1 00:00:02,000 --> 00:00:07,000 Downloaded from YTS.BZ 2 00:00:08,000 --> 00:00:13,000 Official YIFY movies site: YTS.BZ 3 00:00:55,639 --> 00:00:58,726 [birds calling] 4 00:01:01,979 --> 00:01:05,191 [seagulls crying] 5 00:01:08,778 --> 00:01:10,570 ADULT SASHA (VOICEOVER): I struggle now to remember 6 00:01:10,571 --> 00:01:13,198 much of my childhood. 7 00:01:13,199 --> 00:01:15,825 It only comes back to me in small fragments, 8 00:01:15,826 --> 00:01:20,371 and even those memories are hard to trust. 9 00:01:20,372 --> 00:01:21,999 I do remember his maps. 10 00:01:24,710 --> 00:01:28,797 {\an8}It's true I spent most of my life being angry at him. 11 00:01:28,798 --> 00:01:31,591 {\an8}The older I get, the more I feel 12 00:01:31,592 --> 00:01:34,177 {\an8}like I never even knew him at all. 13 00:01:34,178 --> 00:01:37,806 {\an8}My image of him now, I know, falls flat 14 00:01:37,807 --> 00:01:40,308 {\an8}compared to reality. 15 00:01:40,309 --> 00:01:43,019 {\an8}Thank you for your memories. 16 00:01:43,020 --> 00:01:44,479 {\an8}They're all I have now. 17 00:01:44,480 --> 00:01:48,358 {\an8}[children giggle, talking indistinctly] 18 00:01:48,359 --> 00:01:50,026 {\an8}[giggling] 19 00:01:50,027 --> 00:01:51,736 CHILD: I have four pillows in my car. 20 00:01:51,737 --> 00:01:54,322 [indistinct chatter] 21 00:01:54,323 --> 00:01:57,325 [gentle classical music] 22 00:01:57,326 --> 00:02:04,333 ♪ ♪ 23 00:02:50,212 --> 00:02:54,173 [motor slows to a stop] 24 00:02:54,174 --> 00:02:55,801 [vehicle door closes] 25 00:03:02,266 --> 00:03:05,269 [vehicle doors closing] 26 00:03:13,485 --> 00:03:14,903 MOTHER: Okay. 27 00:03:14,904 --> 00:03:18,740 Boys, grab each one thing, and come with me in the house. 28 00:03:18,741 --> 00:03:20,283 Now. 29 00:03:20,284 --> 00:03:24,495 {\an8}[both speaking Hungarian] 30 00:03:24,496 --> 00:03:27,082 FATHER: Jeremy, help me with the mattress, please. 31 00:03:30,210 --> 00:03:31,921 Ah! 32 00:03:49,772 --> 00:03:53,692 [insects chirping] 33 00:03:59,657 --> 00:04:01,616 [device clicking] 34 00:04:01,617 --> 00:04:04,619 [music box playing light tune] 35 00:04:04,620 --> 00:04:11,626 ♪ ♪ 36 00:04:11,627 --> 00:04:14,629 SASHA: I am Miss Mousey. 37 00:04:14,630 --> 00:04:18,591 [device clicking] 38 00:04:18,592 --> 00:04:20,051 [camera shutter clicks] 39 00:04:20,052 --> 00:04:23,513 Closing her eyes. 40 00:04:23,514 --> 00:04:26,100 She's eating your leg. 41 00:04:29,061 --> 00:04:31,854 [camera shutter clicks] 42 00:04:31,855 --> 00:04:33,857 {\an8}[Mother speaking Hungarian] 43 00:04:48,414 --> 00:04:49,580 Mm-hmm. 44 00:04:49,581 --> 00:04:52,459 [children humming] 45 00:05:19,987 --> 00:05:22,530 [children continue humming] 46 00:05:22,531 --> 00:05:24,240 [laughing] 47 00:05:24,241 --> 00:05:26,660 {\an8}- [speaking Hungarian] 48 00:05:32,541 --> 00:05:34,417 [door opens] SASHA: Mom, your car keys. 49 00:05:34,418 --> 00:05:36,419 MOTHER: Oh, thank you. FELIX: Come on! 50 00:05:36,420 --> 00:05:38,047 Get out of my way, come on! 51 00:05:40,632 --> 00:05:42,258 MOTHER: Come. 52 00:05:42,259 --> 00:05:44,260 [door closes] 53 00:05:44,261 --> 00:05:47,431 [car doors open, close, engine turning over] 54 00:06:04,865 --> 00:06:06,867 [child shouts] 55 00:06:08,911 --> 00:06:11,538 [children giggling] 56 00:06:26,678 --> 00:06:29,013 SASHA: "And eventually become an evergreen forest. 57 00:06:29,014 --> 00:06:31,724 "The first plants to occupy a disturbed site 58 00:06:31,725 --> 00:06:34,811 "are called pioneer species, the process of processing 59 00:06:34,812 --> 00:06:36,854 into forest called succession." 60 00:06:36,855 --> 00:06:40,734 [camera shutter clicking, film whirring] 61 00:06:48,367 --> 00:06:51,160 [seagulls crying] 62 00:06:51,161 --> 00:06:53,246 NARRATOR (ON TV): The heron has two methods of fishing, 63 00:06:53,247 --> 00:06:55,581 either he waits for the prey to come to him, 64 00:06:55,582 --> 00:06:58,334 or else he stalks it very carefully. 65 00:06:58,335 --> 00:07:02,338 [seagulls continue crying] 66 00:07:02,339 --> 00:07:05,342 [birds calling] 67 00:07:32,161 --> 00:07:34,829 NARRATOR (ON TV): While one protects the nest, 68 00:07:34,830 --> 00:07:36,164 the other fishes 69 00:07:36,165 --> 00:07:37,957 to meet the daily increasing need for food. 70 00:07:37,958 --> 00:07:39,750 [children speaking indistinctly] 71 00:07:39,751 --> 00:07:43,254 As time passes, the ritual exchanges between adults 72 00:07:43,255 --> 00:07:45,173 become less and less frequent, 73 00:07:45,174 --> 00:07:48,217 and the strong bond between them begins to weaken. 74 00:07:48,218 --> 00:07:50,178 By the time they finally leave the colony, 75 00:07:50,179 --> 00:07:53,390 these bonds will have completely disappeared. 76 00:07:55,350 --> 00:07:59,937 His flight path is sometimes obstructed by other birds. 77 00:07:59,938 --> 00:08:01,731 The direction and force of the wind 78 00:08:01,732 --> 00:08:04,192 can also prevent him from landing, 79 00:08:04,193 --> 00:08:07,195 so he takes off again and tries a new approach. 80 00:08:07,196 --> 00:08:08,487 [seagulls crying] 81 00:08:08,488 --> 00:08:12,325 MOTHER: No, please, no touching! 82 00:08:12,326 --> 00:08:14,410 NARRATOR (ON TV): The young herons have now reached 83 00:08:14,411 --> 00:08:17,121 their full growth and are left on their own. 84 00:08:17,122 --> 00:08:21,417 [heron squawking] 85 00:08:21,418 --> 00:08:24,295 They find food either guided by their instinct 86 00:08:24,296 --> 00:08:27,215 or by following the adults to the feeding grounds. 87 00:08:27,216 --> 00:08:31,636 [seagulls crying] 88 00:08:31,637 --> 00:08:34,640 [car doors open] 89 00:08:36,225 --> 00:08:39,810 [car doors close] 90 00:08:39,811 --> 00:08:42,521 [engine turning over] 91 00:08:42,522 --> 00:08:45,524 [cheerful music] 92 00:08:45,525 --> 00:08:52,532 ♪ ♪ 93 00:08:57,371 --> 00:09:00,374 [children chattering indistinctly] 94 00:09:07,464 --> 00:09:10,341 - Thank you. - Yeah. 95 00:09:10,342 --> 00:09:12,469 - Come on, let's go. - Yeah. 96 00:09:15,055 --> 00:09:16,847 EMMA: Let's go to my place first. 97 00:09:16,848 --> 00:09:18,683 BECKY: I can't wait. 98 00:09:18,684 --> 00:09:21,811 ASHLEY: Maybe you can ask your mom if we can go in the pool. 99 00:09:21,812 --> 00:09:24,605 I would love to go in the pool. 100 00:09:24,606 --> 00:09:27,400 We could borrow some of your swimsuits. 101 00:09:27,401 --> 00:09:28,859 EMMA: Let's go. 102 00:09:28,860 --> 00:09:30,445 Right over here. 103 00:09:34,366 --> 00:09:37,326 [child giggles] 104 00:09:37,327 --> 00:09:38,828 Did you do your dance? 105 00:09:38,829 --> 00:09:40,830 SASHA: Yes, I did do my dance. 106 00:09:40,831 --> 00:09:42,873 BECKY: I didn't see you! 107 00:09:42,874 --> 00:09:44,250 I know. 108 00:09:44,251 --> 00:09:46,252 EMMA: You have to do a dance before we do it. 109 00:09:46,253 --> 00:09:47,795 ASHLEY: Make sure you do a dance. 110 00:09:47,796 --> 00:09:50,339 EMMA: It's our tradition. [all shouting happily] 111 00:09:50,340 --> 00:09:54,385 CHILD: Wait... [continues indistinctly] 112 00:09:54,386 --> 00:09:56,513 BECKY: Wait. She's right there. 113 00:10:08,358 --> 00:10:11,862 [distant telephone ringing] 114 00:10:30,339 --> 00:10:31,714 [object crunches] 115 00:10:31,715 --> 00:10:35,259 [children whispering indistinctly] 116 00:10:35,260 --> 00:10:37,012 [loud crash] 117 00:10:38,722 --> 00:10:41,265 SASHA: You guys! [door swinging open] 118 00:10:41,266 --> 00:10:43,517 Help. NEIGHBOR: Stay calm. 119 00:10:43,518 --> 00:10:44,977 SASHA: Help. 120 00:10:44,978 --> 00:10:48,189 NEIGHBOR: Here, grab a hold of this. Stay calm. 121 00:10:48,190 --> 00:10:51,609 Here we go, here we go. Yeah, just hold on. 122 00:10:51,610 --> 00:10:53,779 Why did you do that, sweetheart? 123 00:10:57,199 --> 00:11:01,744 - [humming] 124 00:11:01,745 --> 00:11:05,247 [vehicle engine roaring] 125 00:11:05,248 --> 00:11:08,251 [continues humming] 126 00:11:33,568 --> 00:11:36,779 FATHER: He wants to upset me. He wants to upset you. 127 00:11:36,780 --> 00:11:39,990 {\an8}[Mother speaking Hungarian] 128 00:11:39,991 --> 00:11:42,994 {\an8}[Father speaking Hungarian] 129 00:11:47,207 --> 00:11:49,583 MOTHER: He's--he's troubled, but he's not crazy. 130 00:11:49,584 --> 00:11:50,876 FATHER: And-- 131 00:11:50,877 --> 00:11:53,462 MOTHER: Crazy means something else. 132 00:11:53,463 --> 00:11:56,340 I just don't want you to say something 133 00:11:56,341 --> 00:11:57,676 like this about my son. 134 00:12:01,888 --> 00:12:06,350 MOTHER: I mean, it's crazy to leave him like this. 135 00:12:06,351 --> 00:12:08,018 FATHER: That's what they told us-- 136 00:12:08,019 --> 00:12:10,646 don't react, just let him get bored of his own jokes. 137 00:12:10,647 --> 00:12:12,649 {\an8}[door closes] 138 00:12:14,901 --> 00:12:17,654 Please check on him, please. 139 00:12:33,128 --> 00:12:35,130 [door opens] 140 00:12:46,433 --> 00:12:49,477 Is he still out there? 