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Confronting your own fears you might have become so wrapped up in your new partner's fear of commitment

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that you may have forgotten to ask yourself what do I want out of this relationship.

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You may be so certain that your partner is the only one with deep problems.

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Is it your sole concern and you are not thinking about the consequences of what's going to happen when

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you finally get there.

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Recognizing your dreams.

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It is a very easy thing to forget your own dreams and goals when trying to help someone you love to

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get over their fear of commitment.

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It is important that you remember this A relationship is a two way street and you are not compromising

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your own career goals and life ambitions for the sake of your partner.

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Otherwise you may end up visiting them in the future and feeling like this would be absolutely detrimental

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to a relationship that you've worked very hard to build.

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You need to have a discussion with your partner concerning your future and how you both see the relationship

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and family dynamics growing over the years.

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The key to a good relationship is making sure that it is one of mutual respect trust and love.

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Compromise when necessary.

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Both partners have to be on the same track and in the same frame of mind for relationships to work long

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term don't keep secrets.

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It is of vital importance that you do not keep any secrets or harbor any doubts about your relationship

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with your partner.

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It is simply because they are working very hard to overcome their fear of commitment to share a life

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with you.

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So if you are afraid to share your concerns with your partner even if you think it might simply overwhelm

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them and add to their fear which may drive them away you should absolutely let them know your concerns

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at the same time.

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Make sure to tell them that you love them and that you appreciate all the work that they are doing to

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make your relationship last.

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Finding a support structure you and your partner have discussed your fears and concerns together and

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your partner is working diligently to overcome their fear of commitment.

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They have worked closely with the counsellor and you however it is also important to remember that your

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friends and family can help as well.

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The help of a psychologist or professional counselor can offer while great is limited.

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They cannot stand 24 hours a day seven days a week with you and your partner.

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Therefore it is important that you make all your friends and family aware of what your partner is doing

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to further your relationship so that you two are not the only ones carrying the weight.

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It is nice to discuss your concerns about life and relationships and anything else having to do with

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either you or your partner from work to marriage to children or even medical issues through this you

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and your partner are not the sole source of emotional support in your lives as this can be very straining

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on a relationship.
