547 --> 00:13:44,178 It made me realize the power of love and support, 220 00:13:44,220 --> 00:13:48,618 because William is the driving force. 221 00:13:48,660 --> 00:13:52,248 William is a doting, devoted father, 222 00:13:52,290 --> 00:13:55,008 that will do anything for his son. 223 00:13:55,050 --> 00:13:58,938 And that's what really is important in all of us, 224 00:13:58,980 --> 00:14:03,348 to be able to feel nurtured, to feel loved. 225 00:14:03,390 --> 00:14:07,098 We need somebody to tell us, "Don't worry darling, 226 00:14:07,140 --> 00:14:08,778 you know, you'll be all right. 227 00:14:08,820 --> 00:14:10,758 Never mind about the fact that you know, 228 00:14:10,800 --> 00:14:12,738 your hair doesn't look right today 229 00:14:12,780 --> 00:14:16,608 or you have a protruding mass, this is how you are." 230 00:14:16,650 --> 00:14:19,728 And so who's got the problem is not the person 231 00:14:19,770 --> 00:14:22,488 with a facial disfigurement, but society. 232 00:14:22,530 --> 00:14:25,758 Let them exist as they are. 233 00:14:25,800 --> 00:14:26,958 [William] Look, I don't have to go any further 234 00:14:27,000 --> 00:14:28,235 than Angelo, like, you know what I mean? 235 00:14:28,277 --> 00:14:31,158 He met him once on the street down in Basewater, 236 00:14:31,200 --> 00:14:33,108 and like, he did make an impression on him, 237 00:14:33,150 --> 00:14:36,443 and hence, we are here basically, you know what I mean? 238 00:14:36,485 --> 00:14:41,485 - I don't know how William Moloney felt when he learned 239 00:14:42,570 --> 00:14:47,570 that his son was going to be born with the cystic hygroma, 240 00:14:48,600 --> 00:14:53,600 but looking at William with his son gives me the certainty 241 00:14:53,940 --> 00:14:56,988 that something wonderful must have developed 242 00:14:57,030 --> 00:14:59,148 as love between father and son. 243 00:14:59,190 --> 00:15:01,668 And this is what I want to find out 244 00:15:01,710 --> 00:15:03,858 with this work that we're doing. 245 00:15:03,900 --> 00:15:06,978 - All I can say is that look, we get on really, really well, 246 00:15:07,020 --> 00:15:10,368 and I admire him so much for all he's been through. 247 00:15:10,410 --> 00:15:12,408 And to be fair to him, he never complains, 248 00:15:12,450 --> 00:15:13,241 you know what I mean? 249 00:15:13,283 --> 00:15:15,078 Like look, we've met just lots of people 250 00:15:15,120 --> 00:15:16,578 who've been really kind to us, 251 00:15:16,620 --> 00:15:19,638 and I feel so grateful to Daniel for that, 252 00:15:19,680 --> 00:15:22,188 because he makes such an impression on so many people. 253 00:15:22,230 --> 00:15:24,858 Like, you know, we've met people on just once, 254 00:15:24,900 --> 00:15:27,205 and like, I've got complimented, 255 00:15:27,247 --> 00:15:29,337 "Oh, he's such a wonderful young man." 256 00:15:30,390 --> 00:15:33,078 [Angelo] So tell me Daniel, do you see yourself 257 00:15:33,120 --> 00:15:35,898 as being inspirational to others? 258 00:15:35,940 --> 00:15:39,678 Well, I really, really want to be a young, 259 00:15:39,720 --> 00:15:42,496 if I can gain from the way I was, 260 00:15:42,538 --> 00:15:47,448 maybe I can inspire other people to do anything, 261 00:15:47,490 --> 00:15:52,218 and just if maybe someone was like me, 262 00:15:52,260 --> 00:15:56,793 maybe I could inspire them to change the way they are, 263 00:15:56,835 --> 00:15:58,418 and for the better. 264 00:15:59,400 --> 00:16:02,298 [Angelo] But you do know that you have been 265 00:16:02,340 --> 00:16:04,548 truly inspirational to me personally, 266 00:16:04,590 --> 00:16:07,638 and you have helped me more than you think. 267 00:16:07,680 --> 00:16:12,048 And if I can do more, then that's all I really want to do. 268 00:16:12,090 --> 00:16:15,258 [Angelo] To me, you truly are unique. 269 00:16:15,300 --> 00:16:18,708 But I do know that you would like the cystic hygroma 270 00:16:18,750 --> 00:16:20,865 - removed at some point. - Yeah. 271 00:16:20,907 --> 00:16:23,238 [Angelo] And I understand the medical reasons 272 00:16:23,280 --> 00:16:25,398 as to why you must have this removed 273 00:16:25,440 --> 00:16:27,858 because it is pressing on your windpipe. 274 00:16:27,900 --> 00:16:29,928 It makes it difficult for you to breathe. 275 00:16:29,970 --> 00:16:31,968 You want the tracheostomy out. 276 00:16:32,010 --> 00:16:34,998 Yeah, there is that, but maybe not necessarily, 277 00:16:35,040 --> 00:16:37,731 like I mean, you breathe with it just fine. 278 00:16:37,773 --> 00:16:40,518 Like if I take it off right now, 279 00:16:40,560 --> 00:16:43,035 like I breathe with no problem. 280 00:16:43,077 --> 00:16:47,328 Like, I worked with it for like 22 years, and so yeah, 281 00:16:47,370 --> 00:16:50,089 obviously like adjusting the way 282 00:16:50,131 --> 00:16:54,568 I can breathe easier whenever, but once you actually do 283 00:16:54,610 --> 00:16:57,630 just get accustomed to the way of doing it, 284 00:16:57,672 --> 00:16:59,088 it gets a lot easier. 285 00:16:59,130 --> 00:17:03,498 [Angelo] When you go out, people look at you, 286 00:17:03,540 --> 00:17:05,988 and your face is speaking 287 00:17:06,030 --> 00:17:07,698 before you can actually say anything. 288 00:17:07,740 --> 00:17:12,498 - Yeah, but occasionally when, usually when that happens, 289 00:17:12,540 --> 00:17:15,978 I'll immediately try and just, 290 00:17:16,020 --> 00:17:19,285 maybe wave to the person, and just say that like, 291 00:17:19,327 --> 00:17:22,071 "Hey, I'm not like that different. 292 00:17:22,113 --> 00:17:24,889 Like, you don't have to look at me 293 00:17:24,931 --> 00:17:28,781 or treat me any differently than anyone else. 294 00:17:28,823 --> 00:17:33,721 And like I would just, I still act like a normal person, 295 00:17:33,763 --> 00:17:38,321 so you don't have to look at me like I'm that different." 296 00:17:38,363 --> 00:17:41,598 [Angelo] You know that another hero here 297 00:17:41,640 --> 00:17:43,623 is your father, your dad. 298 00:17:44,820 --> 00:17:48,348 Your father has been incredibly supportive 299 00:17:48,390 --> 00:17:50,958 from the day you were born, 300 00:17:51,000 --> 00:17:52,218 like any good father would be. 301 00:17:52,260 --> 00:17:53,118 [Daniel] Yeah, yeah, oh yeah. 302 00:17:53,160 --> 00:17:55,008 [Angelo] But how do you feel about him? 303 00:17:55,050 --> 00:17:59,281 - I've always viewed him as the biggest person in the world 304 00:17:59,323 --> 00:18:02,478 that I can always rely on and always, 305 00:18:02,520 --> 00:18:03,918 he's never let me down. 306 00:18:03,960 --> 00:18:07,871 He's always been, like in full support of me, 307 00:18:07,913 --> 00:18:12,528 and he is always there when I need someone to talk to, 308 00:18:12,570 --> 00:18:16,109 or if I am feeling threatened about something. 