141 00:12:49,478 --> 00:12:51,062 SASHA: Mm-hmm. 142 00:12:58,820 --> 00:13:03,282 - What do you think about Jeremy--how he's behaving? 143 00:13:03,283 --> 00:13:05,285 SASHA: I don't know. 144 00:13:09,331 --> 00:13:11,874 MOTHER: Why do you think he's like this? 145 00:13:11,875 --> 00:13:14,877 - I don't know, Mom. 146 00:13:14,878 --> 00:13:16,545 FATHER: How did it go? 147 00:13:16,546 --> 00:13:19,882 MOTHER: Why is your hair wet? 148 00:13:19,883 --> 00:13:23,427 - We played in the sprinkler. 149 00:13:23,428 --> 00:13:26,973 [phone ringing] 150 00:13:34,314 --> 00:13:38,526 Um, yeah, we've seen him. 151 00:13:38,527 --> 00:13:40,445 Yeah, he's just acting out. 152 00:13:51,039 --> 00:13:53,541 No. No, I appreciate it. 153 00:13:53,542 --> 00:13:55,544 [chuckles] 154 00:13:59,339 --> 00:14:01,840 Um, yeah, yeah. 155 00:14:01,841 --> 00:14:04,135 No, I'm--I'm with you. Yes, yeah. 156 00:14:07,764 --> 00:14:09,348 MOTHER: Who was that? 157 00:14:09,349 --> 00:14:11,559 FATHER: Jason, from across the street. 158 00:14:11,560 --> 00:14:13,143 [sighs] He wanted to let us know 159 00:14:13,144 --> 00:14:15,772 that our son is dead on the front step. 160 00:14:18,191 --> 00:14:20,734 - I told him we are aware and not to worry. 161 00:14:20,735 --> 00:14:22,361 He will come back to life soon. 162 00:14:22,362 --> 00:14:25,155 [chuckles] 163 00:14:25,156 --> 00:14:26,866 - Hmm. 164 00:14:40,589 --> 00:14:43,382 [birds chirping] 165 00:14:43,383 --> 00:14:47,386 [cereal rattles in bowl, liquid pouring] 166 00:14:47,387 --> 00:14:51,223 HENRY: I woke up at 6:47. 167 00:14:51,224 --> 00:14:55,519 FELIX: Same, around maybe 7:00. 168 00:14:55,520 --> 00:14:58,814 Did you know that in the ocean-- 169 00:14:58,815 --> 00:15:01,025 you know a fun fact about dolphins? 170 00:15:01,026 --> 00:15:02,526 Want to know a fun fact? 171 00:15:02,527 --> 00:15:06,530 Sometimes dolphins will find a puffer fish and gang up on it 172 00:15:06,531 --> 00:15:10,826 and bite onto it and then toss it around 173 00:15:10,827 --> 00:15:12,828 like a football just to get high. 174 00:15:12,829 --> 00:15:14,414 It's true. 175 00:15:16,416 --> 00:15:18,710 [dishes clattering] 176 00:15:26,217 --> 00:15:27,801 HENRY: Stop it. 177 00:15:27,802 --> 00:15:30,013 - I don't want to watch you eat. 178 00:15:38,980 --> 00:15:43,651 Boys, do you know where's your swimsuit? 179 00:15:43,652 --> 00:15:45,694 HENRY: I don't have one. 180 00:15:45,695 --> 00:15:49,531 MOTHER: Okay, then you should wear these underwears, 181 00:15:49,532 --> 00:15:51,659 so no one will notice anyways. 182 00:15:51,660 --> 00:15:53,286 FELIX: Yeah. 183 00:15:58,458 --> 00:16:01,461 - [speaking Hungarian] 184 00:16:03,421 --> 00:16:05,423 [door closes] 185 00:16:13,473 --> 00:16:15,475 [thumping] 186 00:16:28,071 --> 00:16:31,616 [thumping continues] 187 00:16:37,497 --> 00:16:40,040 MOTHER: Sasha, come. 188 00:16:40,041 --> 00:16:42,876 Let's go. 189 00:16:42,877 --> 00:16:43,878 Bye. 190 00:16:45,880 --> 00:16:47,881 [door closes] 191 00:16:47,882 --> 00:16:51,720 [thumping continues] 192 00:16:54,556 --> 00:16:57,559 [ball bouncing, thumping continues] 193 00:17:04,149 --> 00:17:06,483 Jeremy. 194 00:17:06,484 --> 00:17:07,736 Come. 195 00:17:09,487 --> 00:17:10,947 Jeremy. 196 00:17:14,951 --> 00:17:16,536 Jeremy! 197 00:17:19,914 --> 00:17:21,958 Jeremy, come! 198 00:17:23,918 --> 00:17:26,129 Come with me now. 199 00:17:45,356 --> 00:17:47,357 [car door closes] 200 00:17:47,358 --> 00:17:49,152 Seat belts on. 201 00:17:59,788 --> 00:18:02,414 [engine turning over] 202 00:18:02,415 --> 00:18:05,418 [ball bouncing] 203 00:18:59,013 --> 00:19:01,390 - You can't do it. It's too heavy, dude. 204 00:19:01,391 --> 00:19:03,058 It's, like, 50 pounds. 205 00:19:03,059 --> 00:19:05,644 [child straining] 206 00:19:05,645 --> 00:19:07,771 HENRY: There's not a lot. FELIX: Let me see. 207 00:19:07,772 --> 00:19:09,064 HENRY: Like, four. 208 00:19:09,065 --> 00:19:11,066 FELIX: Oh, there's a decently big one right here. 209 00:19:11,067 --> 00:19:12,860 Oh, he lost an arm. 210 00:19:12,861 --> 00:19:14,611 SASHA: Aw, put him back! Put him back! 211 00:19:14,612 --> 00:19:17,906 [waves crashing] 212 00:19:17,907 --> 00:19:21,076 [seagulls crying] 213 00:19:21,077 --> 00:19:24,080 [children chattering happily] 214 00:19:39,679 --> 00:19:41,723 [children cheering] 215 00:19:45,935 --> 00:19:47,687 SASHA: Don't. 216 00:20:17,926 --> 00:20:20,720 [rock splashing] 217 00:20:26,309 --> 00:20:28,311 [rock splashing] 218 00:20:30,730 --> 00:20:33,733 [indistinct chatter] 219 00:20:57,423 --> 00:21:00,843 [seagulls crying] 220 00:21:03,972 --> 00:21:06,975 [insects chirping] 221 00:21:14,857 --> 00:21:17,568 - Did he take the money I gave you? 222 00:21:19,779 --> 00:21:22,364 Hmm? 223 00:21:22,365 --> 00:21:24,574 HENRY: No. 224 00:21:24,575 --> 00:21:27,203 MOTHER: Come on, let's go to the car. 225 00:21:33,459 --> 00:21:37,255 [thunder rumbling softly] 226 00:21:40,216 --> 00:21:43,010 [Sasha sighs] 227 00:21:43,011 --> 00:21:46,014 [children chattering indistinctly] 228 00:21:52,145 --> 00:21:54,146 SASHA: Where's Jeremy? 229 00:21:54,147 --> 00:21:56,815 FELIX: Where's Mom? Where's Jeremy? 230 00:21:56,816 --> 00:21:58,401 There's Mom. 231 00:22:06,409 --> 00:22:09,412 [thunder rumbling] 232 00:22:13,041 --> 00:22:16,044 [car door opens, beeping] 233 00:22:19,255 --> 00:22:23,675 [engine turning over] 234 00:22:23,676 --> 00:22:26,845 CHILDREN: 704, 705, 706, 235 00:22:26,846 --> 00:22:31,641 707, 708, 709... 236 00:22:31,642 --> 00:22:35,520 710, 711, 712, 237 00:22:35,521 --> 00:22:39,858 713, 714, 715. 238 00:22:39,859 --> 00:22:42,652 [vehicles passing by] 239 00:22:42,653 --> 00:22:45,655 [dramatic music] 240 00:22:45,656 --> 00:22:52,663 ♪ ♪ 241 00:22:54,040 --> 00:22:56,875 MOTHER: Come. Come now. 242 00:22:56,876 --> 00:23:03,883 ♪ ♪ 243 00:23:19,690 --> 00:23:22,484 [car seat rattling] Stop it. 244 00:23:22,485 --> 00:23:25,112 Do you want me to crash? 245 00:23:25,113 --> 00:23:30,492 ♪ ♪ 246 00:23:30,493 --> 00:23:32,911 [sighs] 247 00:23:32,912 --> 00:23:34,913 - [slurps] 248 00:23:34,914 --> 00:23:41,921 ♪ ♪ 249 00:23:48,719 --> 00:23:51,346 - ♪ My friend ♪ 250 00:23:51,347 --> 00:23:56,977 ♪ Don't just sit there and ruminate ♪ 251 00:23:56,978 --> 00:24:01,940 ♪ With your navel to contemplate ♪ 252 00:24:01,941 --> 00:24:07,362 ♪ It's a beautiful day outside ♪ 253 00:24:07,363 --> 00:24:10,365 ♪ Time's passing you by ♪ 254 00:24:10,366 --> 00:24:17,373 ♪ ♪ 255 00:24:22,378 --> 00:24:24,337 FELIX: Ah! 256 00:24:24,338 --> 00:24:26,924 HENRY: Here, Let me try. 257 00:24:30,344 --> 00:24:31,720 Ah, damn. 258 00:24:31,721 --> 00:24:33,847 FELIX: It didn't even land over there. 259 00:24:33,848 --> 00:24:37,142 [gentle music] 260 00:24:37,143 --> 00:24:40,187 HENRY: Oh, that was so close. 261 00:24:40,188 --> 00:24:44,566 [indistinct chatter] 262 00:24:44,567 --> 00:24:46,276 FELIX: Yeah, sure. 263 00:24:46,277 --> 00:24:48,987 Just don't sell me the sausages. 264 00:24:48,988 --> 00:24:51,990 [keys clacking] 265 00:24:51,991 --> 00:24:56,912 ♪ ♪ 266 00:24:56,913 --> 00:25:00,415 - Dad, where's Mom? 267 00:25:00,416 --> 00:25:02,417 FATHER: She's at her appointment. 268 00:25:02,418 --> 00:25:05,295 - What kind of appointment? 269 00:25:05,296 --> 00:25:12,303 ♪ ♪ 270 00:25:14,138 --> 00:25:17,516 Dad, what kind of appointment? 271 00:25:19,810 --> 00:25:22,438 - Come, draw something for me. 272 00:25:27,235 --> 00:25:30,445 Ta-da. 273 00:25:30,446 --> 00:25:32,614 Sit. 274 00:25:32,615 --> 00:25:35,617 - Yay. 275 00:25:35,618 --> 00:25:37,869 Ooh. 276 00:25:37,870 --> 00:25:40,248 What's this do? 277 00:25:42,917 --> 00:25:44,918 - Try. [mouse clicking] 278 00:25:44,919 --> 00:25:46,336 - [gasps] Wow. 279 00:25:46,337 --> 00:25:48,047 - That's nice. 280 00:25:50,925 --> 00:25:53,843 - Now, I need to-- 281 00:25:53,844 --> 00:25:55,762 FATHER: That one. 282 00:25:55,763 --> 00:25:57,639 It's going to be Miss Mousey. 283 00:25:57,640 --> 00:25:59,474 SASHA: Yeah. 284 00:25:59,475 --> 00:26:01,810 FATHER: I know. 285 00:26:01,811 --> 00:26:04,272 SASHA: Ooh, that's big. FATHER: That's one ear. 286 00:26:07,066 --> 00:26:08,858 Can move it back. 287 00:26:08,859 --> 00:26:13,196 SASHA: Oh. Wait, wait, I'll do the bucket. 288 00:26:13,197 --> 00:26:15,282 FATHER: Pull some way just a little. 289 00:26:15,283 --> 00:26:16,617 SASHA: Oh, no! 290 00:26:22,581 --> 00:26:25,250 HENRY: Yeah, and then this, you have to do it, like, slowly. 291 00:26:25,251 --> 00:26:27,253 And can you take this? 292 00:26:33,301 --> 00:26:34,801 A boat. 293 00:26:34,802 --> 00:26:35,845 FELIX: Yeah. 294 00:26:39,682 --> 00:26:40,933 There we go. 295 00:26:44,687 --> 00:26:48,189 Yeah, dude. 296 00:26:48,190 --> 00:26:51,151 HENRY: Hey, mine has water. 