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Module to understanding the psychology of the opposing force any decent commander and or officer and

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a gentleman will take time to get to know the psychology of the opposing force they are facing how they

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are different how they have the same habits their beliefs as superstitions and generally what makes

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them tick.

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Because on the battlefield the more you know about the opposing force the greater the likelihood of

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victory.

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The dating battlefield is no different.

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A lot of psychology is involved as women in general view the world very differently from their male

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counterparts.

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They are from Venus after all.

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And it is just as important to understand the psychology of the female tribe when it comes to dating

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as it is to understand the psychology of the opposing force on the battlefield have the next campaign

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strategy standing by contrary to belief and the advice that all budding gentlemen were given when their

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boots first hit the dating battlefield.

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You should not wait three days after the first date to set up the next one.

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This is supposed to be the equivalent of absence makes the heart grow fonder or being coy or mysterious.

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In reality all it really does is frustrate the lady and cause her to become annoyed and bored and move

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on away from you.

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So you should not hesitate to call them back.

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The very next day if you are interested in having another date to discuss the further advancement of

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your potential bond it is even better to set up your next appointment.

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During your first results to show that you are enthusiastic about spending time with this person it

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will also help you stay in the forefront of her thoughts.

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This step should only be attempted if your first date is going well.

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Otherwise it could make you desperate fear of overcommitment extends to both sides of the table.

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Any commanding officer worries about overextending their forces and having gaps in their line which

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will allow the opposing force to slip through and wreak havoc on their position.

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This fear is no different in the dating world.

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Fear of commitment comes from the belief that if someone offers up their whole heart too soon or at

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all then it will get shattered and they will get hurt and have to deal with serious emotional trauma

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and all the turmoil which it entails.

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It is often assumed that it is men who are afraid of commitment and having to change their lifestyles

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and perspectives.

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It is believed that members of the female tribe are seeking commitment as quickly as possible.

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The truth is members of the female tribe are just as afraid of commitment and all of the fears and worries

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that come with it as their male partners are very important for them.

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A gentleman needs to understand that everyone regardless of how brave or confident they appear to be

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is afraid of commitment.

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It is this realization that will ultimately increase one's self-confidence because they will know that

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each member of the dating crowd is experiencing the same feelings fears and doubts.

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It is important to provide reassurance as with any meeting or negotiation.

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Each side needs reassurances that any decision reached will be followed through.

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This is the same for the security of a nation state as it is for dating members of the female tribe

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thrive on reassurance.

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They like to know that things are going well.

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So in essence complimenting them when it is appropriate is always much appreciated on everything from

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the way they look to their job and everything in between.

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The trick is to not overdo the compliments as this will make them think that you are trying to hide

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your feelings on a certain subject and cause them to be unnecessarily self-conscious.