309 00:18:16,151 --> 00:18:19,488 He's always the number one person I turn to 310 00:18:19,530 --> 00:18:22,365 to talk to about these things. 311 00:18:22,407 --> 00:18:25,750 And yeah, I just feel like he's just the biggest, 312 00:18:27,265 --> 00:18:30,558 or the number one person in the world, I think probably. 313 00:18:30,600 --> 00:18:33,918 - [Angelo] Would you say that Dad is your best friend then? 314 00:18:33,960 --> 00:18:34,793 Well. 315 00:18:41,190 --> 00:18:43,090 [Angelo] You have to think about it? 316 00:18:46,187 --> 00:18:50,327 Well, I don't know if I'd go that far, but. 317 00:18:50,369 --> 00:18:52,747 (Angelo laughing) 318 00:18:52,789 --> 00:18:57,258 But yeah, but we do, but we go on really well, 319 00:18:57,300 --> 00:19:01,175 and yeah, one of my best friends ever. 320 00:19:01,217 --> 00:19:05,728 But yeah, I'm glad to always have him on my side, 321 00:19:05,770 --> 00:19:09,837 and I would never want that to change. 322 00:19:12,768 --> 00:19:16,351 (gentle thoughtful music) 323 00:19:27,102 --> 00:19:29,694 When I met Daniel for the first time 324 00:19:29,736 --> 00:19:32,569 and I spoke to him, I realized how 325 00:19:34,860 --> 00:19:39,461 each and every one of us is like Daniel, 326 00:19:39,503 --> 00:19:43,998 because all of us have something inside us, 327 00:19:44,040 --> 00:19:49,040 or outside us that needs attention. 328 00:19:49,560 --> 00:19:53,148 And it is a matter of having a conscience 329 00:19:53,190 --> 00:19:58,190 and becoming acquainted with what your disfigurement is. 330 00:19:58,890 --> 00:20:02,988 Whether it is a protruding cystic hygroma, 331 00:20:03,030 --> 00:20:07,788 or a cancer, or it is a mental disability, 332 00:20:07,830 --> 00:20:11,199 whatever it is, we all have one. 333 00:20:11,241 --> 00:20:14,418 But then you have a young man, 334 00:20:14,460 --> 00:20:17,958 he's able to get out there on a building site, 335 00:20:18,000 --> 00:20:21,798 earning his money to be able to pay for university. 336 00:20:21,840 --> 00:20:26,298 This is what gave me the strength to go on. 337 00:20:26,340 --> 00:20:31,278 And there are parallels between Daniel Moloney's story 338 00:20:31,320 --> 00:20:32,808 and mine, I suppose. 339 00:20:32,850 --> 00:20:37,850 I can only imagine the level of bullying and unkindness 340 00:20:39,450 --> 00:20:43,578 Daniel must have experienced growing up, 341 00:20:43,620 --> 00:20:46,488 much in the same way I was bullied. 342 00:20:46,530 --> 00:20:50,617 What is paradoxical, is that we all 343 00:20:50,659 --> 00:20:51,858 want to be different, don't we? 344 00:20:51,900 --> 00:20:55,758 So we choose some different clothes, different hairstyles, 345 00:20:55,800 --> 00:20:59,118 but yet the moment you become a bit more different, 346 00:20:59,160 --> 00:21:01,818 people say, "Hah, no, you don't fit in. 347 00:21:01,860 --> 00:21:04,428 You've got to go under the knife for an operation 348 00:21:04,470 --> 00:21:07,188 so that your face can be exactly the same 349 00:21:07,230 --> 00:21:10,458 as the person next door." 350 00:21:10,500 --> 00:21:13,038 I am in two minds as to whether 351 00:21:13,080 --> 00:21:15,528 this is what Daniel should do. 352 00:21:15,570 --> 00:21:17,058 Should he go under the knife 353 00:21:17,100 --> 00:21:21,348 to fit society's expectations? 354 00:21:21,390 --> 00:21:23,808 I know for a fact that in my case, 355 00:21:23,850 --> 00:21:27,528 I was asked once to change my voice. 356 00:21:27,570 --> 00:21:29,673 I was asked to walk in a different way, 357 00:21:30,620 --> 00:21:32,418 couldn't wear certain clothes. 358 00:21:32,460 --> 00:21:37,460 So I mean, what about being your real self? 359 00:21:37,590 --> 00:21:38,663 Be a short fight, you fight clean, 360 00:21:39,960 --> 00:21:42,733 and remember, behave yourselves at all times, shake hands. 361 00:21:43,671 --> 00:21:48,671 (crowd shouting) (bright upbeat music) 362 00:22:07,031 --> 00:22:08,949 (drowned out by cheering ), and the new. 363 00:22:08,991 --> 00:22:13,991 IPA heavyweight champion, (drowned out by cheering). 364 00:22:14,490 --> 00:22:15,281 To present the bill tonight, 365 00:22:15,323 --> 00:22:19,419 we have this absolutely amazing young man, Daniel Moloney, 366 00:22:19,461 --> 00:22:21,282 who has had over 30 operations 367 00:22:21,324 --> 00:22:24,661 to remove the cyst from his face. 368 00:22:24,703 --> 00:22:28,010 As a young boy, Daniel has faced bullying, 369 00:22:28,052 --> 00:22:30,229 and he's been judged throughout his life 370 00:22:30,271 --> 00:22:31,433 on the way he looks. 371 00:22:31,475 --> 00:22:32,937 Saying he's a true warrior, 372 00:22:32,979 --> 00:22:35,846 let's give him a massive service now, 373 00:22:35,888 --> 00:22:38,896 round of applause, and give him a huge assist 374 00:22:38,938 --> 00:22:40,693 for his operation. 375 00:22:40,735 --> 00:22:44,452 Ladies and gentlemen, Daniel Moloney. 376 00:22:44,494 --> 00:22:49,354 (crowd cheering) (bright upbeat music) 377 00:22:49,396 --> 00:22:54,396 (announcer drowned out my music and cheering) 378 00:22:56,148 --> 00:23:01,148 (bright upbeat music) (crowd cheering) 379 00:23:03,348 --> 00:23:07,765 (drowned out by cheering and music), 380 00:23:16,336 --> 00:23:18,836 one more time, Daniel Moloney. 381 00:23:19,773 --> 00:23:22,338 It's not a question that they're going to be able to, 382 00:23:22,380 --> 00:23:24,108 call it fix him for the want of a better word, 383 00:23:24,150 --> 00:23:27,018 and that he is like that he never had it, 384 00:23:27,060 --> 00:23:28,398 he never had cystic hygroma. 385 00:23:28,440 --> 00:23:29,448 That's not going to happen. 386 00:23:29,490 --> 00:23:30,438 But what Daniel would like to do, 387 00:23:30,480 --> 00:23:32,718 what I want to do because he wants it, 388 00:23:32,760 --> 00:23:36,918 is to try and reduce the what's remaining 389 00:23:36,960 --> 00:23:38,388 as much as possible. 390 00:23:38,430 --> 00:23:41,661 And in time, if it was possible, 391 00:23:41,703 --> 00:23:44,088 then we would remove the tracheostomy. 