297 00:26:51,152 --> 00:26:54,195 FELIX: Hey, blue boat is still alive. 298 00:26:54,196 --> 00:26:56,072 HENRY: And so are mine. 299 00:26:56,073 --> 00:26:58,158 FELIX: Looking kind of rough, though. 300 00:26:58,159 --> 00:26:59,535 HENRY: Yeah. 301 00:27:01,704 --> 00:27:02,746 Look at this. 302 00:27:02,747 --> 00:27:04,247 FELIX: You want one? 303 00:27:04,248 --> 00:27:06,249 - No. 304 00:27:06,250 --> 00:27:08,335 HENRY: You wish. 305 00:27:08,336 --> 00:27:11,338 [classical music] 306 00:27:11,339 --> 00:27:18,345 ♪ ♪ 307 00:27:18,346 --> 00:27:21,723 [indistinct chatter] 308 00:27:21,724 --> 00:27:24,727 [laughter] 309 00:27:28,356 --> 00:27:31,359 [camera shutter clicks, film whirs] 310 00:27:34,028 --> 00:27:41,035 ♪ ♪ 311 00:28:03,933 --> 00:28:07,477 FATHER: Just try to find nice shapes. 312 00:28:07,478 --> 00:28:11,398 And focus on the arrangements, okay? 313 00:28:11,399 --> 00:28:12,983 Mm-hmm. 314 00:28:16,695 --> 00:28:19,406 Nice so far, nice. 315 00:28:19,407 --> 00:28:22,784 Lesson number one, never do that. 316 00:28:22,785 --> 00:28:24,412 Henry. 317 00:28:27,206 --> 00:28:29,916 Time, now. 318 00:28:29,917 --> 00:28:36,924 ♪ ♪ 319 00:28:39,468 --> 00:28:42,011 SASHA: Who is that? 320 00:28:42,012 --> 00:28:43,805 HENRY: Wow. FELIX: Me. 321 00:28:43,806 --> 00:28:45,640 FATHER: Time is going backwards. 322 00:28:45,641 --> 00:28:48,226 It's a time warp. 323 00:28:48,227 --> 00:28:49,477 FELIX: Yeah. 324 00:28:49,478 --> 00:28:51,020 HENRY: It's awesome. 325 00:28:51,021 --> 00:28:53,649 SASHA: That's really cool. Wow. 326 00:29:06,537 --> 00:29:08,663 FATHER: You spot instantly 327 00:29:08,664 --> 00:29:10,290 during this-- [knocking] 328 00:29:10,291 --> 00:29:14,919 Jeremy, can you put it in the fixer, please? 329 00:29:14,920 --> 00:29:16,921 [footsteps approaching] 330 00:29:16,922 --> 00:29:19,382 How did it go? - Hmm? 331 00:29:19,383 --> 00:29:21,384 FATHER: How did it go? 332 00:29:21,385 --> 00:29:23,052 - What do you mean? 333 00:29:23,053 --> 00:29:25,930 It was terrible, but what is this? 334 00:29:25,931 --> 00:29:28,475 What are you doing? 335 00:29:28,476 --> 00:29:30,810 You're not working. 336 00:29:30,811 --> 00:29:33,771 Where is--where are the children? 337 00:29:33,772 --> 00:29:36,275 - I was showing them something in the darkroom. 338 00:29:48,621 --> 00:29:51,080 It seems like you don't really see 339 00:29:51,081 --> 00:29:54,501 that we are in a crisis somehow. 340 00:29:54,502 --> 00:29:56,878 FATHER: So... 341 00:29:56,879 --> 00:30:00,715 Badly, I guess. [Mother sighs] 342 00:30:00,716 --> 00:30:04,302 Did they have any advice this time? 343 00:30:04,303 --> 00:30:06,305 [Mother scoffs] 344 00:30:11,101 --> 00:30:15,314 - You can listen to this whole thing. 345 00:30:17,942 --> 00:30:19,526 - He let you record it? 346 00:30:19,527 --> 00:30:20,902 [button clicks] 347 00:30:20,903 --> 00:30:22,529 PSYCHIATRIST (ON TAPE): It's difficult. 348 00:30:22,530 --> 00:30:23,863 You're correct, yes. 349 00:30:23,864 --> 00:30:25,532 It's not clear entirely 350 00:30:25,533 --> 00:30:27,992 what's causing this disruptive behavior, 351 00:30:27,993 --> 00:30:30,203 even after meeting with him several times. 352 00:30:30,204 --> 00:30:33,623 MOTHER (ON TAPE): Can you say what he was telling you or no? 353 00:30:33,624 --> 00:30:35,750 PSYCHIATRIST (ON TAPE): No, I can't tell you that. 354 00:30:35,751 --> 00:30:38,336 But I can tell you my professional opinion. 355 00:30:38,337 --> 00:30:40,129 MOTHER (ON TAPE): You mean a diagnosis? 356 00:30:40,130 --> 00:30:41,548 PSYCHIATRIST (ON TAPE): I know that's 357 00:30:41,549 --> 00:30:43,132 what you're after, 358 00:30:43,133 --> 00:30:45,301 but a diagnosis is not always as helpful as you might think. 359 00:30:45,302 --> 00:30:46,928 MOTHER (ON TAPE): You don't have one? 360 00:30:46,929 --> 00:30:48,221 PSYCHIATRIST (ON TAPE): [scoffs] 361 00:30:48,222 --> 00:30:50,139 While areas of weakness have been identified 362 00:30:50,140 --> 00:30:51,558 in his learning abilities, 363 00:30:51,559 --> 00:30:53,268 they do not alone seem sufficient enough 364 00:30:53,269 --> 00:30:55,937 to account for the level of social difficulty, 365 00:30:55,938 --> 00:30:57,605 the relationship issues, 366 00:30:57,606 --> 00:31:01,276 the adaptive-living issues you reported to me. 367 00:31:01,277 --> 00:31:03,236 As far as a diagnosis is concerned, 368 00:31:03,237 --> 00:31:05,154 I would really only feel confident 369 00:31:05,155 --> 00:31:07,323 in suggesting that Jeremy has signs 370 00:31:07,324 --> 00:31:10,368 of what we would call oppositional defiant disorder. 371 00:31:10,369 --> 00:31:12,370 MOTHER (ON TAPE): What is this? 372 00:31:12,371 --> 00:31:14,373 PSYCHIATRIST (ON TAPE): It's what it sounds like-- 373 00:31:23,173 --> 00:31:25,258 PSYCHIATRIST (ON TAPE): That somewhere along the line, 374 00:31:25,259 --> 00:31:27,635 he decided that he's the boss. 375 00:31:27,636 --> 00:31:30,805 And you just have to show him, and I mean really show him, 376 00:31:30,806 --> 00:31:32,348 that that's not the case. 377 00:31:32,349 --> 00:31:34,934 You are the boss. [Father snorts] 378 00:31:34,935 --> 00:31:36,395 [button clicks] 379 00:31:46,405 --> 00:31:49,866 FATHER: Sasha. You're too old for this now. 380 00:31:49,867 --> 00:31:51,743 And too big. 381 00:31:51,744 --> 00:31:54,287 - Aw, but I can't sleep. 382 00:31:54,288 --> 00:31:56,998 MOTHER: Oh, you. 383 00:31:56,999 --> 00:31:58,750 [TV switching on] 384 00:31:58,751 --> 00:32:00,585 MAN (ON TV): I'll slide this off. 385 00:32:00,586 --> 00:32:02,295 It's so flavorful. 386 00:32:02,296 --> 00:32:04,422 WOMAN (ON TV): Look at that, folks. That is-- 387 00:32:04,423 --> 00:32:09,010 - We are having now, um, a girls' night. 388 00:32:09,011 --> 00:32:11,429 - Well, am I kicked out? - Uh-huh. 389 00:32:11,430 --> 00:32:15,433 Sasha, Miss Mousey, and me, we're sleeping here. 390 00:32:15,434 --> 00:32:17,352 You can sleep in her bed. 391 00:32:17,353 --> 00:32:18,686 FATHER: Ay, ay, ay. 392 00:32:18,687 --> 00:32:22,315 SASHA: Bye. - Good night. 393 00:32:22,316 --> 00:32:23,650 FATHER: Night, night. 394 00:32:23,651 --> 00:32:25,693 HOST (ON TV): I'm going to take the spit rod. 395 00:32:25,694 --> 00:32:27,403 And you forget about it. 396 00:32:27,404 --> 00:32:29,155 WOMAN (ON TV): You just set it and then forget it. 397 00:32:29,156 --> 00:32:30,865 WOMAN 2 (ON TV): You just set it and forget it. 398 00:32:30,866 --> 00:32:32,867 WOMAN 3 (ON TV): Set it and forget about it. 399 00:32:32,868 --> 00:32:34,577 MAN (ON TV): You set it and forget it. 400 00:32:34,578 --> 00:32:37,039 AUDIENCE (ON TV): Set it and forget it. 401 00:32:54,264 --> 00:32:57,266 [Father shushing] 402 00:32:57,267 --> 00:33:00,270 [indistinct chatter on TV] 403 00:33:21,542 --> 00:33:24,585 EMMA: Oh, no. Can I run through it? 404 00:33:24,586 --> 00:33:27,297 [squealing] 405 00:33:30,718 --> 00:33:33,344 SASHA: Let's keep it going. It's going so fast. 406 00:33:33,345 --> 00:33:36,431 Guys, look how fast it's going! 407 00:33:36,432 --> 00:33:39,435 [children shouting happily] 408 00:33:41,437 --> 00:33:46,107 Wait, she's gonna pick it up and pop it this time. 409 00:33:46,108 --> 00:33:47,526 Emma! 410 00:33:49,445 --> 00:33:51,320 Drop it! Okay, okay, okay. 411 00:33:51,321 --> 00:33:52,905 [children scream happily] 412 00:33:52,906 --> 00:33:56,868 Pick it up. EMMA: Pick it up. 413 00:33:56,869 --> 00:33:58,536 CHILDREN: Three, two-- 414 00:33:58,537 --> 00:34:01,540 [all screaming happily] 415 00:34:23,145 --> 00:34:25,354 EMMA: Everyone try to get me. SASHA: Okay. 416 00:34:25,355 --> 00:34:27,565 EMMA: Not yet, not yet! 417 00:34:27,566 --> 00:34:29,567 Now, now. 418 00:34:29,568 --> 00:34:32,571 [children screaming happily] 419 00:34:34,990 --> 00:34:37,993 [vehicle approaching] 420 00:34:41,580 --> 00:34:44,373 [vehicle door opens, closes] 421 00:34:44,374 --> 00:34:46,375 FATHER: Can you hold this for me? 422 00:34:46,376 --> 00:34:50,255 [vehicle door opens, closes] 423 00:35:02,810 --> 00:35:04,812 [knock on door] 424 00:35:07,189 --> 00:35:10,192 [footsteps approaching, door opens] 425 00:35:12,861 --> 00:35:14,987 POLICE OFFICER: Ma'am, is this your son? 426 00:35:14,988 --> 00:35:17,490 He gave us this address. 427 00:35:17,491 --> 00:35:19,617 MOTHER: Yes. 428 00:35:19,618 --> 00:35:21,619 POLICE OFFICER: Your son was caught shoplifting. 429 00:35:21,620 --> 00:35:25,039 We apprehended him in the parking lot. 430 00:35:25,040 --> 00:35:29,752 MOTHER: Okay. Can--you-- can you take off these--these-- 431 00:35:29,753 --> 00:35:31,839 POLICE OFFICER: He'll need to appear in court. 432 00:36:02,327 --> 00:36:06,289 - Man, talk to me! 433 00:36:06,290 --> 00:36:08,082 What's happening? 