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Taking positive action so you have talked to your partner and the two of you have decided that you indeed

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love each other you two have both seen what the future holds but they're still having commitment issues.

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It might be time to take some positive action to help your partners see that you are just as committed

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to the relationship as they are building trust.

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One way you can help your partner alleviate their fear of commitment is to build trust.

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This might involve a big step like moving in together or at the very least giving them a drawer or a

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closet space in your house.

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As a way of physically demonstrating that you want them around for a long time if you are not at this

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stage we're moving in together full time will be proud to go.

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You could give your partner a key to your home and vice versa.

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This again reinforces the idea that you trust your partner with your whole heart and that you would

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never do anything to hurt them.

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If you haven't done so already and even if you have you can do it again.

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You might consider taking a vacation or trip with your partner to one of your favorite spots.

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You can definitely try finding a new place or start making new memories together.

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This will also help your partner see that you are willing to go outside your comfort zone and try to

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do things which will go a long way to help them work through their commitment issues.

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Commitment exercises.

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Aside from building up the trust between you and your partner by taking trips exchanging keys and moving

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in together there are smaller exercises that you and your partner could use to work through commitment

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issues.

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You can try making a list of all the things they love about you and how they see their ideal future

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with you.

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Sometimes exercises like this help people with commitment issues to get over their fears particularly

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if what they fear most is being hurt emotionally through rejection.

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This is one of the biggest reasons why people fear commitment.

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Sometimes once people processed their own emotions and feelings they will see how special their partner

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really is and their fear of commitment will subside.

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You might also consider spending time and getting to know couples that are in positive unhealthy long

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term relationships.

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This may help your partner see that although you have been hurt in the past it is possible to sustain

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a long term relationship of commitment and trust seeking outside help.

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Your partners fear of commitment might be so strong that simple trust building exercises and positive

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reinforcement from other couples may not be enough to help them.

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In this case professional help may be required help such as visiting a counselor either secular or religious

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or even a psychologist to help your partner get to the deeper root of the problem.

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Seeking help from a professional might be a long and difficult process.

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I may be just what your partner needs to get over their issues.

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The professional will show them how committed you are to the relationship.

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If you're willing to participate in the counseling or therapy therapists have been known in using hypnosis

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to help people get over a severe commitment issues.