392 00:23:44,130 --> 00:23:47,088 But the tracheostomy is no guarantee about that, 393 00:23:47,130 --> 00:23:49,248 that's not a definite that that's going to go. 394 00:23:49,290 --> 00:23:52,008 He has the cyst in the back of his throat area, 395 00:23:52,050 --> 00:23:54,828 and as Mr. Russell and several people have said, 396 00:23:54,870 --> 00:23:56,148 that's his insurance policy, 397 00:23:56,190 --> 00:23:58,458 because if he gets a throat infection, 398 00:23:58,500 --> 00:24:02,598 his throat could swell up and he would choke, basically. 399 00:24:02,640 --> 00:24:06,258 Daniel wants to have his own voice, 400 00:24:06,300 --> 00:24:10,818 and the problem that he's been having all of these years 401 00:24:10,860 --> 00:24:14,208 is that his face has been speaking for him. 402 00:24:14,250 --> 00:24:18,918 All of this time is a face that has been shouting at people. 403 00:24:18,960 --> 00:24:23,898 - The removal of the tracheostomy is a very big decision. 404 00:24:23,940 --> 00:24:25,458 That's ultimately his decision, 405 00:24:25,500 --> 00:24:27,768 but it's a very big decision, 406 00:24:27,810 --> 00:24:31,608 and at the moment it's not on the menu. 407 00:24:31,650 --> 00:24:36,588 The removal of the remainder of the cyst is possible, 408 00:24:36,630 --> 00:24:39,918 but as I said, it's not a guarantee that it's, 409 00:24:39,960 --> 00:24:41,748 he's not going to look as if he never had it. 410 00:24:41,790 --> 00:24:45,558 And I made all the decisions for Daniel 411 00:24:45,600 --> 00:24:48,168 up to up this particular one, 412 00:24:48,210 --> 00:24:50,148 but this one is Daniel's decision. 413 00:24:50,190 --> 00:24:52,548 And we were told that the day we went, 414 00:24:52,590 --> 00:24:57,138 we met the two surgeons in Dublin, is that Daniel is now 21, 415 00:24:57,180 --> 00:25:00,204 Daniel is the patient, and they're taking advice from him. 416 00:25:00,246 --> 00:25:03,413 (bright upbeat music) 417 00:25:13,734 --> 00:25:16,038 I'm traveling to Cork so I can finally 418 00:25:16,080 --> 00:25:19,608 get to meet Daniel and William's family. 419 00:25:19,650 --> 00:25:22,248 It'd be very interesting for me to get to know everyone, 420 00:25:22,290 --> 00:25:25,608 but also to learn about Daniel's background, 421 00:25:25,650 --> 00:25:29,298 and where he was brought up, his school, his friends. 422 00:25:29,340 --> 00:25:31,968 It'll be interesting to see the parallels 423 00:25:32,010 --> 00:25:34,134 between Daniel's life and mine. 424 00:25:34,176 --> 00:25:37,343 (bright upbeat music) 425 00:25:41,700 --> 00:25:44,111 We've obviously brightened well, 426 00:25:44,153 --> 00:25:47,448 because it is again to such a contrast from London, 427 00:25:47,490 --> 00:25:49,518 we are from a more rural background, you know, 428 00:25:49,560 --> 00:25:51,738 obviously out Knockanore, and in the real 429 00:25:51,780 --> 00:25:54,234 heart of the country, you know what I mean? 430 00:25:54,276 --> 00:25:57,526 (bright upbeat music) 431 00:26:10,146 --> 00:26:13,128 It was wonderful driving to William's house, 432 00:26:13,170 --> 00:26:16,818 and meeting his mother and brother and sisters. 433 00:26:16,860 --> 00:26:19,098 It was an incredible welcome. 434 00:26:19,140 --> 00:26:21,588 And for someone who comes from southern Italy, 435 00:26:21,630 --> 00:26:25,623 it reminded me of oh, I just enjoyed being with a family. 436 00:26:26,701 --> 00:26:29,951 (bright upbeat music) 437 00:26:48,150 --> 00:26:50,988 Taking a walk from the farm, 438 00:26:51,030 --> 00:26:56,030 I found myself in this beautiful, idyllic spot. 439 00:26:56,160 --> 00:27:00,438 I could not possibly imagine a place as tranquil, 440 00:27:00,480 --> 00:27:03,018 just as in fact Daniel is, 441 00:27:03,060 --> 00:27:08,060 and this is where Daniel was born, and this is his land, 442 00:27:09,690 --> 00:27:14,690 and it is incredibly evocative of Daniel's own personality. 443 00:27:15,930 --> 00:27:18,438 The family has been incredibly welcoming. 444 00:27:18,480 --> 00:27:20,628 This is the kind of welcome 445 00:27:20,670 --> 00:27:23,328 that I was hoping I would receive. 446 00:27:23,370 --> 00:27:27,528 I feel totally chuffed that I've been accepted. 447 00:27:27,570 --> 00:27:32,298 Well, I'd like to give a little gift to William's mom. 448 00:27:32,340 --> 00:27:34,128 - Oh, lovely. - And Daniel's grandmother. 449 00:27:34,170 --> 00:27:35,358 - Yes. - This is for you. 450 00:27:35,400 --> 00:27:37,188 - Oh, what is it? - It's a small gift, 451 00:27:37,230 --> 00:27:41,809 from my region in southern Italy, and- 452 00:27:41,851 --> 00:27:42,678 But you're very kind. 453 00:27:42,720 --> 00:27:46,428 For heaven sake, there was no need to bring me anything. 454 00:27:46,470 --> 00:27:49,989 [Angelo] I got you a little Puglia in a box. 455 00:27:50,031 --> 00:27:52,534 Yes, well we'll see what that is. 456 00:27:52,576 --> 00:27:53,756 That's a nice thing, isn't it? 457 00:27:53,798 --> 00:27:57,818 That really is now... It's real pottery, is it? 458 00:27:57,860 --> 00:28:00,686 - Yes, and it's all hand-decorated. 459 00:28:00,728 --> 00:28:02,776 - Hand-painted, yeah. 460 00:28:02,818 --> 00:28:06,818 Oh lovely, oh my dear, that's a very nice thing. 461 00:28:07,923 --> 00:28:12,923 Thank you. (gentle poignant music) 462 00:28:40,590 --> 00:28:43,398 I find this city very similar 463 00:28:43,440 --> 00:28:46,728 to the one I was born in, 464 00:28:46,770 --> 00:28:48,978 yet they are incredibly different cities, 465 00:28:49,020 --> 00:28:52,008 but the sense of history 466 00:28:52,050 --> 00:28:56,868 and all the monuments that I've visited so far, 467 00:28:56,910 --> 00:29:00,378 they do remind me of my place back home. 468 00:29:00,420 --> 00:29:03,828 It's quite remarkable, I can't explain it. 469 00:29:03,870 --> 00:29:07,101 It is a nice feeling about it. 470 00:29:07,143 --> 00:29:11,358 I feel incredibly at peace here. 471 00:29:11,400 --> 00:29:14,418 This house holds a special place in your heart 472 00:29:14,460 --> 00:29:17,358 because this is the house where Daniel 473 00:29:17,400 --> 00:29:22,008 came home from the hospital the very first time, was born. 474 00:29:22,050 --> 00:29:25,788 And this is the house where the several operations 475 00:29:25,830 --> 00:29:29,358 took place in the course of a number of years. 476 00:29:29,400 --> 00:29:31,248 And was this a happy home? 477 00:29:31,290 --> 00:29:33,168 Oh yeah, yeah, actually we had great times, 478 00:29:33,210 --> 00:29:36,318 because like Daniel, he became a bit of a celebrity, 479 00:29:36,360 --> 00:29:38,778 you know what I mean, in his own right. 