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Dealing with commitment issues you can't force someone to commit if you and your partner have been together

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for some time long enough to know that you could share the rest of your life together.

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You have reached that stage where you are ready to take the next big step forward.

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This should be really great and exciting except for one thing the partner whom you love more than anything

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in the world is not yet ready to commit.

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Knowing that it is absolutely impossible to force someone to commit with you.

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You have to confront your partner's commitment issues and deal with them before your relationship progresses

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to the next level.

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Dealing with emotions.

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Some people have trouble committing to a relationship simply because they have trouble expressing their

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emotions.

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Furthermore they are afraid that they will say the wrong thing or they will not be able to express their

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emotions adequately.

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It will then make it appear as if they do not care when in fact they care a great deal.

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If your partner is one of these kind of people then be patient with them.

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It is necessary to explain to them that you love them and you want to be with them.

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In addition let them know that you will do whatever you can to help them express their emotions and

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deal with their feelings in order for you to take your relationship to the next level.

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Sometimes all it takes for someone to commit is reassurance that they are loved and respected and that

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their partner is willing to help and support them when it comes to dealing with their emotional needs.

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Are they too comfortable in this case your partner might have grown too comfortable with your current

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relationship dynamics and may be taking you in your relationship for granted.

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If this is the case it might be time to explain to them that you are looking for something more from

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your relationship and you wish to take it to the next level when having this conversation.

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It is best to try and stay as calm as possible.

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Try not to get upset or angry as this may lead to a situation with even more negative consequences such

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as ending the relationship altogether.

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You should have this discussion and a warm and inviting atmosphere like your favorite part of the living

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room or coffee shop.

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The conversation should be started in a casual tone as you do not want to put your partner on a defensive

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mode because they think you're going to cut the strings of the relationship.

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It is important to reassure your partner that you love them but also to explain that you are looking

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for more from the relationship.

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At the end of this conversation you will be ready to take the next step together.

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Do you want to get married.

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It is possible that your partner may have had a bad experience with marriage easier because they have

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been married before.

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There may also be a possibility that maybe they grew up with divorced parents and theres still a bad

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taste in their mouth from that whole experience.

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It could even be that they do not believe in marriage for political or religious reasons whatever the

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case may be.

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If your partner does not want to get married in the traditional sense and you do it might be necessary

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to re-evaluate the dynamics of your relationship.

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In case you're like past I verge that greatly it might be necessary to end the relationship altogether.
