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Module three keeping the lines of communication open every good commander understands the importance

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of establishing and maintaining quality communication signals at all times with all parts of his command.

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And it is good communication that can mean the difference between a successful campaign and an unsuccessful

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one as each element of the campaign must work in unison to achieve one overarching objective.

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It is no different on the dating battlefield.

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Open communication is the absolute key to the foundation of any long term relationship.

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Making sure your transmission never gets garbled.

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It is very important to always maintain open and honest lines of communication between yourself and

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the person you are dating.

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You should never be afraid to express your opinion or feelings on the subject as honesty truly is the

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best policy.

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If you hide your feelings because you think that the other person may get hurt or that this piece of

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information may change their opinion of you and cause them to pull away or cut off communications entirely

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then you cannot go a solid foundation for a long term relationship.

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If someone is not willing to accept you for exactly who you are in your entirety then perhaps they are

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not the right person for you.

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This does not mean however that your beliefs and opinions cannot change in progress over time as the

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relationship grows.

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It simply means you should never hide your true feelings on important subjects.

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To spare the feelings of others.

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However there are also questions which the appropriate answer is always.

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I can neither confirm nor deny that statement as in.

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Does this dress make me look fat.

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The appropriate answer to this question is something to the effect of No of course not.

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You make the dress look beautiful.

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Small questions like this are the only exception to the honesty rule as they can severely destroy someone's

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self-confidence.

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Understanding body language nature semaphores the military uses semaphores as a silent form of communication

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over great distances or in case of mechanical and or electronic failure of communications net semaphores

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consists of colored flags and symbols used in varying patterns to relay a message similar to Morse code.

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The dating battlefield has its own form of solid communication known as body language.

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Body language is nature's for a way of communicating one's needs and desires without ever saying a word.

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You can learn a lot about what a person is feeling or thinking.

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Assuming you know how to read the signals when standing to greet someone always stand with your feet

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slightly wider than the width of your shoulders.

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Keep your back straight and your shoulders back your chest out and your chin up and maintain eye contact.

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This posture shows the person or persons that you are extremely confident and in control.

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It also conveys the message that you know exactly what you want out of life.

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It is also a projection that you are comfortable in your own skin and confident in your abilities.

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When seated.

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Contrary to popular belief you should not at least when dealing with a member of the female tried for

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dating purposes.

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Lean forward in your seat as this sends the subconscious message.

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Contrary to popular belief that you are seeking her approval or that you were nervous and over eager

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Instead you should lean back slightly.

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This will help you appear relaxed comfortable and confident.

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Also make her subconsciously feel more at ease.

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Also make her subconsciously feel more at ease as you will not be crowding her personal space when speaking.

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Use a confident and calm even semi quiet tone.

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Make sure to hold strong eye contact.

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Try not to look away as this may give the impression that you're nervous or uneasy.

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Along with speaking it is important to listen and answer questions or make comments concerning the conversation

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that proves that you are listening intently and processing what is being said in a meaningful way.

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Always be conscious of your body's movements tentative gestures or nervous tics can give the impression

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that you're self-conscious and lacking confidence which for members of the female tribe is an instant

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attraction killer.

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So make sure to slow down take your time and make sure that your body movements are deliberate and precise

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as this will help you to relax and dissipate some of that nervous energy appreciating the written word.

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Believe it or not a good commanding officer must have a decent command of the written language or at

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least have someone who is very good at it.

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This Someone needs to make sure that your orders or communications are conveyed precisely in a detailed

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manner.

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Command of the written language is important on the dating battlefield as well.

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It must be noted that every member of the female tribe even though they may deny it likes receiving

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intimate love messages they'll let them know how much they are appreciated wanted and needed.

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The better you can articulate these feelings on paper the better you will be able to articulate them

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in conversation.

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For some gents it is easier to write down their feelings in a spontaneous love note than to convey them

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verbally.

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Definitely your date will always appreciate receiving a spontaneous love note.