480 00:29:38,820 --> 00:29:42,348 It's amazing how people that you don't know would just, 481 00:29:42,390 --> 00:29:43,878 you know, initially he was in the buggy, 482 00:29:43,920 --> 00:29:45,378 and then he was in a walker, 483 00:29:45,420 --> 00:29:48,698 and suddenly he was walking along with me, 484 00:29:48,740 --> 00:29:50,538 or I was carrying him on a lot of occasions, 485 00:29:50,580 --> 00:29:51,371 you know what I mean? 486 00:29:51,413 --> 00:29:52,398 We had some great times, 487 00:29:52,440 --> 00:29:54,168 and we had a lovely garden out the back there, 488 00:29:54,210 --> 00:29:57,588 and you know, every birthday was always marked 489 00:29:57,630 --> 00:29:59,808 with all his cousins came in to it to see him. 490 00:29:59,850 --> 00:30:01,938 And so that was, it was always, 491 00:30:01,980 --> 00:30:03,738 that was always good fun, you know what I mean? 492 00:30:03,780 --> 00:30:07,272 So we were fortunate that we had some brilliant times here, 493 00:30:07,314 --> 00:30:08,628 you know what I mean, over the years, you know? 494 00:30:08,670 --> 00:30:10,578 So this is the house, 495 00:30:10,620 --> 00:30:14,328 the street where you were brought up? 496 00:30:14,370 --> 00:30:16,701 - Yeah. - Any happy memories? 497 00:30:16,743 --> 00:30:19,188 Yeah, just when family memories, 498 00:30:19,230 --> 00:30:22,788 where all five of us were together here, 499 00:30:22,830 --> 00:30:26,833 or just yeah, like obviously I spent Christmas here, 500 00:30:26,875 --> 00:30:31,692 and spent holidays, and just every occasion like that, 501 00:30:31,734 --> 00:30:32,726 that were really nice, 502 00:30:32,768 --> 00:30:36,023 and just having that brought back, 503 00:30:36,065 --> 00:30:36,894 you know what I mean, 504 00:30:36,936 --> 00:30:39,798 that I'm happy to think about, and all that. 505 00:30:39,840 --> 00:30:42,888 [Angelo] So now that you live in London 506 00:30:42,930 --> 00:30:45,108 and you come to visit here, 507 00:30:45,150 --> 00:30:47,181 don't you miss this beautiful place? 508 00:30:47,223 --> 00:30:51,872 Yeah, yeah, like in London there's more to do, 509 00:30:51,914 --> 00:30:56,669 like there's just more places to go to, 510 00:30:56,711 --> 00:30:59,545 because like obviously it's bigger. 511 00:30:59,587 --> 00:31:02,920 But I don't think it's as good as here. 512 00:31:05,963 --> 00:31:08,508 [Angelo] Daniel and William wanted to tell me 513 00:31:08,550 --> 00:31:11,148 more about the family history. 514 00:31:11,190 --> 00:31:14,253 I was taken on a beautiful walk down to a river, 515 00:31:15,120 --> 00:31:18,018 and it was here that a tragedy occurred 516 00:31:18,060 --> 00:31:20,868 with the drowning of a young family member, 517 00:31:20,910 --> 00:31:23,103 eight-year-old Margaret Moloney. 518 00:31:24,210 --> 00:31:26,283 This affected everyone badly. 519 00:31:27,540 --> 00:31:29,808 The family marks the anniversary 520 00:31:29,850 --> 00:31:32,373 with a ceremony of remembrance every year. 521 00:31:33,780 --> 00:31:35,298 She was just only eight years of age, 522 00:31:35,340 --> 00:31:36,228 and she was just sitting here, 523 00:31:36,270 --> 00:31:39,948 and there was a pier here at the time, 524 00:31:39,990 --> 00:31:41,028 and she was sitting on it. 525 00:31:41,070 --> 00:31:44,498 And look, you know, I believe that one of the stories 526 00:31:44,540 --> 00:31:46,908 is that they were having an apple to eat, 527 00:31:46,950 --> 00:31:47,805 and the apple fell in the water 528 00:31:47,847 --> 00:31:49,998 and she reached out to get it and fell over. 529 00:31:50,040 --> 00:31:53,778 And because she was wearing a dress with her, 530 00:31:53,820 --> 00:31:57,258 I can't think of the, a flannel dress I think it's called. 531 00:31:57,300 --> 00:31:59,118 And there was a lot of layers in it, 532 00:31:59,160 --> 00:32:02,178 and the air in it held her up in the water initially. 533 00:32:02,220 --> 00:32:04,128 Tide was falling at the time, 534 00:32:04,170 --> 00:32:06,438 and it had dragged her out into the middle of the water, 535 00:32:06,480 --> 00:32:09,018 but unfortunately the weight of the dress, 536 00:32:09,060 --> 00:32:10,608 it sucked her down. 537 00:32:10,650 --> 00:32:13,128 Like, my grandfather was never the same after it, 538 00:32:13,170 --> 00:32:14,538 as nobody would be, you know? 539 00:32:14,580 --> 00:32:17,778 And my dad, if he heard you were going down to the river, 540 00:32:17,820 --> 00:32:19,115 he used to be afraid of his life. 541 00:32:19,157 --> 00:32:20,028 He said, "You know what?" 542 00:32:20,070 --> 00:32:21,078 He was so nervous of it, 543 00:32:21,120 --> 00:32:23,448 because he was obviously present when this happened, 544 00:32:23,490 --> 00:32:25,938 and that's not something you'd forget in a hurry, you know? 545 00:32:25,980 --> 00:32:28,998 We all, you know, just got this put up, to as a little, 546 00:32:29,040 --> 00:32:31,230 just to mark the occasion, you know? 547 00:32:31,272 --> 00:32:34,689 (gentle poignant music) 548 00:32:46,410 --> 00:32:48,198 The one thing you'd be guaranteed of happening 549 00:32:48,240 --> 00:32:49,338 when you'd arrive at the beach, 550 00:32:49,380 --> 00:32:50,448 is that everything you'd have, 551 00:32:50,490 --> 00:32:52,788 including clothes, hair, heels, 552 00:32:52,830 --> 00:32:55,098 tracheostomies, ever would be full of sand. 553 00:32:55,140 --> 00:32:57,708 There is a story, the kids were playing with a canoe, 554 00:32:57,750 --> 00:32:59,388 and he fell off into the water. 555 00:32:59,430 --> 00:33:01,158 There was some skirmish to rescue Daniel then, 556 00:33:01,200 --> 00:33:03,408 because obviously of the tracheostomy, 557 00:33:03,450 --> 00:33:04,608 there was some panic for a second 558 00:33:04,650 --> 00:33:06,708 to pull him out of the water, but anyway, 559 00:33:06,750 --> 00:33:09,618 he lived to fight another day anyway, you know? 560 00:33:09,660 --> 00:33:10,758 Look, there's some lovely memories 561 00:33:10,800 --> 00:33:13,848 of us all being here, and you know, playing football, 562 00:33:13,890 --> 00:33:16,938 and playing hurling and stuff on the beach. 563 00:33:16,980 --> 00:33:19,128 And of course I'm making sandcastles, you know? 564 00:33:19,170 --> 00:33:21,198 And they used try to bury me, et cetera, 565 00:33:21,240 --> 00:33:22,788 you know what I mean, in the sand, 566 00:33:22,830 --> 00:33:24,830 which was always a bit of an experience. 567 00:33:25,798 --> 00:33:28,315 It was a practice trial. 568 00:33:28,357 --> 00:33:31,728 [Angelo] It's a, (laughing). 