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Hey.

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Well done for making it through another module.

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Another last one had a particularly hard challenge so he made it this far then.

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Great job well done.

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Now I want to talk to you about.

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I guess like an experience I had when I was younger and I thought it was really formative for me.

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So when I was in my 16th year I really wanted to be the science prefect of the school.

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Basically this position where you get to curate a notice board with science news.

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You get to plan a science club for the younger children.

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And I for some reason just had my heart set on it.

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I loved everything to do with science and I spent all my days preparing like trying to be the best possible

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science prefect I could be like you know helping out and planning future experiments that I could do.

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But for some reason other the headmistress of the school she didn't really want this dream of mine I

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guess to come true.

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And I remember her telling me this 16 year old girl that you know at some point in life you have to

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experience what it's like to not get what you want.

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And you know kind of thinking back on.

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That's kind of cruel but you know especially to somebody who's so young and so bright eyed and so sets

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on this goal.

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It crushed me like the moment when she said that to me and told me that you know it's gonna go.

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The job is gonna go to somebody who doesn't want it.

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I remember going home that day and just bawling my eyes out like I was crying like there was no tomorrow.

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It's just like the injustice of it all.

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You know the fact that she told me that you know the reason is because you wanted too much.

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Like that's just crazy.

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And at the time you know my grandfather I remember him telling me that like you know there are so many

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things that he could have said to me he even said like Don't worry kid it's not your fault it's like

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it's just because the headmistress is you know races is because she's sexist those because you know

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you're an immigrant.

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Like there's just so many things that he could have that which could have been true but instead he just

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told me that you know there are things that you can change in life.

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And there are things that you can't change your life.

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The thing that you can't change you usually have to do with other people and the things that you can

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change are how you view a situation and how you act.

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So you can prove other people wrong.

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You can.

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You can become something you can do really well at things and you doing really well will make those

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people who've hurt you feel bad more than if you had just been spiteful or something.

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And I remember him telling me that you know try to get the best possible grades you can to to become

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the best possible person you can.

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And that's the best way of reuniting your event is to live a great life and be a great person.

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And I think you know I think back at know that moments like I had made the wrong conclusions how my

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life would have turned out to be you know if I had just decided that you know what.

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Whatever.

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I'm not going to do school anymore.

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I'm just going to go and give up on this whole thing because life isn't fair.

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And you know I think it was really really wise.

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The thing that my grandfather said because it really changed my outlook on life like things aren't fair.

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But how you interpret it and what you do.

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Are the things that you get to determine.

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So focus on those and I mean I feel like I'm rambling ahead but I hope there's something that would

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help you too from this story of mine.

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You know I know that you're probably in a situation where there are things that have happened to you

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or that are unfair that have made things more difficult and you have a choice to.

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You get to determine how you act and how you view those things those adversities.

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And if you make the right choices and live the best possible life you can.

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That's the best way of showing up the people who've hurt you.

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So this one's a little bit deep but I hope it was helpful to some of you anyway.

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Let me on Twitter if it's something that you can relate to and yeah keep going.

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Keep pushing for your future because you know you're the one who's in charge you can get.