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Knowing the end when you see if you have grieved for your relationship sought counseling tried rekindling

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the flame of love and still you have a shaky foundation underneath your relationship than it might be

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best of you and your partner going your separate ways.

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There is absolutely no shame in this whatsoever.

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Some people simply cannot get over the betrayal of being cheated on and are no longer compatible together.

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Separation anxiety after being in a relationship can be something so tough to deal with particularly

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in a long term relationship of several years or decades.

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This will bring up a whole new flood of emotions similar to the ones you experienced when you initially

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discovered the infidelity.

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The same process of grief is going to apply to the breakup and it will take time for you to process

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that grief.

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You will question whether or not you're making the right decision and you'll wonder if you are missing

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a once in a lifetime opportunity.

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You will need the support of your friends and family to help you through this grief.

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Eventually you will accept it and move forward.

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Part on good terms this process may be very difficult but try not to make a lifelong enemy out of your

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former partner.

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This will do more harm than good in the long run particularly if you have children.

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You should never bad mouth your ex-partner to your children friends or family because this will strain

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your children's relationship.

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Even if you don't have children it may make it difficult for your friends cause stress in their relationship

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with both you and your partner losing a partner is bad enough.

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You don't want to lose your friends as well.

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Besides thinking of your partner only adds unnecessary stress in your life that will project itself

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onto future relationships.

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Moving forward shaking off the emotional baggage of a broken relationship is going to take time.

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It can take several weeks or even months.

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It may even take a year or two for you to fully recover.

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On the other hand you are eventually going to start looking for love again and it is important that

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you remember your new or prospective partners are not your former partner just because the last one

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like being so controlling does not mean everyone does.

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If you operate on the assumption that you will be cheated on.

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None of you know relationships are going to make it very far.

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You must constantly remind yourself that it is possible to find love and that everyone deserves true

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love.

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If you follow the advice on these pages with a lot of effort and a little bit of luck you can process

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your emotions and hopefully rebuild the foundation of your relationship.

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If not you will learn how to move forward and find the true love that you deserve.