569 00:33:31,770 --> 00:33:33,828 No, there was times it was challenging, 570 00:33:33,870 --> 00:33:36,828 because there was a lot of uncertainty, I suppose really. 571 00:33:36,870 --> 00:33:41,418 And also we didn't understand the condition, you know? 572 00:33:41,460 --> 00:33:44,328 But now look, just 23 years later almost, 573 00:33:44,370 --> 00:33:48,168 and I can see how well he's getting on with his own life, 574 00:33:48,210 --> 00:33:51,588 and you know, that he's gone starting work and all this now, 575 00:33:51,630 --> 00:33:55,848 and look, we don't often get this kind of opportunity 576 00:33:55,890 --> 00:33:57,490 to spend a bit of time together. 577 00:33:58,573 --> 00:34:01,990 (gentle poignant music) 578 00:34:20,310 --> 00:34:23,260 - [Angelo] Daniel, did you make any friends at this school? 579 00:34:25,227 --> 00:34:27,723 I really did not love that place. 580 00:34:29,163 --> 00:34:32,996 During my last year here, basically my teacher 581 00:34:33,945 --> 00:34:36,445 did not work for me the best. 582 00:34:37,827 --> 00:34:41,478 And so I actually do remember the day 583 00:34:41,520 --> 00:34:43,113 all that started happening. 584 00:34:44,310 --> 00:34:46,998 My mam came to collect me like she always did, 585 00:34:47,040 --> 00:34:51,813 and when we came out, as we were walking out the car, 586 00:34:52,920 --> 00:34:56,118 I just told her about the day I had, 587 00:34:56,160 --> 00:34:58,968 and just about something that happened 588 00:34:59,010 --> 00:35:02,895 with me and my teacher. 589 00:35:02,937 --> 00:35:07,608 And when that happened, she got like really annoyed 590 00:35:07,650 --> 00:35:11,125 and angry about that, so she actually came in 591 00:35:11,167 --> 00:35:15,123 to talk to my teacher, and we all just kind of, 592 00:35:15,165 --> 00:35:17,552 my mam just came to a consensus 593 00:35:17,594 --> 00:35:20,696 that she thought my teacher just wasn't being 594 00:35:20,738 --> 00:35:21,998 very nice and all that. 595 00:35:22,040 --> 00:35:25,413 So around November we just decided 596 00:35:25,455 --> 00:35:28,107 that I just wasn't going to go here anymore. 597 00:35:28,149 --> 00:35:31,649 (bright thoughtful music) 598 00:35:34,140 --> 00:35:38,538 I find this location remarkably similar to Puglia, 599 00:35:38,580 --> 00:35:41,553 because of the many farms dotted around the region, 600 00:35:43,257 --> 00:35:47,418 and this is exactly how you would see Puglia when you visit. 601 00:35:47,460 --> 00:35:51,348 The only difference, the vegetation here is incredibly lush, 602 00:35:51,390 --> 00:35:55,248 whereas in Puglia is, the climate is very sunny. 603 00:35:55,290 --> 00:35:57,168 We are in the middle of summer now. 604 00:35:57,210 --> 00:36:01,923 The landscape will look dramatically different to this. 605 00:36:03,553 --> 00:36:07,008 The people of County Cork, the Irish people, 606 00:36:07,050 --> 00:36:11,448 are incredibly hospitable, as the people from Puglia. 607 00:36:11,490 --> 00:36:13,788 And I'm sure I'll be able to reciprocate 608 00:36:13,830 --> 00:36:16,227 the kindness that I've received here. 609 00:36:16,269 --> 00:36:19,769 (gentle thoughtful music) 610 00:36:38,225 --> 00:36:41,475 (bright lively music) 611 00:36:47,525 --> 00:36:49,140 My dad wanted us to go to Aberdeen 612 00:36:51,614 --> 00:36:54,614 where they're playing against Watts. 613 00:36:55,649 --> 00:36:58,816 He's been a sports fan his whole life. 614 00:36:58,858 --> 00:37:02,056 My dad just like having me accompany. 615 00:37:02,098 --> 00:37:06,597 So long that it makes him happy I'm okay with going, 616 00:37:06,639 --> 00:37:09,318 even if I don't really care. 617 00:37:09,360 --> 00:37:11,028 Look, we don't get that many opportunities 618 00:37:11,070 --> 00:37:13,998 to do stuff together, and he'd be as happy at home, 619 00:37:14,040 --> 00:37:15,198 but look, it just gets him out. 620 00:37:15,240 --> 00:37:16,638 And we've met some really nice people, 621 00:37:16,680 --> 00:37:17,925 when you're out there as well. 622 00:37:17,967 --> 00:37:20,538 And the funny thing is, when when stuff happens, 623 00:37:20,580 --> 00:37:22,308 like at scores and stuff, he does, he- 624 00:37:22,350 --> 00:37:24,183 He lies, he lies, he lies. 625 00:37:26,340 --> 00:37:27,438 [William] No, I've seen him in action. 626 00:37:27,480 --> 00:37:28,892 Yeah, he gets excited, you know? 627 00:37:28,934 --> 00:37:31,577 - But he is very vocal. - You'd be surprised. 628 00:37:31,619 --> 00:37:36,619 (fans cheering) (bright lively music) 629 00:37:40,909 --> 00:37:45,909 (announcer drowned out by cheering and music) 630 00:37:50,075 --> 00:37:55,075 Yeah! (fans cheering and whistling) 631 00:37:57,095 --> 00:38:01,095 (bright lively music continues) 632 00:38:04,198 --> 00:38:09,198 (announcer drowned out by music and cheering) 633 00:38:14,914 --> 00:38:18,997 (bright lively music continues) 634 00:38:22,920 --> 00:38:24,528 [Angelo] You know that eventually 635 00:38:24,570 --> 00:38:27,648 you will be looking for a place of your own. 636 00:38:27,690 --> 00:38:31,346 How would you feel about moving out here? 637 00:38:31,388 --> 00:38:34,071 Now I'm nervous because, nervous, 638 00:38:34,113 --> 00:38:37,008 but also kind of like, for my whole life 639 00:38:37,050 --> 00:38:41,872 I've sort of had a sense of insecurity 640 00:38:41,914 --> 00:38:44,631 and like, over the past few years 641 00:38:44,673 --> 00:38:47,178 I've really been trying my best 642 00:38:47,220 --> 00:38:51,647 to know that security in myself, 643 00:38:51,689 --> 00:38:56,658 and making myself feel like I could handle 644 00:38:56,700 --> 00:38:59,557 things in my life all by myself. 645 00:38:59,599 --> 00:39:04,485 So at the moment, maybe not 100%, 646 00:39:04,527 --> 00:39:06,558 but again, when it does happen, 647 00:39:06,600 --> 00:39:09,781 I feel like I will be ready 648 00:39:09,823 --> 00:39:12,588 to be able to do it properly. 649 00:39:12,630 --> 00:39:16,278 [Angelo] Well, you are a great young man. 650 00:39:16,320 --> 00:39:19,968 What do you think are your strengths and weaknesses? 651 00:39:20,010 --> 00:39:22,710 Strengths and weaknesses. 652 00:39:22,752 --> 00:39:25,285 I always try to be creative. 653 00:39:25,327 --> 00:39:30,155 I always try to be as friendly and kind as I can be. 654 00:39:30,197 --> 00:39:34,627 Like, sometimes maybe that might not always be the case, 655 00:39:34,669 --> 00:39:36,777 but more often than not, 656 00:39:36,819 --> 00:39:39,995 I always try my best to do that really. 