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Knowing when to let go it may be hard even with all the help support love and concern in the world and

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in some cases even if they can overcome the fear it may not be enough to make your relationship work

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long term.

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So this realization may sound sad at the end of one relationship does not mean the end of life you must

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face this relationship as a learning experience so that you can grow as a human being and your future

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relationships can grow into great experiences no matter how long they last part as friends.

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If you have reached this stage in your relationship where you realize it is not going to work then don't

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drag it out.

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There is no sense in adding more grief to an already sad situation.

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If your partner has been working very hard to overcome their fear of commitment for you you may feel

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an obligation to stay with them because of what they are doing for you.

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However this is not a solid foundation for any relationship romantic or otherwise and only leads to

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resentment which will breed even further problems down the road.

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So if you know your relationship is going to end end it quickly but gracefully if not as friends just

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part in peace and not resentment embrace the grief understand that it will take time for you to hurt

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over the loss of a relationship particularly if it has been a long term relationship.

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The key to moving forward is to accept the emotions of anger sadness resentment or whatever emotions

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you might be feeling and try not to dwell on any one more than the other.

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Do not play the what if game or the blame game.

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If your relationship has ended a few relationships have ended and you need to accept responsibility

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for your part in it.

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Blaming someone else and their mistakes as the sole reason for the break up of the relationship is not

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healthy.

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Relationships do take two people after all moving forward.

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Although it may take some time to get over a loss relationship particularly one that you put a lot of

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work into it is not a good idea to let this loss result to your own commitment issues.

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It is important to grieve Yes.

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On the other hand it is also important for you to continue living your life to the fullest extent possible.

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Just enjoy being human and being alive for this will help you overcome the grief of a lost relationship

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and put you in a positive frame of mind so that you become ready for the next one.

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The information contained on these pages is designed to help you and your partner deal with commitment

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issues.

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They are not a suitable alternative to seeking properly trained psychiatric or medical help if necessary.

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They are only intended to help you better understand why someone might have a hard time committing to

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a relationship so that you can better feel and ponder on what theyre going through.

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Then help them overcome their phobia.