434 00:36:08,083 --> 00:36:10,751 [objects clatter] 435 00:36:10,752 --> 00:36:13,170 Are you out of your mind? 436 00:36:13,171 --> 00:36:14,672 Calm down. Stop it. 437 00:36:14,673 --> 00:36:17,091 Talk to me. Hey. Talk to me. 438 00:36:17,092 --> 00:36:19,094 JEREMY: Get away from me! 439 00:36:20,846 --> 00:36:25,099 Get away from me! FATHER: Stop it. Calm down. 440 00:36:25,100 --> 00:36:27,727 Calm down. 441 00:36:27,728 --> 00:36:29,479 Calm. 442 00:36:40,699 --> 00:36:44,035 [mouse clicking] 443 00:36:44,036 --> 00:36:47,038 [King Crimson's "I Talk to the Wind" plays] 444 00:36:47,039 --> 00:36:54,046 ♪ ♪ 445 00:36:57,507 --> 00:37:00,718 - ♪ Said the straight man ♪ 446 00:37:00,719 --> 00:37:04,722 ♪ To the late man ♪ 447 00:37:04,723 --> 00:37:10,144 ♪ Where have you been? ♪ 448 00:37:10,145 --> 00:37:15,316 ♪ I've been here, and I've been there ♪ 449 00:37:15,317 --> 00:37:22,324 ♪ And I've been in between ♪ 450 00:37:23,617 --> 00:37:27,537 ♪ I talk to the wind ♪ 451 00:37:29,539 --> 00:37:33,542 ♪ My words are all carried away ♪ 452 00:37:33,543 --> 00:37:36,170 - Can I try? - Yeah. 453 00:37:36,171 --> 00:37:39,549 - ♪ I talk to the wind ♪ 454 00:37:41,551 --> 00:37:47,348 ♪ The wind does not hear ♪ 455 00:37:47,349 --> 00:37:52,228 ♪ The wind cannot hear ♪ 456 00:37:52,229 --> 00:37:57,442 ♪ I'm on the outside looking inside ♪ 457 00:38:04,741 --> 00:38:07,577 SASHA: Whoa. MOTHER: Mm-hmm. 458 00:38:10,789 --> 00:38:12,207 Yeah. 459 00:38:16,003 --> 00:38:19,213 And... 460 00:38:19,214 --> 00:38:22,009 we are putting it here. 461 00:38:23,593 --> 00:38:27,596 SASHA: Like this? MOTHER: Yeah. Like... 462 00:38:27,597 --> 00:38:29,391 Yes. 463 00:38:32,394 --> 00:38:35,813 SASHA: Can Emma come over for dinner? 464 00:38:35,814 --> 00:38:38,816 MOTHER: Um... 465 00:38:38,817 --> 00:38:41,819 I don't know. I-I... 466 00:38:41,820 --> 00:38:45,239 I think it's not a good idea. 467 00:38:45,240 --> 00:38:49,618 So I'm really very, very happy that you are making friends, 468 00:38:49,619 --> 00:38:52,038 and you can go 469 00:38:52,039 --> 00:38:56,876 to their houses anytime. 470 00:38:56,877 --> 00:38:58,628 But, um... 471 00:39:00,422 --> 00:39:05,259 I-I don't want you to feel embarrassed... 472 00:39:05,260 --> 00:39:08,637 because what is happening here, you know? 473 00:39:08,638 --> 00:39:12,308 SASHA: I'm not embarrassed. 474 00:39:12,309 --> 00:39:15,437 MOTHER: But you don't know what people are saying. 475 00:39:17,314 --> 00:39:21,859 So it--you know, it feels natural for you, 476 00:39:21,860 --> 00:39:24,070 but it shouldn't. 477 00:39:24,071 --> 00:39:25,654 SASHA: What do you mean? 478 00:39:25,655 --> 00:39:27,948 MOTHER: If Jeremy is coming home by the police, 479 00:39:27,949 --> 00:39:30,451 then people are talking about it. 480 00:39:30,452 --> 00:39:31,870 You know? 481 00:39:41,880 --> 00:39:46,467 You--Yes, I think it's-- it's--it's better like this-- 482 00:39:46,468 --> 00:39:48,677 believe me-- 483 00:39:48,678 --> 00:39:51,473 to keep it separate, you know? 484 00:39:54,851 --> 00:39:57,854 [sizzling] 485 00:40:22,921 --> 00:40:25,924 [footsteps thudding overhead] 486 00:40:41,731 --> 00:40:44,067 {\an8}[door opens, slams] 487 00:40:48,363 --> 00:40:49,781 - Jeremy! 488 00:40:53,952 --> 00:40:55,954 - [sniffs] 489 00:41:01,168 --> 00:41:03,544 [roof creaks] 490 00:41:03,545 --> 00:41:06,173 MOTHER: Hey. Hey, hey, hey, hey. 491 00:41:08,300 --> 00:41:10,593 FATHER: Devil got into you? 492 00:41:10,594 --> 00:41:12,387 Out of your mind? 493 00:41:19,769 --> 00:41:22,188 Hey, stop this now, okay? 494 00:41:22,189 --> 00:41:23,398 Come down. 495 00:41:27,485 --> 00:41:29,987 MOTHER: Jeremy, can you hear me? 496 00:41:29,988 --> 00:41:33,407 Please, get down, please. 497 00:41:33,408 --> 00:41:34,910 FATHER: Jeremy. 498 00:41:36,912 --> 00:41:39,205 MOTHER: Jeremy... 499 00:41:39,206 --> 00:41:41,957 look at me. 500 00:41:41,958 --> 00:41:44,419 Look at me, please. 501 00:41:52,302 --> 00:41:53,803 Jeremy. 502 00:41:55,805 --> 00:41:57,432 Get down, please. 503 00:42:16,743 --> 00:42:19,829 [distant siren wailing] 504 00:42:43,645 --> 00:42:46,648 [water running] 505 00:43:01,079 --> 00:43:03,081 [water stops] 506 00:43:11,881 --> 00:43:14,884 [water splashing] 507 00:43:38,742 --> 00:43:41,745 [insects chirping] 508 00:43:44,331 --> 00:43:45,914 [glass shatters] 509 00:43:45,915 --> 00:43:47,708 [gasps] 510 00:43:47,709 --> 00:43:52,129 [distant dogs barking] 511 00:43:52,130 --> 00:43:55,008 [door opens] 512 00:44:02,932 --> 00:44:06,435 Jeremy... 513 00:44:06,436 --> 00:44:08,563 what have you done? 514 00:44:10,148 --> 00:44:13,151 [Jeremy breathing shakily] 515 00:44:27,582 --> 00:44:30,585 [Mother shushing] 516 00:44:50,688 --> 00:44:52,481 MEAN GIRL 1 (ON TV): Oh, there she is. 517 00:44:52,482 --> 00:44:54,066 She's such a loser. 518 00:44:54,067 --> 00:44:56,985 MEAN GIRL 2 (ON TV): I know. 519 00:44:56,986 --> 00:44:59,613 What a geek. 520 00:44:59,614 --> 00:45:02,617 [laughter] 521 00:45:07,205 --> 00:45:10,791 Get lost! 522 00:45:10,792 --> 00:45:13,710 WOMAN (ON TV): Words hurt. Don't be a part of it. 523 00:45:13,711 --> 00:45:15,712 NARRATOR (ON TV): The North American house hippo 524 00:45:15,713 --> 00:45:19,800 is found throughout Canada and Eastern United States. 525 00:45:19,801 --> 00:45:22,428 House hippos are very timid creatures, 526 00:45:22,429 --> 00:45:24,221 and they're rarely seen. 527 00:45:24,222 --> 00:45:27,224 But they would defend their territory if provoked. 528 00:45:27,225 --> 00:45:30,644 They come out at night to search for food, water, 529 00:45:30,645 --> 00:45:32,229 materials for their nests. 530 00:45:32,230 --> 00:45:34,648 The favorite foods of the house hippo 531 00:45:34,649 --> 00:45:36,233 are chips, raisins, 532 00:45:36,234 --> 00:45:38,902 and the crumbs from peanut butter on toast. 533 00:45:38,903 --> 00:45:41,447 They build their nests in bedroom closets, 534 00:45:41,448 --> 00:45:44,032 using lost mittens, dryer lint, 535 00:45:44,033 --> 00:45:45,659 and bits of string. 536 00:45:45,660 --> 00:45:48,245 The nests have to be very soft and warm. 537 00:45:48,246 --> 00:45:52,207 House hippos sleep about 16 hours a day. 538 00:45:52,208 --> 00:45:54,460 WOMAN (ON TV): That looked really real. 539 00:45:54,461 --> 00:45:56,837 But you knew it couldn't be true, didn't you? 540 00:45:56,838 --> 00:45:58,755 That's why it's good to think 541 00:45:58,756 --> 00:46:00,466 about what you're watching on TV 542 00:46:00,467 --> 00:46:02,843 and ask questions, kind of like you just did. 543 00:46:02,844 --> 00:46:05,680 A message from Concerned Children's Advertisers. 544 00:46:08,057 --> 00:46:10,476 [door opens] - Hi. 545 00:46:10,477 --> 00:46:12,478 FATHER: Hello. - I'm from Social Services. 546 00:46:12,479 --> 00:46:14,396 We had scheduled a house visit. 547 00:46:14,397 --> 00:46:17,065 - Yes. - Thank you. 548 00:46:17,066 --> 00:46:20,027 FATHER: This way, please. 549 00:46:20,028 --> 00:46:22,070 FAMILY SUPPORT WORKER: I wanted to come by 550 00:46:22,071 --> 00:46:25,282 and see how things are with Jeremy. 551 00:46:25,283 --> 00:46:27,868 MOTHER: Oh, we have moved so many times. 552 00:46:27,869 --> 00:46:30,078 And I always worry 553 00:46:30,079 --> 00:46:32,498 what the neighbors are thinking of us, 554 00:46:32,499 --> 00:46:34,875 that maybe we are bad parents. 555 00:46:34,876 --> 00:46:41,089 The thing is that now in the last couple of days, 556 00:46:41,090 --> 00:46:43,717 there were some, uh... 557 00:46:43,718 --> 00:46:48,096 some moments were not that easy 558 00:46:48,097 --> 00:46:51,266 with him again. 559 00:46:51,267 --> 00:46:54,395 [trampoline creaking] 560 00:47:09,327 --> 00:47:12,330 [indistinct chatter, laughter] 561 00:47:14,332 --> 00:47:17,001 [creaking continues] 562 00:47:26,761 --> 00:47:29,763 [somber music] 563 00:47:29,764 --> 00:47:36,353 ♪ ♪ 564 00:47:36,354 --> 00:47:39,566 - She suggested... 565 00:47:45,947 --> 00:47:47,781 Um... 566 00:47:47,782 --> 00:47:52,453 to, um... 567 00:47:55,164 --> 00:47:58,585 She takes him away. 568 00:48:01,588 --> 00:48:05,173 And... 569 00:48:05,174 --> 00:48:08,176 and I... 570 00:48:08,177 --> 00:48:10,387 I said yes. 571 00:48:10,388 --> 00:48:16,268 ♪ ♪ 572 00:48:16,269 --> 00:48:19,187 I just--I said yes. 573 00:48:19,188 --> 00:48:26,195 ♪ ♪ 574 00:48:46,633 --> 00:48:49,426 MOTHER (ON PHONE): It is like some big ping-pong. 575 00:48:49,427 --> 00:48:52,429 The doctor says to talk to the psychologist. 576 00:48:52,430 --> 00:48:56,016 The psychologist says, you need to call the police 577 00:48:56,017 --> 00:49:00,020 when he's acting like this, but the police do nothing. 578 00:49:00,021 --> 00:49:04,024 ADULT SASHA: Mm-hmm. I know. 579 00:49:04,025 --> 00:49:09,029 MOTHER (ON PHONE): I-I just can't get over this. 580 00:49:09,030 --> 00:49:12,240 ADULT SASHA: Uh, I don't think anyone expects you to. 581 00:49:12,241 --> 00:49:15,243 It's a very complicated situation. 