657 00:39:40,037 --> 00:39:41,004 And as for my weaknesses, I would say. 658 00:39:44,183 --> 00:39:47,928 I'm not really the brightest person around, 659 00:39:47,970 --> 00:39:50,958 like there are a lot of things 660 00:39:51,000 --> 00:39:55,698 that I'm very unsure of about myself, 661 00:39:55,740 --> 00:39:59,897 that I feel like I have a bit of a naivety side to myself, 662 00:40:01,050 --> 00:40:03,768 where maybe I'm not entirely sure 663 00:40:03,810 --> 00:40:07,488 of the world around me, 100%, 664 00:40:07,530 --> 00:40:10,341 [Angelo] Do you have a message for people 665 00:40:10,383 --> 00:40:13,248 that are going through a challenging time, 666 00:40:13,290 --> 00:40:14,643 that could inspire them? 667 00:40:15,510 --> 00:40:18,135 Always look to the future, 668 00:40:18,177 --> 00:40:22,368 and always remind yourself that you always, 669 00:40:22,410 --> 00:40:25,095 that you do have people in your life 670 00:40:25,137 --> 00:40:27,418 who will want to be your friend, 671 00:40:27,460 --> 00:40:30,774 who will want to support you. 672 00:40:30,816 --> 00:40:35,816 And just that, that yes, even though there will always 673 00:40:36,360 --> 00:40:38,902 be hard times in our lives, 674 00:40:38,944 --> 00:40:41,441 that we should just look to the future, 675 00:40:41,483 --> 00:40:45,210 and just be aware of everyone in your life. 676 00:40:45,252 --> 00:40:47,916 They will be there for you. 677 00:40:47,958 --> 00:40:51,458 (gentle thoughtful music) 678 00:40:59,357 --> 00:41:02,568 We are in Puglia, southeast of Italy, 679 00:41:02,610 --> 00:41:04,788 and this is my new home. 680 00:41:04,830 --> 00:41:08,928 I moved here after 40 years in London. 681 00:41:08,970 --> 00:41:12,138 Just needed a bit of space, which I got here. 682 00:41:12,180 --> 00:41:17,180 I very much enjoy looking after the garden and vegetables, 683 00:41:17,250 --> 00:41:20,328 something I was never able to do in London 684 00:41:20,370 --> 00:41:22,008 because I lived in a flat. 685 00:41:22,050 --> 00:41:26,208 So now I live in a house, and I have a small dog 686 00:41:26,250 --> 00:41:29,208 that came with me from London. 687 00:41:29,250 --> 00:41:34,250 And I find being here highly therapeutic. 688 00:41:34,350 --> 00:41:39,192 I'm detoxing myself by looking after the veg garden. 689 00:41:39,234 --> 00:41:42,528 There are artichoke there, lovely chickens, 690 00:41:42,570 --> 00:41:46,158 fresh eggs in the morning, fresh fruit. 691 00:41:46,200 --> 00:41:47,568 I mean, what else would I want? 692 00:41:47,610 --> 00:41:51,258 I even have a well for the dry season coming up in August. 693 00:41:51,300 --> 00:41:55,518 I'm grateful that I've been able to come back to Puglia, 694 00:41:55,560 --> 00:41:58,428 to the things that really I loved the most. 695 00:41:58,470 --> 00:42:02,808 These are the plants and trees that represent my childhood. 696 00:42:02,850 --> 00:42:05,718 My father had similar trees and plants, 697 00:42:05,760 --> 00:42:08,178 but I was never able to enjoy them, 698 00:42:08,220 --> 00:42:11,658 because I left in a hurry sort of thing, 699 00:42:11,700 --> 00:42:14,598 and went to London where I stayed for 40 years. 700 00:42:14,640 --> 00:42:18,454 So now I've come back, I want to make up for lost times. 701 00:42:18,496 --> 00:42:22,913 (bright thoughtful music continues) 702 00:42:25,578 --> 00:42:29,118 Been very keen to take Daniel to Puglia 703 00:42:29,160 --> 00:42:32,958 to show him the places where I grew up. 704 00:42:33,000 --> 00:42:37,101 So I look forward to taking around places 705 00:42:37,143 --> 00:42:39,198 that I may have not been to visit 706 00:42:39,240 --> 00:42:41,103 for a very long time myself. 707 00:42:42,810 --> 00:42:45,787 [Daniel] I've heard about Italy for a long time, 708 00:42:45,829 --> 00:42:49,111 like it's a very, very famous place in the world, 709 00:42:49,153 --> 00:42:52,968 so it will be nice to just be able to explore. 710 00:42:53,010 --> 00:42:55,698 - [William] We're looking forward to seeing all the places 711 00:42:55,740 --> 00:42:59,238 that meant so much to him during his childhood. 712 00:42:59,280 --> 00:43:01,278 - Hello, welcome. - 'Cause I have 713 00:43:01,320 --> 00:43:03,198 done a bit of research before we came over, 714 00:43:03,240 --> 00:43:05,208 and I'm really looking forward to seeing some of the sites 715 00:43:05,250 --> 00:43:07,709 that he has promised to take us to. 716 00:43:07,751 --> 00:43:11,334 (bright thoughtful music) 717 00:43:24,360 --> 00:43:28,968 - I love William, he truly is the unsung hero of the story. 718 00:43:29,010 --> 00:43:32,988 To see a father look after Daniel the way he does, 719 00:43:33,030 --> 00:43:36,018 unconditionally, from such a young age, 720 00:43:36,060 --> 00:43:40,248 is so beautiful, inspiring. 721 00:43:40,290 --> 00:43:44,178 I am grateful that he came to Puglia to my house, 722 00:43:44,220 --> 00:43:49,220 because I was able to deliver a little speech 723 00:43:49,530 --> 00:43:54,530 to remind everybody what love is, paternal love is. 724 00:43:55,680 --> 00:44:00,580 My charity handed over a little plaque to William, 725 00:44:01,650 --> 00:44:06,113 as a memento of his courage and generosity. 726 00:44:06,155 --> 00:44:08,324 (audience applauding) (bystanders chattering) 727 00:44:08,366 --> 00:44:09,918 This is from humanity to you. 728 00:44:09,960 --> 00:44:10,938 Oh my goodness. 729 00:44:10,980 --> 00:44:13,533 And it's for your courage, 730 00:44:14,391 --> 00:44:16,507 and I'm not going to cry because otherwise 731 00:44:16,549 --> 00:44:21,396 I'm going to spoil my makeup. (audience applauding) 732 00:44:21,438 --> 00:44:24,992 Thank you, I appreciate that. Thank you yes, thank you. 733 00:44:25,034 --> 00:44:27,705 (audience applauding) 734 00:44:27,747 --> 00:44:32,747 (gentle bright music) (bystanders chattering) 735 00:44:33,189 --> 00:44:35,939 [Photographer] One, two, three. 736 00:44:41,022 --> 00:44:43,020 (group cheering) 737 00:44:43,062 --> 00:44:47,395 (bright thoughtful music continues) 738 00:45:10,270 --> 00:45:14,118 I was a quiet boy here, hated churches. 739 00:45:14,160 --> 00:45:17,058 I hated dogmas even as a young child. 740 00:45:17,100 --> 00:45:21,378 Nothing made sense to me about the martyrs, especially. 