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Module one understanding the rules of engagement there are all sorts of references to love being like

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a battlefield or a war.

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The most famous of these things is obviously all is fair in love and war while love and dating may not

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result in physical injury like war.

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It can be just as mentally or emotionally stressful and demanding as any modern battlefield like most

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modern soldiers any decent man should understand.

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The rules of engagement before putting their boots on the ground in a very unique and often confusing

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theater of operations like in the dating world the rules of engagement are a set of regulations that

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every soldier must follow in a given theater of operation.

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The dating world is no different.

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There are rules and regulations that must be adhered to in order to achieve the most positive results.

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Conduct yourself like an officer and a gentleman every great warrior from Teddy Roosevelt to John F.

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Kennedy always makes sure to conduct themselves with dignity and respect when facing the most adverse

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conditions.

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Dating is no different.

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A gentleman should always treat a lady they are with with the utmost respect.

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A gentleman should always conduct themselves with confidence and dignity even if they are nervous and

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unsure of themselves.

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A gentleman is always extremely polite and in his best behavior particularly if this is the first meet

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up with this particular representative of the female tribe.

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As first impressions go a long way toward getting the opportunity to make a second one a gentleman should

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always put the needs of others before himself.

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He should always be willing to offer help when necessary.

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This can include things such as yielding the right of way to an elder.

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Opening a door holding an elevator or pulling a chair.

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A gentleman should never under any circumstances dominate the conversation of a meeting.

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He should be willing to listen truly understand and empathize with another party situation to and he

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should also endeavor to answer any questions that might be put to him as honestly and politely as possible.

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He must also treat all opinions and inquiries with due respect and dignity they deserve a true officer

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and gentleman will never make snap judgments or let their own personal bias color their expectations

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of any given situation meaning that everyone is entitled to their opinion or belief and it should be

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respected as such.

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They will always maintain the appropriate level of eye contact and not become distracted by their environment.

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Meaning.

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Pay attention to your date and actually listen to what she has to say and don't be afraid to throw in

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a few compliments when appropriate.

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If you conduct yourself with dignity and respect then you will make a quality first impression and increase

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your chances of being invited back for further summit meetings.

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Get a second date.

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Timing is everything.

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Just like in military operations.

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Timing is everything.

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Mere seconds can mean the difference between victory and defeat.

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Think of it this way if you're not early you're late.

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Just like generals on the battlefield.

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Most women absolutely despise tardiness no matter how good your excuse with the possible exception of

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being a doctor and actually saving someone's life because it indicates to them that you do not care

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enough about your appointments to show up on time.

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This may give them an impression that you do not care about them.

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This may mean that the nice shirt you just bought the gift you brought and the reservation at the best

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restaurant in the city has been wasted.

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Before your day could even start.

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A true gentleman is always a minimum of five minutes early to every appointment and meeting regardless

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if it's business or personal always be open to compromise.

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Any officer and gentleman with their salt is always open to compromise and negotiation.

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He must be willing to surrender something of value to gain something of value in return for a soldier.

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This could be everything from territory to food and supplies.

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However in the dating theater of operation it could be a second date or a better understanding of this

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particular representative of the female tribe.