582 00:49:15,244 --> 00:49:19,456 And I think, you know, you know that. 583 00:49:19,457 --> 00:49:21,249 MOTHER (ON PHONE): [sighs] I just worry 584 00:49:21,250 --> 00:49:25,253 that if someone else had him... 585 00:49:25,254 --> 00:49:28,173 Maybe--you know, maybe it was me. 586 00:49:28,174 --> 00:49:31,677 It's my fault. 587 00:49:31,678 --> 00:49:36,641 That maybe with someone else, he could be a superstar. 588 00:50:46,127 --> 00:50:49,130 [clacking] 589 00:50:51,048 --> 00:50:54,135 - How are you all? How are your days? 590 00:50:58,139 --> 00:50:59,766 Nice to meet you. 591 00:51:01,559 --> 00:51:03,561 Nice to meet you. 592 00:51:22,371 --> 00:51:24,791 Thank you for meeting me. 593 00:51:31,964 --> 00:51:34,007 Hi. Nice to meet you. 594 00:51:34,008 --> 00:51:37,135 Nice to meet you. Hi. Come right in. 595 00:51:37,136 --> 00:51:39,638 Hi. Nice to meet you. 596 00:51:39,639 --> 00:51:41,056 Hi. 597 00:51:41,057 --> 00:51:43,391 Hi. Hi. 598 00:51:43,392 --> 00:51:45,186 Nice to meet you. 599 00:52:02,036 --> 00:52:04,621 [clears throat] Hi. 600 00:52:04,622 --> 00:52:06,122 SOCIAL WORKER: Hi. SOCIAL WORKER 2: Hello. 601 00:52:06,123 --> 00:52:07,833 ADULT SASHA: How's everybody doing? 602 00:52:07,834 --> 00:52:09,543 SOCIAL WORKER: Good. 603 00:52:09,544 --> 00:52:11,795 - As you can tell, you're on camera. 604 00:52:11,796 --> 00:52:14,047 And I'm a filmmaker, 605 00:52:14,048 --> 00:52:16,633 here to present you with a case file. 606 00:52:16,634 --> 00:52:20,428 There is an eldest child who's presenting issues 607 00:52:20,429 --> 00:52:23,640 within the family, some risk-taking behaviors, 608 00:52:23,641 --> 00:52:26,434 and was assessed, treated, evaluated 609 00:52:26,435 --> 00:52:28,436 over the course of many years. 610 00:52:28,437 --> 00:52:31,231 The family sort of rightfully felt some frustrations 611 00:52:31,232 --> 00:52:34,067 in--in their availability to care. 612 00:52:34,068 --> 00:52:36,236 And so I would love to get a sense 613 00:52:36,237 --> 00:52:39,531 of how you see this case and assess it 614 00:52:39,532 --> 00:52:42,659 and see how those options are different now, 615 00:52:42,660 --> 00:52:45,246 how the case might be handled differently now. 616 00:52:48,875 --> 00:52:50,667 SOCIAL WORKER: How old was the-- 617 00:52:50,668 --> 00:52:53,253 how old was the child when he first started 618 00:52:53,254 --> 00:52:55,380 experiencing some of these things? 619 00:52:55,381 --> 00:52:58,258 ADULT SASHA: Um, I would say there was an observation 620 00:52:58,259 --> 00:53:02,262 of, um, sort of behavioral concerns 621 00:53:02,263 --> 00:53:03,722 at, like, three or four. 622 00:53:03,723 --> 00:53:06,683 But 14, 15 years was really around the time 623 00:53:06,684 --> 00:53:08,310 things started escalating. - Right. 624 00:53:08,311 --> 00:53:11,688 ADULT SASHA: I have some information here about-- 625 00:53:11,689 --> 00:53:14,482 that give some insight into his goals. 626 00:53:14,483 --> 00:53:16,693 - Sure. ADULT SASHA: Uh... 627 00:53:16,694 --> 00:53:18,695 I'll just read it to you here. 628 00:53:18,696 --> 00:53:21,489 He describes the best time of his life as, 629 00:53:21,490 --> 00:53:23,283 "can't think of one." 630 00:53:23,284 --> 00:53:25,493 {\an8}He says the best thing that could happen to him 631 00:53:25,494 --> 00:53:28,121 {\an8}would be to be rich and famous. 632 00:53:28,122 --> 00:53:30,498 {\an8}He feels the worst time of his life was, 633 00:53:30,499 --> 00:53:33,126 {\an8}"when I got caught stealing twice in a row." 634 00:53:33,127 --> 00:53:34,920 {\an8}He feels the worst thing that could happen to him 635 00:53:34,921 --> 00:53:39,549 {\an8}would be to, "be like a junkie, to have a life I don't like." 636 00:53:39,550 --> 00:53:41,301 He describes his three wishes as, 637 00:53:41,302 --> 00:53:45,138 "to have something to travel through time in the universe, 638 00:53:45,139 --> 00:53:48,726 to have lots of money, and be old enough to drive." 639 00:53:50,728 --> 00:53:52,938 There are suggestions of personality disorder. 640 00:53:52,939 --> 00:53:56,149 And then there's sort of a back-tracking of that. 641 00:53:56,150 --> 00:53:58,485 So--so... 642 00:53:58,486 --> 00:54:02,155 {\an8}there's a lot of confusion, I find, in the document itself 643 00:54:02,156 --> 00:54:05,533 {\an8}about how to assess his well-being, 644 00:54:05,534 --> 00:54:07,160 {\an8}his sense of himself, 645 00:54:07,161 --> 00:54:08,954 {\an8}his sense of himself when talking 646 00:54:08,955 --> 00:54:10,538 {\an8}to different professionals. 647 00:54:10,539 --> 00:54:15,168 {\an8}Um, but this is what we have of how he felt. 648 00:54:15,169 --> 00:54:19,756 {\an8}Uh, I'm curious how that changes anybody's perspective. 649 00:54:19,757 --> 00:54:23,551 {\an8}- The report talks a lot about requiring considerable support. 650 00:54:23,552 --> 00:54:26,554 Um, and I know that this is, you know, 20 years ago. 651 00:54:26,555 --> 00:54:29,057 I wonder what sort of support was available 652 00:54:29,058 --> 00:54:30,684 for this young person. 653 00:54:30,685 --> 00:54:32,686 Now, I think us as social workers, we see that-- 654 00:54:32,687 --> 00:54:34,938 fast-forward 20 years, there's still not a lot of support 655 00:54:34,939 --> 00:54:38,858 out there to help transition these folks from crises 656 00:54:38,859 --> 00:54:40,986 to stabilization 657 00:54:40,987 --> 00:54:45,448 and--and going down a path that's going to be, uh, 658 00:54:45,449 --> 00:54:47,701 helpful and--and goal-oriented. 659 00:54:47,702 --> 00:54:51,037 And so I can't imagine what it looked like 20 years ago. 660 00:54:51,038 --> 00:54:53,081 SOCIAL WORKER: I mean, the piece that I read 661 00:54:53,082 --> 00:54:55,375 about around having a little bit of respite, 662 00:54:55,376 --> 00:54:56,793 I think, sounds important, 663 00:54:56,794 --> 00:54:59,671 provided that it's qualified with it not being punitive. 664 00:54:59,672 --> 00:55:01,756 I think that's really important. 665 00:55:01,757 --> 00:55:04,175 If this young man--he's the eldest, you're saying, 666 00:55:04,176 --> 00:55:06,011 just so I'm clear in terms of the family history? 667 00:55:06,012 --> 00:55:07,512 ADULT SASHA: Yes. - He's the eldest. 668 00:55:07,513 --> 00:55:09,014 And he is the result 669 00:55:09,015 --> 00:55:11,016 of the mother's relationship with another man. 670 00:55:11,017 --> 00:55:13,226 And the younger three children are the mother's relationship 671 00:55:13,227 --> 00:55:15,353 with a different biological father? 672 00:55:15,354 --> 00:55:16,980 ADULT SASHA: Yes, that's correct. 673 00:55:16,981 --> 00:55:18,982 - So as the eldest-- 674 00:55:18,983 --> 00:55:20,734 And given what I'm hearing here, 675 00:55:20,735 --> 00:55:23,903 this whole family is in crisis. 676 00:55:23,904 --> 00:55:26,614 They're feeling, I'm sure, at their wits' end, 677 00:55:26,615 --> 00:55:29,242 um, and probably holding two things-- 678 00:55:29,243 --> 00:55:32,620 wanting to get their son help 679 00:55:32,621 --> 00:55:34,956 and protect their other children. 680 00:55:34,957 --> 00:55:38,251 - Right, so the suggestion would be to sort of, uh, 681 00:55:38,252 --> 00:55:42,255 ask the family to implement more of a structure 682 00:55:42,256 --> 00:55:44,424 to involve and provide. 683 00:55:44,425 --> 00:55:45,842 SOCIAL WORKER 2: With support, you know? 684 00:55:45,843 --> 00:55:47,260 ADULT SASHA: Yeah. 685 00:55:47,261 --> 00:55:49,262 - Because they're not necessarily feeling good 686 00:55:49,263 --> 00:55:50,430 about him. 687 00:55:50,431 --> 00:55:52,682 So how does-- how do we change that 688 00:55:52,683 --> 00:55:56,061 and using things he's interested in? 689 00:55:56,062 --> 00:55:57,479 ADULT SASHA: Yeah. 690 00:55:57,480 --> 00:56:00,065 - And so sometimes, voluntary placements 691 00:56:00,066 --> 00:56:01,649 can be a good intervention 692 00:56:01,650 --> 00:56:03,651 and then looking towards reunifying the family, 693 00:56:03,652 --> 00:56:07,155 and doing that work to help reunify the family. 694 00:56:07,156 --> 00:56:09,866 And sometimes it could, yeah, create these voids 695 00:56:09,867 --> 00:56:12,660 and vacuums and more problems, right? 696 00:56:12,661 --> 00:56:16,289 And often, um, it's hard to see 697 00:56:16,290 --> 00:56:18,083 what the outcome's gonna be. 698 00:56:18,084 --> 00:56:20,293 And the initial decision is just made on-- 699 00:56:20,294 --> 00:56:23,797 is more made on, okay, the here and now, 700 00:56:23,798 --> 00:56:26,257 what's happening intersectionally, 701 00:56:26,258 --> 00:56:29,719 in terms of, like, risk and--and danger 702 00:56:29,720 --> 00:56:33,556 and best interest of the child, whatever that means. 703 00:56:33,557 --> 00:56:37,060 And so, um-- so it's hard to predict. 