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Getting help with rebuilding your relationship so your and your partner want to rebuild your relationship.

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But where do you start loving commitment may not be enough.

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You may need help from a third party who has no vested interest in your relationship to give you and

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your partner some much needed perspective.

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What's wrong with it.

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How to fix it and what's working or the other way around.

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Receiving an explanation at some point you'd long to know about your partner's side of the story.

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Right from their own lips through this.

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You can learn how they feel about the whole incident and why they did what they did.

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This process will also help you reflect on your feelings and decide how you feel about the relationship

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and what sort of work is needed to make it work.

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If you feel comfortable meeting your partner in a neutral setting such as a cafe or restaurant you can

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have a face to face meeting where you can bring a friend for more support if needed.

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You can have this conversation with the counselor.

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The presence of a third party may help you feel more secure.

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Choosing a counselor you may feel that having some third party therapeutic aspect for mediation or counseling

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may be valuable to help your relationships survive.

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This can be in the form of a mediator.

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A mediator is a professional relationship specialist although they generally have no psychology or sociology

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training.

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Many people consider them to be the secular version of a priest or a pastor a mediators job is to simply

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listen to you and your partner then discuss your relationship and offer unbiased opinions and suggestions

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to help you move forward in the relationship building process.

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If you feel that a more therapeutic and clinical approach to rebuilding your relationship is necessary

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you can seek the help of a professional marriage counselor.

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There are even individuals often trained in psychology and sociology techniques and they can offer therapeutic

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types of solutions and relationship building exercises to help your relationship get back on track.

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However the individuals can be rather expensive charging as much as two to three hundred dollars an

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hour.

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However as we said earlier rebuilding the relationship is a lot of work and some heavy sacrifices.

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If you and your partner have a spiritual connection it might be advantageous to rebuild the relationship

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through counseling from your preferred spiritual leader.

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They can offer in-depth insight and understanding and are often trained in all of the latest counselling

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techniques yet they approach the situation from a spiritual viewpoint rather than a secular one.

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Rebuilding the family dynamic.

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If you have children it might be necessary to seek help from a family counselor so that your children

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have an understanding of what you and your partner are going through a family counsellor can explain

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what happened and reassure them that they are loved and that they did nothing wrong.

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The counsellor can also help the children ponder on all the other emotions they may be feeling as well

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as understanding the emotional state that parents are experiencing.