741 00:45:21,420 --> 00:45:26,420 A lot of blood in churches, paintings and sculptures 742 00:45:26,550 --> 00:45:31,368 depicting women with their breasts amputated, 743 00:45:31,410 --> 00:45:34,578 women with their eyes gouged out. 744 00:45:34,620 --> 00:45:37,428 My parents never forced me to go to church, 745 00:45:37,470 --> 00:45:42,018 but my peers and their families kind of put pressure on me 746 00:45:42,060 --> 00:45:45,387 to go to church, because all the other kids did. 747 00:45:45,429 --> 00:45:48,846 (gentle poignant music) 748 00:46:09,010 --> 00:46:11,832 Six years old when I first came to this school, 749 00:46:11,874 --> 00:46:13,938 I left by the time I was 11. 750 00:46:13,980 --> 00:46:17,838 This is exactly how it was back then. 751 00:46:17,880 --> 00:46:21,588 I have very fond memories of the school. 752 00:46:21,630 --> 00:46:24,678 I met some wonderful kids. 753 00:46:24,720 --> 00:46:28,938 There was a sense of fraternity amongst us children, 754 00:46:28,980 --> 00:46:31,608 and the first year was just wonderful. 755 00:46:31,650 --> 00:46:35,658 We had a lovely teacher, incredibly motherly, 756 00:46:35,700 --> 00:46:38,628 really like a teacher should be, you know? 757 00:46:38,670 --> 00:46:43,670 And, but then in the second year I was seven years old, 758 00:46:43,890 --> 00:46:48,890 a new teacher came, and he was an older gentleman, 759 00:46:50,490 --> 00:46:54,798 incredibly strict, and he used this stick, 760 00:46:54,840 --> 00:46:58,278 right on his desk in full view of the class. 761 00:46:58,320 --> 00:47:00,588 And that was a kind of a sign 762 00:47:00,630 --> 00:47:03,468 that we had to stick to what the rules were, 763 00:47:03,510 --> 00:47:07,488 and the rules were that we had to be doing our homework, 764 00:47:07,530 --> 00:47:10,758 and if we failed he would punish us. 765 00:47:10,800 --> 00:47:15,800 So we had ah, to show the palm of our hand 766 00:47:16,081 --> 00:47:21,081 and clap, he would use the stick to hit us with. 767 00:47:21,480 --> 00:47:25,968 I could not comprehend how this teacher 768 00:47:26,010 --> 00:47:29,268 could be allowed to hit children the way that he did. 769 00:47:29,310 --> 00:47:33,768 So I told my father, and he said exactly 770 00:47:33,810 --> 00:47:38,418 what the teacher had said, that it was for my good, 771 00:47:38,460 --> 00:47:40,218 my own good, that the teacher 772 00:47:40,260 --> 00:47:45,020 would teach me to be respectful, 773 00:47:45,960 --> 00:47:49,278 to be doing my homework on time, 774 00:47:49,320 --> 00:47:51,268 because that's what life is about. 775 00:47:51,310 --> 00:47:53,538 I was so scared of this teacher 776 00:47:53,580 --> 00:47:55,608 that every time I saw him in the street 777 00:47:55,650 --> 00:48:00,318 after I'd left school, that I wanted to approach him 778 00:48:00,360 --> 00:48:05,238 to say how his teaching method had not worked on me. 779 00:48:05,280 --> 00:48:08,838 Whenever he punished us, he really hit us. 780 00:48:08,880 --> 00:48:11,148 He said, "I'm doing this for your own good, 781 00:48:11,190 --> 00:48:14,778 because one day you're going to come to me 782 00:48:14,820 --> 00:48:18,747 and you're going to thank me for me hitting you." 783 00:48:20,010 --> 00:48:22,128 I could not comprehend this, 784 00:48:22,170 --> 00:48:27,170 because I was so unwell every day that my father 785 00:48:28,200 --> 00:48:32,838 had to take me to the local cafe or the pastry shop 786 00:48:32,880 --> 00:48:36,288 to give me treats before taking me to school. 787 00:48:36,330 --> 00:48:38,688 And that's something I couldn't comprehend either, 788 00:48:38,730 --> 00:48:41,148 that my father would abandon me 789 00:48:41,190 --> 00:48:44,658 and leave me with this monster of a teacher, 790 00:48:44,700 --> 00:48:48,228 because to me that's exactly what he was. 791 00:48:48,270 --> 00:48:51,018 Daniel, if you saw the teacher who hadn't been 792 00:48:51,060 --> 00:48:54,828 particularly nice to you in your old school, 793 00:48:54,870 --> 00:48:56,193 what would you say to her? 794 00:49:10,920 --> 00:49:12,896 It's okay, Daniel. 795 00:49:12,938 --> 00:49:16,521 (bright thoughtful music) 796 00:49:19,500 --> 00:49:20,748 [William] Oh, I've been very impressed 797 00:49:20,790 --> 00:49:21,648 with the whole place. 798 00:49:21,690 --> 00:49:23,298 I mean, so lucky with the weather here. 799 00:49:23,340 --> 00:49:26,238 It's beautifully sunny and warm without being too hot. 800 00:49:26,280 --> 00:49:27,948 It's just like going around 801 00:49:27,990 --> 00:49:30,738 with the local president of a city, 802 00:49:30,780 --> 00:49:32,958 because everybody seems to know him, 803 00:49:33,000 --> 00:49:35,538 and you can feel the warmth 804 00:49:35,580 --> 00:49:37,578 everybody has towards him, you know? 805 00:49:37,620 --> 00:49:39,138 We're so lucky to have met him. 806 00:49:39,180 --> 00:49:42,978 He's such a kind and generous person. 807 00:49:43,020 --> 00:49:45,108 We are from a more rural background, you know, 808 00:49:45,150 --> 00:49:46,908 obviously out Knockanore, 809 00:49:46,950 --> 00:49:49,338 in the real heart of the country, you know what I mean? 810 00:49:49,380 --> 00:49:50,688 And I'm really looking forward to seeing 811 00:49:50,730 --> 00:49:54,141 some of the sites that he's promised to take us to. 812 00:49:54,183 --> 00:49:56,238 Alberobello is a bit of a departure 813 00:49:56,280 --> 00:49:59,508 from the beautiful fields that we saw in Ireland, 814 00:49:59,550 --> 00:50:00,341 don't you think? 815 00:50:00,383 --> 00:50:03,999 Yeah, I guess it's more uniquely shaped, 816 00:50:04,041 --> 00:50:06,651 and more uniquely designed, 817 00:50:06,693 --> 00:50:10,448 like in terms of how everything is shaped. 818 00:50:10,490 --> 00:50:11,481 And I guess the material that's used 819 00:50:11,523 --> 00:50:16,070 for the building as well, and it seems like it's also 820 00:50:18,269 --> 00:50:22,158 a departure from Ireland, and things like that. 821 00:50:22,200 --> 00:50:25,938 I wanted to show Daniel the culture of Puglia, 822 00:50:25,980 --> 00:50:29,658 and I think Alberobello has this unique site, 823 00:50:29,700 --> 00:50:31,938 which is UNESCO protected, 824 00:50:31,980 --> 00:50:35,298 these beautiful cone-shaped houses, 825 00:50:35,340 --> 00:50:37,878 that were built quite a long time ago. 826 00:50:37,920 --> 00:50:41,088 And I think it's quite a bit of departure 827 00:50:41,130 --> 00:50:44,298 from the fields that we saw together in Ireland. 828 00:50:44,340 --> 00:50:47,808 It's cementing our friendship, and it is also nice 829 00:50:47,850 --> 00:50:50,523 to share the heritage where we come from. 830 00:50:52,260 --> 00:50:53,958 [William] Proper houses we saw today, 831 00:50:54,000 --> 00:50:55,638 the cone-shaped roofs and stuff, 832 00:50:55,680 --> 00:50:58,818 it's so different to anything we have in Ireland. 