704 00:56:37,061 --> 00:56:38,978 And I've seen it, in the instances 705 00:56:38,979 --> 00:56:41,689 that I have been involved with, 706 00:56:41,690 --> 00:56:44,818 go quite well and not go so well. 707 00:56:44,819 --> 00:56:47,904 It's just hard to say. 708 00:56:47,905 --> 00:56:49,322 - Hmm. 709 00:56:49,323 --> 00:56:52,325 [solemn music] 710 00:56:52,326 --> 00:56:59,333 ♪ ♪ 711 00:57:29,864 --> 00:57:31,948 SOCIAL WORKER (ON LAPTOP): Simple, straight-up assurance 712 00:57:31,949 --> 00:57:33,366 is such a strong currency, 713 00:57:33,367 --> 00:57:35,160 just providing that reassurance 714 00:57:35,161 --> 00:57:37,745 to--to the parents that, okay, you're feeling 715 00:57:37,746 --> 00:57:40,665 a vortex of things right now, and it's okay. 716 00:57:40,666 --> 00:57:42,458 Similar to what we're training the parents 717 00:57:42,459 --> 00:57:43,751 to teach the child-- 718 00:57:43,752 --> 00:57:45,712 it's okay that you're feeling those things 719 00:57:45,713 --> 00:57:47,172 without feeling these things. 720 00:57:47,173 --> 00:57:48,965 And this is why you're feeling them. 721 00:57:48,966 --> 00:57:50,967 And you have every right to feel these things. 722 00:57:50,968 --> 00:57:54,554 And I think even just that currency of reassurance 723 00:57:54,555 --> 00:57:59,517 can just maybe--just maybe help them take that breather 724 00:57:59,518 --> 00:58:04,772 and try again, try again tomorrow. 725 00:58:04,773 --> 00:58:07,775 [audio warbling] 726 00:58:07,776 --> 00:58:14,783 ♪ ♪ 727 00:58:30,799 --> 00:58:33,802 MOTHER: She suggested... 728 00:58:37,598 --> 00:58:41,018 Um, to... 729 00:58:42,811 --> 00:58:45,230 Um... 730 00:58:45,231 --> 00:58:48,233 [wind gusting] 731 00:58:48,234 --> 00:58:55,241 ♪ ♪ 732 00:59:17,846 --> 00:59:19,639 WOMAN (ON TV): I'm getting married, Walter, 733 00:59:19,640 --> 00:59:21,474 and I'm also getting as far away 734 00:59:21,475 --> 00:59:24,060 from the newspaper business as I can get. 735 00:59:24,061 --> 00:59:25,144 MAN (ON TV): What? 736 00:59:25,145 --> 00:59:26,646 WOMAN (ON TV): I am through. 737 00:59:26,647 --> 00:59:28,273 MAN (ON TV): You can get mad all you want to, Hildy, 738 00:59:28,274 --> 00:59:29,857 but you can't quit the newspaper business. 739 00:59:29,858 --> 00:59:31,484 WOMAN (ON TV): Oh, why not? MAN (ON TV): I know you. 740 00:59:31,485 --> 00:59:33,069 I know what quitting would mean to you. 741 00:59:33,070 --> 00:59:34,654 WOMAN (ON TV): And what would it mean? 742 00:59:34,655 --> 00:59:36,072 MAN (ON TV): It would kill you. 743 00:59:36,073 --> 00:59:37,532 WOMAN (ON TV): You can't sell me that, Walter Burns. 744 00:59:37,533 --> 00:59:39,075 MAN (ON TV): Who says I can't? You're a newspaperman. 745 00:59:39,076 --> 00:59:40,368 WOMAN (ON TV): That's why I'm quitting. 746 00:59:40,369 --> 00:59:41,869 I want to go someplace where I can be a woman. 747 00:59:41,870 --> 00:59:43,288 MAN (ON TV): You mean be a traitor. 748 00:59:43,289 --> 00:59:44,747 WOMAN (ON TV): A traitor to what? 749 00:59:44,748 --> 00:59:46,291 MAN (ON TV): A traitor to journalism. 750 00:59:46,292 --> 00:59:47,875 You're a journalist, Hildy. WOMAN (ON TV): A journalist? 751 00:59:47,876 --> 00:59:49,377 Now, what does that mean? 752 00:59:49,378 --> 00:59:50,878 Peeking through keyholes? Chasing after fire engines? 753 00:59:50,879 --> 00:59:52,505 Waking people up in the middle of the night 754 00:59:52,506 --> 00:59:54,508 to ask them if Hitler's going to start another war? 755 01:00:29,335 --> 01:00:30,919 ADULT SASHA: Hecky? 756 01:00:34,131 --> 01:00:35,549 Ready? 757 01:00:38,719 --> 01:00:40,137 Yeah. 758 01:00:51,148 --> 01:00:54,359 I've been working on, um, a project 759 01:00:54,360 --> 01:00:57,904 that looks back at my time with my family 760 01:00:57,905 --> 01:00:59,739 and that period of time in my life. 761 01:00:59,740 --> 01:01:02,158 And, um... 762 01:01:02,159 --> 01:01:05,620 I thought of you because you, in many ways, 763 01:01:05,621 --> 01:01:08,206 are the key to those memories. 764 01:01:08,207 --> 01:01:11,417 And I'm just so grateful to talk to you about it. 765 01:01:11,418 --> 01:01:15,588 It's funny because I remember these... 766 01:01:15,589 --> 01:01:18,174 more feelings, these moments of chaos. 767 01:01:18,175 --> 01:01:20,593 And then I remember moments that, you know, 768 01:01:20,594 --> 01:01:24,180 were not so disruptive, um... 769 01:01:24,181 --> 01:01:27,600 not so--not so dramatic. 770 01:01:27,601 --> 01:01:30,395 And I remember Jeremy being 771 01:01:30,396 --> 01:01:33,147 you know, as sweet as he was unpredictable. 772 01:01:33,148 --> 01:01:35,400 So it's very hard to-- 773 01:01:35,401 --> 01:01:39,946 to square some of my memories sometimes of that time. 774 01:01:39,947 --> 01:01:42,073 BONNIE (ON LAPTOP): You know, he... 775 01:01:42,074 --> 01:01:44,033 he certainly was struggling. 776 01:01:44,034 --> 01:01:46,536 And, you know, that was, I think, 777 01:01:46,537 --> 01:01:49,997 why your parents reached out for as much help as they did, 778 01:01:49,998 --> 01:01:52,417 because he just--he really-- yeah, I don't-- 779 01:01:52,418 --> 01:01:54,794 I just--you know, your mom, in particular, 780 01:01:54,795 --> 01:01:58,297 just didn't know what to do or where to get the help for him. 781 01:01:58,298 --> 01:02:00,007 ADULT SASHA: Yeah. BONNIE (ON LAPTOP): Such a-- 782 01:02:00,008 --> 01:02:03,052 I really had a lot of respect for your parents 783 01:02:03,053 --> 01:02:05,012 and everything that they were trying to do 784 01:02:05,013 --> 01:02:06,431 to raise you and your brothers. 785 01:02:06,432 --> 01:02:07,682 ADULT SASHA: Mm. 786 01:02:07,683 --> 01:02:09,100 BONNIE (ON LAPTOP): In many families, 787 01:02:09,101 --> 01:02:10,768 they hit a breaking point, and it becomes unsafe 788 01:02:10,769 --> 01:02:12,645 not just for that person 789 01:02:12,646 --> 01:02:15,356 that is going to move into a home--a foster home, 790 01:02:15,357 --> 01:02:18,234 but it becomes unsafe for the other people in the home, 791 01:02:18,235 --> 01:02:19,819 and it's a very difficult decision. 792 01:02:19,820 --> 01:02:21,446 So... ADULT SASHA: Yeah. 793 01:02:21,447 --> 01:02:23,656 BONNIE (ON LAPTOP): He had some pretty unique behaviors, 794 01:02:23,657 --> 01:02:25,867 and they were really upsetting for your mom. 795 01:02:25,868 --> 01:02:28,453 She was always very worried about... 796 01:02:28,454 --> 01:02:30,246 you know, where that would lead, 797 01:02:30,247 --> 01:02:32,707 and disappointed in the services and support 798 01:02:32,708 --> 01:02:34,208 and answers that she got. 799 01:02:34,209 --> 01:02:36,210 She didn't get answers that really made sense 800 01:02:36,211 --> 01:02:38,463 or that were supportive. ADULT SASHA: Yeah. 801 01:02:38,464 --> 01:02:40,465 BONNIE (ON LAPTOP): He didn't have a lot of friends. 802 01:02:40,466 --> 01:02:42,425 And when he would come out of his room, 803 01:02:42,426 --> 01:02:44,844 he just had the ability 804 01:02:44,845 --> 01:02:47,472 to just take whatever was happening in the room 805 01:02:47,473 --> 01:02:50,391 and just upset it and spin it. 806 01:02:50,392 --> 01:02:52,226 And, you know, 807 01:02:52,227 --> 01:02:54,312 he demanded a lot of attention in that moment. 808 01:02:54,313 --> 01:02:55,605 And so I do remember 809 01:02:55,606 --> 01:02:57,857 that he would have gasoline in his room. 810 01:02:57,858 --> 01:02:59,609 He just would have it-- not very much, 811 01:02:59,610 --> 01:03:01,277 but he would have some in his room. 812 01:03:01,278 --> 01:03:03,070 And I remember your mom being so scared, 813 01:03:03,071 --> 01:03:05,072 because he had made this threat that he was going 814 01:03:05,073 --> 01:03:07,575 to burn the house down with everybody in it. 815 01:03:07,576 --> 01:03:11,078 I can't even imagine, as your parents, being in the house, 816 01:03:11,079 --> 01:03:14,499 you know, knowing that that threat has been made 817 01:03:14,500 --> 01:03:17,502 and there are things in place 818 01:03:17,503 --> 01:03:20,297 that could make it happen in a split second. 819 01:03:22,049 --> 01:03:24,300 You know, that's something I always wondered, 820 01:03:24,301 --> 01:03:26,928 you know, is maybe why he didn't get a diagnosis. 821 01:03:26,929 --> 01:03:28,638 But we'll never know. 822 01:03:28,639 --> 01:03:31,015 We'll never know, you know, the truth, I don't think. 823 01:03:31,016 --> 01:03:33,726 It's really hard to sort of sort that through. 824 01:03:33,727 --> 01:03:35,645 Um... 825 01:03:35,646 --> 01:03:37,105 but he... 826 01:03:38,899 --> 01:03:42,109 The character that I saw, the person that I saw 827 01:03:42,110 --> 01:03:44,737 certainly demonstrated or looked like someone 828 01:03:44,738 --> 01:03:46,489 who was really suffering, 829 01:03:46,490 --> 01:03:49,867 who was really struggling, who was really... 830 01:03:49,868 --> 01:03:53,329 alone and isolated and... 831 01:03:53,330 --> 01:03:56,791 invested in... 832 01:03:56,792 --> 01:03:59,335 yeah, invested in the chaos, 833 01:03:59,336 --> 01:04:03,256 really invested in the chaos. 