068 How To Be Authoritative And Have Your Man Love You At The Same Time

1. It Takes Strength To Follow

A lot of women who are bossy in the relationship don't realize that it actually takes more strength to follow sometimes than it does to lead. Maybe they were brought up in a household where everyone was taught to be assertive and boss people around.

At any rate, it's hard for them to actually be bossed around themselves. If you're bossy, let your man be the boss for once. If he's uncomfortable doing it, make him do it. The balance has to be put back if you want your man to stick around.

2. Give Him Choice

This is another way that you can be bossy while still getting respect and love from your man. If you simply tell him what to do without any consideration for what he values or the value of his time, you're going to ostracize your man.

If you actually care about his opinion, the simplest thing you could ask him is, "well what do you think?" That shows that you're willing to listen to his opinion and that you care what it is. This is an example of compassionate leading.

3. Be Thankful And Regretful

This is a very simple point that tends to be overlooked by women who are authoritative and that are the simple acts of appreciation and humility. There's nothing worse than a woman who doesn't say sorry when she's wrong. I would say that's worse than a woman who doesn't acknowledge her man.

Once in a while, say thanks and say sorry not for the sake of it, but because you mean it. Show genuine appreciation and say sorry for things that might have annoyed your man. This will show that you can read his pain/annoyance and can empathize with him.

This relationship advice for women should be followed, regardless of if you're an authoritative wife or a subservient wife, but particular the former. You can't go past simple principles like appreciation valuing his opinion and following once in a while to show your man that you are on the same level.