833 00:50:58,860 --> 00:51:01,818 Until this trip I never even knew about this, 834 00:51:01,860 --> 00:51:03,138 that UNESCO site. 835 00:51:03,180 --> 00:51:05,628 So it was absolutely brilliant to see it, 836 00:51:05,670 --> 00:51:09,378 because being from a construction background myself, 837 00:51:09,420 --> 00:51:12,468 I'm very interested in all that type of architecture, 838 00:51:12,510 --> 00:51:14,838 and how people even did that. 839 00:51:14,880 --> 00:51:17,658 Whereas even now, that those types of buildings 840 00:51:17,700 --> 00:51:20,313 would be difficult, never mind when they were built. 841 00:51:21,180 --> 00:51:24,763 (bright thoughtful music) 842 00:51:35,700 --> 00:51:40,278 Meeting Daniel allowed me to understand 843 00:51:40,320 --> 00:51:44,418 how important it is to seize that moment, 844 00:51:44,460 --> 00:51:47,208 because I was going through a terrible time, 845 00:51:47,250 --> 00:51:49,758 and I don't know what would've happened to me 846 00:51:49,800 --> 00:51:53,845 had I not met Daniel, had I not had the courage to say, 847 00:51:53,887 --> 00:51:57,198 "Excuse me, what's your name?" 848 00:51:57,240 --> 00:52:00,406 When I first met him, I never even thought 849 00:52:00,448 --> 00:52:02,757 that I'd hear from him again. 850 00:52:02,799 --> 00:52:06,468 Started off in a very unusual kind of way, 851 00:52:06,510 --> 00:52:08,688 how he was looking out his window at work one day, 852 00:52:08,730 --> 00:52:11,628 and he saw Daniel just working across the street. 853 00:52:11,670 --> 00:52:13,668 He obviously observed him for a little while, 854 00:52:13,710 --> 00:52:16,578 and he could see the kind of a person he is, 855 00:52:16,620 --> 00:52:18,468 that he was trying to get on with life. 856 00:52:18,510 --> 00:52:21,498 We do need to learn about others, 857 00:52:21,540 --> 00:52:23,568 we must not stop learning. 858 00:52:23,610 --> 00:52:27,288 This is what had happened to me until I'd met Daniel. 859 00:52:27,330 --> 00:52:30,048 I had got into this tunnel depression, 860 00:52:30,090 --> 00:52:35,090 and I could not find a way out, and Daniel was that light. 861 00:52:36,810 --> 00:52:41,028 He allowed me to look at courage and strength 862 00:52:41,070 --> 00:52:42,318 right in the face. 863 00:52:42,360 --> 00:52:46,188 He's such a kind and generous person. 864 00:52:46,230 --> 00:52:49,788 Obviously had his own, you know, his own issues 865 00:52:49,830 --> 00:52:51,858 when he was a child himself. 866 00:52:51,900 --> 00:52:54,108 You know, he felt, you know, as if he had 867 00:52:54,150 --> 00:52:57,453 a kind of difficult enough kind of upbringing. 868 00:52:57,495 --> 00:53:01,036 I don't have the best of luck when it comes 869 00:53:01,078 --> 00:53:05,328 to finding people who have common interests to me. 870 00:53:06,350 --> 00:53:11,350 And even if Angelo and I don't necessarily have a lot, 871 00:53:11,492 --> 00:53:13,885 have that many things in common, 872 00:53:13,927 --> 00:53:16,849 we still just get along really well. 873 00:53:16,891 --> 00:53:20,155 I guess technically like, from when we first met, 874 00:53:20,197 --> 00:53:22,988 and my dad and I got the impression 875 00:53:23,030 --> 00:53:26,688 that he was really a really nice, lovely man, 876 00:53:26,730 --> 00:53:31,518 and yeah, like he proved that so many times, 877 00:53:31,560 --> 00:53:33,715 ever since we first met. 878 00:53:33,757 --> 00:53:36,393 He's also been so supportive about my tracheotomy, 879 00:53:38,081 --> 00:53:40,368 well, about my face and all that. 880 00:53:40,410 --> 00:53:44,088 - Since we met him, he's been just such a great influence 881 00:53:44,130 --> 00:53:45,738 on us all, and including myself, 882 00:53:45,780 --> 00:53:49,398 he's made me think about life, and about doing things, 883 00:53:49,440 --> 00:53:51,390 and doing things differently, you know? 884 00:53:53,760 --> 00:53:58,760 I often ask myself whether I have changed at all 885 00:53:59,340 --> 00:54:02,493 in the 40 years I spent in London. 886 00:54:03,450 --> 00:54:05,688 I know that I've come here 887 00:54:05,730 --> 00:54:09,183 with quite a bit of experience, life experience. 888 00:54:10,200 --> 00:54:13,248 I would like to think that I've become more open-minded, 889 00:54:13,290 --> 00:54:17,958 and more accepting and forgiving of myself. 890 00:54:18,000 --> 00:54:22,038 I'm hoping that some, my experiences, 891 00:54:22,080 --> 00:54:24,858 and whatever I take back with me from London 892 00:54:24,900 --> 00:54:29,568 may benefit somebody, and also that I may benefit 893 00:54:29,610 --> 00:54:32,088 from the experience of the locals 894 00:54:32,130 --> 00:54:35,013 that have also matured here for the past 40 years. 895 00:54:38,123 --> 00:54:40,345 He just gives out this aura of like, 896 00:54:40,387 --> 00:54:41,868 "Let's help people if we can," 897 00:54:41,910 --> 00:54:46,910 and not being judgmental, and just being so understanding 898 00:54:47,010 --> 00:54:50,778 of difference and diversity and the whole thing. 899 00:54:50,820 --> 00:54:52,488 These are things that only a few years ago 900 00:54:52,530 --> 00:54:54,153 I didn't even understand. 901 00:54:57,600 --> 00:55:01,657 We've seen kind of the environment that he ever had, 902 00:55:01,699 --> 00:55:04,428 we ever had to grow up in, and yeah, 903 00:55:04,470 --> 00:55:09,470 we both also explained what it was like growing up, 904 00:55:09,870 --> 00:55:13,100 and with our childhood, you know. 905 00:55:16,348 --> 00:55:21,348 (gentle poignant music) (footsteps pattering) 906 00:55:49,544 --> 00:55:51,238 I do not know about my journey, 907 00:55:51,280 --> 00:55:55,008 where the journey will take me next, 908 00:55:55,050 --> 00:55:57,213 or where the journey will end. 909 00:55:58,260 --> 00:56:02,988 All I know is, this is my contribution, 910 00:56:03,030 --> 00:56:06,468 something that I hope is important for somebody. 911 00:56:06,510 --> 00:56:11,510 Hope that the stories that we will be sharing with others 912 00:56:11,670 --> 00:56:15,228 may help others in some way, 913 00:56:15,270 --> 00:56:19,578 that may provide some encouragement, some courage, 914 00:56:19,620 --> 00:56:23,427 but certainly give a sense of dignity to people. 915 00:56:25,001 --> 00:56:28,501 (gentle thoughtful music) 916 00:57:34,970 --> 00:57:39,387 (gentle thoughtful music continues)