834 01:04:03,257 --> 01:04:05,758 I hope someday to be able to, you know, be 835 01:04:05,759 --> 01:04:07,927 in the presence of your parents again. 836 01:04:07,928 --> 01:04:10,012 They're both very strong people. 837 01:04:10,013 --> 01:04:11,806 They're very resilient, you know? 838 01:04:11,807 --> 01:04:14,308 And I have a lot of respect for them, for sure. 839 01:04:14,309 --> 01:04:18,105 So I hope someday that I cross paths with them, too. 840 01:04:22,943 --> 01:04:25,946 - [crying] 841 01:04:27,864 --> 01:04:31,368 [breathes deeply] 842 01:04:43,171 --> 01:04:44,964 [exhales deeply] 843 01:04:44,965 --> 01:04:46,967 [door opens] 844 01:05:02,816 --> 01:05:05,818 [engine turning over] 845 01:05:05,819 --> 01:05:08,821 [soft classical music playing on car stereo] 846 01:05:08,822 --> 01:05:15,829 ♪ ♪ 847 01:05:25,213 --> 01:05:28,215 [music growing louder] 848 01:05:28,216 --> 01:05:35,223 ♪ ♪ 849 01:05:50,656 --> 01:05:53,241 [child speaking indistinctly] 850 01:06:01,833 --> 01:06:05,461 [boat engine rumbling] 851 01:06:05,462 --> 01:06:12,469 ♪ ♪ 852 01:07:24,124 --> 01:07:26,126 [music stops] 853 01:07:32,549 --> 01:07:33,967 [phone beeps] 854 01:07:51,359 --> 01:07:54,362 [children chattering indistinctly] 855 01:08:08,710 --> 01:08:11,713 [woman speaking indistinctly] 856 01:08:20,430 --> 01:08:22,474 - Hello. - Hi. 857 01:08:25,393 --> 01:08:27,144 Uh... 858 01:08:27,145 --> 01:08:28,854 - You're from social services, yes? 859 01:08:28,855 --> 01:08:32,192 - Yes, sorry, that's right. It's nice to meet you. 860 01:08:36,196 --> 01:08:38,031 FATHER: This way, please. 861 01:08:41,159 --> 01:08:43,369 ADULT SASHA: Do you mind if I look around first? 862 01:08:43,370 --> 01:08:44,788 FATHER: Yeah, that's fine. 863 01:09:04,432 --> 01:09:05,850 Miss Mousey. 864 01:09:05,851 --> 01:09:07,060 ADULT SASHA: Mm. 865 01:09:13,650 --> 01:09:15,234 ELMER FUDD (ON TV): [chuckles] 866 01:09:15,235 --> 01:09:19,154 First we will hear a waltz written by Johann Strauss. 867 01:09:19,155 --> 01:09:20,614 [boing] 868 01:09:20,615 --> 01:09:23,617 [chuckles] And as we hear the "whythmic stwains" 869 01:09:23,618 --> 01:09:25,494 of the haunting "wefwain," 870 01:09:25,495 --> 01:09:28,455 "wisten" to the whistling "whythm" of the woodwinds 871 01:09:28,456 --> 01:09:31,876 as it "wolls awound and awound" 872 01:09:31,877 --> 01:09:33,836 and comes out here. 873 01:09:33,837 --> 01:09:35,880 [boing] 874 01:09:35,881 --> 01:09:38,883 [fabric ripping, Elmer Fudd chuckles] 875 01:09:38,884 --> 01:09:41,886 [waltz playing on tv] 876 01:09:41,887 --> 01:09:48,894 ♪ ♪ 877 01:09:57,694 --> 01:10:00,697 [Adult Sasha sniffling] 878 01:10:06,077 --> 01:10:08,121 [child giggles] 879 01:10:28,934 --> 01:10:35,941 ♪ ♪ 880 01:10:37,734 --> 01:10:42,155 [door opens, closes] 881 01:10:58,046 --> 01:11:00,756 [Gandharvas' "The First Day of Spring"] 882 01:11:00,757 --> 01:11:07,554 ♪ ♪ 883 01:11:07,555 --> 01:11:10,349 - ♪ Come on out ♪ 884 01:11:10,350 --> 01:11:14,980 ♪ Don't just sit there catatonic ♪ 885 01:11:16,564 --> 01:11:20,360 ♪ I'm feeling supersonic ♪ 886 01:11:21,987 --> 01:11:26,365 ♪ The warm wind is sweeping by ♪ 887 01:11:26,366 --> 01:11:29,368 ♪ The sun's full in the sky ♪ 888 01:11:29,369 --> 01:11:34,081 ♪ And there's no way of knowing ♪ 889 01:11:34,082 --> 01:11:36,960 ♪ No way to know ♪ 890 01:11:53,018 --> 01:11:55,602 ADULT SASHA: Can I turn this light on? 891 01:11:55,603 --> 01:11:57,771 FATHER: Yes, it's okay now. 892 01:11:57,772 --> 01:11:59,774 [switch clicks] 893 01:12:14,247 --> 01:12:16,249 [switch clicks] 894 01:12:26,843 --> 01:12:29,511 ADULT SASHA: Hi. MOTHER: Hi. 895 01:12:29,512 --> 01:12:31,096 ADULT SASHA: It's nice to meet you. 896 01:12:31,097 --> 01:12:33,849 MOTHER: Nice to meet you, too. FATHER: Please, have a seat. 897 01:12:33,850 --> 01:12:35,435 ADULT SASHA: Thank you. 898 01:12:42,859 --> 01:12:44,443 Hi. 899 01:12:44,444 --> 01:12:46,653 MOTHER: Hi, hello. 900 01:12:46,654 --> 01:12:48,655 ADULT SASHA: Um... 901 01:12:48,656 --> 01:12:51,158 how are you both doing? 902 01:12:51,159 --> 01:12:52,659 MOTHER: Yeah... 903 01:12:52,660 --> 01:12:54,411 we are fine, thanks. 904 01:12:54,412 --> 01:12:56,539 ADULT SASHA: How are things with Jeremy? 905 01:12:59,292 --> 01:13:01,877 MOTHER: You can talk, too, you know? 906 01:13:01,878 --> 01:13:03,337 - Yes, I will. 907 01:13:03,338 --> 01:13:06,298 But, please, you start. 908 01:13:06,299 --> 01:13:07,675 - Um... 909 01:13:09,469 --> 01:13:12,096 [sighs] 910 01:13:12,097 --> 01:13:15,682 It feels like... 911 01:13:15,683 --> 01:13:17,894 somehow, I'm cursed. 912 01:13:20,688 --> 01:13:22,481 He's... 913 01:13:22,482 --> 01:13:24,274 so troubled. 914 01:13:24,275 --> 01:13:27,694 We tried everything... [inhales deeply] 915 01:13:27,695 --> 01:13:30,114 Mm, therapy... 916 01:13:30,115 --> 01:13:33,700 special school, homeschooling. 917 01:13:33,701 --> 01:13:36,496 It didn't work. 918 01:13:38,331 --> 01:13:40,916 He doesn't want to listen to anybody. 919 01:13:40,917 --> 01:13:43,919 Not us, not any adult 920 01:13:43,920 --> 01:13:46,339 could ever control him. 921 01:13:50,885 --> 01:13:53,137 Mm... 922 01:13:53,138 --> 01:13:56,140 he was six years old 923 01:13:56,141 --> 01:14:00,352 when one day something happened with his eyes. 924 01:14:00,353 --> 01:14:03,522 You can tell this, no? 925 01:14:03,523 --> 01:14:06,733 - We were playing catch with a ball, 926 01:14:06,734 --> 01:14:09,736 just back and forth and... 927 01:14:09,737 --> 01:14:13,157 When, suddenly, he could not catch it anymore. 928 01:14:13,158 --> 01:14:15,951 I would throw it for him, and... 929 01:14:15,952 --> 01:14:20,539 his hands would cross the air in front of him. 930 01:14:20,540 --> 01:14:24,793 But he just could not see the ball anymore. 931 01:14:24,794 --> 01:14:28,172 It was something very strange, 932 01:14:28,173 --> 01:14:32,177 but his eyes just suddenly went crossed. 933 01:14:34,095 --> 01:14:36,847 It was very bizarre, and... 934 01:14:36,848 --> 01:14:38,974 and I think it scared him. 935 01:14:38,975 --> 01:14:41,895 It scared us, too, of course. - Yeah. 936 01:14:44,564 --> 01:14:48,400 So I don't know. [inhales deeply] 937 01:14:48,401 --> 01:14:52,779 This is one of the unlucky things that comes to my mind. 938 01:14:52,780 --> 01:14:55,782 Mm, he had to get these big glasses 939 01:14:55,783 --> 01:14:58,785 with such a very young age. 940 01:14:58,786 --> 01:15:00,579 And I think because of this 941 01:15:00,580 --> 01:15:05,417 and from his accent at the beginning... 942 01:15:05,418 --> 01:15:09,796 mm, the kids at the school were not nice to him. 943 01:15:09,797 --> 01:15:11,715 ADULT SASHA: You mean he was picked on? 944 01:15:11,716 --> 01:15:14,218 - Yes. 945 01:15:14,219 --> 01:15:19,014 ADULT SASHA: Did he talk to either of you about this? 946 01:15:19,015 --> 01:15:21,601 - Mm, he... 947 01:15:23,811 --> 01:15:25,812 He doesn't care 948 01:15:25,813 --> 01:15:30,692 about what others saying about him. 949 01:15:30,693 --> 01:15:33,445 He never cared about... 950 01:15:33,446 --> 01:15:36,073 making friends. 951 01:15:36,074 --> 01:15:37,824 He just-- 952 01:15:37,825 --> 01:15:41,620 he likes to be the clown... 953 01:15:41,621 --> 01:15:44,039 to everyone. 954 01:15:44,040 --> 01:15:47,042 He was always like this. 955 01:15:47,043 --> 01:15:49,462 ADULT SASHA: And how is he with his siblings? 956 01:15:52,257 --> 01:15:57,052 - Mm, sometimes he's really nasty with them, 957 01:15:57,053 --> 01:16:00,473 but sometimes he's--he's very sweet. 958 01:16:03,059 --> 01:16:04,644 Mm. 959 01:16:09,065 --> 01:16:11,484 ADULT SASHA: Why do you think he's like this? 960 01:16:15,280 --> 01:16:17,282 [Father sighs] 961 01:16:26,291 --> 01:16:29,876 - He's uncontrollable, completely. 962 01:16:29,877 --> 01:16:34,089 He's doing really big and risky things. 963 01:16:34,090 --> 01:16:37,676 And he can hurt himself or... 964 01:16:37,677 --> 01:16:39,469 others. 965 01:16:39,470 --> 01:16:43,598 And he doesn't care if he's getting caught. 966 01:16:43,599 --> 01:16:46,310 So one day, 967 01:16:46,311 --> 01:16:50,063 he stole a bicycle from a yard. 968 01:16:50,064 --> 01:16:52,899 And he came home totally beaten up, 969 01:16:52,900 --> 01:16:55,694 and his face was blue. 970 01:16:55,695 --> 01:16:57,571 I don't know what he was thinking. 971 01:16:57,572 --> 01:17:02,326 And he told me it was just for fun. 972 01:17:02,327 --> 01:17:05,078 I don't know what-- 973 01:17:05,079 --> 01:17:07,123 What is he thinking? 974 01:17:08,916 --> 01:17:10,917 And... 975 01:17:10,918 --> 01:17:13,420 and he's stealing from us. 976 01:17:13,421 --> 01:17:17,341 - We can't keep any money where he can find it. 977 01:17:17,342 --> 01:17:19,718 He takes whatever he sees. 978 01:17:19,719 --> 01:17:22,179 Sometimes he's taking things from the house 979 01:17:22,180 --> 01:17:25,557 and brings them to the pawn shop just to get a few dollars. 980 01:17:25,558 --> 01:17:27,934 He would even steal from his siblings. 981 01:17:27,935 --> 01:17:30,729 - Yeah, he thinks that he's... 982 01:17:30,730 --> 01:17:33,607 some kind of gangster guy. 983 01:17:33,608 --> 01:17:37,944 He tried to sell fake drugs to some boys on the street 984 01:17:37,945 --> 01:17:40,365 at 14 years old. 985 01:17:42,367 --> 01:17:44,576 I... 986 01:17:44,577 --> 01:17:46,953 So we can't... 987 01:17:46,954 --> 01:17:51,166 we can't tell him anything. 988 01:17:51,167 --> 01:17:53,585 He doesn't listen to us. 989 01:17:53,586 --> 01:17:56,756 Grounding, rules--nothing. 990 01:18:00,385 --> 01:18:02,636 ADULT SASHA: Is it true that he once threatened 991 01:18:02,637 --> 01:18:04,389 to burn the house down? 992 01:18:08,810 --> 01:18:11,603 - Yeah, I know he hates me. 993 01:18:11,604 --> 01:18:13,188 - What should we do now? 994 01:18:13,189 --> 01:18:15,190 That's what we need to know, yeah? 995 01:18:15,191 --> 01:18:17,401 What are we supposed to do? 996 01:18:17,402 --> 01:18:19,694 ADULT SASHA: From what I understand, 997 01:18:19,695 --> 01:18:22,280 the best option would be something 998 01:18:22,281 --> 01:18:24,409 called voluntary placement. 999 01:18:36,212 --> 01:18:40,633 MOTHER: Voluntary placement, what does it mean, exactly? 1000 01:18:42,218 --> 01:18:44,010 ADULT SASHA: It means he would be placed 1001 01:18:44,011 --> 01:18:46,264 with a foster family, essentially. 1002 01:18:50,601 --> 01:18:52,227 FATHER: Uh, I'm sorry. 1003 01:18:52,228 --> 01:18:57,023 T-this is a very hard thing for us to hear. 1004 01:18:57,024 --> 01:19:00,444 I-I'm sure you understand, we are trying so hard 1005 01:19:00,445 --> 01:19:03,238 for--for so many years with Jeremy. 1006 01:19:03,239 --> 01:19:06,242 {\an8}[Mother speaking Hungarian] 1007 01:19:24,677 --> 01:19:26,679 {\an8}MOTHER: I need some water. 1008 01:19:28,473 --> 01:19:30,849 ADULT SASHA: I'm sorry. 1009 01:19:30,850 --> 01:19:33,060 I didn't mean to upset her. 1010 01:19:37,064 --> 01:19:39,691 - It's okay. Uh... 1011 01:19:39,692 --> 01:19:43,696 We're just both so exhausted from all of this. 1012 01:19:45,323 --> 01:19:48,284 And we feel like there is no good options left. 1013 01:19:54,707 --> 01:19:56,875 [cup thuds on table] 1014 01:19:56,876 --> 01:19:59,711 - Have you ever heard... 1015 01:19:59,712 --> 01:20:02,089 about a family like this? 1016 01:20:04,759 --> 01:20:06,301 How come... [Father sighs] 1017 01:20:06,302 --> 01:20:10,388 Nobody has to give their children away? 1018 01:20:10,389 --> 01:20:13,308 Just alcohol addicts 1019 01:20:13,309 --> 01:20:17,312 or people are beating their children. 1020 01:20:17,313 --> 01:20:21,525 I don't understand why. 1021 01:20:21,526 --> 01:20:23,903 ADULT SASHA: I wish I had a better answer. 1022 01:20:32,578 --> 01:20:36,540 FATHER: What if we try this, just for a little while? 1023 01:20:36,541 --> 01:20:41,127 Maybe if he goes away, he can do better. 1024 01:20:41,128 --> 01:20:42,964 And then he comes home. 1025 01:20:46,926 --> 01:20:49,554 MOTHER: Could we see him still? 1026 01:20:51,347 --> 01:20:53,349 - [sniffles] 1027 01:21:05,945 --> 01:21:07,946 [sniffles] 1028 01:21:07,947 --> 01:21:09,949 You will see him again. 1029 01:21:11,951 --> 01:21:16,789 {\an8}You will try many, many times to keep him at home. 1030 01:21:19,250 --> 01:21:22,961 {\an8}You will do everything in your power to help him. 1031 01:21:22,962 --> 01:21:25,548 {\an8}[sniffles] It will consume you entirely. 1032 01:21:29,176 --> 01:21:31,177 {\an8}You won't give up. 1033 01:21:31,178 --> 01:21:35,599 {\an8}But you will get tired as the years go on and on. 1034 01:21:35,600 --> 01:21:38,143 {\an8}[sniffles] 1035 01:21:38,144 --> 01:21:40,604 {\an8}He will go to foster care, 1036 01:21:40,605 --> 01:21:43,608 {\an8}but it will be a temporary solution. 1037 01:21:46,444 --> 01:21:50,780 {\an8}You will doubt yourself as a parent... 1038 01:21:50,781 --> 01:21:52,617 {\an8}and, at times, your life. 1039 01:21:54,827 --> 01:21:57,997 {\an8}You will begin to close yourself from the world. 1040 01:22:00,207 --> 01:22:02,626 {\an8}[sniffles] 1041 01:22:02,627 --> 01:22:04,629 {\an8}No one will understand. 1042 01:22:06,422 --> 01:22:08,424 {\an8}And it will only worsen. 1043 01:22:11,510 --> 01:22:14,012 {\an8}He, himself, will have no explanation... 1044 01:22:14,013 --> 01:22:17,433 {\an8}[sniffles] Other than he cannot manage. 1045 01:22:21,103 --> 01:22:24,565 {\an8}You will beg for change and solutions. 1046 01:22:27,610 --> 01:22:30,445 {\an8}He will grow into an adult... [sniffles] 1047 01:22:30,446 --> 01:22:33,240 {\an8}And the help he needs, he will not get. 1048 01:22:37,244 --> 01:22:40,038 {\an8}It won't get better. 1049 01:22:40,039 --> 01:22:41,665 {\an8}Countless professionals 1050 01:22:41,666 --> 01:22:44,001 {\an8}will come in and out of your life. 1051 01:22:47,046 --> 01:22:50,049 {\an8}But it won't change. [sniffles] 1052 01:22:51,884 --> 01:22:55,679 {\an8}Despite what you know of him and yourself... 1053 01:22:55,680 --> 01:22:57,473 {\an8}you will lose him. 1054 01:23:05,064 --> 01:23:07,066 [sniffles] 1055 01:23:10,736 --> 01:23:13,279 [door opens] [waltz playing on tv] 1056 01:23:13,280 --> 01:23:15,281 SOCIAL WORKER: This does not have to be 1057 01:23:15,282 --> 01:23:16,825 a permanent solution. 1058 01:23:16,826 --> 01:23:19,703 It could also be a temporary one as well. 1059 01:23:19,704 --> 01:23:22,914 MOTHER: To--to send him... 1060 01:23:22,915 --> 01:23:26,502 to a-a totally stranger family... 1061 01:23:28,504 --> 01:23:30,506 Do you think that-- 1062 01:24:02,955 --> 01:24:05,957 [ambient music] 1063 01:24:05,958 --> 01:24:12,965 ♪ ♪ 1064 01:25:01,138 --> 01:25:04,182 ADULT SASHA: Did you have a friend named Elijah? 1065 01:25:04,183 --> 01:25:06,018 JEREMY: Mm-hmm. 1066 01:25:07,770 --> 01:25:10,396 ADULT SASHA: How come I don't remember that? 1067 01:25:10,397 --> 01:25:12,817 JEREMY: I think there's a lot you don't remember. 1068 01:25:21,534 --> 01:25:24,410 - "Dear Sasha... 1069 01:25:24,411 --> 01:25:26,831 I grew up with your brother Jeremy." 1070 01:25:29,416 --> 01:25:31,209 "We were never really close, 1071 01:25:31,210 --> 01:25:33,837 "but he was one of the most memorable of my friends 1072 01:25:33,838 --> 01:25:35,047 from school." 1073 01:25:36,841 --> 01:25:39,217 "In grade ten, we were suspended together 1074 01:25:39,218 --> 01:25:42,178 "for stealing from lockers. 1075 01:25:42,179 --> 01:25:44,430 "That's a long story, but... 1076 01:25:44,431 --> 01:25:46,433 Jeremy wasn't really involved." 1077 01:25:48,936 --> 01:25:51,938 "Even though I took the blame, Jeremy still got in trouble. 1078 01:25:51,939 --> 01:25:54,066 And I felt pretty bad about that." 1079 01:25:55,818 --> 01:25:58,152 "He invited me over to hang out one time, 1080 01:25:58,153 --> 01:26:02,782 "and he showed me his maps of towns and cities. 1081 01:26:02,783 --> 01:26:05,870 They remain some of the most unique art I've seen." 1082 01:26:08,330 --> 01:26:09,873 "I would sometimes see him out 1083 01:26:09,874 --> 01:26:12,251 with people who were not very good influences." 1084 01:26:14,086 --> 01:26:16,463 "I was really unsure how to help." 1085 01:26:19,675 --> 01:26:22,177 "I began seeing less and less of him." 1086 01:26:24,263 --> 01:26:26,806 "After high school, I didn't see much of him, 1087 01:26:26,807 --> 01:26:29,101 but I would think of him often." 1088 01:26:30,936 --> 01:26:33,271 "Recently, I tried to look him up on Facebook 1089 01:26:33,272 --> 01:26:35,482 but couldn't find anything." 1090 01:26:37,401 --> 01:26:40,278 "But I came across you... 1091 01:26:40,279 --> 01:26:42,489 and your films." 1092 01:26:45,492 --> 01:26:48,120 "That's where I learned about his passing." 1093 01:26:52,708 --> 01:26:55,502 "I am so very sorry for your loss." 1094 01:26:58,005 --> 01:27:00,173 "I saw in your film what you said 1095 01:27:00,174 --> 01:27:02,717 "about being angry at Jeremy... 1096 01:27:02,718 --> 01:27:04,929 and your regrets about that now." 1097 01:27:08,057 --> 01:27:10,725 "I also have a brother who I've been angry with 1098 01:27:10,726 --> 01:27:12,519 for most of my life." 1099 01:27:14,396 --> 01:27:18,024 "I just wanted to share my memories of your brother 1100 01:27:18,025 --> 01:27:21,945 "and that I always knew him as a special soul 1101 01:27:21,946 --> 01:27:23,948 who had a kind heart." 1102 01:27:33,540 --> 01:27:36,543 [seagulls crying] 1103 01:27:47,346 --> 01:27:51,225 [distant boat horn blowing] 1104 01:28:30,222 --> 01:28:33,224 [Daniel Johnston's "Some Things Last a Long Time"] 1105 01:28:33,225 --> 01:28:37,812 ♪ ♪ 1106 01:28:37,813 --> 01:28:40,024 - 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